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"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely " You need to outline in your profile what you want and what you have to offer and engage your target audience. It works fine for me | |||
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"Most women read the profile before even opening the message. If the profile is boring, shows no personality or originality then the chances are the guy is boring and uninspired between the sheets. " | |||
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"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely " Women are still women, regardless of being on this site. We're not going to contact or meet a man who gives us nothing to work with, in terms of photos and profile text. Sell yourself. Don't leave it up to ladies; we have too much choice. | |||
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"Pander and beg? Hahaha sorry but I'm a straight talking guy never begged for anything in my life is it being suggested I lie in my profile not much more to add I'm looking for nsa meet up can accom or travel what else I'm ace in the sack would make me sound big headed I'm not I'm just a normal honest single guy " You need to stand out from the 1000s of other guys At the moment you don't | |||
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"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely " it comes across as 'any hole will do' major put off to loads of fems... casual sex it may be, but no-one wants to feel as if they could be just anyone..... | |||
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"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely " It's perfect, tells me everything I need to know. | |||
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"Pander and beg? Hahaha sorry but I'm a straight talking guy never begged for anything in my life is it being suggested I lie in my profile not much more to add I'm looking for nsa meet up can accom or travel what else I'm ace in the sack would make me sound big headed I'm not I'm just a normal honest single guy You need to stand out from the 1000s of other guys At the moment you don't " He does but maybe not for the reasons he would think | |||
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"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely " In what way . . . well, it is boring, says nothing different from what 10,000 other single guys' profiles say. If you want to stand out from the crowd, inject a little personality into it? More photos as well - good luck x | |||
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"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely It's perfect, tells me everything I need to know." Exactly, can't see why you're not inundated with requests to meet up. After all, your profile clearly lets us all know you have a sense of humor, a personality, and are someone who would go that extra mile to make us smile langourously after each orgasm. I'm sure that you would never fuck and run, have lots to talk and laugh about between sessions in bed, and would be a delight to spend time with. Or not. | |||
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"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely It's perfect, tells me everything I need to know." | |||
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"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely It's perfect, tells me everything I need to know. Exactly, can't see why you're not inundated with requests to meet up. After all, your profile clearly lets us all know you have a sense of humor, a personality, and are someone who would go that extra mile to make us smile langourously after each orgasm. I'm sure that you would never fuck and run, have lots to talk and laugh about between sessions in bed, and would be a delight to spend time with. Or not. " | |||
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"It's real You've got to learn to pander, beg and generally do exactly what you are told on here, don't expect any response from messages and remember you are one of literally hundreds chasing 1 lady, if you think it will be easy, better think again, however you may increase your 1% chance of meeting to 2% by taking better pictures, adding more text to your profile and generally making it lady friendly, if you think it's worth the effort then go for it......" | |||
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"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely " if that is how you truely feel.... i would suggest you are probably on the wrong site.... brutal but honest.... | |||
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"Thanks to everyone for the advice had a rewrite I was misinformed about this site will do some more pictures in a bit thanks " How were you misinformed? I'm curious about that. | |||
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"Thanks to everyone for the advice had a rewrite I was misinformed about this site will do some more pictures in a bit thanks " The person who "misinformed" you, are they very successful on here? If they are it may be worth looking at their profile to see how well they stand out from the thousands of other men and how well they sell themselves as someone worth meeting instead of just using a dildo (that's all your competition too). If you were expecting a site full of women with their knickers dropped ready for any man to come and use them, this isn't the site for you. Here you actually have to make some effort to attract women to talk to you let alone anywhere near them, and you have a *lot* of competition! | |||
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"As I said I've had a rewrite I was misinformed by a non memeber was just told it's like other sites was clearly wrong anyways thanks for the information " 'just like other sites' - tbf.. this is just like a lot of other sites.. its also like real life... few women drop their knix at a 1 liner or 2..... there usually needs to be some sort of connection....... also as pointed out by others, punctuation needed in profile text.. gave up reading after 2nd line of re-write.... couldnt breathe...... | |||
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"Dunno what the problem on here is I have messaged alot of ladies on here always been polite etc had one very polite response and thanks" You have to learn what a full stop "." is and use them accordingly. Your profile is painful to read. | |||
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"Milton Keynes and Northampton has lots to offer chap. I am from Norh Bucks and love it on here. " sweet point me In the right direction then gone way off course I think | |||
