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"In general, socials need a bit of advanced planning, I've found unless you just want one or two to show. I hosted one in London (different site) a while ago--not a huge turn out, but those who did show up had a great time. Give at least a week or two notice, post an event, and give people the chance to arrange their plans, pm you for details, etc. If a true social, nothing more, try to contact and invite as many women and couples in your area as possible and let them know it's social only, everyone is welcome, no pressure for more than a laugh. No one wants to meet up in a setting where there are twenty men and only one woman (unless it's bi/gay men). Find a venue that's 1-quiet enough to be able to chat with people; 2-private enough that you don't have to worry that the people at the table behind you will hear all Fab details; 3-busy enough that, should all present company not find what they are looking for, they can at least talk to someone else at the bar. A dance area can be good. If you're only expecting local people, be sure the venue is not too local, ie, the place where everyone hangs out, so guests would be likely to run into friends, coworkers etc. If you're hoping for people from farther away, find an inexpensive hotel or two in the area to recommend. Could be that Fab Socials are much different than those I've attended on anohter site, but I've been to quite a few VERY successful socials that had all these things in place. Good luck." Thanks very much for your help I may get a male fab friend to help me xxx | |||
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"Thinking of doing one tomorrow, but don't want to be swamped by people expecting more, has anyone organised one? If so any advice would be greatly appreciated as to where to go, attendees etc, many thanks in advance! Please post here no PMs, thanks xx" Tomorrow? Erm,... I'd post a date in advance by a few weeks! Find a large pub, but don't put the exact location in the forum ad. Pick a date, from the many we have attended a Saturday night is best for most. Post it in the local (to you) forums. **Important** Vet the potential attendees, if they don't have "play" veries, you take a risk of them not being swingers... events down here have been targeted by the press. Especially for your first attempt, expect a lot not to turn up... especially "single" guys lol. (Some keep a list, with a "3 strikes" rule, fail to turn up three times, and you don't get onto another doorlist). After a few successful socials, you will get a feel for how many will actually turn up, and you could book a function room, and charge a minimal door fee of say 2 quid a head to cover costs. Any pub would welcome the extra punters.  | |||
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"We've done 2 socials at ours. The first one we felt was solid as we invited someone we'd already got on with. We put up a notice for one or two more couples to join us about a week beforehand. About 3 or 4 couples expressed an interest but none committed so even our friends pulled out. It all fell apart. For the second one we gave everyone a month's notice and opened the invite to a wide group we'd been speaking to and wanted to meet. At its height it looked like 12 couples and a couple of women were going to come. But we didn't get our hopes up. In the end 3 couples and 1 woman turned up and we had a lot of fun chatting and dancing. We said we'd do it again and make it regular if there was enough interest. But in the end it felt like a lot of effort just to entice people out. It also feels like the kind of people who would go out to a social evening would also attend a club night. So it's probably easier to meet them then. For those not interested in the club scene it seems you just have to go out and meet them one on one. I hope this helps "I think she was thinking more of a large type social held in a pub? They do work, you just have to stick at it, they often start small, but grow quite quickly. People will often wait and see who's expressed an interest on the thread before committing themselves. If you have a few friends, sound them out, maybe even rope them in to helping spread the word, a few people with 20 on their friends list will soon drum up a decent sized group for a fun night out! | |||
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"Thanks just wondering if it's worth making the effort to be honest lol" Effort? Pick a pub you know that has a bit of space in it. Advertise in the forums. Keep a list of who wants to go. A day before the date, release details via messages to those who pass vetting. Turn up with list, and tick them off as they arrive. Enjoy the evening, make new friends, maybe even have some nawty fun (at a suitable location NOT the pub lol!) Sounds easy to me! | |||
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"Maybw start with a couple of couples then" I think it could be much easier and more successful if you go with _thwalescpl's approach. Find a suitable pub. Let the whole of Fab know when you'll be there. Then just go and have a few drinks there. You may be alone the first time around but at least you've put minimal effort into it. After repeating it a couple of times you'll probably find more people emerging from the woodwork. A house party, where you try to finesse a group of people into turning up at your door, takes a lot more effort and communication. | |||
