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By *utterfly1971 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wakefield

This has happened twice . They come round and I give them a bj and they don't touch me. I end up asking them to leave . What am I doing wrong. Is my body that bad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This has happened twice . They come round and I give them a bj and they don't touch me. I end up asking them to leave . What am I doing wrong. Is my body that bad? "

May I suggest not touching their appendage first?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or working on your self-esteem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This has happened twice . They come round and I give them a bj and they don't touch me. I end up asking them to leave . What am I doing wrong. Is my body that bad? "
They must be mad , you have a lovely body OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't comment on your body as your pics are friends only

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By *utterfly1971 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wakefield

Thank you

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

Was there any kissing involved?

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

"This has happened twice . They come round and I give them a bj and they don't touch me. I end up asking them to leave . What am I doing wrong. Is my body that bad? "
thats really wrong, I always try to please first. I enjoy was lady's cum, even if I don't! Better luck next time OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its happened to me OP many times.

Probably married or with someone so a bj they class as not cheating.

Thats my conclusion. But I also wondered why it never went further.

Don't worry OP. Just forget and move on xx

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

Make them work for their blow job girl! Once they've come they're neither use nor orniment

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Your vetting process could be improved...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This has happened twice . They come round and I give them a bj and they don't touch me. I end up asking them to leave . What am I doing wrong. Is my body that bad? "

Stop doing bj's at the start.

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By *hoenixandflamesCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Not sure your body should come in to someone being selfish, surely?

Demand you get yours first.

Should be a mans modus operandi anyway.

IMHO.

Flames

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By *utterfly1971 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wakefield

Well I am going to stop giving by first. Thank you everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read their bio's check they're interested in pleasing you. Personally I'd be the first to give oral if I met a woman I liked.

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By *utterfly1971 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wakefield

Sorry should say blow jobs first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they haven't had sex in a while they can cum fast, so don't give them a blow job first as you say or they are spent before it's your turn XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men are unselfish and really want to please the woman first but you cannot tell this just by having a chat or vetting them. I think we try to please them and hope they return the favour but my guess is many of them are married or taken.

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

"Make them work for their blow job girl! Once they've come they're neither use nor orniment

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love that idea working to get a bj. Most of the time when I cum you will get another round.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"This has happened twice . They come round and I give them a bj and they don't touch me. I end up asking them to leave . What am I doing wrong. Is my body that bad?

May I suggest not touching their appendage first? "

this is exactly what i had to stop doing. in fact if the guy didn't go down on me i wouldn't suck them off at all.

you're doing nothing wrong, you just met a selfish git.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Well I am going to stop giving by first. Thank you everyone "

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By *utterfly1971 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wakefield

"This has happened twice . They come round and I give them a bj and they don't touch me. I end up asking them to leave . What am I doing wrong. Is my body that bad?

May I suggest not touching their appendage first?

this is exactly what i had to stop doing. in fact if the guy didn't go down on me i wouldn't suck them off at all.

you're doing nothing wrong, you just met a selfish git."

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By *utterfly1971 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wakefield

I am going to make sure they play or go down on me first. I like to please but this is past the joke if I am getting nothing from it . I am also surprised that I am not the only woman this has happened too x

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I am going to make sure they play or go down on me first. I like to please but this is past the joke if I am getting nothing from it . I am also surprised that I am not the only woman this has happened too x "

What did yoy discuss with them before hand? What promises were made by them?

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By *utterfly1971 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wakefield

On my profile I have put I like being fingered. He told me he was going to play with me. But after giving him a blow job he cum . We laided there chatting and he said he had to go to see his friends but I will play with you when I have recovered . I told him to leave and he said I will leave you a verification and I told him to stick it .

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

I suck their cock to get them hard, then it's time to play which can involve a mixture of penetration and sucking. How long are you sucking them for? It might be a mixture of your skill and time you suck them for that they a) don't want you to stop and b) think you want to make them cum that way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Read their bio's check they're interested in pleasing you. Personally I'd be the first to give oral if I met a woman I liked."

Like a bloke won't lie on his profile to make himself sound like the perfect gentleman?

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I am going to make sure they play or go down on me first. I like to please but this is past the joke if I am getting nothing from it . I am also surprised that I am not the only woman this has happened too x "

it's not happened to me a lot, but it was enough for me to stop enjoying giving.

some guys think we don't need foreplay or anything, think it's coz they're in a rush to get back to their mrs.

