FabSwingers.com forum: polite

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lots of reasons why people don't and shouldn't reply.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

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have you seen the FAQ section, it clearly states no reply, no interest

No one is obliged to reply to anyone on here it's not considered rude OP

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By *rive_me_crazyWoman
over a year ago

Calne

I'm more than happy to say "thanks but no thanks" but some guys don't respond well to this. I've currently got one guy who I must have said 40+ times "no" but he's going on and on and on! It's like a game of chicken now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

have you seen the FAQ section, it clearly states no reply, no interest

No one is obliged to reply to anyone on here it's not considered rude OP"

it's Good to Talk ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not interested.

Have way too many messages to reply to all.

Profile was non existant/no info, pics etc.

People can be abusive when given a polite no thanks.

Spirals into the Spanish inquisition as to why you're not interested.

Breaks any subsequent filters the user may want to apply in the future.

They try again a few weeks later forgetting they've messaged you before and you politely said no.

Probably lots more to add to the list but hope this helps. An inbox full of no thanks messages doesn't really appeal does it?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Not interested.

Have way too many messages to reply to all.

Profile was non existant/no info, pics etc.

People can be abusive when given a polite no thanks.

Spirals into the Spanish inquisition as to why you're not interested.

Breaks any subsequent filters the user may want to apply in the future.

They try again a few weeks later forgetting they've messaged you before and you politely said no.

Probably lots more to add to the list but hope this helps. An inbox full of no thanks messages doesn't really appeal does it?"
oh and they can bypass filters

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By *he Secret Tea PartyCouple
over a year ago

London

OP do a forum search for this topic, it's been whined about loads of times before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

What if you got 50 plus messages a day like some women, would you reply to all of those? Then you get more because you're online, then of those you replied no thanks to then reply further wanting to know why etc etc. Delete all your sent mail as soon as you've sent it then you won't know what the recipient has done with it, you'll either get a reply or you won't.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"OP do a forum search for this topic, it's been whined about loads of times before

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fed up with seeing it to be honest, why don't people just read the FAQ section?!

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By *he Secret Tea PartyCouple
over a year ago

London

"OP do a forum search for this topic, it's been whined about loads of times before

fed up with seeing it to be honest, why don't people just read the FAQ section?!"

It's not got pictures

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"OP do a forum search for this topic, it's been whined about loads of times before

fed up with seeing it to be honest, why don't people just read the FAQ section?!

It's not got pictures

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duh... forgot that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As above.

Until recently i replied to pretty much all messages but so many people dont read my profile before messaging or repeatedly send messages of the same nature despite me having declined previously. I have actually had to start blocking people which i didnt want to do.

However if i get a polite and courteous message then i would reply OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

Because they're rude...

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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because what's the point?

not replying is rejecting you the same as saying no thanks is. it's the same thing.

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By *otchillicoupleCouple
over a year ago

all over

"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

We reply to 99% of messages even if if it is a thanks for the message but you're not for us,and receive many thanks for the reply, manners cost nothing.

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

The frequently asked questions section covers that point pretty well.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

The frequently asked questions section covers that point pretty well."
like someone said earlier it doesn't have pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry about anything else except the replies! I can't speak for everyone, but personally it's impossible to reply to everyone.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Don't worry about anything else except the replies! I can't speak for everyone, but personally it's impossible to reply to everyone. "
it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So do I.

My parents brought me up with the social grace's that manners cost nothing.

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By *astmidlandscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Not interested.

Have way too many messages to reply to all.

Profile was non existant/no info, pics etc.

People can be abusive when given a polite no thanks.

Spirals into the Spanish inquisition as to why you're not interested.

Breaks any subsequent filters the user may want to apply in the future.

They try again a few weeks later forgetting they've messaged you before and you politely said no.

Probably lots more to add to the list but hope this helps. An inbox full of no thanks messages doesn't really appeal does it?"

All of this. You don't reply and it's complained about in the forums, or you do reply politely saying no and you get abuse or the third degree. Can't win!

