FabSwingers.com forum: Tips for politely stopping play during a meet.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We've all been there but we were wondering what people do during a meet when the person you are playing with isn't doing it for you or doing something you dislike.

For example getting a bit bitey during oral..

Before anyone says it, getting up and walking out is not as easy as it sounds!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just do what happen to me. Half hour in I was told I'm not feeling it anymore. Because you've travelled to see me you can wank over my tights.

I just got dressed and left. It happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've all been there but we were wondering what people do during a meet when the person you are playing with isn't doing it for you or doing something you dislike.

For example getting a bit bitey during oral..

Before anyone says it, getting up and walking out is not as easy as it sounds!!

I've always held my breath.. said "Stop" Clear enough to be understood.. Followed by "I'm not feeling it, sorry" Its my most reliable way of stopping things.

When I first split with my wife I wasn't very confident or comfortable. Mind drifti g off elsewhere.

If you've picked the right person.. Stop.. should work every time on everyone. You don't owe anyone an explanation.. but if they've gone out the way to meet you.. Followed your instructions and demands.. a brief explanation could help you both.

No.. Stop.. Get off.. enough.. it's not rocket science.. anyone who can't understand those words or the fact the feelings or lust may not be as it seems.. has no business on FAB.

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By *huckzMan
over a year ago

spalding

G.t.f.o.......simples....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've all been there but we were wondering what people do during a meet when the person you are playing with isn't doing it for you or doing something you dislike.

For example getting a bit bitey during oral..

Before anyone says it, getting up and walking out is not as easy as it sounds!!

I've always held my breath.. said "Stop" Clear enough to be understood.. Followed by "I'm not feeling it, sorry" Its my most reliable way of stopping things.

When I first split with my wife I wasn't very confident or comfortable. Mind drifti g off elsewhere.

No.. Stop.. Get off.. enough.. it's not rocket science.. anyone who can't understand those words or the fact the feelings or lust may not be as it seems.. has no business on FAB."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because I don't sexually connect with someone I wouldn't treat them like a cunt. Respect is still important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because I don't sexually connect with someone I wouldn't treat them like a cunt. Respect is still important.

You'd like to think that went without saying right.. unfortunately some people take offence, think it's their fault, blame you..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So pleased you asked this question because I could have done with tips for politely but completely stopping play during a recent club meet!

As for them doing something I didn't like, I would say "do it like this instead" or "that's not my thing, sorry. Could we do x instead?"

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's not doing it for me

Stop .. Just a min.. I don't want to contue.

That's too much/hurts.

Do not carry on if you're not into it. It won't improve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are doing something I dislike, I might ask them to not do whatever it is I'm not partial to, or guide them in the direction of something I do like, or I might turn my attention on them. If I were to find the sexual attraction isn't as good as I thought it was, or they are maybe not as good in bed as I'm used to, I would make the best of it. Although the latter has never happened.

Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Say "please stop" if they don't, remove yourself from the situation.

I think it should be ok for anyone to feel able to stop proceedings at any point purely from a safety point of view.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I've had one meet that was stopped by him, he did it just before I was going to and this was after a social where we found each other highly attractive.

I'm not feeling it is usually an excellent way of stopping.

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By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

Saying 'Can you try it like this or I like it that way' sometimes helps but if it breaks your 'mojo' as it were then best stop play and reconvene at a later time if you want. Hope this helps. Miss C Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this before with catfishes look stunning in profile and far from it in person just stop it and leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry.

Followed by, I just can't do this or I can't carry on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I misunderstanding this thread? Are people really commencing play with those they are not attracted to? Why? If there is no attraction surely it would be better to reject them before play starts, not during. Or maybe I'm missing something in my simple mind

Mrs

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Just do what happen to me. Half hour in I was told I'm not feeling it anymore. Because you've travelled to see me you can wank over my tights.

I just got dressed and left. It happens

And people say that romance is dead!

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

I think sharting is a great way to quickly stop play if you're just not that into it.

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman
over a year ago

"We've all been there but we were wondering what people do during a meet when the person you are playing with isn't doing it for you or doing something you dislike.

For example getting a bit bitey during oral..

Before anyone says it, getting up and walking out is not as easy as it sounds!!

Just stop them and tell them!! Oi stop with the biting .. simple !!

