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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi All,

Our first posting as it took a while to get photo verified. We have been on her a few weeks now and although we have had a great response from guys we are finding it difficult to engage single women.

We fully appreciate that single women are probably getting 100+ messages per day but our expectations were that at least a few would respond.

Our question is do single women in the community often meet couples? we have noticed that although many Women's profiles are set to looking for couples & single men, their profile wording seems pitched towards single men 90% of the time.

Do many of you couples regularly play with single women?

Thanks

K&D

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The thing is, it's a simple matter of supply and demand. Sexual economics, if you like. A single woman (may or may not be bi) - men want them, couples (bi and straight) want them, single bi women want them.....and there are so few to go round. So they can be choosy. Very choosy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for the feedback steve. I see this topic has been covered in the 'help us' thread also. Did not spot it before we posted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we've met lots of single ladies for FFM play, the irony is that couples only seeking single females are sometimes avoided by the single female for a number of reasons including, being used as a toy, to fulfil a fantasy, because the guy doesn't want his lady with another guy etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're out there, you've just got to be patient. We were and one came to us eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi All,

Our first posting as it took a while to get photo verified. We have been on her a few weeks now and although we have had a great response from guys we are finding it difficult to engage single women.

We fully appreciate that single women are probably getting 100+ messages per day but our expectations were that at least a few would respond.

Our question is do single women in the community often meet couples? we have noticed that although many Women's profiles are set to looking for couples & single men, their profile wording seems pitched towards single men 90% of the time.

Do many of you couples regularly play with single women?

Thanks

K&D

"

Hi K&D. I have just had my 1st couple meet. Most of my meets have been guys but wow,it was amazing. I was really worried about the wife (as let's be honest, sucking a husband's cock while wife watches is not exactly the "norm"!). We all played together and it really was amazing. We are still in touch and arranged to meet again.

I hope you enjoy yourselves xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ps. I currently have 577 unread messages!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi All,

Our first posting as it took a while to get photo verified. We have been on her a few weeks now and although we have had a great response from guys we are finding it difficult to engage single women.

We fully appreciate that single women are probably getting 100+ messages per day but our expectations were that at least a few would respond.

Our question is do single women in the community often meet couples? we have noticed that although many Women's profiles are set to looking for couples & single men, their profile wording seems pitched towards single men 90% of the time.

Do many of you couples regularly play with single women?

Thanks

K&D

Hi K&D. I have just had my 1st couple meet. Most of my meets have been guys but wow,it was amazing. I was really worried about the wife (as let's be honest, sucking a husband's cock while wife watches is not exactly the "norm"!). We all played together and it really was amazing. We are still in touch and arranged to meet again.

I hope you enjoy yourselves xx"

Sarah gets turned on watching women suck me off, and gets wildly turned on watching me fuck them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop trying to meet on here is the best advise. Go to a swingers club and meet someone at the bar and go to a play room, hotel or home. I don't think this site is the place to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love meeting couples but tend to get approached by 95% men. The most common reason I have for not meeting couples who approach me is fancying one person but not the other.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for the feedback everyone.

The desire to play with a Woman is driven by Khaleesi as she is genuinely bi-sexual. She wants to dominate/pleasure a woman before it moves on to me joining in dominating her and finishing by having sex with her.

We do fully expect that this approach might not be for everyone though. Khaleesi is turned on by the thought of watching me with another Woman. This is something I would be doing to please her rather then a personal desire (although not saying I would not enjoy it of course!) as I am very content with Khaleesi.

We are still finding our feet and unsure as to how we would want a session to go with other couples though... one we need to think about. A straight swap does not appeal to us.

Our only experience to date has been inviting guys to join us for MMF as well as one gang bang which we both enjoyed. Hoping to host another one later this Month.

When we have approached Woman on here the messages have been sent by Khaleesi and she has also provided her contact details so that any woman can speak to her directly.

I guess keep trying and hopefully we will find a regular lady who enjoys the Scenario Khaleesi wishes to play out.

D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you all for the feedback everyone.

The desire to play with a Woman is driven by Khaleesi as she is genuinely bi-sexual. She wants to dominate/pleasure a woman before it moves on to me joining in dominating her and finishing by having sex with her.