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By *utterfly1971 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wakefield

They all think they are gentlemen. Until they just want one thing for themselves. I just want to enjoy myself as well...is that to much to ask.. So when I think back ... yes that was a good fuck!

I am not going to give a blow job until I have had some fun first. Thank you everyone who has given me advice today x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am going to make sure they play or go down on me first. I like to please but this is past the joke if I am getting nothing from it . I am also surprised that I am not the only woman this has happened too x

it's not happened to me a lot, but it was enough for me to stop enjoying giving.

some guys think we don't need foreplay or anything, think it's coz they're in a rush to get back to their mrs. "

This is my point. He aint going to tell you hes married or with someone .. and like i said .. a bj to them doesnt count as cheating.

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

"Make them work for their blow job girl! Once they've come they're neither use nor orniment

love that idea working to get a bj. Most of the time when I cum you will get another round.

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From personal experience, unfortunately many 40something men cant cum again or they have a very long recovery time.

Or just maybe my veri's are true and I'm the bestest blow job giver in the entire universe ever and no man is safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe on arrival they simply didn't want to fuck you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op some guys are like that... I prefer that but know im in the minority.

Don't see it as a negative though.. and if you want something make sure you get it first.

We have had it the other way around too.. lee loves to give.. and many times the woman never touches him in return.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

probably married or cheating so see you as a hole. oh well. learn from your mistakes and choose wisely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't give people everything they want straight away,tease them.

Treat 'em mean,,,keep 'em keen.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"This has happened twice . They come round and I give them a bj and they don't touch me. I end up asking them to leave . What am I doing wrong. Is my body that bad? "

I hate replying to these threads. I worry people will think I am trying to be a night in shining armour lol.

From your profile picture I would say there is nothing wrong with your body.

You say on your profile you want to get to know the man before meeting. Do a lot more of that. Spend time getting to know any single guys online first. You will out the instant shag guys, timewaters, stalkers and weirdos lol. Being serious getting to know somebody online first will save you a lot of hassle.

Make sure they are meeting you for the right reasons. Getting to know them online first will out they guys looking for another notch on their bedpost. Take things at your pace not theirs.

After getting to know them online make your first meet a social. Again this will out the instant shag guys.

It's good you have respect for yourself and asked the selfish guys to leave. Good on you.

Maybe in the future warn potential new meets that in the past you had to ask guys to leave because they were selfish and only interested in their pleasure. This should hopefully out the selfish guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This has happened twice . They come round and I give them a bj and they don't touch me. I end up asking them to leave . What am I doing wrong. Is my body that bad?

I hate replying to these threads. I worry people will think I am trying to be a night in shining armour lol.

From your profile picture I would say there is nothing wrong with your body.

You say on your profile you want to get to know the man before meeting. Do a lot more of that. Spend time getting to know any single guys online first. You will out the instant shag guys, timewaters, stalkers and weirdos lol. Being serious getting to know somebody online first will save you a lot of hassle.

Make sure they are meeting you for the right reasons. Getting to know them online first will out they guys looking for another notch on their bedpost. Take things at your pace not theirs.

After getting to know them online make your first meet a social. Again this will out the instant shag guys.

It's good you have respect for yourself and asked the selfish guys to leave. Good on you.

Maybe in the future warn potential new meets that in the past you had to ask guys to leave because they were selfish and only interested in their pleasure. This should hopefully out the selfish guys.

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Great reply!

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Make them work for their blow job girl! Once they've come they're neither use nor orniment

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Great idea.

Butterfly1971 next time you are with a guy spread your legs then tell him if gives you good oral sex and makes you cum you will give him a sexy blowjob.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On my profile I have put I like being fingered. He told me he was going to play with me. But after giving him a blow job he cum . We laided there chatting and he said he had to go to see his friends but I will play with you when I have recovered . I told him to leave and he said I will leave you a verification and I told him to stick it .

