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By *eme12345678 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackheath

Never done a hotel meet before. I am potentially going with a female fb and we may invite an other or others.

How does that tend to to work - do the "other(s)" just come up to the room do their stuff and go or do they usually expect to stay the night too....

And then who pays for the room - do the other(s) contribute normally

I'm guessing as we may be hosting, we pay and we kick the guests out.

But is that what has happened in your experiences?

Thanks

oh and btw - any good hotel chains in central london for meets?

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By *wingtolifeCouple
over a year ago

who knows

If you get a double room you pay,

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By *eme12345678 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackheath

fair play, as expected

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"If you get a double room you pay, "

I disagree. I think it's terrible to expect men to pay.

Never expected this as a couple or a single fem.

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By *eme12345678 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackheath

I think they meant (we) as the couple pay.

TBH - I think you should go dutch - or at least have a bit of a contribution...but then you get into paying for services....so gets a bit er...grey legally

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By *ab_SparklesWoman
over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

I would have our own room, no offence but if it doesn't work your stuck with them in the same room. Awkward

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By *ornylady71Woman
over a year ago

near Bury


"I would have our own room, no offence but if it doesn't work your stuck with them in the same room. Awkward "

Me too

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"I think they meant (we) as the couple pay.

TBH - I think you should go dutch - or at least have a bit of a contribution...but then you get into paying for services....so gets a bit er...grey legally"

I see. If you are going as a couple and using the room then you pay. If you are just using the room to play and no one is staying the night it would be fair for others to chip in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You pay for the room. You make it clear if you don't want anyone to stay over but they wouldn't be expected to pay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only do day use at hotels at the moment but pay for it (£60). I dont expect the guys who visit to pay but one or two have chipped in which is nice. If I was hosting with someone else and they offered to contribute that would be acceptable but again I wouldnt nessarily ask.

If I was staying overnight and it was £100+ I might ask for help from visitors as they are getting half the fun. If I really had a good time with someone why not have them stay and play again before checking out?

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados


"I think they meant (we) as the couple pay.

TBH - I think you should go dutch - or at least have a bit of a contribution...but then you get into paying for services....so gets a bit er...grey legally"

Whoooaaaaa there. You are paying a contribution towards a hotel room, not paying for services.

-Matt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have booked it you pay,so make it clear,you want to make a night of it,if you have a good time, next time split the cost

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

If we are asking someone to come join us at a hotel, we pay.

If someone is asking us to join them at their hotel, they pay. If they got lucky in a pub and took a playmate back to their hotel at the end of a night, would they turn round and ask him/her to pay up?

We don't tend to book hotels solely for fab meets (we have done, but only with fabbers we'd already met).

And likewise, we don't ask others to book a hotel solely to meet us (although we have met in others hotel rooms, but only if they were already staying in one).

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley


"If we are asking someone to come join us at a hotel, we pay.

If someone is asking us to join them at their hotel, they pay. If they got lucky in a pub and took a playmate back to their hotel at the end of a night, would they turn round and ask him/her to pay up?

We don't tend to book hotels solely for fab meets (we have done, but only with fabbers we'd already met).

And likewise, we don't ask others to book a hotel solely to meet us (although we have met in others hotel rooms, but only if they were already staying in one). "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The cost shoukd be on you both. And i suggest if you wondering on who foots the bill between you both. I suggest if she pays the roim dinner is on you or other way round. Makes things easier hassle free

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

If none of you can or want to accom so have to get a hotel room for play, then you all chip in.

If as you said in your OP, you and a friend are getting a room but may invite others, then you(+friend) pay for the room. If the others offer to chip in then it is their choice, I wouldn't ask them to.

As for all staying the night, I wouldn't. I would do a fuck n go meet. Staying the night and the morning after would be awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always pay (flexi booking in case of a cancellation) and use Premier Inns as I know what to expect and they are always to the same standard and have a non scruffy bar close at hand. If a first meet I always meet in the bar to see if we click. I also prepare the room. If a MF meet I tell them on arrival that after we have had a get to know you chat and a drink or two that I will go for an extended pee to give the couple plenty of time to discuss (me) privately and also if they want to take it to the next level. If with a F I also leave for an extended pee in case she wants to ring somebody without me being in earshot. I like hotel meets and the anticipation and preparation beforehand.

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By *oxylady72500Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

have been put off meeting anyone from Scotland by NOT NAMED male who invited me to hotel meet in Sheffield NEVER AGAIN

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"have been put off meeting anyone from Scotland by NOT NAMED male who invited me to hotel meet in Sheffield NEVER AGAIN "

Yes I'm sure all 5 million Scottish people are the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we are asking someone to come join us at a hotel, we pay.

If someone is asking us to join them at their hotel, they pay. If they got lucky in a pub and took a playmate back to their hotel at the end of a night, would they turn round and ask him/her to pay up?

We don't tend to book hotels solely for fab meets (we have done, but only with fabbers we'd already met).

And likewise, we don't ask others to book a hotel solely to meet us (although we have met in others hotel rooms, but only if they were already staying in one). "

This

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Never done a hotel meet before. I am potentially going with a female fb and we may invite an other or others.

How does that tend to to work - do the "other(s)" just come up to the room do their stuff and go or do they usually expect to stay the night too....

And then who pays for the room - do the other(s) contribute normally

I'm guessing as we may be hosting, we pay and we kick the guests out.

But is that what has happened in your experiences?

Thanks

oh and btw - any good hotel chains in central london for meets?"

Yep pay then kick em out after having your wicked way. Don't you just love the Forums?!

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"If we are asking someone to come join us at a hotel, we pay.

If someone is asking us to join them at their hotel, they pay. If they got lucky in a pub and took a playmate back to their hotel at the end of a night, would they turn round and ask him/her to pay up?

We don't tend to book hotels solely for fab meets (we have done, but only with fabbers we'd already met).

And likewise, we don't ask others to book a hotel solely to meet us (although we have met in others hotel rooms, but only if they were already staying in one). "

This is how we play as well. If we are looking for fun then we choose where and when. So far so good, we will not go for somewhere we don't feel we can have a lovely time

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Depends on the situation.

If we book for ourselves, perhaps to go to an organised social or similar, then we foot the bill, anyone who joins us does so as a guest, similar to if we invited someone into our home, we wouldn't ask them to pay.

If we booked as part of a plan to use it solely to play, and it was to suit everyone, then everyone should pay their share.

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