FabSwingers.com forum: mastectomy

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

By Daleswalker OP Find posts by Daleswalker Man

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Leeds

My wife had a mastectomy a few years ago. Although it made no difference to me it affected her, despite my full acceptance. I would love to meet any lady or couple here in the same situation but I dont think my wife will ever have the confidence to 'swing'. Love to hear from anyone affected or anyone's views/advice

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By *ndyehelenCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

My partner has had the same operation 3 years ago. We find that once people find out you have had this procedure they aren't interested. Like you in my eyes my partner is as sexy as ever and it doesn't make a difference to me but it obviously does to others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What a pity you are not more local! Your pictures are nice. I know it might be hard for people to accept, but once it had happened to you then you can accept it. I would happily meet any lady or couple in this situation

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

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By *ndyehelenCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Would does green arrowed you mean!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You will have to explain that!!! Not a clue what you mean!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I haven't had a masectomy, I have had numerous lumpectomies on both sides which have physically altered my breasts.

It's something I'm always conscious of & I make a joke about it with meets but it does affect me.

If people can't accept what's on the outside then do you really want to get to know them?

Nothing worse than your Mrs not feeling 100% comfortable playing with someone who can't see past it totally!

Good luck though, sure you'll find someone X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly?

As you're on fab as a single man, if I was in your position I wouldn't be using fab, I'd be paying more attention to my partner and trying to build her confidence up more.

And I wouldn't be talking about my partner's issues on a public forum.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Honestly?

As you're on fab as a single man, if I was in your position I wouldn't be using fab, I'd be paying more attention to my partner and trying to build her confidence up more.

And I wouldn't be talking about my partner's issues on a public forum. "

Believe me I have and continue to do so. I am anonymous here too. Maybe its easy for you to be critical. But my post is for discussion and .... fine xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly?

As you're on fab as a single man, if I was in your position I wouldn't be using fab, I'd be paying more attention to my partner and trying to build her confidence up more.

And I wouldn't be talking about my partner's issues on a public forum. "

Bit harsh on the OP ain't it.

All the best to anyone that's had the op. Keep your chin up. I'm sure you look as beautiful now has you did pre op.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Although I haven't had a masectomy, I have had numerous lumpectomies on both sides which have physically altered my breasts.

It's something I'm always conscious of & I make a joke about it with meets but it does affect me.

If people can't accept what's on the outside then do you really want to get to know them?

Nothing worse than your Mrs not feeling 100% comfortable playing with someone who can't see past it totally!

Good luck though, sure you'll find someone X

I agree with you! No one is perfect in body and much better to be humble. Sexiness is mainly in the mind and how much better to have sex with someone who loves it than to someone with'perfect' physique and all the passion of a damp sponge!

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By *rince Charming 69Man
over a year ago

Loughborough

I have had three separate meets with lovely ladies who have had mastectomies.

One had had reconstructive surgery, and the other two hadnt.

It made not one jot of difference to the fun and friendship which we enjoyed together.

The sex was great, the ladies lovely, and I considered all three ladies to have been lovely to meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not harsh. You're discussing a part of her body that she clearly feels concious about, on a site full of strangers without her permission. Not to mention here as a single male while she's been through this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Honestly?

As you're on fab as a single man, if I was in your position I wouldn't be using fab, I'd be paying more attention to my partner and trying to build her confidence up more.

And I wouldn't be talking about my partner's issues on a public forum.

Bit harsh on the OP ain't it.

All the best to anyone that's had the op. Keep your chin up. I'm sure you look as beautiful now has you did pre op. "

I expected flack. But I do have feelings AND needs too. Its an open forum. I wont ctiticise anyones opinion. But THANKS for your support!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not harsh. You're discussing a part of her body that she clearly feels concious about, on a site full of strangers without her permission. Not to mention here as a single male while she's been through this. "

Maybe it's a cry for help. Being on this site has nothing to do with anything.

I love my Mrs to bits. Butbhave my reasons for being here.

