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Trying not be pushy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey guys and girls i need help when is being to pushy? I mean last night I went on a social with a sexy curvy older woman and we got on so well and kissed alot when she was dropping me home I never wanted stop kissing her and of course asked her to come in but she wanted drive home I said that was cool then went in kiss her agin .. she left and I got a message saying she wasn't ready for all this and i was bit forward what your lot think

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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you missed social cues. saying she wasn't interested in more but you leaning in for another kiss after she said that could be seen as pushy yes.

basically you were non-threatening up to the point of inviting her in for sex, at this point a new idea was introduced to your evening, so after this point anything you do can be taken as pushing for sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah true i just had it before when you never meet someone agin and its frustrating its such a fine line

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

You should of left it when she said she wanted to drive home

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes I know just had such a good night and connection really liked her

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Yes I know just had such a good night and connection really liked her"
put it down to experience

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

A social is a social and it seems you overstepped the line. You'll probably not hear from her again now honey.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah still chatting but yes she said no to meet agin .. I know its experience but really hope i can see her agin prove i can learn and respect her x

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Yes I know just had such a good night and connection really liked her

put it down to experience"

this

and for many women they have a social because they don't want to feel pushed into sex or need to feel safe. i know many just enjoy the social side as well but focus on how she wants to feel safe is a good reason too.

if you meet for socials you need to accept that there is not a likelihood of you having anything sexual. get that into your head before you even go to your next one.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Problem with socials is that 'some' men and guys I said 'some' get it into their heads that they want it to end sexually when they should just accept it's a social to see if there is a connection/spark. Men who cross the line do cause problems but I suppose we all learn from mistakes.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Yeah still chatting but yes she said no to meet agin .. I know its experience but really hope i can see her agin prove i can learn and respect her x"

If she's not interested why bother. It sounds a bit full on from one meet and probably why she's not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally if we'd already been kissing and I said no to coming in I wouldn't find another kiss pushy . If only find it pushy if you tried for more

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By *raceytvcdTV/TS
over a year ago

mansfield

Some people dont know what they want anyway so move on x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Yeah still chatting but yes she said no to meet agin .. I know its experience but really hope i can see her agin prove i can learn and respect her x"
shes already said no yet you still want to get her to try and meet. Thats not learning.

Putting it to bed and not making the same mistake with someone else is learning

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yeah still chatting but yes she said no to meet agin .. I know its experience but really hope i can see her agin prove i can learn and respect her x"

This is pushy.

If a woman says she doesn't want to see you again starting a thread saying you want to see her again is beyond pushy.

In general once a woman says "no" by word or deed any contact other than polite civility is pushy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah just im the type of guy who is passionate and loving and respectful so knowing I upset someone bothers me I don't meet just anyone and yeah would like see her agin but its a shame.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yeah just im the type of guy who is passionate and loving and respectful so knowing I upset someone bothers me I don't meet just anyone and yeah would like see her agin but its a shame. "

Yet you continue with behaviour that you know was upsetting.

Respectful is accepting that when someone says they don't want to meet you again, they mean it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know we still chatting as we do like each other even if i never meet her agin I hope iv made a new friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah still chatting but yes she said no to meet agin .. I know its experience but really hope i can see her agin prove i can learn and respect her x"

So, you want to " prove you can learn and respect her?" That line in itself says it all. The fact that you are 28, and need second chances is a worry tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In fairness if they are still chatting then that means she's replying . If she was bothered surely she'd stop replying

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Yeah still chatting but yes she said no to meet agin .. I know its experience but really hope i can see her agin prove i can learn and respect her x

So, you want to " prove you can learn and respect her?" That line in itself says it all. The fact that you are 28, and need second chances is a worry tbh"
i think we can all learn by our mistakes at any age.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah im respectful and I don't like people thinking im something im not yes i was to horny last night as I liked her but I would love show her I listened x

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Yeah still chatting but yes she said no to meet agin .. I know its experience but really hope i can see her agin prove i can learn and respect her x

So, you want to " prove you can learn and respect her?" That line in itself says it all. The fact that you are 28, and need second chances is a worry tbhi think we can all learn by our mistakes at any age. "

This is so right we can all learn from our mistakes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I definitely have x just a shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it odd that you've made a thread about your private business with another member on here.

Seems you messed up and have created this thread as a desperate attempt to gain their attention.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I find it odd that you've made a thread about your private business with another member on here.

Seems you messed up and have created this thread as a desperate attempt to gain their attention. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely crossed a line mate

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