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"Milton Keynes and Northampton has lots to offer chap. I am from Norh Bucks and love it on here. sweet point me In the right direction then gone way off course I think" Don't send out loads of messages. Take some time to look for someone who you believe is looking for the same thing as you. If you meet their requirements and like the look of them send them a tailored message with an injection of humour. Then delete the sent message so you don't get hung up on them reading and deleting it. Sit back relax and if you don't get a reply move on. | |||
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"Maybe lose a few of the 'j Jokey' pics too" I have no jokey pics in there I had to cover the faces on my newest as that's what the rules state | |||
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"Dunno what the problem on here is I have messaged alot of ladies on here always been polite etc had one very polite response and thanks" Aim your profile at the ladies and what you can offer to give them a great time in bed with you Think of your self as a salesman and what you are selling is yourself, what are the benefits of meeting you that the other 100 guys don't have, If you concentrate on the ladies pleasure you will get your fun as a result | |||
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"The "don't mind age or size" bit makes it seem as though you will pretty much fuck anyone who offers. Desperation is not alluring. You are allowed to express your preferences " What if he doesn't mind what age or size someone is? That doesn't make him desperate, just not bothered by age or size of someone. People drone on about liking peoples' personalities being important on here, and not the looks or age, yet he's being told he should be bothered by someone's size or age. | |||
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"The "don't mind age or size" bit makes it seem as though you will pretty much fuck anyone who offers. Desperation is not alluring. You are allowed to express your preferences What if he doesn't mind what age or size someone is? That doesn't make him desperate, just not bothered by age or size of someone. People drone on about liking peoples' personalities being important on here, and not the looks or age, yet he's being told he should be bothered by someone's size or age." Exactly I don't care what they look like or there size doesn't make me desperate if I and the person meet have the desire to fuck each other senseless then so be it be they big small medium whatever doesn't matter | |||
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"The "don't mind age or size" bit makes it seem as though you will pretty much fuck anyone who offers. Desperation is not alluring. You are allowed to express your preferences What if he doesn't mind what age or size someone is? That doesn't make him desperate, just not bothered by age or size of someone. People drone on about liking peoples' personalities being important on here, and not the looks or age, yet he's being told he should be bothered by someone's size or age." Good point. As with these sorts of threads, there's always going to be contradictory 'advice' | |||
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"Maybe lose a few of the 'j Jokey' pics too I have no jokey pics in there I had to cover the faces on my newest as that's what the rules state" why not try cropping your mates out then? | |||
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"Dunno what the problem on here is I have messaged alot of ladies on here always been polite etc had one very polite response and thanks" I don't know what the problem is either - you had a very polite response and thanks. What more could you ask for? I'm guessing sex with a variety of ladies......ah now, that's the crux of the issue really, ain't it just? "How do I get lots of sex with lots of ladies?" Don't know. I don't know you. I for one when I read someone is 'ace in bed' I think "why the need to say it then?" - confident people don't brag - they have no need. Photos......profile.......messaging - thems the clues. Timing......location.......audience - thems more clues. Have a think. | |||
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"Pander and beg? Hahaha sorry but I'm a straight talking guy never begged for anything in my life is it being suggested I lie in my profile not much more to add I'm looking for nsa meet up can accom or travel what else I'm ace in the sack would make me sound big headed I'm not I'm just a normal honest single guy " This is the problem with some men on here, I said some! There are some really lovely polite non pressuring men on here. Men like OP give the good ones better opportunities. | |||
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"Pander and beg? Hahaha sorry but I'm a straight talking guy never begged for anything in my life is it being suggested I lie in my profile not much more to add I'm looking for nsa meet up can accom or travel what else I'm ace in the sack would make me sound big headed I'm not I'm just a normal honest single guy This is the problem with some men on here, I said some! There are some really lovely polite non pressuring men on here. Men like OP give the good ones better opportunities. " Someone isn't getting a Xmas card | |||
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"What's up with my photos?" Says it all. Hence the lack of response. | |||
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"No, the site isn't real. It's a figment of our collective imaginations. " Let's hope I don't find out | |||
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"Just be yourself OP if you feel the need to write a huge essay about yourself that most women wont even bother to read but expect you to read theirs then do. Or you could play it how YOU want to it's your profile. I have only a few lines on mine and do ok so take no notice most are not looking for a husband of this. " from the guy who loves himself so much he has to hide his profile lol | |||
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"Treat your profile as your shop window. Would you want to go into your shop based on what is in your window? PTU xxx " I would, my shop is sexy! Even if I do say so myself. | |||
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"You asked what the problem is but you argue with what people suggest Maybe there's no problem with the site ? Just saying" Nah! Don't be stooopid, it must be the site as the OP is never at fault | |||
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"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely " But if you arent getting much luck here then clearly your profile and pics arnt working well for you are they ? More info in the profile text and interesting photos would help. Single guys are in abundance here so you need to make a bigger effort. | |||