We do fully expect that this approach might not be for everyone though. Khaleesi is turned on by the thought of watching me with another Woman. This is something I would be doing to please her rather then a personal desire (although not saying I would not enjoy it of course!) as I am very content with Khaleesi.

We are still finding our feet and unsure as to how we would want a session to go with other couples though... one we need to think about. A straight swap does not appeal to us.

Our only experience to date has been inviting guys to join us for MMF as well as one gang bang which we both enjoyed. Hoping to host another one later this Month.

When we have approached Woman on here the messages have been sent by Khaleesi and she has also provided her contact details so that any woman can speak to her directly.

I guess keep trying and hopefully we will find a regular lady who enjoys the Scenario Khaleesi wishes to play out.

D"

If you, as you say have no desire to play with a single lady and just doing it to please Khaleesi, that maybe won't go down well with a single lady once you make them aware of that fact, being as if they want to play with a couple they want to play with both

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Thank you all for the feedback everyone.

The desire to play with a Woman is driven by Khaleesi as she is genuinely bi-sexual. She wants to dominate/pleasure a woman before it moves on to me joining in dominating her and finishing by having sex with her.

We do fully expect that this approach might not be for everyone though. Khaleesi is turned on by the thought of watching me with another Woman. This is something I would be doing to please her rather then a personal desire (although not saying I would not enjoy it of course!) as I am very content with Khaleesi.

We are still finding our feet and unsure as to how we would want a session to go with other couples though... one we need to think about. A straight swap does not appeal to us.

Our only experience to date has been inviting guys to join us for MMF as well as one gang bang which we both enjoyed. Hoping to host another one later this Month.

When we have approached Woman on here the messages have been sent by Khaleesi and she has also provided her contact details so that any woman can speak to her directly.

I guess keep trying and hopefully we will find a regular lady who enjoys the Scenario Khaleesi wishes to play out.

D"

Unsure if many single women really want to be 'dominated' by another woman

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's a fair point, I can't argue with that.

re your message earlier about Khaleesi playing alone I am happy for her to do that (with women) but she doesn't want to.

Perhaps with the right Woman in terms of chemistry I would be more interested. That's one of the challenges of meeting people online I guess? as one member suggested maybe meeting in a club environment is the way to go.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you all for the feedback everyone.

The desire to play with a Woman is driven by Khaleesi as she is genuinely bi-sexual. She wants to dominate/pleasure a woman before it moves on to me joining in dominating her and finishing by having sex with her.

We do fully expect that this approach might not be for everyone though. Khaleesi is turned on by the thought of watching me with another Woman. This is something I would be doing to please her rather then a personal desire (although not saying I would not enjoy it of course!) as I am very content with Khaleesi.

We are still finding our feet and unsure as to how we would want a session to go with other couples though... one we need to think about. A straight swap does not appeal to us.

Our only experience to date has been inviting guys to join us for MMF as well as one gang bang which we both enjoyed. Hoping to host another one later this Month.

When we have approached Woman on here the messages have been sent by Khaleesi and she has also provided her contact details so that any woman can speak to her directly.

I guess keep trying and hopefully we will find a regular lady who enjoys the Scenario Khaleesi wishes to play out.

D

Unsure if many single women really want to be 'dominated' by another woman "

Sure, we did mention that in an earlier post.

However she has had many women over the years that have enjoyed it so they are out there. Personal preference i guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you thought about a couple, you could ask the couple to let the lady play with you two, then return the favour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just visit the clubs and if you get meet outside of the club, bonus.

Just treat potential meets the same. If females in particular want to play hard to get etc.. then that's their problem. We just briefly chat to them as they tend to be a waste of time, in our experience.

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By *bandjam91Couple
over a year ago

London


"That's a fair point, I can't argue with that.

re your message earlier about Khaleesi playing alone I am happy for her to do that (with women) but she doesn't want to.

Perhaps with the right Woman in terms of chemistry I would be more interested. That's one of the challenges of meeting people online I guess? as one member suggested maybe meeting in a club environment is the way to go. "

I think what you're after is hard on Fab, and possible but not easy in a swinging club too.