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Men lose interest once they've cum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This has happened twice . They come round and I give them a bj and they don't touch me. I end up asking them to leave . What am I doing wrong. Is my body that bad? "

Try inviting me round ..I. love making a lady cum a few times first before I do

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

OP why give a bj till they cum? Tease and torment and make them crave for more but hold back and extend foreplay. Make them satisfy you rather than letting them get their relief quickly

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"This has happened twice . They come round and I give them a bj and they don't touch me. I end up asking them to leave . What am I doing wrong. Is my body that bad?

May I suggest not touching their appendage first?

this is exactly what i had to stop doing. in fact if the guy didn't go down on me i wouldn't suck them off at all.

you're doing nothing wrong, you just met a selfish git."

This is what you should do _utterfly1971.

If I was a woman and the guy wouldn't give me oral sex no way would his cock be going in my mouth.

Personally I don't understand guys who don't like giving oral sex. Hearing a woman cum from me just using my outh and tongue really turns me on.

Actually years ago when I was about 14 me and my mates used to watch pornos on VHS tapes. Yes I asm old lol. When we watched them I wasn't thinking I can't wait to have sex. I was thinking I can't wait to give a woman oral sex.

I also don't get guys who don't like foreplay. Plenty of kissing, plenty of touching, etc.

Mayne I am weird? If a woman is enjoying what I am doing it really turns me on.

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By *orny_MedicMan
over a year ago

Darwen

"I am going to make sure they play or go down on me first. I like to please but this is past the joke if I am getting nothing from it . I am also surprised that I am not the only woman this has happened too x

it's not happened to me a lot, but it was enough for me to stop enjoying giving.

some guys think we don't need foreplay or anything, think it's coz they're in a rush to get back to their mrs. "

Foreplay is the best bit I don't know why some people would just give in at a BJ. I love seeing a lady satisfied far more than getting a BJ.

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By *orny_MedicMan
over a year ago

Darwen

OP you are picking the wrong kind of blokes. Hard to ascertain the right kind on here but a real guy will see to your needs first. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This has happened twice . They come round and I give them a bj and they don't touch me. I end up asking them to leave . What am I doing wrong. Is my body that bad? "

Maybe your blow jobs are just too good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This has happened twice . They come round and I give them a bj and they don't touch me. I end up asking them to leave . What am I doing wrong. Is my body that bad? "

I hate that. Selfish guys get meets. Unselfish guys struggle lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't comment on your body as your pics are private. But it's plain your inviting the wrong people.

Are you inviting purely off looks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have a social first and never fuck on the first date, effort for them and most will only bother if they like you.

I also make it clear right from the off what I expect and not prepared to negotiate on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More than likely the guys do not want the smell of pussy on their fingers or breath in case the wife notices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More than likely the guys do not want the smell of pussy on their fingers or breath in case the wife notices. "

Exactly this

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Make sure you leave them a crap Veri

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"This has happened twice . They come round and I give them a bj and they don't touch me. I end up asking them to leave . What am I doing wrong. Is my body that bad? "

Hold off on the blow job until after you've got what you want.

Your body is great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure your body should come in to someone being selfish, surely?

Demand you get yours first.

Should be a mans modus operandi anyway.

IMHO.

Flames"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Foreplay should be exactly that, enough to get you both going. If you dive straight in there and make the guy cum then don’t be surprised if he loses interest.

Get him hard keep him horny and he will like your pussy with gusto

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Then when you have cum finish him off for being a good boy

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Some guys are just selfish end off!

Some good advice for you on this thread OP

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By *icoleAndLisaTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

"This has happened twice . They come round and I give them a bj and they don't touch me. I end up asking them to leave . What am I doing wrong. Is my body that bad? "

Are you giving oral to completion? If you are, then knock that on the head for starters. The 'cum and run' crowd will do exactly that. For me, oral is foreplay to get them revved up for the main event. That's as far as it goes.

Negotiate what will happen in your PM's. Never assume that they've read your profile. Or find an excuse to make them read it. I've put 3 different meet options in mine, and they need to read it in order to tell me which one they want.

And yes, if it becomes clear that they won't or can't perform as they've promised, don't be afraid to show them the door. I have a bit of sympathy if they get droop on the night, but if they turn up with completely useless equipment, I ask them to leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP if you drop to your knees and give a decent enough BJ of course the guy will cum unless you say otherwise. Maybe they thought that's what you wanted?