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"Dunno what the problem on here is I have messaged alot of ladies on here always been polite etc had one very polite response and thanks" i do not think it real but it just full of pick people | |||
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"Pander and beg? Hahaha sorry but I'm a straight talking guy never begged for anything in my life is it being suggested I lie in my profile not much more to add I'm looking for nsa meet up can accom or travel what else I'm ace in the sack would make me sound big headed I'm not I'm just a normal honest single guy " Think what others are saying is that what little you do have on your profile suggest laziness due to lack of effort - hardly likely to attract swathes of females. You don't make yourself sound like an attractive proposition, therefore you get exactly what you (appear to) deserve. You might be a really great person to know, but clearly the ladies aren't finding your anonymous self attractive. You are the only person who can change that. Your call. | |||
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"Dunno what the problem on here is I have messaged alot of ladies on here always been polite etc had one very polite response and thanks i do not think it real but it just full of pick people " so people should just fuck anyone that asks them? thats really what you think? Just another man that thinks it's a free hooker site then? | |||
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"I'm frankly astonished to tell the truth " i think most other men lie and do not have a back bone to tell the truth here | |||
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"I'm frankly astonished to tell the truth i think most other men lie and do not have a back bone to tell the truth here " Yeah, you rock that bitterness. It's such an attractive look. | |||
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"I'm frankly astonished to tell the truth i think most other men lie and do not have a back bone to tell the truth here " What's the truth behind it all then chap? | |||
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"I'm frankly astonished to tell the truth i think most other men lie and do not have a back bone to tell the truth here " Enlighten us to the truth then, please. | |||
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"I'm frankly astonished to tell the truth i think most other men lie and do not have a back bone to tell the truth here " what do you think they are lying about exactly? what is this 'truth' you mention, what do you mean? | |||
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"Dunno what the problem on here is I have messaged alot of ladies on here always been polite etc had one very polite response and thanks" Sorry OP pica aren't good. Not enough content in profile. Good luck | |||
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"I'm frankly astonished to tell the truth i think most other men lie and do not have a back bone to tell the truth here " Why not come out and say exactly what you mean for a change, or is bitterness now your best friend? | |||
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"I'm frankly astonished to tell the truth i think most other men lie and do not have a back bone to tell the truth here " Actually, I missed out a comma, which changes the emphasis of what I said. "I'm frankly astonished, to tell the truth" About what you'll have to enquire. | |||
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"There's a song for this sort of situation and I'll sing it if anyone requests it....." is it "i've got a song that will get on your nerves!!!!".......... oh you mean the "carly simon" one? with ya now!!! | |||
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"I'm frankly astonished to tell the truth i think most other men lie and do not have a back bone to tell the truth here " Oh for goodness sake, this is a swinger site, not 'find-a-husband.com. What does it matter if a man I'm having a bit of light hearted fun with tells me a few porky pies? That is if they even need to lie to get me into bed! I either like their company and find them sexy or I don't - in short, what's important to me can't really be lied about Mrs | |||
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"There's a song for this sort of situation and I'll sing it if anyone requests it..... is it "i've got a song that will get on your nerves!!!!".......... oh you mean the "carly simon" one? with ya now!!!" Nah......it's a song by George Formby from 1933 called 'why don't women like me like me?" It's tres amusing. | |||
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"It's hard finding people you are attracted to on here unless you are an 'any hole/poles a goal' type of person " Yes, because people who have fun on here have no standards | |||
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"There's a song for this sort of situation and I'll sing it if anyone requests it..... is it "i've got a song that will get on your nerves!!!!".......... oh you mean the "carly simon" one? with ya now!!! Nah......it's a song by George Formby from 1933 called 'why don't women like me like me?" It's tres amusing. " I have had to go on youtube to look at that...... it is my new favourite song!!!! the anthem for all those people "punching well above our weight"...... | |||
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade: Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless. Why? Psychology. A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there." Although a lot of women don't need to check their 'looked at me' page, as there are plenty of men who actually message. However I wouldn't even be tempted by people who look at me and move on if they are nowhere near me. That's the main problem - men are more random in who they message, without actually reading the profile and working out whether they are what the messagee is looking for. | |||
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"There's a song for this sort of situation and I'll sing it if anyone requests it..... is it "i've got a song that will get on your nerves!!!!".......... oh you mean the "carly simon" one? with ya now!!! Nah......it's a song by George Formby from 1933 called 'why don't women like me like me?" It's tres amusing. I have had to go on youtube to look at that...... it is my new favourite song!!!! the anthem for all those people "punching well above our weight"...... " It's the theme tune for the losers club As an added bonus they can watch the vid and wank in timing to the ukulele strumming..... | |||