Our ideal meet would involved BDSM with a single lady who would Dom PB but be submissive to me (Jam).

However, we've not found her in 18 months. For us order of ease to find is:

1) Couples

2) Couples who enjoy kink, although often not on first meet

3) Single ladies

4) Single ladies who enjoy kink (still hoping)

Maybe try a kink site or attend a few Munches and be prepared to be patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reality is this

Successful swingers compromise, there is a little give and take, as you are fairly inexperienced swingers OP you have lots of things to discover and taste, revel in the journey, discover new sexual play, be open minded to new experiences and gain some swinging knowledge along the way, maybe then you'll be successful

Or alternatively stick to your game plan and wonder why no single lady wants to be treated like a toy

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet couples at the moment as that is something my husband and I do together but if I did, being Dominated by another Woman is a huge turn on for me but I think once you joined in I would want to play with you both Xx

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Thank you all for the feedback everyone.

The desire to play with a Woman is driven by Khaleesi as she is genuinely bi-sexual. She wants to dominate/pleasure a woman before it moves on to me joining in dominating her and finishing by having sex with her.

We do fully expect that this approach might not be for everyone though. Khaleesi is turned on by the thought of watching me with another Woman. This is something I would be doing to please her rather then a personal desire (although not saying I would not enjoy it of course!) as I am very content with Khaleesi.

We are still finding our feet and unsure as to how we would want a session to go with other couples though... one we need to think about. A straight swap does not appeal to us.

Our only experience to date has been inviting guys to join us for MMF as well as one gang bang which we both enjoyed. Hoping to host another one later this Month.

When we have approached Woman on here the messages have been sent by Khaleesi and she has also provided her contact details so that any woman can speak to her directly.

I guess keep trying and hopefully we will find a regular lady who enjoys the Scenario Khaleesi wishes to play out.

D

Unsure if many single women really want to be 'dominated' by another woman "

You'd probably be very surprised, then.

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By *bandjam91Couple
over a year ago

London


"The reality is this

Successful swingers compromise, there is a little give and take, as you are fairly inexperienced swingers OP you have lots of things to discover and taste, revel in the journey, discover new sexual play, be open minded to new experiences and gain some swinging knowledge along the way, maybe then you'll be successful

Or alternatively stick to your game plan and wonder why no single lady wants to be treated like a toy

Xx

"

In all fairness I think a submissive female wants exactly that as long as trust is present. However, in our experience they aren't on Fab.

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By *iSubSlutWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

I think its partly a safety thing....

You're asking a single lady to go to your house, where she doesnt know you, and there are two of you, but shes got no 'wing man'....

I wouldnt play at home with strangers.... too risky...

Clubs or house parties are a much safer, neutral venue, and if things don't work out you can still have a good night out...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely ought to visit clubs. ..

Your profile is amazing ...

If anything maybe some fems are intimidated by you ..I think your super hot but would never have the guts to message you for eg

Hope you find your unicorn xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes we've met lots of single ladies for FFM play, the irony is that couples only seeking single females are sometimes avoided by the single female for a number of reasons including, being used as a toy, to fulfil a fantasy, because the guy doesn't want his lady with another guy etc etc "

This!

I avoid couples with single guys blocked, they trend toward the traits I don't want in potential fun (e.g. Paranoid guys, 'bi-curious' girls, box-ticking ffm), soooo many intro messages are nearly the total opposite of the things that would make me feel comfortable meeting new people.

x

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"The reality is this

Successful swingers compromise, there is a little give and take, as you are fairly inexperienced swingers OP you have lots of things to discover and taste, revel in the journey, discover new sexual play, be open minded to new experiences and gain some swinging knowledge along the way, maybe then you'll be successful

Or alternatively stick to your game plan and wonder why no single lady wants to be treated like a toy

Xx

In all fairness I think a submissive female wants exactly that as long as trust is present. However, in our experience they aren't on Fab."

Hmmm, in our experience they most definitely are on Fab, but you are right, if those are the scenarios they wish to explore with a couple, then trusting the couple they choose to meet is going to be a major factor.

