FabSwingers.com forum: Profile advice.. and yes trying to stand out..

By *nglishCharm OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

Photo verified.. Support member.. huge male offerings on here for women and couples, many want you meet verified to which I'm eager to do for both reasons

Please advise as to how I can improve my profile as longer on here without a meet the more unlikely other's will be interested..

Yes I'm trying to standout without looking desperate...

Thanks Conner xx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You're not very tall....8 inches?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"You're not very tall....8 inches? "
....."8 INCHES TALL TOP BANANA SEEKS FUN..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Photo verified.. Support member.. huge male offerings on here for women and couples, many want you meet verified to which I'm eager to do for both reasons

Please advise as to how I can improve my profile as longer on here without a meet the more unlikely other's will be interested..

Yes I'm trying to standout without looking desperate...

Thanks Conner xx

Reading profiles help ememsly and face photos if msg them i find a help

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By *nglishCharm OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

"You're not very tall....8 inches? ....."8 INCHES TALL TOP BANANA SEEKS FUN..."

An attempt of fun referring to my manhood.. no I wasn't starved as a child..

Shall I change that.. again I was thinking out the box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile is ok yet goodluck getting a female talking direct on phone verifications should be enough get yourself to socials for verifications x GL

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"You're not very tall....8 inches? ....."8 INCHES TALL TOP BANANA SEEKS FUN..."

An attempt of fun referring to my manhood.. no I wasn't starved as a child..

Shall I change that.. again I was thinking out the box

Yeah, get rid of that bit - it attracts people like me. Remove all reference to size, after all - there's more to you than that, isn't there? It's well written but you need more photos.

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By *nglishCharm OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

Took note and thanks for the advice..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with humour and light hearted photos.

Personally that's a win for me and a profile with no dailiing about and let's be honest it's a swing site so a pic of the goodies too.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Forget the Gordon Ramsey bit too - a picture is worth a lot of text. Join in on the forum, chatrooms, the meets section. Be patient. Use this place as an addition to your usual sex life not the mainstay of it. Get yourself to a social as well as making contacts for future meets is well worth it. I had a meet with a lady once and I asked her to recommend me out to her friends....so she did. A happy but exhausting few months!

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By *nglishCharm OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

"Forget the Gordon Ramsey bit too - a picture is worth a lot of text. Join in on the forum, chatrooms, the meets section. Be patient. Use this place as an addition to your usual sex life not the mainstay of it. Get yourself to a social as well as making contacts for future meets is well worth it. I had a meet with a lady once and I asked her to recommend me out to her friends....so she did. A happy but exhausting few months!

Ok.. big fish pond I'm aware so that will be removed this evening.. Thanks for your advice

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North Devon-ish

Your profile reads ok, but like some have already mentioned 'wont exchange pictures unless you have spoken on the phone' OK so think inside the box for a minute. Are are suggesting people that maybe be interested should give out their phone No to you ? ..Afraid you might be cutting your chances a bit there.

We have been here for about 10 years and have had quite a few meets, we didn't intend it to happen like that, but sometimes that is what happens, it appears that according to your profile that once you get past a certain no of meets, people fall into the desperation box ? Will you be leaving the site once you become established and had a quite a few meets then ?

"Photo verified.. Support member.. huge male offerings on here for women and couples, many want you meet verified to which I'm eager to do for both reasons

Please advise as to how I can improve my profile as longer on here without a meet the more unlikely other's will be interested..

Yes I'm trying to standout without looking desperate...

Thanks Conner xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't looked at your profile, just a little food for thought...

I have been here 5 weeks, thrown myself into the forums and as a result chatted to some lovely ladies.

None of them will result in a meet for various reasons, but all chatting away happily.

I believed I don't stand out, especially seeing some of the competition on here in the looks / endowment department. However, I have been told today not to change and be who I am.

We all want to improve our chances and appeal to everyone, but what turns some on will turn others off.

Sell yourself but be yourself. As I put in my profile, if you can't stand out, at least stand proud.

Someone somewhere will like you.

Good luck!

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By *nglishCharm OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

"I haven't looked at your profile, just a little food for thought...

I have been here 5 weeks, thrown myself into the forums and as a result chatted to some lovely ladies.

None of them will result in a meet for various reasons, but all chatting away happily.

I believed I don't stand out, especially seeing some of the competition on here in the looks / endowment department. However, I have been told today not to change and be who I am.

We all want to improve our chances and appeal to everyone, but what turns some on will turn others off.

Sell yourself but be yourself. As I put in my profile, if you can't stand out, at least stand proud.

Someone somewhere will like you.

Good luck!"

Seriously I respect your comments and you.. we all are unique and yes I know by being genuine you'll enjoy fabs journey.. good luck and thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. No dick pics = huge

2. You use the word "SEX" 3 times in the opening of your write-up. Remove it! You don't need to say you're here for sex, have a high sex drive etc. When you say you're not here to have sex with the 100s that's a nice touch but just say you're not looking to meet with 100s or work your way through the whole site.

3. 8 inch tall banana? or whatever the fuck you are trying to say... Remove it! Don't refer to your cock size unless you're only looking for sizequeens! So take that 8 inch bit out of the write up too and just say you're VWE BWC.

4. The rest is fine apart from your little policy of not sharing photos until speaking over the phone. Good luck with that. Most won't even have a phone conversation even after receiving photos much less actually give you their phone number. It's the Internet, most don't want to give out a phone number so just let that go!

5. Oh and if you're comparing yourself to Gordon Ramsey say something that sets you apart from him. Don't just jump on his cock and think women will want to hop on yours.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't looked at your profile, just a little food for thought...

