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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We are both very active on our account with sending messages and replying to others, do people prefer it when a message is signed off by either Mrs P or Mr P so they know who sent the message or are people not bothered?

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford


"We are both very active on our account with sending messages and replying to others, do people prefer it when a message is signed off by either Mrs P or Mr P so they know who sent the message or are people not bothered?"

I always like to know who the message has come from, so a sign off from mr or Mrs is always appreciated

HG

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By *igbuttscannotlieWoman
over a year ago

grays

Yes I would always prefer to know whom I'm talking to x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We're not bothered we always assume the message comes from both because we assume they both want to meet us. It soon becomes obvious if it's only one of them.

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I prefer to know which of the couple Im talking to. The same with forum posts.

Sally

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The majority of messages we get are addressed to me (f), that's followed by the ones addressed to Mr N and finally the least are addressed to us both.

As far as the forum goes I don't think it matters who's posting, my answers wouldn't change if it was the man or the woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of courtesy and non confusion we sign off all messages and forum posts our respective usernames. Still some people ask who's who?

Fuzz (the male)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Unanimous then

Mr P

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Unanimous then

Mr P"

Nope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I receive an initial message from a couple, I treat it as coming from them both, so my response is to both.

Although once we have started a proper conversation, it is helpful to be clear who I'm chatting with.

Sometimes you'll see a 'couples' profile, where only the male manages the account and does all the messaging. Those are the ones which won't get a reply.

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford


"Unanimous then

Mr P"

Yup I agree, i can't see what harm can come from identifying who we are chatting too, and it only takes 2secs to sign off.

HG

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford


"If I receive an initial message from a couple, I treat it as coming from them both, so my response is to both.

Although once we have started a proper conversation, it is helpful to be clear who I'm chatting with.

Sometimes you'll see a 'couples' profile, where only the male manages the account and does all the messaging. Those are the ones which won't get a reply."

Yup steer clear of them, they will have to satisfy me both of them are into the scene, have been messed around and led up the garden path by male parts of a 'couple' before, positive the women never exist or if they do they have no idea what's going on behind their back!!

HG

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I receive an initial message from a couple, I treat it as coming from them both, so my response is to both.

Although once we have started a proper conversation, it is helpful to be clear who I'm chatting with.

Sometimes you'll see a 'couples' profile, where only the male manages the account and does all the messaging. Those are the ones which won't get a reply

Yup steer clear of them, they will have to satisfy me both of them are into the scene, have been messed around and led up the garden path by male parts of a 'couple' before, positive the women never exist or if they do they have no idea what's going on behind their back!!

HG"

I think the 50 odd veris should confirm we are both happy in the scene

Mr P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it be helpful but it wouldn't be a guarantee that it was the actual Mr or Mrs messaging XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are both very active on our account with sending messages and replying to others, do people prefer it when a message is signed off by either Mrs P or Mr P so they know who sent the message or are people not bothered?"

We will usually make it clear if it from both of us or one of us. However we do find it hard writing a message from both of us because we are different people with different personalities. We tend to move to Whatsapp quite promptly then it becomes obvious who is behind the message. That gives us a better chance to get our individual personalities and interests across.

Mrs

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford


"If I receive an initial message from a couple, I treat it as coming from them both, so my response is to both.

Although once we have started a proper conversation, it is helpful to be clear who I'm chatting with.

Sometimes you'll see a 'couples' profile, where only the male manages the account and does all the messaging. Those are the ones which won't get a reply

Yup steer clear of them, they will have to satisfy me both of them are into the scene, have been messed around and led up the garden path by male parts of a 'couple' before, positive the women never exist or if they do they have no idea what's going on behind their back!!

