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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So this is a genuine question I have, as although I have been to two Greedy Girl nights, I am still not 100% sure of the unspoken rules and etiquette regarding play.

The first time I went things were winding up as it was getting late, so all that happened was a nice young man gave me oral while two other men sucked my nipples while I gave them hand jobs.

The second time I went it was much earlier and I went to a room which I know to be usually quite quiet, in the hope I could have a nice chat with a couple of guys, bit of a flirt, maybe a relaxed play with no expectations. More and more guys kept coming in and instead of asking my permission to touch me they just did. When I mentioned the lack of asking three or four men chipped in to ask why I was at a Greedy Girls night if I wasn't there to play with everyone.

I guess my question is, if a woman goes to a night like this is she 'obligated' in some way to allow herself to be touched? Do GG nights have different rules to normal club nights? How do you keep yourself safe in a room of horny men if the rules are lax?

Sensible answers only please, and no inboxing- reply here.

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"So this is a genuine question I have, as although I have been to two Greedy Girl nights, I am still not 100% sure of the unspoken rules and etiquette regarding play.

The first time I went things were winding up as it was getting late, so all that happened was a nice young man gave me oral while two other men sucked my nipples while I gave them hand jobs.

The second time I went it was much earlier and I went to a room which I know to be usually quite quiet, in the hope I could have a nice chat with a couple of guys, bit of a flirt, maybe a relaxed play with no expectations. More and more guys kept coming in and instead of asking my permission to touch me they just did. When I mentioned the lack of asking three or four men chipped in to ask why I was at a Greedy Girls night if I wasn't there to play with everyone.

I guess my question is, if a woman goes to a night like this is she 'obligated' in some way to allow herself to be touched? Do GG nights have different rules to normal club nights? How do you keep yourself safe in a room of horny men if the rules are lax?

Sensible answers only please, and no inboxing- reply here."

not my idea of a night out! sounds horrendous but the club scene has never interested me personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its always by invite or acceptance right? Greedy night or not.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Doesnt matter what ever the night is called if you dont want to be touched say No. if they argue report them.

There is no time anywhere that men have a right to touch a woman if she doesnt want it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might be greedy girls night but only with the men the women are greedy for. It's not a free for all and no nobody has the right to touch anyone without permission.

Woman should be able to go to these night and not play with anyone if no one takes their fancy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its always by invite or acceptance right? Greedy night or not."

This club doesn't have membership, and you don't have to show any ID to gain entry, so no. Usually there are 30 men or so and less than 5 women.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

You are never obliged or expected to do anything with anybody. That goes for all circumstances, regardless of the occasion or event.

You say 'no' to whoever you want, whenever you want, end of.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It might be greedy girls night but only with the men the women are greedy for. It's not a free for all and no nobody has the right to touch anyone without permission.

Woman should be able to go to these night and not play with anyone if no one takes their fancy "

That's what I thought, but a lot of men didn't like being told I was only playing with this one guy I liked. I don't mind people watching me play but there were hands everywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its always by invite or acceptance right? Greedy night or not.

This club doesn't have membership, and you don't have to show any ID to gain entry, so no. Usually there are 30 men or so and less than 5 women."

I mean an invite or your acceptance to join by you.

You are entitled to refuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have the right to tell guys that they can't touch without asking, just coz its a greedy girls, its not a free for all, just coz they have paid an entrance fee they think they can do as they wish, its not right, I'd have a word with the club owners and tell them they need tell the guys that attend that they aren't guaranteed any play, and its up to the females who they choose to play with xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It might be greedy girls night but only with the men the women are greedy for. It's not a free for all and no nobody has the right to touch anyone without permission.

Woman should be able to go to these night and not play with anyone if no one takes their fancy

That's what I thought, but a lot of men didn't like being told I was only playing with this one guy I liked. I don't mind people watching me play but there were hands everywhere."
I had that happen in a club last weekend. It wasn't a greedy girls night but I was playing with he man I was with and another man thought he had some invisible permission to touch. I rebriefed him and when he started to follow me at other times he was rebriefed again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You are never obliged or expected to do anything with anybody. That goes for all circumstances, regardless of the occasion or event.

You say 'no' to whoever you want, whenever you want, end of."

I felt a little guilty- like I was coming into their 'world' and changing the rules of this kind of night to suit myself. One guy was like 'well the woman in x room is being fucked in all three holes at once and it's the second time she has done that tonight- she's usually in the glory hole room so what's your excuse for being a cock tease and making out your pussy is too good for me' he was really pissed that I didn't want to play with him and was questioning why I even came if I wasn't going to act like the other girls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have thought that at a Greedy Girls night it would be up to the ladies who they do and do not play with and who can or can not touch her.

Then again, I would expect everyone to respect boundaries and that permission is required before any touching occurs whatever night it is - and that goes both ways.

But then, I was brought up to respect others.

Surely anyone touching without your consent is committing an assault and as such should be reported.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"You are never obliged or expected to do anything with anybody. That goes for all circumstances, regardless of the occasion or event.

You say 'no' to whoever you want, whenever you want, end of.

I felt a little guilty- like I was coming into their 'world' and changing the rules of this kind of night to suit myself. One guy was like 'well the woman in x room is being fucked in all three holes at once and it's the second time she has done that tonight- she's usually in the glory hole room so what's your excuse for being a cock tease and making out your pussy is too good for me' he was really pissed that I didn't want to play with him and was questioning why I even came if I wasn't going to act like the other girls"

No, their behavior is completely unacceptable. The 1st basic rule is 'no means no' , any pressure or acting like that is way out of order. Any decent club would be controlling it. If they can't maybe think about a better run place to visit.

But never feel obliged to do anything or bad that you don't want to do something.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's your body and your rules. No one gets to fuck you unless you invite them to do so.

As above, next time have a word with the management and have a couple of hefty bouncer types to remind the men of their role in this, e.g. Onlooker or participant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A Greedy Girls night doesn't mean your body isn't yours for the evening!

I've never been to one, as I'm not Greedy unless there's food involved, but this post has made me want to steer well clear.

Disgusting behaviour. You're not a piece of meat without basic human rights, just because of the club theme.....

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"he was really pissed that I didn't want to play with him and was questioning why I even came if I wasn't going to act like the other girls"

He was behaving badly, and should have been reported to the organisers.