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'm more than happy to say "thanks but no thanks" but some guys don't respond well to this. I've currently got one guy who I must have said 40+ times "no" but he's going on and on and on! It's like a game of chicken now!

Block him honey.

The block button is my friend....

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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google elliot rodgers, he's that young man who went on a killing spree coz women he fancied didn't acknowledge him.

maybe we should reply.

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

Can't answer everyone as far too many messages, especially from idiots who don't bother to read profiles and can't even form a decent sentence.

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"Can't answer everyone as far too many messages, especially from idiots who don't bother to read profiles and can't even form a decent sentence."

And let's be honest, there are LOTS of them on here don't you think?

We get loads of them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So do I.

My parents brought me up with the social grace's that manners cost nothing. "

*graces

I prefer good manners, but I also prefer doing all the other things that my life comprises of! I'm sure your parents would understand.

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By *art123Man
over a year ago

Stoke

Even if you're a decent person on here (male) the chances are you'll get ignored/deleted purely because their are so many single guys one here..

It's hard not to get annoyed but it's a fact.. we're considered 'disposable' on here and the forums won't give single guys any sympathy

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By *astmidlandscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We'd happily reply to everyone, but the moment your finger is poised to send a polite no-thankyou message, it really is a 50/50 chance you're going to get abuse back. Either we take the abuse from the idiot 50% for the sake of the nice 50%, or we leave it as "no reply means no thank you". We go for the latter, as the abuse becomes tiresome; so much so that we had to take a few months away. Shame, as there are some lovely people. If only everyone could just be nice to each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

Because women get too many to reply to all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

Because women get too many to reply to all. "

stop fibbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

Because women get too many to reply to all.

stop fibbing

Haha he asked

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

Because women get too many to reply to all.

stop fibbing

i should screenshot my messages page and send you in private pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i delete for the fun of it send me a message i will just delete

delete baby

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"OP do a forum search for this topic, it's been whined about loads of times before

fed up with seeing it to be honest, why don't people just read the FAQ section?!"

Fab could set the forum up in a way that the first time you look at the forum you have to read the faq.

They could could also create a saub section of the forum called frequently asked questions. Anytime a new questions keeps on getting repeated it gets added to the FAQ forum.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

Would a reply of no thank you make you feel better?

No reply = no thank you.

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

Because they're not interested in you. What mostly puts people off are profiles with no effort. We gave you profile advice 3 weeks ago to help your chances on here. Though it's your prerogative to take it on board or not, I see nothing has changed...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP do a forum search for this topic, it's been whined about loads of times before

It is Monday so Fab's servers get wiped at Midnight Sunday

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By *icoleAndLisaTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

If you don't reply, then that's usually an end to it. "No thanks" invites a "Why not?" Or worse still, abuse.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Its impossible to answer everyone ...id need my own PA

I do have a life other than fab ....if im not on for a few days messages accumulate ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

Because when I send no thanks for whatever reason, the person messaging very often argues with me. Saying they will come to me, ect. They can't take no for an answer x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you don't reply, then that's usually an end to it. "No thanks" invites a "Why not?" Or worse still, abuse."

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

Because when I send no thanks for whatever reason, the person messaging very often argues with me. Saying they will come to me, ect. They can't take no for an answer x"

Yes your right, had that too.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

Because when I send no thanks for whatever reason, the person messaging very often argues with me. Saying they will come to me, ect. They can't take no for an answer x

Yes your right, had that too.

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me too

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I said "no thanks, good luck though" to someone last night. His reply was "fatty"

made me chuckle. But reminded me why deleting is better!

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We consider ourselves polite and will generally reply but at the same time won't if the messager is not in our categories or it's a crap message e.g. 'How's yous', 'your missus looks well fit can I / me and my mates come round and bang her'.

If people cant be arsed to read a profile, or send a decent message, we cant be arsed to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We consider ourselves polite but.....

A lot of the time a reply 'even to say No thanks' seems to be interpreted as yes reply a million more times to ask stupid questions.

No win situation!

