FabSwingers.com forum: Lows after highs

By *otchillicouple OP Couple
over a year ago

all over

Hi does anyone else experience intense lows after amazing meets, how do you deal with it

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

Not lows as such....but there is an obvious come-down. I guess the answer is invite them back!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Create a safe space, a memory from the past where you felt safe, happy and peaseful then remember the feeling...

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Hi does anyone else experience intense lows after amazing meets,

Yes

how do you deal with it

I don't, so looking forward to other answers

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

is this a man thing?

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By *otchillicouple OP Couple
over a year ago

all over

No it's me missus that does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get like this, it's hard to manage at times. I'm normally a bit quiet and withdrawn for a few days, in need of plenty of cuddles and messages

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By *llNatural36FWoman
over a year ago

Denbighshire

Strolls along the beach to chill out and feel good until I'm ready for the fun again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. I crash almost instantly, the drop is horrid. I mainly keep myself busy with real life and in a couple of days I'm back to having a stupid, smug grin on my face recalling the fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends - sometimes im on a high for days then it hits me - more often its like all the anticipation and then its over and im like - whoah -

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"Absolutely. I crash almost instantly, the drop is horrid. I mainly keep myself busy with real life and in a couple of days I'm back to having a stupid, smug grin on my face recalling the fun. "

Yup I'm with you HH

I'm not ALWAYS that's bad but can be....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I wouldnt describe it as highs and lows. I am excited when i meet someone but I am also realistic that they might not want to meet me again even if they say they do. I get excited when I have started seeing someone regularly after say 2 or 3 times .. when I want to dress sexy for them, when I plan on what I want to do to them etc. But it if stops after several meets, im disappointed but I just move on, no point being down about it.

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By *ea_CoffeeCouple
over a year ago

Near Kettering

I could be wrong but this sounds remarkably similar to what kinksters would call "sub drop" and despite it's name it can affect both the dominant and the submissive part of the couple.

Maybe there is a swinging term for it but it would this is what is happening to you.

OP I suggest you google it and have a read. Understanding it could help you prepare and handle the lows a little better.

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By *otchillicouple OP Couple
over a year ago

all over

Yep that's it!

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

"Hi does anyone else experience intense lows after amazing meets, how do you deal with it"

Yes, it feels like an addiction at times...all consuming one minute then emptiness the next...i generally keep going for more highs, more kink...and when the low hits it really hits...but for me it's worth the trade off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. It's only sex, enjoyable and great fun it may be at the time but once it's over then that's it for me. No highs no lows....that's an addiction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's medically known as an adrenalin drop..days or hours of excitement and nervousness create adrenalin then after the event there's the drop which can cause mild depression like feelings. .when your levels of adrenalin stablise you're fine. .

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

"Hi does anyone else experience intense lows after amazing meets, how do you deal with it"

Have an other

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"It's medically known as an adrenalin drop..days or hours of excitement and nervousness create adrenalin then after the event there's the drop which can cause mild depression like feelings. .when your levels of adrenalin stablise you're fine. ."

Hmmm i think that's a partial explanation. I know that the time my body has been filled with adrenaline the most was our wedding day, i didn't experience any kind of negative come down though. I think it depends how satisfying the meet was, in a 2 hour meet then i could probably take a break and go again for another 2 hours. Sometimes me and a special someone book out a hotel from room for a day and it's much easier to come down from when you've literally been fucked to submission.

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By *y PussyWoman
over a year ago

Crickhowell

No for me It's only sex.

Even though it can be thoroughly enjoyable and great fun for the both of us.

I make it clear from the start too, nothing more than sex. if we have fun i don't mind meeting them more regulary too.

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