HG

I think the 50 odd veris should confirm we are both happy in the scene

Mr P"

My message certainly wasn't aimed at you

HG

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9 out 10 messages from couples to me are the guy. Many of those are without her knowledge it seems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I send a message my name usually goes first and then my partners.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think from now on we will sign off although we obviously never hide anything from each other and if someone's messaged it's because we have both spoke about it and have both got an attraction or interest in whoever we are messaging be that a single or couple

Mr P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think from now on we will sign off although we obviously never hide anything from each other and if someone's messaged it's because we have both spoke about it and have both got an attraction or interest in whoever we are messaging be that a single or couple

Mr P"

As a single male this is something I stuble across alot. I take time to read profiles but sometimes it's so awkward to bite the bullet and send a message to a couple as it's going to be one of hundreds and difficult to stand out. That being said knowing who is generally in charge of the profile is difficult if it's not clearly expressed as I like to direct my message to whoever is reading the profile as oppose to messaging as if it were a single female which i believe is probably rather common. As I'd be joining in their fun it's somewhat essential to be speaking in the correct way.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think from now on we will sign off although we obviously never hide anything from each other and if someone's messaged it's because we have both spoke about it and have both got an attraction or interest in whoever we are messaging be that a single or couple

Mr P

As a single male this is something I stuble across alot. I take time to read profiles but sometimes it's so awkward to bite the bullet and send a message to a couple as it's going to be one of hundreds and difficult to stand out. That being said knowing who is generally in charge of the profile is difficult if it's not clearly expressed as I like to direct my message to whoever is reading the profile as oppose to messaging as if it were a single female which i believe is probably rather common. As I'd be joining in their fun it's somewhat essential to be speaking in the correct way. "

If you assume you're talking to both of them you can't go far wrong. If you were in a pub with a couple would you only talk to one of them and ignore the other?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think from now on we will sign off although we obviously never hide anything from each other and if someone's messaged it's because we have both spoke about it and have both got an attraction or interest in whoever we are messaging be that a single or couple

Mr P

As a single male this is something I stuble across alot. I take time to read profiles but sometimes it's so awkward to bite the bullet and send a message to a couple as it's going to be one of hundreds and difficult to stand out. That being said knowing who is generally in charge of the profile is difficult if it's not clearly expressed as I like to direct my message to whoever is reading the profile as oppose to messaging as if it were a single female which i believe is probably rather common. As I'd be joining in their fun it's somewhat essential to be speaking in the correct way.

If you assume you're talking to both of them you can't go far wrong. If you were in a pub with a couple would you only talk to one of them and ignore the other? "

No but some couples would have for example the male in control of the account so speaking towards the female would indicate you haven't read the profile

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I want to know.

After a recent incident, which left me feeling quite angry, I will now ask which of the 2 I'm talking too if they don't say

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District

We always reply to messages together. That way we don't have to catch each other up on what we've said to folks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We message together, so never thought about it to be honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are more careful nowadays as to who we are talking to in a couple after an incident in a club where the guy knew who we were but the lady certainly had no clue!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I like to know, if nothing else to show that both parties exist and are on board

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I like to know, if nothing else to show that both parties exist and are on board"

We fell for that nearly with a single guy "claiming" to be the other half by sending messages, he even went as far as changing the way he punctuated etc. Thing is in messaging you really don't have a clue, who wrote this message him or her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started off looking on fabs, messaging and responding only together, but quickly realised this didn't work for us. If one of was at work while the other had time to perve, it was frustrating when either of us wanted to chat but had to wait for the other to come home. We've found that we have things to talk about when the other half gets back. We also feel that our trust and knowledge of each other has intensified and being so open means we don't feel there are any secrets between us.

Peachfuzz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I receive an initial message from a couple, I treat it as coming from them both, so my response is to both.

Although once we have started a proper conversation, it is helpful to be clear who I'm chatting with.

Sometimes you'll see a 'couples' profile, where only the male manages the account and does all the messaging. Those are the ones which won't get a reply."

The majority, if not most of the messages from us is by Mr because when we tried both using the site, we crossed messages. Due to work rotas, to confirm what to say, we would have to text each other thus doubling the work so she is happy to let Mr do the work. Plus, she's hopeless with checking the site.

Sometimes we arrange blokes for her to play solo so it looks like you would miss out !!!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think from now on we will sign off although we obviously never hide anything from each other and if someone's messaged it's because we have both spoke about it and have both got an attraction or interest in whoever we are messaging be that a single or couple

Mr P

As a single male this is something I stuble across alot. I take time to read profiles but sometimes it's so awkward to bite the bullet and send a message to a couple as it's going to be one of hundreds and difficult to stand out. That being said knowing who is generally in charge of the profile is difficult if it's not clearly expressed as I like to direct my message to whoever is reading the profile as oppose to messaging as if it were a single female which i believe is probably rather common. As I'd be joining in their fun it's somewhat essential to be speaking in the correct way.