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By *lwaysdiscreetMan
over a year ago

Ashford Kent and Dartford

Here here mate the amount of messages i sent out and never here back from is well.

Unbelievable is a gentle word on here to how i really feel.

People say you have to stand out and be different.

So you be different and stand out and then you get told a simple hello would of done.

How a guy to know what the other person likes in one message.

Give us a break.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here here mate the amount of messages i sent out and never here back from is well.

Unbelievable is a gentle word on here to how i really feel.

People say you have to stand out and be different.

So you be different and stand out and then you get told a simple hello would of done.

How a guy to know what the other person likes in one message.

Give us a break.

Most women don't reply to profiles with cock avatars, its probably the main turn off for most women hun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

Because when I send no thanks for whatever reason, the person messaging very often argues with me. Saying they will come to me, ect. They can't take no for an answer x"

You'd think some would be grateful for getting any attention at all

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By *astmidlandscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Most women don't reply to profiles with cock avatars, its probably the main turn off for most women hun."

This.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Not interested.

Have way too many messages to reply to all.

Profile was non existant/no info, pics etc.

People can be abusive when given a polite no thanks.

Spirals into the Spanish inquisition as to why you're not interested.

Breaks any subsequent filters the user may want to apply in the future.

They try again a few weeks later forgetting they've messaged you before and you politely said no.

Probably lots more to add to the list but hope this helps. An inbox full of no thanks messages doesn't really appeal does it?"

This this and this lol

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By *ssex_VixenWoman
over a year ago

Maldon

As above, I get inundated with messages from guys who have clearly not read my profile, instant delete. I'm not going into the how's an whys of why I'm not interested, wastes my time. Messages that are crude or in no way polite, instant delete. Many woman in here will receive a lot of messages, an don't want to be typing "no thanks" 30 times a day, we girls have better things to be doing ??

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

We will always reply to messages from people who have read our profile in full to make sure that we have mutual interests and that we want contact from their group type.

Otherwise we treat that person the same way they have treated us.

Not reading and respecting profiles is quite simply rude, but an awful lot of that seems to go on here from both single guys AND couples.

A simple message saying hi is fine, but when people are contacting us looking for something that we clearly say is not on offer, then that shows a lack of respect being honest.

What we would say to anyone who says they don't get replies, it can well be something to do with the above.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I always reply. The recipient might not like what I say but that's karma. What was sent out, they receive back.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"We will always reply to messages from people who have read our profile in full to make sure that we have mutual interests and that we want contact from their group type.

Otherwise we treat that person the same way they have treated us.

Not reading and respecting profiles is quite simply rude, but an awful lot of that seems to go on here from both single guys AND couples.

A simple message saying hi is fine, but when people are contacting us looking for something that we clearly say is not on offer, then that shows a lack of respect being honest.

What we would say to anyone who says they don't get replies, it can well be something to do with the above."
exactly this

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan

"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

It seems you and polite aren't friends!

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

"why can't people who gets post return post .. I always return a message even if it's a no thank you ...

It seems you and polite aren't friends!"

Certainly with those other 2 threads, one of which has been deleted.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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2nd time this week a 'nice, polite' man has been outed as neither nice or polite.

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By *unlovingx2Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

We try and return most messages but real life etc gets in the way and a lack of time. We get lots of messages due to what were looking for but you simply can't answer loads of messages when you have work kids shopping or are just plainly tired. And you can for us only be interested in one person at a time. Trying to explain yourself again and again does get tiresome even if it's a nice message profile that's contacted you. So for us a no reply does not mean were not interested it just means not just now.

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By *imonP23Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

There have been a few occasions where I honestly can't remember whether or not I've tried to contact a particular person before, so I rely on the warning message that tells me that I've messaged her and got no reply. When I see that, I never try again, so it saves wasting time. I suppose a "no thanks" reply would stop that from working (though I've never actually received one).

I'm more annoyed by the ones who don't read or delete my messages. If she's still logging on regularly, yet my lovingly-crafted personalised message is just sitting there unread for weeks... AARGH!

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