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By *aked butler OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Hi all, I am a shy guy and usually just ask how ladies are and don't really get anywhere... What would your advice be for starting the conversation of people you are interested in. Hope I get some fab advice lolo

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The best way to start any conversation is to ask an open ended question. If you ask how someone is they only need to say "fine" and that's the conversation over.

Its no guarantee of a reply but if you introduce yourself, say what interests you about the people you're talking to and ask a question that needs more than a one word answer.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Well you've got a decent profile blurb OP that obviously shows you have a sense of humour and a good idea of what you are looking for and can offer - why not apply some of that to your messages? Pick out things about the person you are contacting's profile and use those as points to expand on.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Most people would delete a 'how are you' message. Use the skills in your profile in your messages.

Most importantly get meet verified - club or social, that is also a big red flag.

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By *aked butler OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Thank you all, yes may get down to chams for a daytime visit over the holidays!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you all, yes may get down to chams for a daytime visit over the holidays! "

Oh and read the profile of who you're messaging. A lot of people will give you some basic don'ts which can give you an inkling of what they want.

If it's a couple, I'd be sure to address both of them, unless it states the guys a cuck. Most couples wish to be spoken to as such, unless the guy gets off on being ignored (apparently this isn't as uncommon as you'd think).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dam i must be starting the wrong way too then as my messages get deleted lol

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By *lectromagnetic_candyWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

A "how are you" message rarely gets a reply from me. Because after I've replied, it's usually followed by "what you up to?".

When I send a first message I base it on something on the profile, status message or something in a photo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A "how are you" message rarely gets a reply from me. Because after I've replied, it's usually followed by "what you up to?".

When I send a first message I base it on something on the profile, status message or something in a photo. "

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


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Most importantly get meet verified - club or social, that is also a big red flag."

You say your partner is on here. Why doesn't she verify you?

Sally

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"

Most importantly get meet verified - club or social, that is also a big red flag.

You say your partner is on here. Why doesn't she verify you?

Sally"

Didn't notice that. 3 years, no veris, but saying having a swing partner - will struggle.

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By *aked butler OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"

Most importantly get meet verified - club or social, that is also a big red flag.

You say your partner is on here. Why doesn't she verify you?

Sally"

Isn't that cheating the system?

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

How is it cheating for someone you have genuinely met to verify you?

Sally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm gettin exhausted posting original greeting messages just for no reply or acknowledgment. Even a no thanks is better than nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask a question about their profile...which clubs they like and why for example...

Never ask how they are !

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You have an interesting profile text. Some people won't bother replying to even the best well constructed message if the profile text and pics are not good.

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By *aked butler OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"How is it cheating for someone you have genuinely met to verify you?

Sally"

Yes good point

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

For me personally, one dick pic is plenty in one profile. I think your rock climbing pic is awesome. Your profile is well written. If your partner uses the same Internet connection an you, she won't be able to verify you. Tootle off to a club or social.

You have been given some great advise about messages already. Hope things pick up for you.

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