FabSwingers.com forum: Finding it a bit difficult with messages

By *lack Magic07 OP Man
over a year ago

Bedfordshire, the Midlands, and redditch.

I'm finding it hard to meet women on here, not being pushy nor adding pressure but I just feel that when I write a message I feel it's flat or nor hitting the mark. Mentioned a little bit about there profile and I don't have cheesy pic with me bits out and I'm being honest, is it because I'm a single man or a newbie? Please help as I think I've gone wrong somewhere. I just want to learn and enjoy what other members are getting so to speak.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP you've been here 2 weeks and have already had a meet. Most other single men would be asking what you are doing that they aren't!

Maybe the only problem you have is your own expectations of the site. It's not instashag or dial-a-fuck

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

It's hard for single guy's on here at time's as there's so many of you. Try not to get disheartened,are clubs of any interest for you where you can chat to people and maybe take it further there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same record with my efforts.

Clubs aren't an option at the moment, but all the local ones just either delete instantly, never get back or you chat for a bit but it fizzles out due to their slow input...(my conversational skills are just fine)

Are we too nice? Do they just want a bad boy?

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"I'm finding it hard to meet women on here, not being pushy nor adding pressure but I just feel that when I write a message I feel it's flat or nor hitting the mark. Mentioned a little bit about there profile and I don't have cheesy pic with me bits out and I'm being honest, is it because I'm a single man or a newbie? Please help as I think I've gone wrong somewhere. I just want to learn and enjoy what other members are getting so to speak."

To be honest, a meet after two weeks is doing ok. Even if you hadn't met anyone it would be a bit soon to worry.

Definitely, manage expectations. Definitely learn stuff.

Quick tip: The aim of swinging is obviously to meet people. You'll leapfrog a lot of guys if you can get out there and do that. In fact, you'll eventually get to a point where people are messaging YOU!

Hope this gives you a nudge in the right direction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I looked on updates and saw some local women with very ordinary pictures. No face, poor lighting, just some bird in the distance hardly visible, yet they get fabbed more than six hundred times. And there are some without pictures and they whine about getting too many messages.

The majority of men on here are extremely desperate. And they are very pushy and go to great lengths to get these women. Good luck hahaha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest trying to put something in your initial message that catches their imagination and makes them want to reply, as nice as small talk emails are to receive, due to sheer numbers working against you on here you need to make yourself stand out from the endless sea of cock

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"I looked on updates and saw some local women with very ordinary pictures. No face, poor lighting, just some bird in the distance hardly visible, yet they get fabbed more than six hundred times. And there are some without pictures and they whine about getting too many messages.

The majority of men on here are extremely desperate. And they are very pushy and go to great lengths to get these women. Good luck hahaha!"

Yeah...that's not going to help you, mate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would suggest trying to put something in your initial message that catches their imagination and makes them want to reply, as nice as small talk emails are to receive, due to sheer numbers working against you on here you need to make yourself stand out from the endless sea of cock

It must be great, that - having people queueing up to chat with you. In normal life I'm a great conversationist because the dialogue flows quickly. I find with messages, the tempo is erratic and it's hard to keep the chat going. It's a struggle for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As most single guys wait up to six months or more to get their first meet, the fact that you've had a meet in just 2 weeks means that you are doing better than most, so I suspect many will have little sympathy.

Perhaps you should consider what your expectations of the site were

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It must be great, that - having people queueing up to chat with you. In normal life I'm a great conversationist because the dialogue flows quickly. I find with messages, the tempo is erratic and it's hard to keep the chat going. It's a struggle for sure."

I'm not sure I'd say people are queueing up

we struggle to get meets too - that's sort of what I meant, extra effort to be inventive in an opening message and a genuine interest in us makes me more inclined to pursue a meet as you might actually turn up

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think you'll do fine on here

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

OP, you should consider that your message is one amidst other dozens. Even if you make an effort with your words, have a creative profile or hold a "third leg", normally women and couples struggle to analyse every message they receive...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chances are op your messages end up at the bottom of a full inbox

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By *lack Magic07 OP Man
over a year ago

Bedfordshire, the Midlands, and redditch.

Thank you for you message, I totally understand what you are saying but to be honest I'm just being real and truthful. Yes we are all looking for the same thing I think but its difficult when the ladies hold the monopoly. But yes maybe I will try another approach.

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By *lack Magic07 OP Man
over a year ago

Bedfordshire, the Midlands, and redditch.

Thank you

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By *inkychrisMan
over a year ago

plymouth

"Chances are op your messages end up at the bottom of a full inbox "

This is most of the reason..

Ive spent many a time writing a well thought out message to just have it deleted, yet Ive been straight up and said "I want to fuck you" and gotten responses.. this is the trick.. wont work for most vut it will filter out the most of those who have bo idea what they want!

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By *lwaysdiscreetMan
over a year ago

Ashford Kent and Dartford

Mate i have done everything and in 4 years i have only had one meeting and one drinking meeting.

People are dam rude when it comes to replying to single guys.

I am 100% well mannered towards people and still no answer.

So if you get some luck mate good luck to you

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By *lack Magic07 OP Man
over a year ago

Bedfordshire, the Midlands, and redditch.

Thank you mate, and I hope you get sorted soon.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

See? 2 veris in 3 weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also found it hard when i first joined, but just gaining advice from fellow members and a little patience and practice, it'll work out..

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