I have been here 5 weeks, thrown myself into the forums and as a result chatted to some lovely ladies.

None of them will result in a meet for various reasons, but all chatting away happily.

I believed I don't stand out, especially seeing some of the competition on here in the looks / endowment department. However, I have been told today not to change and be who I am.

We all want to improve our chances and appeal to everyone, but what turns some on will turn others off.

Sell yourself but be yourself. As I put in my profile, if you can't stand out, at least stand proud.

Someone somewhere will like you.

Good luck!"

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By *nglishCharm OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

"1. No dick pics = huge

5. Oh and if you're comparing yourself to Gordon Ramsey say something that sets you apart from him. Don't just jump on his cock and think women will want to hop on yours.

Good luck

Your right.. and thank you for your advice.. many thanks Conner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you take onboard the last advice you was given when you asked op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you take onboard the last advice you was given when you asked op"
Female here guess he never got anywhere so is asking for more

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Did you take onboard the last advice you was given when you asked op"

He's only asked twice which is ok. Three times will make him look Iike he doesn't listen. I think he will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you take onboard the last advice you was given when you asked opFemale here guess he never got anywhere so is asking for more

lol thought so.

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By *nglishCharm OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

Complete rewrite this evening thank for your advice to all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Gordon Ramsey comparison would utterly put me off, he's a bad tempered, arrogant man.

I'm not sure what's wrong with having sex with 100's of people it does smell of judgement which would never do

and I struggle with the flashing of your wallet that runs through the profile.

I'd say more pics and get verified in person then it's go go go to quickie heaven

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Profile is ok yet goodluck getting a female talking direct on phone verifications should be enough get yourself to socials for verifications x GL"
phone veris aren't allowed now x

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

Conner,

Your profile isn't too bad, for a beginner!

BUT...

We're all aware of what this site is all about, so you can drop using the word sex, so often and find an alternative.

You have no facial pic(s), which goes against you. If it is a job issue where your face cannot be viewed,then say so, but face pics work wonders!

You are YOU, not Gordon Ramsey. No matter how much positivity you see in him to explain yourself, most others will see him as for what he is, foul mouthed, arrogant & someone we'd all like to slap hard in the face! Is that you?? I thought not! So, ditch the comparison.

You've only been on here 4 weeks, you are a mere beginner! Yes, it takes time; it takes effort on all aspects, plus it takes lots of Patience.

Get to Socials and Clubs in your region; you need to get noticed. That is how I found out about FAB at a club and got my first verification.

It does work! Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok blow by blow"

"Well let me start with hello I'm Conner, pleased our paths have crossed, I'm new on here, not seeking any heavy relationships just looking for fun, laughter and sex.."

Reads a little off. Dont mention youre new no one cares and in a few mo the you won't be new but your profile will still say you are.

Every one knows you're here for sex its kinda redundant.

"Not looking to have sex with 100's, wishing to be more selective as not desperate, yet cursed or maybe I'm blessed with a huge sex drive and an erotic mind.."

Ditch it all. There is nothing positive to be gained from the whole "I'm not here to fuck the whole site" line. You come across as judgemental/on a high horse and then combined with the next line equally desperate.

"I prefer straight talking as although the mind is a huge erogenous zone, let's leave that to the flirtatious moment's, eye contact and chemistry."

Ditch this, again nothing to be gained it just reads as "I dont want to talk i just want to fuck an go"

"Impeccably clean always, clean shaven both face and where it matters.. Can meet suited and booted or rigger boots and a hard hat, as I'm a architect.."

Don't mention that youre clean, it's not a selling point its a basic expectation from a human being if you feel the need to point it out it makes people think about it. You don't want people thinking of knob cheese when reading your profile.

"Enjoying fine wine, classy hotels and the goodlife I don't do cheap.. my home, hotel or yours I'm flexible.."

Ok, ditch "I dont do cheap though" to some you'll sound arrogant, to others like you're offering payment, and others you'll ook lile a mark.

"Times can be day, night weekends all no problem.."

Just say flexible if youre going to mention times, going over board with always being available seems desperate.

"6ft BLUE EYES & GENUINELY HUNG 8+ FAIR HAIRED.. SOME HAVE COMPARED ME TO GORDON RAMSAY IN BOTH CONFIDENCE AND APPEARANCE.."

Ditch capitals, ditch the physical description, ditch the Ramsey claim. You have pictures to show what you look lile you don't need to write it.

"Private photo's are available, yet require many more to be taken by a third party.. case of wine awaits lol.."

Yeah as a guy unless you're looking for a guy odds are no woman is ever taking pics of you.

"Not keen on sending face photo's to complete strangers until we've spoken direct on the phone, let's face it this is the web.. stylish photo's and maybe XXX on request.."

Fair enough is going to massivly reduce your chances though as surprisingly people are wary of giving thier phone numbers to a man who wont even show them thier face/people just don't message those without face pics.

"Thanks for reading this far and please let the games begin.. I'll always reply all as it's only manners to which cost's nothing.."

Youve instantly alienated the majority of women on here because you've just called them all rude if they dont reply to every message.

"Happy swinging to all seeking fun... One life live the dream..

Regards Conner xx"

Ok.

But having read all that all ive learned is you like food, know how to clean yourself and you're an architect.

.very little about you and its very difficult to think of a conversation opener.

You need to find nice simple hooks you can put into your profile that people can use as an icebreaker.

You mention food and wine how about mentioning your favoraties ideally with a joke.

Try to be less "I'm looking for anyone" and more specific

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Ok blow by blow"