A Greedy Girls event is for Greedy Girls, not Greedy Guys they can organise their own do) so next time just say 'hey guys, I only want to play with you, you, and you. Thanks', and stick to your guns. You're not changing the rules by choosing who you shag: those ARE the rules at a GG party.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

I'd really like to know which club this is so I can avoid it.

I don't go to a lot of GG sessions but when I do the gentlemen are VERY well behaved and the women leave with a smile on their faces.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, it is your body and anyone, no matter where, touching you is guilty of a sexual assault

Secondly, the guy who was rude to you is just another looser; just let the club owner know that he was coercing you

We have been to many GG nights and I choose who I want to have sex with; anyone else can just take a hike; I don't owe anyone anything. And if they think otherwise, they can argue that out with my hubby; he is big enough and ugly enough to give them the appropriate response

- Mrs. J -

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By *ainbowBrite57Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Absolutely no pressure.. you're there because you're interested but it's still your body and your choice.

Regardless of being swingers- CONSENT is law so nobody is entitled to play with you.

I'd suggest maybe you try a different venue, I've been to well organised GG event where absolutely any attitude like that towards you would not be tolerated x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The men should have been informed, by the organisers, that it's not a fuck fest and they need permission to touch anyone there.

It's not a case of pay your money and get a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are never obliged or expected to do anything with anybody. That goes for all circumstances, regardless of the occasion or event.

You say 'no' to whoever you want, whenever you want, end of.

I felt a little guilty- like I was coming into their 'world' and changing the rules of this kind of night to suit myself. One guy was like 'well the woman in x room is being fucked in all three holes at once and it's the second time she has done that tonight- she's usually in the glory hole room so what's your excuse for being a cock tease and making out your pussy is too good for me' he was really pissed that I didn't want to play with him and was questioning why I even came if I wasn't going to act like the other girls"

This man sounds horrendous and I hope you reported him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe you should reap what you sow, the actions of people should totally respect the actions of the otherx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's your body at the end of the day. Doesn't after what kind of night it is. No means no and individuals should respect that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are never obliged or expected to do anything with anybody. That goes for all circumstances, regardless of the occasion or event.

You say 'no' to whoever you want, whenever you want, end of.

I felt a little guilty- like I was coming into their 'world' and changing the rules of this kind of night to suit myself. One guy was like 'well the woman in x room is being fucked in all three holes at once and it's the second time she has done that tonight- she's usually in the glory hole room so what's your excuse for being a cock tease and making out your pussy is too good for me' he was really pissed that I didn't want to play with him and was questioning why I even came if I wasn't going to act like the other girls"

What did you do next?

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

Greedy night or not xx rules are rules xx do not touch till ok xx some men do not follow rules xx sane in clubs or party's xx no means no

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By *adyinred696969Couple
over a year ago

Brecon


"So this is a genuine question I have, as although I have been to two Greedy Girl nights, I am still not 100% sure of the unspoken rules and etiquette regarding play.

The first time I went things were winding up as it was getting late, so all that happened was a nice young man gave me oral while two other men sucked my nipples while I gave them hand jobs.

The second time I went it was much earlier and I went to a room which I know to be usually quite quiet, in the hope I could have a nice chat with a couple of guys, bit of a flirt, maybe a relaxed play with no expectations. More and more guys kept coming in and instead of asking my permission to touch me they just did. When I mentioned the lack of asking three or four men chipped in to ask why I was at a Greedy Girls night if I wasn't there to play with everyone.

I guess my question is, if a woman goes to a night like this is she 'obligated' in some way to allow herself to be touched? Do GG nights have different rules to normal club nights? How do you keep yourself safe in a room of horny men if the rules are lax?

Sensible answers only please, and no inboxing- reply here."

Do you HAVE to fuck anyone?

FIFY!

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By *adyinred696969Couple
over a year ago

Brecon

Oh, and the answer is no btw!

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Greedy or not the guys should have asked

I know a few greedy girls but if I they are playing I always watch and it is up to them to invite me to play

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So this is a genuine question I have, as although I have been to two Greedy Girl nights, I am still not 100% sure of the unspoken rules and etiquette regarding play.

The first time I went things were winding up as it was getting late, so all that happened was a nice young man gave me oral while two other men sucked my nipples while I gave them hand jobs.

The second time I went it was much earlier and I went to a room which I know to be usually quite quiet, in the hope I could have a nice chat with a couple of guys, bit of a flirt, maybe a relaxed play with no expectations. More and more guys kept coming in and instead of asking my permission to touch me they just did. When I mentioned the lack of asking three or four men chipped in to ask why I was at a Greedy Girls night if I wasn't there to play with everyone.

I guess my question is, if a woman goes to a night like this is she 'obligated' in some way to allow herself to be touched? Do GG nights have different rules to normal club nights? How do you keep yourself safe in a room of horny men if the rules are lax?

Sensible answers only please, and no inboxing- reply here.

Do you HAVE to fuck anyone?

FIFY!"

FIFY?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its always by invite or acceptance right? Greedy night or not.

This club doesn't have membership, and you don't have to show any ID to gain entry, so no. Usually there are 30 men or so and less than 5 women."

Which club? One to avoid if they don't take ID etc x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You are never obliged or expected to do anything with anybody. That goes for all circumstances, regardless of the occasion or event.

You say 'no' to whoever you want, whenever you want, end of.

I felt a little guilty- like I was coming into their 'world' and changing the rules of this kind of night to suit myself. One guy was like 'well the woman in x room is being fucked in all three holes at once and it's the second time she has done that tonight- she's usually in the glory hole room so what's your excuse for being a cock tease and making out your pussy is too good for me' he was really pissed that I didn't want to play with him and was questioning why I even came if I wasn't going to act like the other girls

What did you do next?"

I did report him to the bouncer and they said they'd have a word, I also mentioned it to the guy on the door on the way out and he said that a 'certain type' of woman goes to these nights and I should expect to have a lot of attention from men. He made me feel stupid for mentioning it, and tbh I think I will be steering well clear of that club on Thursdays in future. I'm not naming any names on here because I think that might come across as slagging the place off (and actually it is really good on Saturdays and I have had much more fun nights that the aforementioned on this thread)

Thanks for all the replies- the clarification was useful

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Early in our swinging life we attended a greedy girls night at a local club .

