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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, if someone messages that you know do you all tell them or ignore them?

I have let people know in messages before but just unsure this time as wouldn't like it to get out about the site to others x

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"Hi, if someone messages that you know do you all tell them or ignore them?

I have let people know in messages before but just unsure this time as wouldn't like it to get out about the site to others x"
Block and delete

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

I had an ex male teacher at the school I once worked in message me with a long VERY kinky message telling me about when he was picked up by 2 guys and... well, it was VERY kinky.

I knew he'd be mortified if he realised it was me so I blocked and deleted. No drama required.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Someone I've known for over 20 years messaged me a while back. I replied saying we know each other in the real world and I would not play with him.

I did fuck him once way back when I was about 19-20, he was a crap shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has just happened to us with in the hour ... Working out how to deal with it now any feedback would be great lol

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By *ougar_n_TILFCouple
over a year ago

Burton on Trent


"It has just happened to us with in the hour ... Working out how to deal with it now any feedback would be great lol "

Shitting yourselves and going UNLOS seems to be popular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Play dumb, ignore and block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was messaged by someone I went to school with he doesn't know its me despite me giving clues as to where I know him from but it may have been weird meeting him lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Panicked and hid profile pics like dumb fookers lol bit pointless ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Play dumb, ignore and block "

Damn! Just found a couple I've been admiring at a fairly regular vanilla gathering on fab. I've had fairly good banter with them and been subtly admiring the lady's incredible ass. This doesn't bode well for my chances... And we almost certainly will be attending a fab social together soon too... How do I play this now?

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Panicked and hid profile pics like dumb fookers lol bit pointless ffs "

I did the same when I spotted my twin sister and get husband on the forums. It was a bit pointless really because we bumped into each other at a club a couple of months later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone I've known for over 20 years messaged me a while back. I replied saying we know each other in the real world and I would not play with him.

I did fuck him once way back when I was about 19-20, he was a crap shag "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen other parents of my children's school here. Also people from my hometown.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lady contacted me saying I know who you are I can tell by your one pic and your tattoos and location.

At first I panicked and was going to block her but she then sent a message saying don't worry I won't tell your mom and dad.We did exchange a few messages after that and I recognised her as she works in the florist by mom parents shop and I think she lives by my parents house aswell so she knows them to talk too but she's married and her husband doesn't know she's on here.So she has a lot more to lose than me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Panicked and hid profile pics like dumb fookers lol bit pointless ffs "

Exactly this happened yesterday but I am not at the receiving end. A nice women approached me yesterday and we exchanged few message and then she asked for my pic and responding to that she gave her pic. Since I am a idiot I messaged her back saying I knew her when I actually don't know anything about her. She panicked and blocked me straightaway. I really feel sorry for what I done, I did try to update my status saying it was a joke and tried to apologise to her, but not sure whether she looked that.

So don't panic if someone say they recognise you, there some plank like me here in Fab do say I know you when they don't actually, so ask questions back how they know and who they are before to either block them or meet them.

I still feel bad about what I did to that lady, if anyone around here like to help me by contacting her to explain this, plz msg me privately. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Panicked and hid profile pics like dumb fookers lol bit pointless ffs

Exactly this happened yesterday but I am not at the receiving end. A nice women approached me yesterday and we exchanged few message and then she asked for my pic and responding to that she gave her pic. Since I am a idiot I messaged her back saying I knew her when I actually don't know anything about her. She panicked and blocked me straightaway. I really feel sorry for what I done, I did try to update my status saying it was a joke and tried to apologise to her, but not sure whether she looked that.

So don't panic if someone say they recognise you, there some plank like me here in Fab do say I know you when they don't actually, so ask questions back how they know and who they are before to either block them or meet them.

I still feel bad about what I did to that lady, if anyone around here like to help me by contacting her to explain this, plz msg me privately. Thanks"

You deserved to be blocked for that. Makes no sense why any decent person would treat someone like that. Respecting someone and their right to privacy is paramount on here. No sympathy for you whatsoever. P.s when someone blocks You, they or both of you can no longer see each others status's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Panicked and hid profile pics like dumb fookers lol bit pointless ffs

Exactly this happened yesterday but I am not at the receiving end. A nice women approached me yesterday and we exchanged few message and then she asked for my pic and responding to that she gave her pic. Since I am a idiot I messaged her back saying I knew her when I actually don't know anything about her. She panicked and blocked me straightaway. I really feel sorry for what I done, I did try to update my status saying it was a joke and tried to apologise to her, but not sure whether she looked that.

