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By *aughtyAndNifty OP   Couple
over a year ago

Reading

Hi, we are a new couple to all of this and have visited a club a few times, discovering that we enjoy playing together in public but haven't yet swapped.

I (female) am a larger lady and have a huge fear of rejection that comes from lack of body confidence that I think does not help with either chatting to or playing with other peeps. Not sure what the question is here but it is bothering me! Anyone got any experiences or tips to share?

Secondly how do you know what's ok? Been in a couple of situations with others playing in close proximity and I've wanted to join in - mostly with the ladies really but occasionally men too - but how do you know if they are accepting of that, and how do you do it?! I'd hate to upset anyone or act inappropriately.

Sure I'll have many more newbie questions!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey I think everyone feels the same with body confidence and rejection the best thing to do is be open and honest with people and if your not there type then its there Los and you find there a lot of people out there who love your body . If you are playing and someone trys get involved and you not comfortable agin tell them x

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By *laymates7Woman
over a year ago

Isle of Wight

I really believe that in showing your body in public pictures the people who contact you already have an interest in your lovely curves so if you decide to go ahead with a meet you should have no fear of rejection. Your pics look great so embrace your new 'hobby' and enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shdn your interested just ask if you can touch or play alot of people well tell you don't be afraid.. but if its a no then be respectful and im sure your find someone eles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My self consciousness, lack of confidence and shyness put me off meeting for so long. Then i just bit the bullet and met someone on Fri. I'm so glad i did, it was amazing and he made me feel so comfortable in my body. He's really boosted my confidence and said he loved my curves.

It's hard but take the plunge, people who want to meet you won't care about your body hang ups, you'll be too busy having fun!

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By *bwdonnahubCouple
over a year ago

walsall

listen people are fat thin saggy tits bigg fanny flaps small cocks massive cocks.

It doesnt matter we are all hear for fun if they dont like tell them to sod off.

Im a big guy and my wife is 20 im a 44 waste there are thin women who love a big man with a hair chest we go to swingers clubs so we know that there are people of all shapes color and sizes the smallest was 4inch my wife has had when hard and she said that he made her cum just as well as me and i was shocked its not about the size its who you want to have fun with.

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By *DREACouple
over a year ago

Luton

Not all mens are dogs who like bones. We both have preference for curvy partners and we already know that we are not only ones who like curves. Just our preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, we are a new couple to all of this and have visited a club a few times, discovering that we enjoy playing together in public but haven't yet swapped.

I (female) am a larger lady and have a huge fear of rejection that comes from lack of body confidence that I think does not help with either chatting to or playing with other peeps. Not sure what the question is here but it is bothering me! Anyone got any experiences or tips to share?

Secondly how do you know what's ok? Been in a couple of situations with others playing in close proximity and I've wanted to join in - mostly with the ladies really but occasionally men too - but how do you know if they are accepting of that, and how do you do it?! I'd hate to upset anyone or act inappropriately.

Sure I'll have many more newbie questions!"

J (mrs) was the same when we first started, but believe me you look good so don't worry you'll have no problems and if you want to play just ask as with everything you will either get a yes or no, just enjoy yourself and we would play with you.

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By *ittyskitchenWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

I was really nervous of my size when I first went to clubs but it's done wonders for my confidence!

You see all shapes and sizes - all having fun!

I think if you chat to people you get a feel if they're interested. When it comes to playing in a group just ask! Sometimes people might say no if they're just enjoying their own company. I'd never take it personally. We all make choices who we wish to play with.

You look lovely so

Put your favourite lingerie on and get out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think one of the things we have learned is that you always have worries about how you look ?

Like most have said it's not all about looks but about a click ? This being someone who you feel comfy with and know that when your ready for fun they will like who you are and the body your in !! If they didn't like you as you are they wouldn't go further than your pictures ?? Just enjoy others and let them enjoy you

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