We hated it .

The guys all figured it was a free for all , but , and here's the thing , so did the ladies . So the expectation from the guys was brought on by the fact that the six other women were there to fuck anyone . It was only my wife that wasn't up fo this , and of course we left .

We asked the club owners the protocol , and they told us it was a night for the men and women who want that kind of night , and they kind of suggested it wasn't for us .

We've never been to another greedy girls night since , and doubt we ever will .

The club owners were right , not for us .

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By *arge Hardon ColliderMan
over a year ago

Not far away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are never obliged or expected to do anything with anybody. That goes for all circumstances, regardless of the occasion or event.

You say 'no' to whoever you want, whenever you want, end of.

I felt a little guilty- like I was coming into their 'world' and changing the rules of this kind of night to suit myself. One guy was like 'well the woman in x room is being fucked in all three holes at once and it's the second time she has done that tonight- she's usually in the glory hole room so what's your excuse for being a cock tease and making out your pussy is too good for me' he was really pissed that I didn't want to play with him and was questioning why I even came if I wasn't going to act like the other girls

What did you do next?

I did report him to the bouncer and they said they'd have a word, I also mentioned it to the guy on the door on the way out and he said that a 'certain type' of woman goes to these nights and I should expect to have a lot of attention from men. He made me feel stupid for mentioning it, and tbh I think I will be steering well clear of that club on Thursdays in future. I'm not naming any names on here because I think that might come across as slagging the place off (and actually it is really good on Saturdays and I have had much more fun nights that the aforementioned on this thread)

Thanks for all the replies- the clarification was useful "

Was the club in the North West? Sounds like a club I went to once with a friend. The guy ion the door was telling guys they would defo get a fuck. Nasty place. Also seen a GG event organiser on the forum saying guys are pretty much guaranteed a fuck.

Sounds to me like the guys were told they would get sex and that's why they were acting that way.

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By *arge Hardon ColliderMan
over a year ago

Not far away

That's appalling!

I've only been to one gg night and thankfully it was nothing like this.

The guys were all respectful and it was a good atmosphere.

Sounds like the club need to get a grip on the situation.

So in answer to your question, it's a big fat NO

(pulls trousers down from armpits trying not sound like Simon Cowell)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only if you want to sweety pie.

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By *adyinred696969Couple
over a year ago

Brecon


"So this is a genuine question I have, as although I have been to two Greedy Girl nights, I am still not 100% sure of the unspoken rules and etiquette regarding play.

The first time I went things were winding up as it was getting late, so all that happened was a nice young man gave me oral while two other men sucked my nipples while I gave them hand jobs.

The second time I went it was much earlier and I went to a room which I know to be usually quite quiet, in the hope I could have a nice chat with a couple of guys, bit of a flirt, maybe a relaxed play with no expectations. More and more guys kept coming in and instead of asking my permission to touch me they just did. When I mentioned the lack of asking three or four men chipped in to ask why I was at a Greedy Girls night if I wasn't there to play with everyone.

I guess my question is, if a woman goes to a night like this is she 'obligated' in some way to allow herself to be touched? Do GG nights have different rules to normal club nights? How do you keep yourself safe in a room of horny men if the rules are lax?

Sensible answers only please, and no inboxing- reply here.

Do you HAVE to fuck anyone?

FIFY!

FIFY? "

Fixed It For You, as in, I've edited it to what I think it should be lol

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"

I guess my question is, if a woman goes to a night like this is she 'obligated' in some way to allow herself to be touched? Do GG nights have different rules to normal club nights? How do you keep yourself safe in a room of horny men if the rules are lax?

Sensible answers only please, and no inboxing- reply here."

The answer is very simple.

If a man touches the private parts of your body without permission it is sexual assault.

If a man penetrates you it is r_a_p_e.

It makes no difference what the night is called or anything else there is no difference in law and that includes a husband touch or penetrating his wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So this is a genuine question I have, as although I have been to two Greedy Girl nights, I am still not 100% sure of the unspoken rules and etiquette regarding play.

The first time I went things were winding up as it was getting late, so all that happened was a nice young man gave me oral while two other men sucked my nipples while I gave them hand jobs.

The second time I went it was much earlier and I went to a room which I know to be usually quite quiet, in the hope I could have a nice chat with a couple of guys, bit of a flirt, maybe a relaxed play with no expectations. More and more guys kept coming in and instead of asking my permission to touch me they just did. When I mentioned the lack of asking three or four men chipped in to ask why I was at a Greedy Girls night if I wasn't there to play with everyone.

I guess my question is, if a woman goes to a night like this is she 'obligated' in some way to allow herself to be touched? Do GG nights have different rules to normal club nights? How do you keep yourself safe in a room of horny men if the rules are lax?

Sensible answers only please, and no inboxing- reply here."
sensible answers only damnit that's me out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I guess my question is, if a woman goes to a night like this is she 'obligated' in some way to allow herself to be touched? Do GG nights have different rules to normal club nights? How do you keep yourself safe in a room of horny men if the rules are lax?

Sensible answers only please, and no inboxing- reply here.

The answer is very simple.

If a man touches the private parts of your body without permission it is sexual assault.

If a man penetrates you it is r_a_p_e.

It makes no difference what the night is called or anything else there is no difference in law and that includes a husband touch or penetrating his wife"

The police don't take stuff like tbat seriously at all- if someone is assaulted or r-a-p-e-d at a swingers/sex club, or even on a meet, the police would say that the person it had happened to had put themselves in that situation willingly. I know this because the event that led to my developing this medical condition was in the same vein. Basically the police were understanding/sympathetic, but they did say that I had put myself in that situation willingly by meeting the guy so it was his word against mine and it would never hold up in court

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By *eepndarkMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

That's terrible!! Really Really bad.

No, you be with who you want to be with and never feel obliged. Your story is an awful experience.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"

I guess my question is, if a woman goes to a night like this is she 'obligated' in some way to allow herself to be touched? Do GG nights have different rules to normal club nights? How do you keep yourself safe in a room of horny men if the rules are lax?

Sensible answers only please, and no inboxing- reply here.

The answer is very simple.

If a man touches the private parts of your body without permission it is sexual assault.

If a man penetrates you it is r_a_p_e.

