FabSwingers.com forum: Advice on first contact

By *azBeNaughty OP Man
over a year ago

Isleworth

Hi all happy Friday! Im hoping you guys can help me with some advice when contacting a member. I am always polite when I message members but Im not sure what im doing wrong as I dont get many replies back. What information are people generally looking for when they recieve a first time message? Any advice would be much appreciated from girls and guys. Taz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I will say is that most women will look at the profile before even opening the message so perhaps this is where you need to concentrate your efforts, not the actual message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for myself, and i think, a lot of other women on here, i will always check a profile before even looking at the message...if there's nothing,or very little there, i will probably not bother with the message.

Maybe look at threads on profile advice in the forums, there's masses of useful information on there. good luck!

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"Hi all happy Friday! Im hoping you guys can help me with some advice when contacting a member. I am always polite when I message members but Im not sure what im doing wrong as I dont get many replies back. What information are people generally looking for when they recieve a first time message? Any advice would be much appreciated from girls and guys. Taz

As has already been said, if you make contact with anyone the first thing they will do is look at your profile.

And there lies your problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As above I look at the profile first. A lot of people won't reply if that doesn't show/tell them what they want to know.

We always reply to a message that shows a bit of effort. Ideally it should make reference to something in the profile to show you've paid attention, and give them a reason why you think they'd want to meet you rather than someone else.

Polite small talk on its own while respectful is a bit of a waste of time.

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By *azBeNaughty OP Man
over a year ago

Isleworth

The strange thing is I have changed my profile from very descriptive to short and to the point. Neither have really made much difference but I will look into my profile description again. Thanks for all your advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not hijacking the thread but someone could please comment on my profile? Been around for a while but never got a chance to meet! Most of the clubs need verification from a couple and konone is even ready to meet for verification. How can I escape from this deadlock?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The strange thing is I have changed my profile from very descriptive to short and to the point. Neither have really made much difference but I will look into my profile description again. Thanks for all your advice"

As they say it's your shop window!

What can you offer, what do you like, what do you look for in a meet, would you go to clubs etc

And more public pics might help but not cock pics

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You won't get a high reply to message ratio as a single guy. Its mostly about patience and perseverance.

Chat in the forum, go to socials, get yourself known in a positive way.

Good luck

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Also in a first message ask an ended question that can be replied to. For example " I'm just off to take my dog for a walk, have you got anything planned?" That way you've given a little information about yourself and requested something back. I'm not saying it will increase your replies but it does make it easier for those who do reply to enter into conversation.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

*open ended question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually that's a really good hint, some conversations can be quite painful if you only ask closed questions and don't really offer up info about yourself.

If it's stilted and hard work by text we assume it won't be better in person when nerves, not having time to think of a reply etc can start to play a part.

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By *exmadscotMan
over a year ago

alloa

nice chat works but remember it's a sex site so some girls like the fancy some company line, read the verifications get an idea how generous they are with their favours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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try ,mn and cd/ts your options are greatly increased

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try, G, A, F, lower F, C on your first message

If they answer then respond with B flat, C, A flat, lower A flat, E flat.

It works well

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I certainly wouldn't write an essay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like messages and profiles that aren't too long or too brief but look for profiles that have similar interests to me. Often though, it is about having time to reply because sometimes i am just too busy with other things in my life! Plus, i only reply when i am in a position to arrange a face-to-face meet in the immediate future.

So your lack of replies may not be down to your profile or message per se.

J x

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