FabSwingers.com forum: Message troubles

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all.

Not been on here long.

But i could do with some advice on messages. I never know what to write to grab someones attention. For me actions speak louder than words and sick of writing the cliche messages.

Any tips?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the profile and write a personal message to them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah i get that, but some profiles are very vague. I guess a pic more or less grabs the attention?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't write cliche filled messages then.

Keep it simple.

Keep if relatively brief.

Be humorous,

Don't be cocky, but give the recipient a reason to want to meet you over the others.

Reference her profile, show you've bothered to read it and how you feel you match her requirements.

Send a face pic from the off, no point getting to know someone, getting along well, only to discover one of you doesn't fancy the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry OP, I don't know what those things called messages are.

But it is good advice to read profiles and write a message to them based on that. And don't feel the need to send a cock picture either in the first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont bother mate they wont get read,but you can send me one

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

most people check your profile before even looking at the message... so I'd maybe put on some nice pics? and by nice I don't mean a cock pic...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm sorry OP, I don't know what those things called messages are.

But it is good advice to read profiles and write a message to them based on that. And don't feel the need to send a cock picture either in the first message

Haha i dont do the cock pics, i know its frustrates a lot of people.

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By *aughty_kittyWoman
over a year ago

finger licking good

Best messages i have replied to is crazy people saying we have met before, i reply back saying what?? When .. Then they admit they lied the swine's. Try that lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"most people check your profile before even looking at the message... so I'd maybe put on some nice pics? and by nice I don't mean a cock pic..."

Thanks, guess i should put some public pics, but like to stay private. Lol

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Message recipients typically read the sender's profile to check compatibility, so the profile and message are important.

There are lots of help threads that should give you feedback and direction.

Pick things up from the people you're mailing, so you personalise it. Reflect more about yourself, so they get a flavour of you.

You need to stand out from the rest of the competing single men in your profile and messages - selling you.

Are you only looking for last minute meets? Reading about you, it suggests you are. Clarify this there, as many will want advance planning, having a social meet first too.

My biggest tip for you is to sell yourself well and to be specific and not vague - anyone who is vague here will get lost amongst the thousands of others, leaving prospects no clearer on what someone is all about.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Given the choice - and there's loads here - I respond to people who have pics and who perhaps have less to hide than others, compared to users who have none.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah i get that, but some profiles are very vague. I guess a pic more or less grabs the attention? "

Why would you want to message someone with a vague profile? Why would that interest you? If you can't think of something to say then you probably shouldn't bother. When I message guys it's because they have piqued my interest and I feel the need to tell them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always check out a profile first after getting a message, and if there's no public pictures and a profile full of clichés then I just delete the message.

Your school report would say "must do better"

Good luck

Poppy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me I cant stand a long detailed message and definitely not what you'd do to me or cock pics !

This is MY ideal message ... my personal view obviously ----

Hi,

Ive read your profile and you look lovely - I especially like the pic with your red jacket and shoes. Looks lovely against your black hair. ( shows looked at all pics as thats the bottom one )

Im within your age range and think I match your requirements and more than happy to meet at Eureka ( he read the profile !)

Ive attached face pics and hope to hear from you ( face pics only as I requested )

Hope this helps xx

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