FabSwingers.com forum: Bit of help / advice please

By * AND K OP Couple
over a year ago

mountain ash

Hi we've been on this site off and on for quite a while now. We've had one great meet but have had many more disappointments. We want to try and find regular buddies but are not having much luck. Is it our profile? We allways respond to messages etc so Any advice on how to up our success rate so to speak. Thanks in advance.

S and K

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

After looking at your profile I can see something that might put people off.

"Child care and work commitments can be an issue some times but we always try to make sure we don't let any one down ( touch wood no ones ever been let down by us yet and we don't plan to start) so arrangements some times need to be made at least a couple of weeks in advance of actual meet"

I know that this an issue for you, but should you really be hightlighten it on your profile?

Also want do you mean by disappointments?

Andy

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By * AND K OP Couple
over a year ago

mountain ash

Disappointments - people just fishing for photos, not turning up for meets.

And thanks for advice I'm gonna change up the profile now thank you

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

I dont agree with the point about having to make arrangements. If thats the case for you then no harm in saying it, then people who might be interested will know what the score is.

If you start chatting to them and propose to meet up then they will soon learn about your situation anyways.

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

I have to be honest, I cannot see a reason why people just collect photos on Fab, though I do know it happens. It is not like there is not enough free porn on the web !!

FAB is a Swinging site, not a Voyeurism site.. lol

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By * AND K OP Couple
over a year ago

mountain ash

Just updated profile- hopefully a bit more to the point now. Thanks for the help

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

By the way... anyone fancy taking a look at my profile and giving me some fed back... ?

(Sorry for thread pinching..)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, you've shortened it! I didn't think there was anything at all wrong with it. Seemed very honest & upfront. Can't imagine anyone put off by it. Possibly shorten the 'advanced planning' bit to a line or two, but I felt it read much better before.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I have to be honest, I cannot see a reason why people just collect photos on Fab, though I do know it happens. It is not like there is not enough free porn on the web !!

FAB is a Swinging site, not a Voyeurism site.. lol

actually FAB is what people decide what it is for them... so be that swinging, Voyeurism, dogging, BDSM, Clubs, socials and a million other things...... fab is all encompassing

I hate it when people use that last line of yours, some may see it as demeaning others...

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

I am not demeaning anyone.

What I am really just saying is that Fab has people that only want to use it as a voyeurism site but they pretend that they actually want to met people.

If you are honest in what you want from FAB then that is fair enough. But pretend to be something you are not is not on, and degrades the site for the others that use it.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I am not demeaning anyone.

What I am really just saying is that Fab has people that only want to use it as a voyeurism site but they pretend that they actually want to met people.

If you are honest in what you want from FAB then that is fair enough. But pretend to be something you are not is not on, and degrades the site for the others that use it."

without some sort of "voyeurism" there wouldn't for example be dogging....

Without some sort of "voyeurism" there wouldn't for example be cuckholding

without sort sort of "voyeurism" there wouldn't for example be exhibitonists...

voyeurs don't always don't meet...

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

I do not think you are getting what I am saying...

If you are in dogging, voyeurism, barebacking etc etc etc then fair enough. Just be honest about it !!

Do not say one thing and do another. If you are only looking for photos then say you are only looking for photos, do not make plans on mets you are not going to do !!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"After looking at your profile I can see something that might put people off.

I know that this an issue for you, but should you really be hightlighten it on your profile?

Also want do you mean by disappointments?

Andy"

I didn't see your profile before you edited it, so am going on the quote above.....

I don't see anything wrong with having the bit about meets take a bit of arranging as your being honest.

Lots of people on here have the same issue (us included) so why not highlight it.

Certainly wouldn't put us off, infact would do the opposite.

To be honest and it's only my opinion, I don't think your profile has enough information.

It doesn't really tell me much about you, what you like, what your looking for etc.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"After looking at your profile I can see something that might put people off.

I know that this an issue for you, but should you really be hightlighten it on your profile?

Also want do you mean by disappointments?

Andy

I didn't see your profile before you edited it, so am going on the quote above.....

I don't see anything wrong with having the bit about meets take a bit of arranging as your being honest.

Lots of people on here have the same issue (us included) so why not highlight it.

Certainly wouldn't put us off, infact would do the opposite.

To be honest and it's only my opinion, I don't think your profile has enough information.

It doesn't really tell me much about you, what you like, what your looking for etc.

Sorry, but i have to agree with bendy, maybe you should have waited for a few more answers before you changed.

If u perve our profile you will see we include the fact with kids and shift work we cant meet at the drop of a hat.

Not sure why you arent getting meets, how are you approaching people? Are you tailoring messages to them,your profile doesnt say much about you, but then i'm sure some will say TL;DR about ours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aaaah...asking for advise is tricky because everyone has their own differing points of view.

I didn't see your original profile, but I'm a firm believer in being open in what you're looking for - it saves time. Personally I don't see anything wrong in letting people know that you're not available for instant meets. There are many in similar situations so they would understand.

Good luck.

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