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade: Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless. Why? Psychology. A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there." What a heap of shite I hope your not relying on that basis to find your conquests | |||
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"I'm frankly astonished to tell the truth i think most other men lie and do not have a back bone to tell the truth here " youve been given fantastic advice on other threads and chose to do the oppositem what do you expect | |||
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade: Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless. Why? Psychology. A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there." sorry but thats cobblers! | |||
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"I'm frankly astonished to tell the truth i think most other men lie and do not have a back bone to tell the truth here youve been given fantastic advice on other threads and chose to do the oppositem what do you expect" some people just enjoy the whining,prefer to do that than doing anything to change what they are whining about.. | |||
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" Nah......it's a song by George Formby from 1933 called 'why don't women like me like me?" It's tres amusing. I have had to go on youtube to look at that...... it is my new favourite song!!!! the anthem for all those people "punching well above our weight"...... It's the theme tune for the losers club As an added bonus they can watch the vid and wank in timing to the ukulele strumming....." that song is going to be in my head now.... converting it to see if i can use any of it as my ring tone.... | |||
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade: Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless. Why? Psychology. A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there." Nah that wouldn't work for us. We get somewhere between 50 and 80 views per day, but most, if not all don't message us. We're not going to wonder why 50 to 80 people didn't message us - we can't possibly even remember that many people! Mrs | |||
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade: Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless. Why? Psychology. A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there. sorry but thats cobblers!" If someone looks at me and doesn't message me I assume it's because they don't like the look of me, or they don't fit my preferences. | |||
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade: Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless. Why? Psychology. A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there." Work well does it? S | |||
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade: Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless. Why? Psychology. A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there. sorry but thats cobblers! If someone looks at me and doesn't message me I assume it's because they don't like the look of me, or they don't fit my preferences. " Agreed, plus if they read my profile they'd see that I'm happy to receive mails and I try to put my outlook on messaging and winks etc on my profile for clarity so "who's looked at me" suggests one of a few things to me, either they haven't read my bio, don't like the look/sound of me or may have hotlisted for the future... you just don't know but personally I'd say if they view you the etiquette is on them to make that first move. | |||
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade: Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless. Why? Psychology. A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there. What a heap of shite I hope your not relying on that basis to find your conquests " Also there's plenty on here who looking at them....they won't see who looks at them due to filters | |||
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade: Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless. Why? Psychology. A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there. Nah that wouldn't work for us. We get somewhere between 50 and 80 views per day, but most, if not all don't message us. We're not going to wonder why 50 to 80 people didn't message us - we can't possibly even remember that many people! Mrs" Especially because I used to find it intensely creepy if I looked at a guy (before I moved to stealth mode) and he messaged me with 'You just ,looked at me, did you like what you saw?' Well no, else I would have messaged you! If someone looks as me but doesn't message, it means they don't want to message, not that they're playing some kind of Neil Strauss type manoeuvre. | |||
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"It's hard finding people you are attracted to on here unless you are an 'any hole/poles a goal' type of person Yes, because people who have fun on here have no standards " What's with the rolly eyes? | |||
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"My profile may help others... in that it's a proven example of what doesn't work so check it out to see what not to do. I get next to no replies, only one or two gay men Fab my pics and even people who winked at me don't want to chat. I'd change it but I don't feel it would be honest to. I am what I am and nobody is interested so I'm not going to pretend to be something I'm not. I'd of deleted my account by now but I like reading the strange shit in these forums." That *must* be a joke, right?? | |||
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"This thread is a perfect example that people have very different opinions with regards to profiles and messages. It is a numbers game thats for sure but i would make a profile that your happy with is ny advice. You'll be forever changing it if you listen to the forum advice." Exactly The day I listen to advice on the forums is the day I check myself into the mental hospital | |||
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade: Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless. Why? Psychology. A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there. Nah that wouldn't work for us. We get somewhere between 50 and 80 views per day, but most, if not all don't message us. We're not going to wonder why 50 to 80 people didn't message us - we can't possibly even remember that many people! Mrs Especially because I used to find it intensely creepy if I looked at a guy (before I moved to stealth mode) and he messaged me with 'You just ,looked at me, did you like what you saw?' Well no, else I would have messaged you! If someone looks as me but doesn't message, it means they don't want to message, not that they're playing some kind of Neil Strauss type manoeuvre. " It does actually work though. Just quickly scrolling through a search for who's in that area, and either change location or putting a status up saying your going there, and opening up any profiles you like the look off usually results in 5+ messages from people. St his approach is niche though relies on you having a good profile picture as that's all they see at first. It's shallow sure but for a one off meet it does work well | |||
