FabSwingers.com forum: Break from fab

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think I need a break from fab I feel that people do not find me attractive just gem. I feel myself getting pissed off and upset over messages aimed at her not me. I personally feel no one finds me attractive. Do you think feeling this way it's not a good thing to stay on fab at the moment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've answered your own question. This lifestyle can be destructive and ruin you and your relationship. Be careful and put your well being first. Fab will always be around if need it . Give yourself a break and re evaluate what you're actually looking for

Best of luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've answered your own question. This lifestyle can be destructive and ruin you and your relationship. Be careful and put your well being first. Fab will always be around if need it . Give yourself a break and re evaluate what you're actually looking for

Best of luck x"
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Best of luck xtop advice "

I've just answered your identical thread in another bit of the forum.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best of luck x"

Great advice there!

Whatever you decide... I imagine a lot of couple experience this, especially in light of the female to male ratio of people on this site.

Also I'd suggest if you stay, maybe add some photos of yourself (not with you tongue stuck out) so people can see you, as the more recent photos are all of your female partner and I for one in the nicest possibly way wouldn't scroll all the way down your many public pics to look for one that shows your face/ body well.

But a break might not be a bad idea, because being on this site is not worth risking your relationship I'm sure.

Best of luck. xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks I think a break may be a good idea I really do not feel good about myself and I do not want anything to hurt my relationship in any way. I think I need to start feeling good about my self at that point in time I really don't. I am sorry I am sharing this with everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Set most of your pictures to private or friends only, get a few more nice ones of you on there. You are an attractive looking chap but you're pics are lost amongst the ones of your tasty Mrs. There are too many hot pictures of her for the purpose of what you are looking for, and i,m not surprised so much mail is directed at her. You will always get more attention to the female than the man as there aee more men than lady's on here. XXX

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

83 public images of her and just a few of you. Agree with the above .... if it's hurting your feelings... make the public profile just a teasing photo of you both and hide everything else. Single guys are constantly told "this is your shop front" and perhaps what you mean to be selling isn't exactly what's showing there. And the result of that is that you're getting ignored.

We all have wobbles .... and why do anything that makes you unhappy?

V x

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

op. cope yourself on mate.you got over 100 verris .due to large numbers of single guys your female will all ways be center of your profile.most of our mail is about k our female .thats fine by us our male only gets roll play requests directed to him .[nowhere near the same numbers]

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

The bottom line is that the vast majority of messages on here are sent by men, even when the profile is a couples. Hence you are always going to get far more comments about the attractiveness of women than of men. It happens to all us chaps. Don't sweat it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would suggest you have a think about fab, a break is always good and can recharge you, remember this is a hobby, the female of a couple will always get far more attention, but remember it's mainly from single guys who want a f@ck, pure & simple. Most of the attention is just false and it's guys sprouting anything to get what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best of luck x"

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"The bottom line is that the vast majority of messages on here are sent by men, even when the profile is a couples. Hence you are always going to get far more comments about the attractiveness of women than of men. It happens to all us chaps. Don't sweat it

this. I think the OP is misunderstanding the nature of this site and taking it personally.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

this. I think the OP is misunderstanding the nature of this site and taking it personally. "

The other way to look at it is that you are with a hot woman who lots of men want to have sex with. I find that quite the ego boost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I need a break from fab I feel that people do not find me attractive just gem. I feel myself getting pissed off and upset over messages aimed at her not me. I personally feel no one finds me attractive. Do you think feeling this way it's not a good thing to stay on fab at the moment? "

1. It isn't about you or your partner. I haven't seen your pics but I'd hazard a guess she's not that much better looking than you. It's really about supply and demand and how this site is geared. There are simply wayyyyyy more people interested in women on this site than men. So, even when you're an equally good looking couple, the traffic can seem one way.

2. Taking a break isn't going to change that. So what's the real solution?

Stop selling your wife. Take all pics of her off your profile. Take some nice pics of yourself and one or two vanilla pics of her. Stop presenting her as a sex object. I haven't read your profile but you may also want to tame that down. In short... even if you portrayed your wife as having all the sexual attraction of Teresa May on a bad day she'd still have people interested in meeting her. So by taking her out of the limelight and putting yourself in it, by making it look like you're a couple with a sexy guy and a not so sexy wife, you should be able to redress the imbalance.

Fingers crossed that helps

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

As others have said your partner will get all the attention from single guys.

I'd say take a step back for a while if you need to. But more importantly talk to your wife about it.

Last thing, just read what people have said about you BOTH in your veris.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're both relatively good looking i.e we tend to get equal attention and flirtation from people at clubs or out in the vanilla world. On Fab, however, if it's not single guys, it's the male of a couple, or it's a woman looking for some girl on girl action. After a while this imbalance just gets boring. We thought Mr might join an adult dating site as a "single" just to try and balance things lol. But for now we've backed off that idea and are trialing a "if you're not interested in both of us then we're not playing" approach. When you think about it... this is just respectful anyway so we probably should have been doing that all along

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

I am male and 50. My partner is female and 46. When you get to our ages you find that the males opportunities decline, whilst there's no real change to the females. That's the nature of the beast and driven. By (a) the far greater number of swinging men and (b) men being more ready and willing.

