FabSwingers.com forum: Read but not deleted

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello

Just wanted to ask, when I message someone and it gets deleted I know I don't interest that person. But if the message is just read does that mean I should send a follow up message to confirm or could it just be they don't delete their messages.

I don't want to spam people with messages but I also don't want to leave it be if it could mean a possible meet.

What's the best course of action?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are interested, they will reply.

Hassling is not cool.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they are interested, they will reply.

Hassling is not cool."

I know and I don't want to be someone that does that.

Thanks

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

I rarely delete, I just read and ignore If it doesn't interest me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete your message after u send it then you don't know and it won't bother you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Delete your message after u send it then you don't know and it won't bother you

Ah that's a good idea thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

message someone else

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I delete if I'm not interested or leave undeleted if I'm undecided or want to reply but don't have the time there and then. One follow up is fine for me, if I've forgotten to reply I'll at least send something. If you don't hear anything to that one then assume not interested and move on

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

If you haven't had a reply just move on. We never deleate our mail we just let it fall off the page.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would read more into the fact that they havent replied rather than the fact they havent deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always reply, unless they didn't read our profile and we just hit delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanted to read this because I am having the same issue. It's good when the message is deleted because you know not to bother again. If it's not then I do wonder if it's oversight, too busy, undecided or not interested. I really don't want to bother someone not interested, it wastes everyone time and causes unnecessary annoyance.

The consensus seems to be that it may mean something or nothing.

On the behalf of all decent people who don't want to bother uninterested people, please delete, it's a pretty clear message and just block those who ignore that.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Delete your message after u send it then you don't know and it won't bother you

Ditto

She's probably just keeping you as a Plan b, or c, or maybe even d, if others don't work out. If she didn't delete your message, you may have 1 chance in about 200 of a reply. Just don't hold your breath, and don't wait around

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

Sending a follow up message is just annoying and if I was undecided I'd make up my money no to be no. Sometimes I open a message and don't reply or delete because of life reasons...the phone rings, internet drops, phone freezes, kids need me , customers appear etc, etc. I try to remember to reply later. But if it was someone I was really interested in I would remember to do it. As I said if they sent a 'have you seen my previous message' I'd just delete it and not bother. It screams needy!

I find it annoying when I haven't replied to a message because it's stuck in a backlog but the man sends more messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely delete messages. I just let them fall off the page. I chat to hardly anyone on my messages. Only a few. If I haven't replied, yet the message has been opened. It does mean I'm not interested. As I'd reply straight away, if I was. Other replies on here show different reasons for not deleting read messages though Op. So it looks like you may not have your answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they don't respond. I'll assume they're not interested. No point in hassling people.

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By *ougar_n_TILFCouple
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

After you've sent a bunch of messages, delete your sent mail. It will stop you obsessing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can give mixed messages, I've had someone read my message, look at my profile, fab my picture but not reply so I messaged again to say thanks for the fab but still no reply. There's plenty more fish in the sea so I just move on.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Does every message need a reply every time. No. You open a mail, you open another mail.. and on and on. If they would have liked your message they would have replied.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Hello

I don't want to spam people with messages but I also don't want to leave it be if it could mean a possible meet.

What's the best course of action? "

It's a sign that they are gagging for it and have moist panties

I'd not send any other messages and play hard to get

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By *iamond coupleCouple
over a year ago

leeds

We delete mail but always save the last one. Not about not being interested it is more about not having a long long list of mail and we always have the persons last message for reference. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We received a message, "Xx"

We replied with a hi and short question and they replied with, "Yes", and then hid their profile!

There are some bizarre goings on.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I hate follow up messages. If I'm going to reply I will when I get chance to.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

We delete the rude ones or ones we are not interested in meeting ,we may keep some if we are interested depending on distance and we hotlist those that either go to club we use or who can accom , the guys that send cock but no facial pics normally get deleted straight away unless there is plenty length and girth as wife may be tempted lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a situation (a few times) where an email has been read and not replied to. Few months later, another email and it did receive a response. If I see it gets deleted, I know that's a no for sure, but just lately I've taken to the send and delete method.

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By *heekyScouse1980Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Got a strange one last night, a couple winked me and fabbed one of my pics so I sent a thank you message, it was read but not deleted and I've not sent another one, but god knows what that's meant to mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can never win on here as there's always touchy people that can't deal with there not your type and they take it as a massive insult or rejection.

If I didn't like them I would always reply with.Sorry your not for me.

Then I had a thousands and one questions why I thought I was better than them or what makes me dislike them.I got bored of justifying why I wasn't sexually mentally attracted to them.

So I started just deleting the ones I didn't like with and I wouldn't reply.

Then I had them replying with nasty comments like.

F*ck you then.You could of at least said you wasn't interested.

So now if there not for me I won't waste there time or mine with a reply.

I won't delete them as they should get the hint that way that if there was that instant attraction I would of replied x

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By *appychap20000Man
over a year ago

cannock

If folks don't reply then delete and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello

I don't want to spam people with messages but I also don't want to leave it be if it could mean a possible meet.

What's the best course of action? "
pester them until they block you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only problem with deleting after sending is some people do forget who they've messaged and then involuntarily become a nuisance by sending again.

If we get refused or deleted, we block so we don't contact them again by mistake

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By *mber GamblerCouple
over a year ago

rugby

"I would read more into the fact that they havent replied rather than the fact they havent deleted."

Me too. Or if they haven't even read it.

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