FabSwingers.com forum: Help with my profile

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey guys,

Was wondering if you could take a look at my profile and give me some pointers.

I understand guys have a hard time getting messages back but I feel like I am not expressing my self properly.

Just to be clear I am not asking for the magic string of letters that will make any girl sleep with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah i could do with a few tips too update mine. Suggestions on the text and pics would be great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see quite a few typo's and grammatical errors.

Dick picks! Save them for the times when you're asked for them, or make them a little more classy and don't make them the first viewable pic on your profile.

You really have to sell yourself to get any kind of response.

Look through profiles of guys around your age, see what format the successful ones are using and fine tune your profile a bit more.

When messaging, be polite, patient and respectful. You'll get shot down a lot, lol, but if you're thick skinned and a fast learner you'll be fine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I will fix the errors, thanks for finding them I suck at finding them my self.

And I originally did scout similar profiles to mine but they all have a lot less written up and have not tried at all even the successful ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah i could do with a few tips too update mine. Suggestions on the text and pics would be great. "

Then start your own thread instead of trying to hijack someone else's.

OP, there are a couple of things that I, personally, would take out (in particular, any comments that elude to you looking for a teacher etc), but one thing that I will congratulate you on is that you have actually managed to put some relevant information on your profile in respect of your sexual likes / dislikes.

I have seen so many of these forum threads from people who either can't be bothered to expend any effort to actually compile a profile, or seem to have missed the whole point of it.

I think I saw one guy listing his hobbies - pointless and irrelevant.

So, aside from spelling and grammar errors, I would say that your profile is certainly off to a good start.

What might be working against you?

A few things.

1. You're one single male in a sea of thousands. We massively outnumber the ladies, at a rate of around 100 to 1. I'm not exaggerating, it really is about that high. So it's going to be a lot of hard work. Bear in mind that you have only been here for 5 weeks. When I joined over 4 years ago, most guys could expect to wait around 6 months before they'd get their first meet, so just bear that in mind and it should help you better manage your expectations.

2. Your age. At 21 you're just a baby (relatively speaking). So you're looking for older women - well, at your age, most of the women on here are going to be older than you, but something you will have to consider is that, whilst you may have a thing for the more mature lady, the majority of these women may have children around your age (or older) and, from comments that i've seen both here and elsewhere, the majority are uncomfortable with fooling around with people of similar ages to their children.

3. You don't like giving oral - fair play to you for at least owning up to it, but again, this may limit your options, especially as you've stated that you love receiving. Some may consider this somewhat selfish, but as I say, kudos for being clear on it (personally I love it). There are some men who perhaps, like you, don't like it, but unlike you, may claim to like it in order to impress the ladies.

Like I said, all in all your profile is a good foundation which you will be able to build upon over time and as you become more familiar with the site and so on.

Welcome to fab and I hope you enjoy the experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Hey guys,

Was wondering if you could take a look at my profile and give me some pointers.

I understand guys have a hard time getting messages back but I feel like I am not expressing my self properly.

Just to be clear I am not asking for the magic string of letters that will make any girl sleep with me."

You remind me of Brian Wilson from The Beach Boys so a surfing theme might go down well and would be a usp.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey guys,

Was wondering if you could take a look at my profile and give me some pointers.

I understand guys have a hard time getting messages back but I feel like I am not expressing my self properly.

Just to be clear I am not asking for the magic string of letters that will make any girl sleep with me."

my advice would be to scrap it all, leave fab and try finding someone in the real world..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah i could do with a few tips too update mine. Suggestions on the text and pics would be great. "

scrap the bit about not looking for a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah i could do with a few tips too update mine. Suggestions on the text and pics would be great.

scrap the bit about not looking for a relationship"

Done and thanks

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By *eneathTheDiamondSkyWoman
over a year ago

East Anglia

Your smiling face-pic is far better than the other three.

There are still typos in your profile. I know some people don't mind but some do. "I" should be a capital throughout.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Savage

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Savage"

No, I think a surfer theme would be better. I suppose a sort of 17th Century Pacific Islander could be described as savage but a more uptodate look might work better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey guys,

Was wondering if you could take a look at my profile and give me some pointers.

I understand guys have a hard time getting messages back but I feel like I am not expressing my self properly.

Just to be clear I am not asking for the magic string of letters that will make any girl sleep with me."

Wanting oral but not giving... if you're not a fan, don't mention either - it makes you sound selfish. If age isn't important then don't mention it, just direct your messages to who you want.

Dude, your pics suck - hide the dick pic, take a better profile one and I see you describe yourself as 'ample'? Find an angle that works well with that and show a bit more.

Your Lange won't help you here, but all is not lost - I had plenty of luck in my early 20's and I was rather 'ample' then too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey guys,

Was wondering if you could take a look at my profile and give me some pointers.

I understand guys have a hard time getting messages back but I feel like I am not expressing my self properly.

Just to be clear I am not asking for the magic string of letters that will make any girl sleep with me.

Wanting oral but not giving... if you're not a fan, don't mention either - it makes you sound selfish. If age isn't important then don't mention it, just direct your messages to who you want.

Dude, your pics suck - hide the dick pic, take a better profile one and I see you describe yourself as 'ample'? Find an angle that works well with that and show a bit more.

Your Lange won't help you here, but all is not lost - I had plenty of luck in my early 20's and I was rather 'ample' then too

Lange = age.. wtf autocorrect

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