There's no point getting upset about something you can't change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm only surprised that anyone takes any notice of you at all OP...

your profile is certainly geared towards your wife and all she has to offer, so why not just remove most of her pics and add some of both of you together (and keep your tongues in your mouth) and then try and make your profile a bit less hypocritical...

you keep ranting about no single men yet you have verification from single men!! confusing.com

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am male and 50. My partner is female and 46. When you get to our ages you find that the males opportunities decline, whilst there's no real change to the females. That's the nature of the beast and driven. By (a) the far greater number of swinging men and (b) men being more ready and willing.

There's no point getting upset about something you can't change. "

But if you're both still good looking, fun, and friendly... you'll be approached as equals at a club or in the vanilla world. So really, when things stop working the same on Fab you either need to change how you use it or just start swinging outside of Fab (argh the heresy!!

... suggesting sexual exploration goes on beyond the confines of this site! Shh keep it under yer hat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's quite simple quality over quantity, on our old account we just met single fems... There's very few picture of me on our account... mostly cock pics but this has never really hampred our efforts... if anything we like to get talking first... if they don't wanna talk we probably didn't want to show them our pics in the first place.. decide what your after, taylor Your profile to suit then be patient...we happily wait months between meets for the right people!! Mentality is everything to us... and if components of flirting seem one way we just bin them off and move On!!! We've also taken breaks before, breaks are healthy

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Men will fuck anything, women won't. Don't take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the advice and the profile is still the same... Gonna stick my head above the water and wait to be shot... I think op is simply after attention.

You've geared your profile around your wife, you meet single men though rant about single men and you have a ton of veris... You obviously don't struggle in getting meets...your profile is a popular one on fab.

So I ask this - what are you here for OP?... And yes, I'm referring to just the king.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Men will fuck anything, women won't. Don't take it personally. "

Many (but not all) men will fuck anything and some women may also fuck anything.

OP, it's sad that you feel this way and probably taking a break is sensible. You have been way too active in the swinging scene. 131 verifications and who knows how many more meets without a veri. The appeal is lost for you, you may feel drained and bored from all this sex with multiple people. You don't feel elevated by the experience but rather that your self esteem has suffered a blow after a blow with every subsequent meet..

Go off it entirely, start a new life,forget what you've done or just deem it as some youthful experience. Enjoy life with your lover. There's so much more that you can do than shugging strangers and letting your lady being shugged by them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems that women are the draw for most couples and men. If people were ignoring my partner they wouldn't get me.

If I did swing with a straight man it would be straight swap only with another couple. If people only wanted me, there would be no point in my partner joining me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best of luck x"

Succinctly put and very good advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it just because most people on here are guys (and as you are straight, pointless for them)? Remember also, you will get messages from couples who are, shall we say "not what they seem to be".

The proportion of your replies may simply reflect the demographics of the site.

It me be worth hiding your profile for a bit....or think about heading to a couple of clubs. That may give your ego a bit of a boost as couples there will be genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it does not but people on here can be mean to others on here at times.. so take care of yourself hopefully you will feel better soon take care from Daz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Men will fuck anything, women won't. Don't take it personally.

Many (but not all) men will fuck anything and some women may also fuck anything.

This may also be true to some extent. My first profile was active for about four years. I had 230+ verified meets (some social, some repeats). You can feel jaded. I left, took a break, spent more time on myself and with a friend (who now unfortunately has moved away). I came back just over a year ago....but decided consciously to slow down and to be more choosy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I noticed that you use I all the time, does your partner feel the same its time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I noticed that you use I all the time, does your partner feel the same its time?"

I noticed this too. You need to talk with your partner although possibly she's seen this. From there you can work out a way forward. Taking a temporary break may be right for you. I called halt to a relationship and swinging earlier this year. I only ever saw Fab and swinging as an extra to the relationship but still became disillusioned. I just lurk in the forums now.

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

" Men will fuck anything, women won't. Don't take it personally. "
this man only fucks if there is a bit of spark .got a rolls royce at home so not gonna fuck a milk float.[no disrepect meant or intended]

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"[no disrepect meant or intended]"

Why do people always say this after saying something disrespectful? It's not a magic spell that stops people from feeling disrespected.

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

"[no disrepect meant or intended]

Why do people always say this after saying something disrespectful? It's not a magic spell that stops people from feeling disrespected."
sorry if a comment upset you .i would not expect you to do any play with any one you did not fancy or did not wont to .just saying our male would not fuck any one .if you do fuck all comers good look to you .

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"[no disrepect meant or intended]

Why do people always say this after saying something disrespectful? It's not a magic spell that stops people from feeling disrespected.sorry if a comment upset you .i would not expect you to do any play with any one you did not fancy or did not wont to .just saying our male would not fuck any one .if you do fuck all comers good look to you ."

A person can state clearly that they are picky without using derogatory terms to describe they people they choose not to meet. But please, feel free to infer that I 'fuck all comers' some more.

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton

Well we've met you both and there is nothing wrong with you I get the same reaction as you ? Remember when it comes down to sex women have the power . John

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