FabSwingers.com forum: Veris

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, after 3 weeks on here, I've still not set up my first meet. Any advice for a site newbie, on how to be taken seriously without that first, illusive veri.

Thanks, J

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"So, after 3 weeks on here, I've still not set up my first meet. Any advice for a site newbie, on how to be taken seriously without that first, illusive veri.

Thanks, J "

Get one!

Be proactive, have fun, to us a meet veri speaks volumes.

Clubs, social and in the infamous phrase of one forumite....,, all at once...p.....,.e

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 weeks isn't a long time. Many people wait longer.

Go to a social and or club. Get verified for being a nice guy who can hold a conversation.

Good luck

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"So, after 3 weeks on here, I've still not set up my first meet. Any advice for a site newbie, on how to be taken seriously without that first, illusive veri.

Thanks, J

Get one!

Be proactive, have fun, to us a meet veri speaks volumes.

Clubs, social and in the infamous phrase of one forumite....,, all at once...p.....,.e"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for the advice, I thought clubs may be the way to go.

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

"Thank you for the advice, I thought clubs may be the way to go. "
it is but they not all that .we have had lots but when they leave site the verrie goes with them .just enjoy your meets [if you get any]

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By *avidandjaneukCouple
over a year ago

Canterbury

Go clubbing x

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Club for a veri.

Ask for profile advice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP

Look up the profile Camberleysocial - they hold pub nights every couple of months and is perfect way to get verified and meet some local peeps.

Or head up to Kestrels one sunny day!

Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I joined fab 4 years ago, most single guys could expect to wait around 6 months to get their first meet. I suspect that has stretched a little by now. You've only been here 3 weeks.

Perhaps you need to ask yourself what your expectations of the site wer - and realign them. This is not Instashag.

Us single men massively outnumber women and couples so competition is huge. You need to make yourself stand out and be pro-active in your approach.

Meets won't find you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I joined fab 4 years ago, most single guys could expect to wait around 6 months to get their first meet. I suspect that has stretched a little by now. You've only been here 3 weeks.

Perhaps you need to ask yourself what your expectations of the site wer - and realign them. This is not Instashag.

Us single men massively outnumber women and couples so competition is huge. You need to make yourself stand out and be pro-active in your approach.

Meets won't find you "

Are there any more assumptions that you'd like to make?

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Are there any more assumptions that you'd like to make? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"3 weeks isn't a long time. Many people wait longer.

Go to a social and or club. Get verified for being a nice guy who can hold a conversation.

Good luck

This.... Exactly this.

This is how we got our first veri's, and I couldn't recommend it more. You'll get a chance to chat to a fair few people, and if someone gets on with you, just ask them if they have and if they mind. You may also be surprised by what they write about you haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are there any more assumptions that you'd like to make? "

What a great attitude!

You'll go a long way - but not here!

Making sarcastic comments against others that are simply trying to provide you with useful or helpful information certainly won't endear you to those who use the forum, and will likely put others off of giving you any helpful advice.

Talk about shoot yourself in the foot.

Perhaps you should try Tinder

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are there any more assumptions that you'd like to make?

What a great attitude!

You'll go a long way - but not here!

Talk about shoot yourself in the foot.

Perhaps you should try Tinder"

"This isn't Instashag" "be more proactive"

I feel my comment was a fair retort to yours. Though, if it did hurt your feelings, I apologise, that was not my intention.

But, your advice was ill suited, because you assumed I was putting in little effort and expecting instant gratification, which is not the case.

If wanting to correct someone's incorrect assumptions of me, damages my chances here, so be it. I'd rather be true to myself and not fake it to make it.

All the best though, mate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for your advice, I agree that a club may be the best course of action.

Kestrels is close by, you may well see me there soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are there any more assumptions that you'd like to make?

What a great attitude!

You'll go a long way - but not here!

Talk about shoot yourself in the foot.

Perhaps you should try Tinder

"This isn't Instashag" "be more proactive"

I feel my comment was a fair retort to yours. Though, if it did hurt your feelings, I apologise, that was not my intention.

But, your advice was ill suited, because you assumed I was putting in little effort and expecting instant gratification, which is not the case.

If wanting to correct someone's incorrect assumptions of me, damages my chances here, so be it. I'd rather be true to myself and not fake it to make it.

All the best though, mate.

Actually, I made no assumptions. You assume too much.

If you read my original post again you will note that I suggested that you ask yourself what your expectations of the site were. That is not making any assumptions.

If you also note, I indicated that 3 weeks is no time at all in respect of managing to secure ones first meet and so the very fact that you have opened this thread seemingly frustrated at failing to secure a meet in such a short period would suggest that your expectations are perhaps a little misaligned. I have made no assumptions. I have merely commented on the information you have yourself provided.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Are there any more assumptions that you'd like to make?

What a great attitude!

You'll go a long way - but not here!

Talk about shoot yourself in the foot.

Perhaps you should try Tinder

"This isn't Instashag" "be more proactive"

I feel my comment was a fair retort to yours. Though, if it did hurt your feelings, I apologise, that was not my intention.

But, your advice was ill suited, because you assumed I was putting in little effort and expecting instant gratification, which is not the case.

If wanting to correct someone's incorrect assumptions of me, damages my chances here, so be it. I'd rather be true to myself and not fake it to make it.

All the best though, mate.

As someone who doesn't care either way what you do, your comment comes across as unnecessary to someone who had taken time giving quite a lot of good advice. You've took it to be negative and shot from the hip.

In my opinion your post paints you in a bad light.

But, you know best. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

clubs probably are the best way for you to go, but if you actually want to meet people via here, it's worth bearing in mind women will usually, if not always, check a profile before even looking at a message...

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

Who is the girl you're hanging out of in your pictures? Would she verify you perhaps..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Who is the girl you're hanging out of in your pictures? Would she verify you perhaps.."

Lol A friend from a different site, in a different country.

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