It makes no difference what the night is called or anything else there is no difference in law and that includes a husband touch or penetrating his wife

The police don't take stuff like tbat seriously at all- if someone is assaulted or r-a-p-e-d at a swingers/sex club, or even on a meet, the police would say that the person it had happened to had put themselves in that situation willingly. I know this because the event that led to my developing this medical condition was in the same vein. Basically the police were understanding/sympathetic, but they did say that I had put myself in that situation willingly by meeting the guy so it was his word against mine and it would never hold up in court "

Umm...what? The law even says that it's possible for a husband to r4pe his wife so how is the police coming out with this BS?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I guess my question is, if a woman goes to a night like this is she 'obligated' in some way to allow herself to be touched? Do GG nights have different rules to normal club nights? How do you keep yourself safe in a room of horny men if the rules are lax?

Sensible answers only please, and no inboxing- reply here.

The answer is very simple.

If a man touches the private parts of your body without permission it is sexual assault.

If a man penetrates you it is r_a_p_e.

It makes no difference what the night is called or anything else there is no difference in law and that includes a husband touch or penetrating his wife

The police don't take stuff like tbat seriously at all- if someone is assaulted or r-a-p-e-d at a swingers/sex club, or even on a meet, the police would say that the person it had happened to had put themselves in that situation willingly. I know this because the event that led to my developing this medical condition was in the same vein. Basically the police were understanding/sympathetic, but they did say that I had put myself in that situation willingly by meeting the guy so it was his word against mine and it would never hold up in court

Umm...what? The law even says that it's possible for a husband to r4pe his wife so how is the police coming out with this BS? "

They didn't say it wasn't illegal or that it hadn't happened. They just said it would be unlikely to hold up in court given the circumstances.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Not our experience OP and been to a few, clearly we go as a couple and I look out for K but guys need to have permission before touching. First GG club we went to really looked after us too, staff made sure we were ok

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester


"So this is a genuine question I have, as although I have been to two Greedy Girl nights, I am still not 100% sure of the unspoken rules and etiquette regarding play.

The first time I went things were winding up as it was getting late, so all that happened was a nice young man gave me oral while two other men sucked my nipples while I gave them hand jobs.

The second time I went it was much earlier and I went to a room which I know to be usually quite quiet, in the hope I could have a nice chat with a couple of guys, bit of a flirt, maybe a relaxed play with no expectations. More and more guys kept coming in and instead of asking my permission to touch me they just did. When I mentioned the lack of asking three or four men chipped in to ask why I was at a Greedy Girls night if I wasn't there to play with everyone.

I guess my question is, if a woman goes to a night like this is she 'obligated' in some way to allow herself to be touched? Do GG nights have different rules to normal club nights? How do you keep yourself safe in a room of horny men if the rules are lax?

Sensible answers only please, and no inboxing- reply here.

not my idea of a night out! sounds horrendous but the club scene has never interested me personally"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It might be greedy girls night but only with the men the women are greedy for. It's not a free for all and no nobody has the right to touch anyone without permission.

Woman should be able to go to these night and not play with anyone if no one takes their fancy "

couldn't have put it better myself!

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By *wentMan
over a year ago

blackpool

Always the right to say no, in it could be a criminal offence in the eyes of the law.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"

The answer is very simple.

If a man touches the private parts of your body without permission it is sexual assault.

If a man penetrates you it is r_a_p_e.

It makes no difference what the night is called or anything else there is no difference in law and that includes a husband touch or penetrating his wife

The police don't take stuff like tbat seriously at all- if someone is assaulted or r-a-p-e-d at a swingers/sex club, or even on a meet, the police would say that the person it had happened to had put themselves in that situation willingly. I know this because the event that led to my developing this medical condition was in the same vein. Basically the police were understanding/sympathetic, but they did say that I had put myself in that situation willingly by meeting the guy so it was his word against mine and it would never hold up in court "

They do take it seriously. Exactly that crime has been in court, happened in a club and the perpetrator jailed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So this is a genuine question I have, as although I have been to two Greedy Girl nights, I am still not 100% sure of the unspoken rules and etiquette regarding play.

The first time I went things were winding up as it was getting late, so all that happened was a nice young man gave me oral while two other men sucked my nipples while I gave them hand jobs.

The second time I went it was much earlier and I went to a room which I know to be usually quite quiet, in the hope I could have a nice chat with a couple of guys, bit of a flirt, maybe a relaxed play with no expectations. More and more guys kept coming in and instead of asking my permission to touch me they just did. When I mentioned the lack of asking three or four men chipped in to ask why I was at a Greedy Girls night if I wasn't there to play with everyone.

I guess my question is, if a woman goes to a night like this is she 'obligated' in some way to allow herself to be touched? Do GG nights have different rules to normal club nights? How do you keep yourself safe in a room of horny men if the rules are lax?

Sensible answers only please, and no inboxing- reply here."

Nope even on those nights no one should touch without asking or being invited previously. On the rare occasion in the past ive gone alone.. ive always told the staff and they have looked out for me. There are always plenty I wont play with and a no thanks or shake of the head works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It might be greedy girls night but only with the men the women are greedy for. It's not a free for all and no nobody has the right to touch anyone without permission.

Woman should be able to go to these night and not play with anyone if no one takes their fancy

That's what I thought, but a lot of men didn't like being told I was only playing with this one guy I liked. I don't mind people watching me play but there were hands everywhere."
hope you reported it. As that is never on... gg night or not.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Some of the answers on this thread are a complete joke !

Of course the club and the men attending should respect a no , but do you seriously think the police would charge anyone for trying to shag a woman who willingly attends a greedy girls night at a swinging / sex club ?

Of course they wouldn't , the cps wouldn't throw it out straight away , and the public would be up in arms for wasting police time .

Having just watched three girls , and seeing how difficult it was to convict paedophile rapists and child groomers , the chances of a conviction for a guy attending a greedy girls night and abusing a willing female attendee are nil .

Sorry if this is not what you want to hear , but let's get real .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no means NO!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some of the answers on this thread are a complete joke !

Of course the club and the men attending should respect a no , but do you seriously think the police would charge anyone for trying to shag a woman who willingly attends a greedy girls night at a swinging / sex club ?

Of course they wouldn't , the cps wouldn't throw it out straight away , and the public would be up in arms for wasting police time .