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Only happened to me once - in a club - and as someone else said, I said that it wasn't him but I personally just wasn't feeling it!

We were in a club and we'd both gone alone - so it wasn't a huge issue as he had time to look for other partners if he chose!

Had we arranged to go together or been in a more private situation I'd probably have offered to carry on the meet as a social and still verify them as long as things didn't get unpleasant! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say " OUCH WTF?!"... which I imagine would make them stop being bites lol... It can take time for people to get to know how much pressure they like, how people want to be touched etc... Another thing I do if someone isn't touching me the way I like it is just grab their mis-performing hand and put somewhere better... sometimes not saying anything but communicating physically goes down way better?!.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"Am I misunderstanding this thread? Are people really commencing play with those they are not attracted to? Why? If there is no attraction surely it would be better to reject them before play starts, not during. Or maybe I'm missing something in my simple mind

Mrs"

I think you can find some one attractive, but then when playing either the chemistry goes or your own libido ebbs.

Even with my own partner once or twice over our years together one of us has lost that urge. We just say that we need to stop and move back to kissing and cuddling instead.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Tell them to take it easy or more plainly 'look you're going to have to stop that'.

You'd groan and give input like 'fuck me harder', 'keep doing that', or change position to doggy style so why not tell them if something they are doing or not doing isn't working for you? It's easy enough to move or give an outch or just get up if they don't listen?

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I'm sorry,this is not working for me...often find it wasn't working for the other person either..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can sense it before play if it's not right .This is why chat on phone and social is best .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wasn't getting into my last meet, it's the only meet where I have nearly put my clothes on and left. Have decided on coffee meets first from now on XXX

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I haven't been in that situation because I always suss them out over coffee prior to any naughtiness

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

So if I understand the op , the situation arises after establishing the connection. There is an attraction , but the play is uncomfortable . So how do you stop it ?

Well we are pretty experienced and this has happened a few times . Luckily , my wife assesses the situation and will have a word with all parties prior to the fun . Words to the effect of please don't use your teeth on his cock , or don't be too rough . If it still happens , I will say hang on , enough .... my cock is pretty sensitive and that hurts , sorry but please stop . That's only happened a couple of times , but there's no way I'm taking pain for any meet !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So if I understand the op , the situation arises after establishing the connection. There is an attraction , but the play is uncomfortable . So how do you stop it ?

Absolutely all can be fine until you start playing then a guy starts hurting you I hate to be rude but def loving everyone's advice it's just hard when your playing with your partner and another couple as you don't want spoil everyone's fun xxxx

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By *requent_FerryersCouple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth (by river)

We had a meet a couple of years ago, lovely, educated and smartly dressed couple. Witty banter, everyone getting on well, all the signs of a good meet...

Then we got to the bedroom...

He was a real gentleman, paid great attention to Polly and they were having fun. On the other hand, the female, although very pleasant and attractive, had a definite problem with body odour. Worse was to come when I slipped her tights and panties down. Fabbers, you would have been proud of me! I very nearly "heaved" but managed to keep my dinner down!

Thinking quickly, I suggested to her that her partner might really enjoy a "threesome" at which point she moved over to give him a BJ whilst he was lapping at Polly's smooth pussy. I retreated to get some drinks (washed my mouth out with whisky) and then sat and watched her make him come in a very short time.

She then suggested I joined the two ladies for that same "threesome" experience. I politely declined!

Since then we are always wary of women in tights!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because I don't sexually connect with someone I wouldn't treat them like a cunt. Respect is still important.

I've said I need to get some water. Then after the water break said I'm just not feeling good sorry. They were ok with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So pleased you asked this question because I could have done with tips for politely but completely stopping play during a recent club meet!

As for them doing something I didn't like, I would say "do it like this instead" or "that's not my thing, sorry. Could we do x instead?"

J x"

I once had a man ramming his fingers inside me so hard it was hurting. No doubt trying to make me squirt. I moved away and asked him to be more gentle as it was hurting. He carried on ramming so I just said stop and left the room. At that point I didn't care if he was offended or what!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if I understand the op , the situation arises after establishing the connection. There is an attraction , but the play is uncomfortable . So how do you stop it ?

I say I need a breather and I just want to watch. So they can have a 3sum instead.

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