FabSwingers.com forum: Fabs and disability

By *aterboatman OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere in Hampshire

Should I mention in my profile my disability I've had from birth. What are fabbers thoughts on disability and fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is down to you whether you do or not. Personally I think that if you and someone have been chatting and struck up a rapport any disability you have should not matter as it does not define the person that you are. Just my opinion. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It surely depends on the disability. If you're short sighted I'd not bother, but if you're impotent then I'd say that's worth a mention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

- Mrs. J -

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i think you should briefly mention how it affects you in comparison with someone able bodied. if it affects you at all.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Should I mention in my profile my disability I've had from birth. What are fabbers thoughts on disability and fab?"

I feel it should be mentioned, personally.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

It depends on the disability.

If it's really obvious and you haven't mentioned it, I wouldn't be happy. It's the lack of honesty that would bother me not the disability.

Nita

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

For example, I wear hearing aids but tend not to mention it as they're invisible and don't have any impact on play.

If I was missing a limb, I would mention if on my profile.

Nita

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By *aterboatman OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere in Hampshire

Thank you for your honest opinion x

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By *aterboatman OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere in Hampshire

I've never hidden the fact as I always mention it at the beginning of any conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say no do not it could count against you in the end on here i think?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Depends if its a noticable disability. It wouldnt put me of but i wouldnt want it to be the elephant in the room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've no problem with any disability. But I would mention it before a meet even if you don't want it on here publicly.

Good luck mate.

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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

Having a disability is nothing to be ashamed about and it's down to how comfortable you are with the person you are meeting before you tell them personal info so only share if your comfortable!

It's their problem not yours if they have an issue with it

Personally it wouldn't bother us

So good luck

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

I think if you feel it needs to be mentioned, or if it's something mega obvious like missing a limb, then go ahead. If it's something subtle then you don't need to unless it will affect play.

That being said, don't let it define you

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By *aterboatman OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere in Hampshire

Thanks for the honest opinion x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You shouldn't have to disclose it. People should accept you the way you are. If they have an issue with it, then that's them with the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You shouldn't have to disclose it. People should accept you the way you are. If they have an issue with it, then that's them with the problem. "
I think they do on here it a real shame..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You shouldn't have to disclose it. People should accept you the way you are. If they have an issue with it, then that's them with the problem. I think they do on here it a real shame..

This place is full of narrow mindedness. Laughable.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"You shouldn't have to disclose it. People should accept you the way you are. If they have an issue with it, then that's them with the problem. "
its nothing to do with acceptance. If it was a disability that would affect a meet then you have a right to know beforehand. If its something not obvious or likely to affect a meet then there is no need to mention it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You shouldn't have to disclose it. People should accept you the way you are. If they have an issue with it, then that's them with the problem. its nothing to do with acceptance. If it was a disability that would affect a meet then you have a right to know beforehand. If its something not obvious or likely to affect a meet then there is no need to mention it"

Maybe you have a point, but I still feel people will make false preconceptions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said, up to you and depends on what it is.

Depending on what it is, I may not want to meet you. Just means we aren't compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of honesty is most fabbers pet hate so not mentioning your disability might end up backfiring on you if they find out when u meet its not like you can get naked and say by the way you should know I,m......

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

"You shouldn't have to disclose it. People should accept you the way you are. If they have an issue with it, then that's them with the problem. "

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By *aterboatman OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere in Hampshire

Thank you for your honest opinion

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By *aterboatman OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere in Hampshire

Thank you for your honest opinion

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By *aterboatman OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere in Hampshire

Thank you for your honest opinion. I have spina bifida and walk with crutches

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By *aterboatman OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere in Hampshire

Thank you for your honest opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for your honest opinion. I have spina bifida and walk with crutches"

I'm curious- you don't have to answer. But why not put that in your profile? It says 'disabled' but that could mean anything.

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By *andscouple91Couple
over a year ago

Romsey

I think if its not mentioned, you meet and they reject you that will have an effect on your self esteem and confidence. Best to mention it before then that situation is avoided

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for your honest opinion. I have spina bifida and walk with crutches"

If I were you, I'd say I walk with crutches. Or have a photo of you using crutches. *Why* you use them is no one's business and completely irrelevant to having a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You shouldn't have to disclose it. People should accept you the way you are. If they have an issue with it, then that's them with the problem. I think they do on here it a real shame..

This place is full of narrow mindedness. Laughable."

Why is not wanting to meet a disabled person 'laughable' or 'narrow-minded'?

I wouldn't meet a short, fat, old man; is that too 'laughable' or 'narrow-minded'?

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's your choice. If you think it needs mentioning then do it. It will depend on who you talk to as to how they will react.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Unless it affects your sexual performance I wouldn't mention it.

There are some shallow minded people on this site and it's nothing to do with them if it does not affect your sexual performance.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unless it affects your sexual performance I wouldn't mention it.

There are some shallow minded people on this site and it's nothing to do with them if it does not affect your sexual performance.

Good luck OP "

Is not wanting to meet Asians broad-minded?

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting points raised in this thread. If the attraction is there though it wouldn't bother me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All mute points if we don't know the disability! Don't you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All mute points if we don't know the disability! Don't you think? "

He already said it's spina bifida. You are are right in that it can vary on a case by case basis. An it would make it a 'moot point' but that's a completely different discussion.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"You shouldn't have to disclose it. People should accept you the way you are. If they have an issue with it, then that's them with the problem. "

They might have the problem, but people meet or don't meet for all manner of subtle reasons.

I'm 48 and so wouldnt get meets with lots of 25 year olds. I can't say they should just accept me as I am and not disclose my age.

I'm sure the op has lots going for him that others don't, hiding something of significant relevance to a meet isn't right on anyone.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Should I mention in my profile my disability I've had from birth. What are fabbers thoughts on disability and fab?"

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was something like a missing dick then I'd be pretty pissed off if a guy turned up and then told me he didn't have a penis.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

If your intending to meet someone .... personally it would be more honest if you did .... it may or maynot bother them .....

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"If it was something like a missing dick then I'd be pretty pissed off if a guy turned up and then told me he didn't have a penis. "

That I would like to see LOL.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Unless it affects your sexual performance I wouldn't mention it.

There are some shallow minded people on this site and it's nothing to do with them if it does not affect your sexual performance.

Good luck OP

Is not wanting to meet Asians broad-minded?

- Mrs. J -"

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

I'm upfront about mine, always have been. Not as if I can hide it lol. No one can say otherwise either

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