For me, foreplay doesn't start with oral...there's plenty of mutually pleasurable ways to build up the excitement before I go down on a guy. I tell my meets there's no way I'm letting them cum until I've had a handful of orgasms, and I can keep them on edge through oral for as long as I want.

Be more communicative about what you want from a meet. Most men are turned on by a sexually confident woman who knows what she wants and how to get it

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By *istress Pillow PrincessWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

i don't meet guys from this site other than the one guy who introduced me to the site who's definitely not a "selfish fuck" so that tends to solve that problem for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP if you drop to your knees and give a decent enough BJ of course the guy will cum unless you say otherwise. Maybe they thought that's what you wanted?

For me, foreplay doesn't start with oral...there's plenty of mutually pleasurable ways to build up the excitement before I go down on a guy. I tell my meets there's no way I'm letting them cum until I've had a handful of orgasms, and I can keep them on edge through oral for as long as I want.

Be more communicative about what you want from a meet. Most men are turned on by a sexually confident woman who knows what she wants and how to get it

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Post closed. Words of wisdom from a luscious set of lips

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By *irenGuy70Man
over a year ago

Cirencester

Sounds like you've had a pretty raw deal there OP. I don't understand it myself as for me fun is a whole lot better when shared - that's the point for being on a site like this isn't it? Some great advice here and I do think it's good to communicate before you meet so that the expectations are set beforehand, you can see if someone is on your wavelength and your time is not wasted. Better luck in the future OP.

CGx

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By *utterfly1971 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wakefield

"I always have a social first and never fuck on the first date, effort for them and most will only bother if they like you.

I also make it clear right from the off what I expect and not prepared to negotiate on.

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By *utterfly1971 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By *utterfly1971 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wakefield

Thank you everyone for fantastic advice.

I am definitely going to get them to play with me first .

Then we can both have fun together x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Maybe on arrival they simply didn't want to fuck you."
then they should leave

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"Or working on your self-esteem?"

This is as far as i got on this thread. Best advice.

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By *AM2214Man
over a year ago

Manchester Area

mutual fun ...why should one party, regardless of sex or sexuality, have all the fun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This has happened twice . They come round and I give them a bj and they don't touch me. I end up asking them to leave . What am I doing wrong. Is my body that bad? "

No its not your body that's lovely, it must be them. You should get them to pleasure you first (Mr)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you everyone for fantastic advice.

I am definitely going to get them to play with me first .

Then we can both have fun together x

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I suggest you're just great at head and look amazing.

I'd love to play with you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The positive from this is evidently you have excellent BJ skills!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP

Ignoring all the white knighting, are you playing in silence and not communicating? Maybe a bit more chat and discussing what you both want would work better?

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

My advice suck them till they hard - then stop tease the hell out of them

Then whisper in ear I want you to finger my wet pussy, and feel your tounge on my clit now

, and I am not going to kick that thick cock again till you do

It works trust me

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By *utterfly1971 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wakefield

"My advice suck them till they hard - then stop tease the hell out of them

Then whisper in ear I want you to finger my wet pussy, and feel your tounge on my clit now

, and I am not going to kick that thick cock again till you do

It works trust me

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By *utterfly1971 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wakefield

I am going to try that one x thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This has happened twice . They come round and I give them a bj and they don't touch me. I end up asking them to leave . What am I doing wrong. Is my body that bad? "

I dunno, I can't see it. Some guys are selfish, some of us are givers rather than takers

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"I am going to try that one x thank you x "

Don't be afraid to stop and say that's enough for now

even put some clothes back on

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By *hunderstruckMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"Some guys are just selfish end off!

Some good advice for you on this thread OP

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Some selfish women too

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

"More than likely the guys do not want the smell of pussy on their fingers or breath in case the wife notices.

Exactly this

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Sorry that's just bullocks (excuse the pun) They can wash surely lol x

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By *utterfly1971 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wakefield

"I am going to try that one x thank you x

Don't be afraid to stop and say that's enough for now

even put some clothes back on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you have just been very unlucky in that you seem to have come across two selfish bastards but there is some real good advice been handed to you by the forum crowd tonight,now on a lighter note anyone get onto some of the blokes messages haha Oooo there are some right selfish men but am not i always give the woman pleasure pick me and thats terrible not letting you cum first i would of let you cum first pick me and i always ask the female if she wants to oral cos i always put the female first pick me hahaha stop it will yer

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