Having just watched three girls , and seeing how difficult it was to convict paedophile rapists and child groomers , the chances of a conviction for a guy attending a greedy girls night and abusing a willing female attendee are nil .

Sorry if this is not what you want to hear , but let's get real . "

That's basically what the police told me when things happened that shouldn't have on a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of the answers on this thread are a complete joke !

Of course the club and the men attending should respect a no , but do you seriously think the police would charge anyone for trying to shag a woman who willingly attends a greedy girls night at a swinging / sex club ?

Of course they wouldn't , the cps wouldn't throw it out straight away , and the public would be up in arms for wasting police time .

Having just watched three girls , and seeing how difficult it was to convict paedophile rapists and child groomers , the chances of a conviction for a guy attending a greedy girls night and abusing a willing female attendee are nil .

Sorry if this is not what you want to hear , but let's get real .

That's basically what the police told me when things happened that shouldn't have on a meet. "

I know that not so long ago someone was arrested and charged and found guilty for doing this at a club. They will take it seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got to say, that sounds like the last days of Rome to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've wanted to try the greedy girls night a few times but I hate it when you walk in and 2/3 guys follow you around and keep asking when are we having a go? Even in 121 play there are men who just touch and think it's ok. Starting to really put me off playing these days...

There are times I just want to get hold of the selfish barsteward and squeeze his balls so he will walk funny all night but I'd be the one in trouble. Sexual assault is sexual assault.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Some of the answers on this thread are a complete joke !

Of course the club and the men attending should respect a no , but do you seriously think the police would charge anyone for trying to shag a woman who willingly attends a greedy girls night at a swinging / sex club ?

Of course they wouldn't , the cps wouldn't throw it out straight away , and the public would be up in arms for wasting police time .

Having just watched three girls , and seeing how difficult it was to convict paedophile rapists and child groomers , the chances of a conviction for a guy attending a greedy girls night and abusing a willing female attendee are nil .

Sorry if this is not what you want to hear , but let's get real . "

Wrong, you seem to forget in a club there are plenty of witnesses to the event and many if not most are decent men and women who would be prepared to make a statement to the police that the woman said no.

The clubs are all licenced and keep roecords of who attended each day/evening and if required would have to supply details of those people to the police.

There is therefore a good solid paper trail for the police to follow.

Or are you trying to imply the CPS would try to say the women deserved what she got. Things have changed and that attitude is no longer accepted

In addition there is case law to back up my point

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I went to one gg event, never again. Like you, I went into a quietish room to chat with a few guys and find some playmates, within minutes there were people crowded round the doorway and looking through the window. I got up and left and was followed from room to room by a bunch of grabby men with one hand under their towel.

When I did meet with someone who I liked the look of and the feeling was mutual, we went into a lockable room!

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"

That's basically what the police told me when things happened that shouldn't have on a meet. "

OP, this is wrong. If you have been to the Police already about another incident, surely you know that no always means no, regardless. There is no etiquette that overrides the law. It's not debatable, it's fact.

There has recently been a r_ape conviction from a club event, with no witnesses. In the situation of gg event, nothing is different to any other place in life. No-one can have sex without consent, there is no debate or discussion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some of the answers on this thread are a complete joke !

Of course the club and the men attending should respect a no , but do you seriously think the police would charge anyone for trying to shag a woman who willingly attends a greedy girls night at a swinging / sex club ?

Of course they wouldn't , the cps wouldn't throw it out straight away , and the public would be up in arms for wasting police time .

Having just watched three girls , and seeing how difficult it was to convict paedophile rapists and child groomers , the chances of a conviction for a guy attending a greedy girls night and abusing a willing female attendee are nil .

Sorry if this is not what you want to hear , but let's get real .

Wrong, you seem to forget in a club there are plenty of witnesses to the event and many if not most are decent men and women who would be prepared to make a statement to the police that the woman said no.

The clubs are all licenced and keep roecords of who attended each day/evening and if required would have to supply details of those people to the police.

There is therefore a good solid paper trail for the police to follow.

Or are you trying to imply the CPS would try to say the women deserved what she got. Things have changed and that attitude is no longer accepted

In addition there is case law to back up my point"

This particular club doesn't require membership, and nobody has to show ID to get in. You literally pay your money and walk in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I went to one gg event, never again. Like you, I went into a quietish room to chat with a few guys and find some playmates, within minutes there were people crowded round the doorway and looking through the window. I got up and left and was followed from room to room by a bunch of grabby men with one hand under their towel.

When I did meet with someone who I liked the look of and the feeling was mutual, we went into a lockable room! "

There are lockable rooms at this particular club, but on GG night the doors are all bolted open and can't be closed without using a special tool on the door to unlock them from the 'open' position.

The general feeling on those nights is that the women that go are there for the men's entertainment. I sure as hell won't be going back to that club, especially with the lack of membership/ID. I just didn't feel safe, because the guys there were just like the ones you talked about- grabby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's what concerns me about greedy girls nights, I'd love to go but I don't think I'd feel safe going without my partner there to make sure I don't get into any trouble. Every time I've been to clubs the guys have been nothing short of respectful and very polite, but I'm always worried that all it takes is a slightly different crowd coming in and I'm not sure I could cope with that situation on my own.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think the general concensus is that most club's GG nigts are perfectly safe, and I have just been unlucky wih this particular club. Given that they don't take details of anyone going into the club and membership is not required I am not surprised the men who go there get a little 'handsy'.

I think like anything, if you read reviews, get advice on the forum and choose a club that vets its members and cares about the safety of all its patrons, you'll be fine

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By *uddy and hollyCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

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By *uddy and hollyCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Its always by invite or acceptance right? Greedy night or not.

This club doesn't have membership, and you don't have to show any ID to gain entry, so no. Usually there are 30 men or so and less than 5 women."
you have the right to say no and I would change club use one with membership (buddy)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's probably a case of live and learn eh. Glad you were alright. We've done things on our sexual bucket list, have ticked it and thought. WTF did we try that for LOL.

Only thing I'd like to add is it's not all a bloke thing. I've been at a party where the women have got very excited too. However for a bloke it's probably a dream come true eh.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Its always by invite or acceptance right? Greedy night or not.