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade: Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless. Why? Psychology. A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there. sorry but thats cobblers! If someone looks at me and doesn't message me I assume it's because they don't like the look of me, or they don't fit my preferences. " There are many people who are more sexual lying agressive than yourself. They check thier who's looked at me out of boredom see somone they fancy and go "I like the look of them I'll message" Which is handy as it acts as a filter as I prefer sexual agressive women lol | |||
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"No, the site isn't real. It's a figment of our collective imaginations. " I think he ment is it for real . But I'm that comment helped him ten fold | |||
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade: Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless. Why? Psychology. A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there. sorry but thats cobblers! If someone looks at me and doesn't message me I assume it's because they don't like the look of me, or they don't fit my preferences. There are many people who are more sexual lying agressive than yourself. They check thier who's looked at me out of boredom see somone they fancy and go "I like the look of them I'll message" Which is handy as it acts as a filter as I prefer sexual agressive women lol" That is true, there is probably a handful of times we have winked at someone as a result of them looking at our profile. However that doesn't work for most profiles. It has to be a bloody good profile with pictures that I fancy. Mrs | |||
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"This thread is a perfect example that people have very different opinions with regards to profiles and messages. It is a numbers game thats for sure but i would make a profile that your happy with is ny advice. You'll be forever changing it if you listen to the forum advice." He's already made a profile that he is happy with, but so far it hasn't worked. Some men don't want to play the numbers game, they would rather have some fun. And the numbers game doesn't work for all men anyway - there are simply too many men on Fab to go round, unless the women were meeting someone new every day. There are men who will never get a meet because of these ratios. But there are men who have a monopoly on getting meets, whilst the rest get very few. There will be a selection of reasons why these guys do well, but I don't think it's coincidence that they tend to have meaningful well written profiles, and good photos. Mrs | |||
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"The "don't mind age or size" bit makes it seem as though you will pretty much fuck anyone who offers. Desperation is not alluring. You are allowed to express your preferences " Fully agree for us, but not everyone is the same. I don't know if it's desperation or just the knowledge that some people can enjoy the time without the same specific needs. We will only have sex with people we find really sexy and get on with. | |||
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"So basically your friend told you that the reason you can't find thousands of women begging for cock on any other sites is because they are all on here just fighting over each other for average guys? And you believed that? Forget messaging people, join the forums and if you have an interesting personality then you're more likely to hit it off with someone here. Our best meet came from forum interactions. " This is good advice, if, as you do, live in the South/London commuter belt. Meeting people via the forums does not work for country bumpkins, but it's still good for banter | |||
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"I'm sensing another bloke who thinks this is instashag and no effort is required with profiles or messages." the answer is clearly a big fat yes | |||
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"Most of the messages I've send gets deleted so I've learnt to not send any I also remember it's a site not everyone is gona be straight most women are here to tease " You're damn right I tease I fuck like a train too If my suitor has a brain, and behaves like a grown up A million quid in his bank account would also keep my interest | |||
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"Most of the messages I've send gets deleted so I've learnt to not send any I also remember it's a site not everyone is gona be straight most women are here to tease You're damn right I tease I fuck like a train too If my suitor has a brain, and behaves like a grown up A million quid in his bank account would also keep my interest" What about 3 out of 4 | |||
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"If my suitor has a brain, and behaves like a grown up A million quid in his bank account would also keep my interest What about 3 out of 4 " That's me out then... | |||
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"Most of the messages I've send gets deleted so I've learnt to not send any I also remember it's a site not everyone is gona be straight most women are here to tease You're damn right I tease I fuck like a train too If my suitor has a brain, and behaves like a grown up A million quid in his bank account would also keep my interest" I'm a millionaire just ain't collected in all my money yet | |||
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"I see the people who can't get meets are blaming everything outside their control again." Tis the way of Fab *adopts Zenlike state* ommmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm | |||
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"Dunno what the problem on here is I have messaged alot of ladies on here always been polite etc had one very polite response and thanks" Profile is a bit boring, not sure what the talking to beer cans about either | |||
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"Dunno what the problem on here is I have messaged alot of ladies on here always been polite etc had one very polite response and thanks Profile is a bit boring, not sure what the talking to beer cans about either " Poor guy is lonely! | |||
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