It's not the only factor though. Finding a mutual three way attraction is going to be tough for any three people. Geography makes a huge difference, as do people's diaries. Shared levels of maturity, intelligence and common interests will all play their part. And communication, communication, communication.

The stars pretty much have to align for those intimate connections to happen. But align they regularly do, and speaking for ourselves we've got Fab to thank for that.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Yes we've met lots of single ladies for FFM play, the irony is that couples only seeking single females are sometimes avoided by the single female for a number of reasons including, being used as a toy, to fulfil a fantasy, because the guy doesn't want his lady with another guy etc etc

This!

I avoid couples with single guys blocked, they trend toward the traits I don't want in potential fun (e.g. Paranoid guys, 'bi-curious' girls, box-ticking ffm), soooo many intro messages are nearly the total opposite of the things that would make me feel comfortable meeting new people.

x"

We have single guys blocked. It's because we aren't looking to meet single guys.

Paranoia, 'bi-curious' and box ticking? No.

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By *sums.r.usCouple
over a year ago

conwy

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By *sums.r.usCouple
over a year ago

conwy

We have experienced the same things. We found that we had more luck going to clubs and meeting with a single woman there and having fun. X.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We are thankful for all the replies and constructive comments. Certainly seems to be a great community here.

Thank you all

K&D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have single guys blocked. It's because we aren't looking to meet single guys.

Paranoia, 'bi-curious' and box ticking? No. "

Good for you, but trends are trends for a reason.

My way works for me, your way works for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been reasonably successful in meeting single women and we have a few verifications from single females which tends to help them contact us rather than visa versa. As women want to know that the play will be equal, relaxed and without jealousy they will tend to look for more experience and therefore it is a chicken and egg scenario. Once you have a few verified meets with women it will be a lot easier.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

The best place to find one will be at a club.

Too much like hard work with all the fakes on here etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single woman who meets couples but have been referred to as a unicorn on here as I'm a rarity!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Yes we've met lots of single ladies for FFM play, the irony is that couples only seeking single females are sometimes avoided by the single female for a number of reasons including, being used as a toy, to fulfil a fantasy, because the guy doesn't want his lady with another guy etc etc "
exactly this, also your profile is all about what YOU want not what you can offer potential playmates, on those grounds I personally would not be interested in meeting you, it comes across that you just want a plaything.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Stop trying to meet on here is the best advise. Go to a swingers club and meet someone at the bar and go to a play room, hotel or home. I don't think this site is the place to meet"

This is the best advice.

You'll waste hours and hours on here. We have played with three single women. One from here and two from clubs/socials. In comparison the one we met from here took at least 200 hours more time spent on communicating with others.

When you actually meet people out in the real world you can tell within seconds if they are genuine or not on here you can talk for weeks and then when it comes to a meet they disappear, if you get a response atall.

We are friends with single women on her in real life and we certainly wouldn't want to be one. To many idiots around that don't know what they want or are here for kicks online.

Even the most genuine couples that want to involve a single woman in all aspects of their play and all that involves struggle to get single woman meets online.

Time to get out and about.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single lady I find the idea of meeting a couple intimidating as someone said above feeling outnumbered etc

I recently arranged to meet a couple in a club as I felt more relaxed about being in a neutral environment

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By *rLucky777Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Fab is like a baron wasteland populated with a handful of single ladies and millions of men!

They don't call them unicorns for nothing!

I can't get single ladies either. I thought it would easier in a couple tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ps. I currently have 577 unread messages!! X"

Omg 577 that's huge!

As for sucking a husbands cock not the norm but incredibly sexy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes we've met lots of single ladies for FFM play, the irony is that couples only seeking single females are sometimes avoided by the single female for a number of reasons including, being used as a toy, to fulfil a fantasy, because the guy doesn't want his lady with another guy etc etc "

Exactly this.

I meet couple's. But sometimes because my preference is protection only, the guy doesn't always deliver the goods. If they like bareback. And I won't compromise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have been looking for a couple myself but have found that often only the male wants to play (even with verified couples) or I'm only attracted to one of the two.

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