This club doesn't have membership, and you don't have to show any ID to gain entry, so no. Usually there are 30 men or so and less than 5 women."

I'm surprised at the lack of membership or ID and horrified anyone would ever think it was ok to just touch without approval first.

Clubs are not a right of passage - paying to get in does not mean you have paid for anything other than using the club's facilities - any male expecting otherwise should be in a brothel.

No means no and if people are giving you issues then advise club staff who should deal with it. If they don't I'd go to another club!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to one of these when I was on here before. That particular club ( where I only went once ) had no lockable doors, hence men could enter when they wanted and yes hands came from everywhere. I didnt like it and left.

Im only just back on the scene but will only visit clubs that have some rooms that can lock. I can be greedy but with men I want to be greedy with, certainly not everyone who wants a piece of me ! Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I went to one of these when I was on here before. That particular club ( where I only went once ) had no lockable doors, hence men could enter when they wanted and yes hands came from everywhere. I didnt like it and left.

Im only just back on the scene but will only visit clubs that have some rooms that can lock. I can be greedy but with men I want to be greedy with, certainly not everyone who wants a piece of me ! Lol x"
I only want a large piece please cmon I said please x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No!

You should have.told them to GTF!!

Nobody should assume being there is a licence to be pawed over and wanked over! Remember, the lady has full control when it comes to play - always and it doesn't matter if it's greedy girl or not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I also say that I was playing at a couples night in a club and one of the ladies complained of pain during rough sex- the guy simply chose to ignore here and carried on with his rather large dick,regardless, which I thought was totally wrong, even if it was a foursome!

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Can I also say that I was playing at a couples night in a club and one of the ladies complained of pain during rough sex- the guy simply chose to ignore here and carried on with his rather large dick,regardless, which I thought was totally wrong, even if it was a foursome! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So this is a genuine question I have, as although I have been to two Greedy Girl nights, I am still not 100% sure of the unspoken rules and etiquette regarding play.

The first time I went things were winding up as it was getting late, so all that happened was a nice young man gave me oral while two other men sucked my nipples while I gave them hand jobs.

The second time I went it was much earlier and I went to a room which I know to be usually quite quiet, in the hope I could have a nice chat with a couple of guys, bit of a flirt, maybe a relaxed play with no expectations. More and more guys kept coming in and instead of asking my permission to touch me they just did. When I mentioned the lack of asking three or four men chipped in to ask why I was at a Greedy Girls night if I wasn't there to play with everyone.

I guess my question is, if a woman goes to a night like this is she 'obligated' in some way to allow herself to be touched? Do GG nights have different rules to normal club nights? How do you keep yourself safe in a room of horny men if the rules are lax?

Sensible answers only please, and no inboxing- reply here."

Who you play with is totally up to you. Who you allow to touch you is totally up to you. Anyone who touches you without asking tell them to go away. If they touch you again report them to management.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your body, your rules, end of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

surely you should be allowed to pick and choose who touches/fucks you?

I woulld have thought that guys who stand back and wait to be invited to join in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the law is the law even in a swingers club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I guess my question is, if a woman goes to a night like this is she 'obligated' in some way to allow herself to be touched? Do GG nights have different rules to normal club nights? How do you keep yourself safe in a room of horny men if the rules are lax?

Sensible answers only please, and no inboxing- reply here.

The answer is very simple.

If a man touches the private parts of your body without permission it is sexual assault.

If a man penetrates you it is r_a_p_e.

It makes no difference what the night is called or anything else there is no difference in law and that includes a husband touch or penetrating his wife

The police don't take stuff like tbat seriously at all- if someone is assaulted or r-a-p-e-d at a swingers/sex club, or even on a meet, the police would say that the person it had happened to had put themselves in that situation willingly. I know this because the event that led to my developing this medical condition was in the same vein. Basically the police were understanding/sympathetic, but they did say that I had put myself in that situation willingly by meeting the guy so it was his word against mine and it would never hold up in court "

You were assaulted/raped at a swingers club and yet you still go to swingers clubs?

You're starting to strike me as someone who doesn't really understand the concept of personal responsibility.

Context matters in sex and I hear of way too many occasions where people put themselves in questionable situations and then seem to be more invested in creating a pity party rather than informing other women/informing staff/informing police/creating safer environments for themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

The answer is very simple.

If a man touches the private parts of your body without permission it is sexual assault.

If a man penetrates you it is r_a_p_e.

It makes no difference what the night is called or anything else there is no difference in law and that includes a husband touch or penetrating his wife

The police don't take stuff like tbat seriously at all- if someone is assaulted or r-a-p-e-d at a swingers/sex club, or even on a meet, the police would say that the person it had happened to had put themselves in that situation willingly. I know this because the event that led to my developing this medical condition was in the same vein. Basically the police were understanding/sympathetic, but they did say that I had put myself in that situation willingly by meeting the guy so it was his word against mine and it would never hold up in court

They do take it seriously. Exactly that crime has been in court, happened in a club and the perpetrator jailed."

This is also true. This "oh its a swinging environment so police wont take it seriously" is nonsense. Prosecutors have successfully bypassed the "questionable sexual history" that unscrupulous defense teams have ponied up on numerous occasions.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"So this is a genuine question I have, as although I have been to two Greedy Girl nights, I am still not 100% sure of the unspoken rules and etiquette regarding play.

The first time I went things were winding up as it was getting late, so all that happened was a nice young man gave me oral while two other men sucked my nipples while I gave them hand jobs.

The second time I went it was much earlier and I went to a room which I know to be usually quite quiet, in the hope I could have a nice chat with a couple of guys, bit of a flirt, maybe a relaxed play with no expectations. More and more guys kept coming in and instead of asking my permission to touch me they just did. When I mentioned the lack of asking three or four men chipped in to ask why I was at a Greedy Girls night if I wasn't there to play with everyone.

I guess my question is, if a woman goes to a night like this is she 'obligated' in some way to allow herself to be touched? Do GG nights have different rules to normal club nights? How do you keep yourself safe in a room of horny men if the rules are lax?

Sensible answers only please, and no inboxing- reply here."

Not looked at the rest of the thread - but I've been to greedy girls events and not played! I'm a fussy fecker and if I there isn't a mutual attraction with anyone - or they're not prepared to have a drink and a natter first - then I don't play - no matter what the event!