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"Maybw start with a couple of couples then I think it could be much easier and more successful if you go with _thwalescpl's approach. Find a suitable pub. Let the whole of Fab know when you'll be there. Then just go and have a few drinks there. You may be alone the first time around but at least you've put minimal effort into it. After repeating it a couple of times you'll probably find more people emerging from the woodwork. A house party, where you try to finesse a group of people into turning up at your door, takes a lot more effort and communication. " This is what I'm thinking of as I don't accommodate at home and don't want it to be more than social | |||
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"Maybw start with a couple of couples then I think it could be much easier and more successful if you go with _thwalescpl's approach. Find a suitable pub. Let the whole of Fab know when you'll be there. Then just go and have a few drinks there. You may be alone the first time around but at least you've put minimal effort into it. After repeating it a couple of times you'll probably find more people emerging from the woodwork. A house party, where you try to finesse a group of people into turning up at your door, takes a lot more effort and communication. This is what I'm thinking of as I don't accommodate at home and don't want it to be more than social" But then if I let the whole of fab know where I'll be I'll just end up with about 20 guys lol | |||
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"Thinking of doing one tomorrow, but don't want to be swamped by people expecting more, has anyone organised one? If so any advice would be greatly appreciated as to where to go, attendees etc, many thanks in advance! Please post here no PMs, thanks xx" Hi, as we have organised over 20 socials, happy to help you in anyway we can D and L | |||
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"Maybw start with a couple of couples then I think it could be much easier and more successful if you go with _thwalescpl's approach. Find a suitable pub. Let the whole of Fab know when you'll be there. Then just go and have a few drinks there. You may be alone the first time around but at least you've put minimal effort into it. After repeating it a couple of times you'll probably find more people emerging from the woodwork. A house party, where you try to finesse a group of people into turning up at your door, takes a lot more effort and communication. This is what I'm thinking of as I don't accommodate at home and don't want it to be more than social But then if I let the whole of fab know where I'll be I'll just end up with about 20 guys lol" Its your social, so you can decide what ratio of guys/fems/cpls you let in. Remember to vet them (play veries), and only give out the location, time etc a day before, and you shouldn't have too many issues. | |||
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"In general, socials need a bit of advanced planning, I've found unless you just want one or two to show. I hosted one in London (different site) a while ago--not a huge turn out, but those who did show up had a great time. Give at least a week or two notice, post an event, and give people the chance to arrange their plans, pm you for details, etc. If a true social, nothing more, try to contact and invite as many women and couples in your area as possible and let them know it's social only, everyone is welcome, no pressure for more than a laugh. No one wants to meet up in a setting where there are twenty men and only one woman (unless it's bi/gay men). Find a venue that's 1-quiet enough to be able to chat with people; 2-private enough that you don't have to worry that the people at the table behind you will hear all Fab details; 3-busy enough that, should all present company not find what they are looking for, they can at least talk to someone else at the bar. A dance area can be good. If you're only expecting local people, be sure the venue is not too local, ie, the place where everyone hangs out, so guests would be likely to run into friends, coworkers etc. If you're hoping for people from farther away, find an inexpensive hotel or two in the area to recommend. Could be that Fab Socials are much different than those I've attended on anohter site, but I've been to quite a few VERY successful socials that had all these things in place. Good luck." Yep. That covers it.  | |||
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"Oh, one last, very important point. It should go without saying, but make sure when you send out the location etc, you make a point of telling attendees that it is a SOCIAL, in public, and so normal behaviour for a standard night out applies. Somewhere along the line, when you mix certain swingers, alcohol and a little flirting, one or two might be tempted to get a little frisky in a corner somewhere lol! "lol  | |||
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"I have a few fabbers that come along to a pub quiz. We meet every week and new people are welcome. It's a normal quiz run by the pub. It's a great wee social night. I've had as many as 12 turn up for it. It's a great way to mix and not be obvious. Keeps people chatting and everyone gets involved. Good luck" That's a good idea a fab quiz team !!  | |||
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