If you assume you're talking to both of them you can't go far wrong. If you were in a pub with a couple would you only talk to one of them and ignore the other?

No but some couples would have for example the male in control of the account so speaking towards the female would indicate you haven't read the profile"

Of course if the profile says address the male only then that's what you do. I just meant if it isn't clear address both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I receive an initial message from a couple, I treat it as coming from them both, so my response is to both.

Although once we have started a proper conversation, it is helpful to be clear who I'm chatting with.

Sometimes you'll see a 'couples' profile, where only the male manages the account and does all the messaging. Those are the ones which won't get a reply.

The majority, if not most of the messages from us is by Mr because when we tried both using the site, we crossed messages. Due to work rotas, to confirm what to say, we would have to text each other thus doubling the work so she is happy to let Mr do the work. Plus, she's hopeless with checking the site.

Sometimes we arrange blokes for her to play solo so it looks like you would miss out !!!!"

We get round this by Peach deals with the single guys and girls, I deal with the couples and TV/TS. Then we have a fab meeting to discuss the days interactions.

Fuzz

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

We tend to put an x if it's Mrs and just an M if it's moi.

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By *limaxinnylonCouple
over a year ago

CHESTER

We put Jayne and Jon if female answering and Jon and Jayne if male answering as thought recipient would realise who is answering but would also remember we are a couple as some single guys seen to think messaging Jon about wanting to smash my back doors in whilst he watches is what I am looking for, it isn't

....... Well it is but be polite about it! Ha!

Jayne xx

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K


"I prefer to know which of the couple Im talking to. The same with forum posts.

Sally"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we send a message it's normally from us both and signed off accordingly. Occasionally it will be from one or t'other so would sign that off from either Mr or Mrs.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We always sign off with our names,prefer if a couple does too ,or says which one is speaking .

Just makes it a bit easier

Miss

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By *on and TammyCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

It states clearly in our profile that I manage the account. First messages/replies that we send will be from both of us and sign off as such. once contact is established though I will deal with all messages and sign off as myself.

We're not huge chatters on here though, usually just prefer to establish contact and make arrangements to meet as soon as we can.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It states clearly in our profile that I manage the account. First messages/replies that we send will be from both of us and sign off as such. once contact is established though I will deal with all messages and sign off as myself.

We're not huge chatters on here though, usually just prefer to establish contact and make arrangements to meet as soon as we can.

Mr"

Same here, but weve found most people want to chat every night on here, then on kik, then on......... so on and so on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are both very active on our account with sending messages and replying to others, do people prefer it when a message is signed off by either Mrs P or Mr P so they know who sent the message or are people not bothered?"

Do whatever you want, I do.

If people care that much they can always ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't mind if it's the bloke or female that's messaging, just as long it is a couple, they both know and they both actually attend if agreed to meet.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"We are both very active on our account with sending messages and replying to others, do people prefer it when a message is signed off by either Mrs P or Mr P so they know who sent the message or are people not bothered?"

I always think it is best to let the other person know who they are chatting with.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We, yes we, are on here as a couple, yes couple. We, yes we, always message folk as a couple. A message is sent on behalf of both of us and if we, yes we, message a couple we address them as both, never, either or

Enjoying life, F and B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to know who I'm talking to, and I'm always very respectable of couples and ensure my messages are aimed at them both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion its always nice to know who has replied from a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always prefer to know who is chatting and always try to sign off to let them know too.

Very few do it tho lol

Vx

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By *pa and dCouple
over a year ago

Barnet

Not a huge problem, we tend to still be dressed and in a safe place before meeting people, so no point in them pretending to be what they are not.

Always nice to know exactly who you're chatting with though (and I wouldnt hide/pretend) from my point of view.

Mr Ppa and D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I message a couple I always lke to assume that both have read it, and it would be nice to know who has replied if not both

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Normally sign off as Mr or Mrs on our couples

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By *onkeyandBonesCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"We are both very active on our account with sending messages and replying to others, do people prefer it when a message is signed off by either Mrs P or Mr P so they know who sent the message or are people not bothered?"

We always message together, but if getting a message from a couple and it's just one half then would be nice to know!

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