Fortunately I can sound like a very stern headmistress when I wish - so my 'no's' tend to get heeded!

And remember club rules tend to swing (for protection) in favour of the female - so if a guy(s) is bang out of order and you can't deal with it - tell a member of staff! I've yet to attend a club where the staff haven't been great!

Hope this helps op? Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I guess my question is, if a woman goes to a night like this is she 'obligated' in some way to allow herself to be touched? Do GG nights have different rules to normal club nights? How do you keep yourself safe in a room of horny men if the rules are lax?

Sensible answers only please, and no inboxing- reply here.

The answer is very simple.

If a man touches the private parts of your body without permission it is sexual assault.

If a man penetrates you it is r_a_p_e.

It makes no difference what the night is called or anything else there is no difference in law and that includes a husband touch or penetrating his wife

The police don't take stuff like tbat seriously at all- if someone is assaulted or r-a-p-e-d at a swingers/sex club, or even on a meet, the police would say that the person it had happened to had put themselves in that situation willingly. I know this because the event that led to my developing this medical condition was in the same vein. Basically the police were understanding/sympathetic, but they did say that I had put myself in that situation willingly by meeting the guy so it was his word against mine and it would never hold up in court

You were assaulted/raped at a swingers club and yet you still go to swingers clubs?

You're starting to strike me as someone who doesn't really understand the concept of personal responsibility.

Context matters in sex and I hear of way too many occasions where people put themselves in questionable situations and then seem to be more invested in creating a pity party rather than informing other women/informing staff/informing police/creating safer environments for themselves. "

I never said that what happened to me happened at a swingers club. I said that the event that happened to cause my medical issue happened within the swinging community, which is why I don't meet 1 on 1 anymore, and I only meet at clubs.

Not that I need to explan my actions to you, after your cruel, baseless and unnecessary comments on the other thread I don't give a damn about your opinion on this topic.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"It might be greedy girls night but only with the men the women are greedy for. It's not a free for all and no nobody has the right to touch anyone without permission.

Woman should be able to go to these night and not play with anyone if no one takes their fancy

That's what I thought, but a lot of men didn't like being told I was only playing with this one guy I liked. I don't mind people watching me play but there were hands everywhere."

I've experienced similar and it's difficult in a club environment where you've done no pre-vetting. I think you have to chalk it up to experience and make a plan so this won't happen again.

I personally wouldnt advise going to clubs alone as a single female for this kind of play without having anyone you trust watching your back.

Having to say no, to me ruins the atmosphere and if there are guys I don't want touching me too close by, the whole thing just gets uncomfortable.

It all depends on the night and who attends. Personally I prefer home meets now, where we vet guys before. It presents its own problems, but when it works, it's good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I also say that I was playing at a couples night in a club and one of the ladies complained of pain during rough sex- the guy simply chose to ignore here and carried on with his rather large dick,regardless, which I thought was totally wrong, even if it was a foursome!

"

Similar thing happened to me, I'd had a hysterectomy a few months before and me and my husband had made it very clear that I needed a gentle touch. The guy was so rough that he made me bleed - not often I've truly enjoyed sex since without feeling some pain or at least the fear of pain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but those who do are the lucky ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I also say that I was playing at a couples night in a club and one of the ladies complained of pain during rough sex- the guy simply chose to ignore here and carried on with his rather large dick,regardless, which I thought was totally wrong, even if it was a foursome!

Similar thing happened to me, I'd had a hysterectomy a few months before and me and my husband had made it very clear that I needed a gentle touch. The guy was so rough that he made me bleed - not often I've truly enjoyed sex since without feeling some pain or at least the fear of pain. "

This is horrendous. I'm sorry to hear this and I hope your husband gave him a bloody good hiding outside.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its always by invite or acceptance right? Greedy night or not.

This club doesn't have membership, and you don't have to show any ID to gain entry, so no. Usually there are 30 men or so and less than 5 women."

Sounds like a fucking dump TBH

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"It might be greedy girls night but only with the men the women are greedy for. It's not a free for all and no nobody has the right to touch anyone without permission.

Woman should be able to go to these night and not play with anyone if no one takes their fancy

That's what I thought, but a lot of men didn't like being told I was only playing with this one guy I liked. I don't mind people watching me play but there were hands everywhere."

Totally disrespectful to you, they have no right to touch you, regardless of what the night is called.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really sorry to read about the disgusting, selfish attitude shown to the OP by those male attendants at the GG night.

Such a shame reading about these experiences which are so offputting for those on the receiving end of the 'abuse' like the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're starting to strike me as someone who doesn't really understand the concept of personal responsibility."

If anyone 'doesn't really understand the concept of 'personal responsibility,' it's YOU.

Excerpt from the Sexual Offences Act (2003) re. the offence of 'sexual assault':

1)A person (A) commits an offence if—

(a)he intentionally touches another person (B),

(b)the touching is sexual,

(c)B does not consent to the touching, and

(d)A does not reasonably believe that B consents.

(2)Whether a belief is reasonable is to be determined having regard to all the circumstances, INCLUDING any steps A has taken to ascertain whether B consents.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Really sorry to read about the disgusting, selfish attitude shown to the OP by those male attendants at the GG night.

Such a shame reading about these experiences which are so offputting for those on the receiving end of the 'abuse' like the OP "

Thank you- I think being quite new to the scene I maybe didn't quite realise what I was potentially opening myself up to by going to one of these nights but now I know that it is NOT cool for guys to get handsy, even on GG nights, I will definitely be standing my ground and slapping hands away. I probably won't go to a GG night without a chaperone now but I can apply this new confidence to Saturday nights at the club

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're starting to strike me as someone who doesn't really understand the concept of personal responsibility.

If anyone 'doesn't really understand the concept of 'personal responsibility,' it's YOU.

Excerpt from the Sexual Offences Act (2003) re. the offence of 'sexual assault':

1)A person (A) commits an offence if—

(a)he intentionally touches another person (B),

(b)the touching is sexual,

(c)B does not consent to the touching, and

(d)A does not reasonably believe that B consents.

(2)Whether a belief is reasonable is to be determined having regard to all the circumstances, INCLUDING any steps A has taken to ascertain whether B consents."