So don't panic if someone say they recognise you, there some plank like me here in Fab do say I know you when they don't actually, so ask questions back how they know and who they are before to either block them or meet them.

I still feel bad about what I did to that lady, if anyone around here like to help me by contacting her to explain this, plz msg me privately. Thanks

You deserved to be blocked for that. Makes no sense why any decent person would treat someone like that. Respecting someone and their right to privacy is paramount on here. No sympathy for you whatsoever. P.s when someone blocks You, they or both of you can no longer see each others status's. "

I really don't care whether she un blocks me or not. That is not the point, I just what her to stop worrying about, that there is someone here knew her in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reply and tell them their name then block. They will then be wracking their brains trying to work out who you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will do what everyone else inside I will block them and delete them and have no contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reply and tell them their name then block. They will then be wracking their brains trying to work out who you are."

Lol... Ain't you a meanie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a very polite message with a face pic attached from a guy I used to work with! I kinda felt bad that I didnt reply to him, but as I have a professional job, I didnt want to risk word getting out about my lifestyle, so I simply blocked him and deleted the message, end of story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd take a message from anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, if someone messages that you know do you all tell them or ignore them?

I have let people know in messages before but just unsure this time as wouldn't like it to get out about the site to others x"

Just use your common sense x

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By *asino4Man
over a year ago

galway

1st reaction would be "oh poo panic panic". Then 2nd reaction: "Don't Panic Mr Mannering!" (i remember this from watching "dads army" , not sure thats a good thing or bad ), sure they are here for the same as me so no harm no fowl. Never no might be someone ya fancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him you know him. See his reaction. He might block you, might be intrigued, test the water with some clues to your identity.

You don't want him to be embarrassed so maybe you should send him a message that's even more kinky than his to put him at ease!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for all your replies. I figured we are both on here so nothing to hide from each other. So messaged him saying I knew him but I wouldn't mention to anyone we knew. I panicked a little thinking had I done the right thing and my luck was in. We are meeting on Friday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr contacted a couple on FAB and the chap said think I know you, we used to go to school together still chat and see each other at Chams occasionally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, if someone messages that you know do you all tell them or ignore them?

I have let people know in messages before but just unsure this time as wouldn't like it to get out about the site to others x"

I messaged someone who I thought was a girl I used to see.. still kind of like. Turns out its not a great idea to do.. as I was very wrong apparently. but got a message from said real person next day.. to promise never to tell anyone what she's like in bed.. out of the blue.. a few months after we'd stopped talking.

I don't think messaging was a good idea.. I meant no harm, I was only being friendly, it was a one off message.. but even still.. stop.. think about what you're doing.. and ask yourself why you need to bring it up.. chances are you don't and they don't want you too either.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

One message from a couple I instantly recognised, they had no idea it was me. Instant block.

Another, after a few chats, then a friend request, realised we knew each other. Let's say that turned out rather well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friend's little brother messaged me on here, a little while ago. That was awkward haha. He told me he'd always had a secret crush on me and would love to meet me. I basically explained that it was a really bad idea and not to mention it again. He's a good lad. He hasn't mentioned it since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My friend's little brother messaged me on here, a little while ago. That was awkward haha. He told me he'd always had a secret crush on me and would love to meet me. I basically explained that it was a really bad idea and not to mention it again. He's a good lad. He hasn't mentioned it since "

you do realise that he'd probably drop everything in his life for one peck on the cheek from you.. for the rest of his life.. you've got a spell cast on that boy. With great power comes...

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By *dge of HeavenMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

Recognised a work colleague, met her and fantastic sex and never mentioned it again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Recognised a work colleague, met her and fantastic sex and never mentioned it again!"

NEVER MENTIONED it again.. after fantastic sex? I'm afraid after fantastic sex I couldn't leave it at that Not unless it's obvious it was just a one off.

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