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By *ndyehelenCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

It's very hard near in impossible to get a meet with anyone. Once people know they don't reply to you and remove you from there friends list. You even get people saying they will meet you then make every excuse under the sun not to. I know people find it hard to believe but it's true. Sorry if this offends people but true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's very hard near in impossible to get a meet with anyone. Once people know they don't reply to you and remove you from there friends list. You even get people saying they will meet you then make every excuse under the sun not to. I know people find it hard to believe but it's true. Sorry if this offends people but true."

Such a shame people are like that. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't believe some of the comments I'm reading, how can anyone enjoying this lifestyle even contemplate criticising anyone for Wanting companionship and fun with anyone else.

We all have our reasons for doing what we're doing.

Instead of judging let's just accept and be nice. As has been proven in Manchester and London over last 2 weeks life is too short so we need to live every minute to the max.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't believe some of the comments I'm reading, how can anyone enjoying this lifestyle even contemplate criticising anyone for Wanting companionship and fun with anyone else.

We all have our reasons for doing what we're doing.

Instead of judging let's just accept and be nice. As has been proven in Manchester and London over last 2 weeks life is too short so we need to live every minute to the max."

Very wise words. I live 1/2 mile from London Bridge and know people injured. Your right. Life it to short and love it we should. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *eadonistCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ashton under Lyne

"Honestly?

As you're on fab as a single man, if I was in your position I wouldn't be using fab, I'd be paying more attention to my partner and trying to build her confidence up more.

And I wouldn't be talking about my partner's issues on a public forum. "

Not at all. . He's blatantly asking for some advice for what is a horrible situation for both partners...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't matter in the least bit to either one of us but we accept that it might matter to some people; there is no right or wrong

My friend had Stage 3 Cancer and one of her breasts plus some nodes were removed completely. She was not happy with her body and opted for surgery which takes muscle from the back and reconstructs the breast

Hugs to your wife, OP; x

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of us know the specific circumstances of the OP, so shouldn't judge.

He may be on as a single man but that doesn't mean he doesn't love his partner. There are loads of attached people on here with numerous reasons why.

His partner might know he's on here, this could have been something he's done long before the surgery.

And what I haven't seen are comments from people who haven't considered that maybe in some way he posted to hopefully get honest feedback from people who have no problem with the issue raised, so then he can go back and show his partner positive comments. Either to try to boost her confidence or show her she's not alone.

It's ashame to think she might want to be part of swinging, but lacks the confidence all down to a scar resulting from surgery that could have saved her life.

That should be something to not be embarrassed about, or judged for and she should be shown the compassion and attention she probably needs or wants. Whether that be from her partner or from swinging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some lovely replies like this one. Also i wont complain about the negative. Maybe they think im a right bastard! Im not! Though i might look like it to them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even though it's a million times easier to do than say, your wife should be proud of her scars - she earnt them and came out the other side! I'm sorry you've received negative comments, I read your original post as a sincere request for ways to help you boost your wife's confidence. All I can say is that if people treat me badly on here then they weren't worth our company anyway! X

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By *ngandnickCouple
over a year ago

Haverhill

"I have had three separate meets with lovely ladies who have had mastectomies.

One had had reconstructive surgery, and the other two hadnt.

It made not one jot of difference to the fun and friendship which we enjoyed together.

The sex was great, the ladies lovely, and I considered all three ladies to have been lovely to meet! "

lovely!!!!!

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By *oyuer99Man
over a year ago

PRESTON

A former playmate had to have it and was left with a bad scar after reconstructive surgery, she was still the same woman and was much more than the lost breast.

keep going.!!

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By *ade_of_StarsCouple
over a year ago

Whitburn

You build her confidence by not being on here, she knows you're here either consciously or subconsciously and possibly even blames herself.

You can't be on here without her knowledge and build her confidence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thats sad but reflects the bulk of human nature. Dig deeper theres the odd diamond!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Nice words fungirl

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By *taffsfun73Man
over a year ago

Newcastle under lyme

I dont get why they would be like that but i know a lot are they too embarased about talking about it or how to cope with it same with a lot if disabilitys and death

We need to be more like kids ask about and then move on.

By the way it would not stop me from meeting. And just so any lady k ow there is not one part of any body that makes someone sexy its the whole package the most import part being her attitude and knowing she is sexy

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