Thank you for that

I think it says more about him than me that he has chosen to make this my fault

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there's usually rules about being pushy, usually aimed more at the single guys, so partly that club has not really done enough there. In my experience it's everyone's right to say no and if it's not respected there needs to be action taken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldnt be for me sounds like the type of charecter you would get in a place like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really sorry to read about the disgusting, selfish attitude shown to the OP by those male attendants at the GG night.

Such a shame reading about these experiences which are so offputting for those on the receiving end of the 'abuse' like the OP

Thank you- I think being quite new to the scene I maybe didn't quite realise what I was potentially opening myself up to by going to one of these nights but now I know that it is NOT cool for guys to get handsy, even on GG nights, I will definitely be standing my ground and slapping hands away. I probably won't go to a GG night without a chaperone now but I can apply this new confidence to Saturday nights at the club "

That's the spirit! Don't let it put you off. There is good and bad everywhere. Hope you enjoy your next experience, let us know how you get on with your newly found info

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

There are lockable rooms at this particular club, but on GG night the doors are all bolted open and can't be closed without using a special tool on the door to unlock them from the 'open' position.

The general feeling on those nights is that the women that go are there for the men's entertainment. I sure as hell won't be going back to that club, especially with the lack of membership/ID."

An aside but really surprised to hear this club operates like this. No IDs + open doors + sexual activity with more than one woman = a brothel, which is illegal! Swingers clubs, spas etc normally bypass this by either being a "private club" (IDed registration required) or by limiting sexual activity behind locked doors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regardless what type of party

It's not a free for all - and for me boils down to having some manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds like a fucking horrendous and rough club to be at! Avoid and report

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the problems with Greedy Girl events is that some of the organisers employ girls to attend there event (some being prostitutes) who cajole, intice snd play with the guys to get there fee or a cut of the door money, this is well known in the swinging world, single guys know this and as such many have a poor attitude when attending, the fact is that organisers don't want ladies who are choosy to attend x

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"One of the problems with Greedy Girl events is that some of the organisers employ girls to attend there event (some being prostitutes) who cajole, intice snd play with the guys to get there fee or a cut of the door money, this is well known in the swinging world, single guys know this and as such many have a poor attitude when attending, the fact is that organisers don't want ladies who are choosy to attend x"

Hmm that's a shame for the ladies who want to attend these events, in a safe environment.

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Its always by invite or acceptance right? Greedy night or not.

This club doesn't have membership, and you don't have to show any ID to gain entry, so no. Usually there are 30 men or so and less than 5 women."

I'd be looking at a new club then. Any club that doesn't police and monitor all members isn't a safe place to play. Especially as a newbie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the problems with Greedy Girl events is that some of the organisers employ girls to attend there event (some being prostitutes) who cajole, intice snd play with the guys to get there fee or a cut of the door money, this is well known in the swinging world, single guys know this and as such many have a poor attitude when attending, the fact is that organisers don't want ladies who are choosy to attend x"
ive been to a club that has hostesses for gg and find that the clubs are nothing like you say.. in fact ive never been treated with anything but respect at gg events... and at the ones that have hostesses the guys tend to behave even better...

Ive only really had hassle on none gg nights or couples evenings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So this is a genuine question I have, as although I have been to two Greedy Girl nights, I am still not 100% sure of the unspoken rules and etiquette regarding play.

The first time I went things were winding up as it was getting late, so all that happened was a nice young man gave me oral while two other men sucked my nipples while I gave them hand jobs.

The second time I went it was much earlier and I went to a room which I know to be usually quite quiet, in the hope I could have a nice chat with a couple of guys, bit of a flirt, maybe a relaxed play with no expectations. More and more guys kept coming in and instead of asking my permission to touch me they just did. When I mentioned the lack of asking three or four men chipped in to ask why I was at a Greedy Girls night if I wasn't there to play with everyone.

I guess my question is, if a woman goes to a night like this is she 'obligated' in some way to allow herself to be touched? Do GG nights have different rules to normal club nights? How do you keep yourself safe in a room of horny men if the rules are lax?

Sensible answers only please, and no inboxing- reply here."

The greedy girls events are for YOU to have fun.

Its YOUR decision if you want to play and how many you wish to play with

My advice find an enstablished event and a club with membership.

X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One of the problems with Greedy Girl events is that some of the organisers employ girls to attend there event (some being prostitutes) who cajole, intice snd play with the guys to get there fee or a cut of the door money, this is well known in the swinging world, single guys know this and as such many have a poor attitude when attending, the fact is that organisers don't want ladies who are choosy to attend x"

Are you saying these men potentially thought I was a prostitute?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the problems with Greedy Girl events is that some of the organisers employ girls to attend there event (some being prostitutes) who cajole, intice snd play with the guys to get there fee or a cut of the door money, this is well known in the swinging world, single guys know this and as such many have a poor attitude when attending, the fact is that organisers don't want ladies who are choosy to attend x

Are you saying these men potentially thought I was a prostitute?"

Sadly some men think that a woman on here on in a club should never say no

They dont understand we have the right to say no as well as them.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"One of the problems with Greedy Girl events is that some of the organisers employ girls to attend there event (some being prostitutes) who cajole, intice snd play with the guys to get there fee or a cut of the door money, this is well known in the swinging world, single guys know this and as such many have a poor attitude when attending, the fact is that organisers don't want ladies who are choosy to attend x

Are you saying these men potentially thought I was a prostitute?

Sadly some men think that a woman on here on in a club should never say no

They dont understand we have the right to say no as well as them.

"

By the way, even prostitutes have the right to say no. Just thought I'd say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the problems with Greedy Girl events is that some of the organisers employ girls to attend there event (some being prostitutes) who cajole, intice snd play with the guys to get there fee or a cut of the door money, this is well known in the swinging world, single guys know this and as such many have a poor attitude when attending, the fact is that organisers don't want ladies who are choosy to attend x

Are you saying these men potentially thought I was a prostitute?

Sadly some men think that a woman on here on in a club should never say no

They dont understand we have the right to say no as well as them.

By the way, even prostitutes have the right to say no. Just thought I'd say."

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By *c69funCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

Every club and party we've attended have always had one common rule which is " no means No " if at anytime something happens that you aren't comfortable with just say no and it should stop , if it doesn't your within your rights to grab him by the balls and squeeze , twist , pull whatever it takes to stop it . That's from a couples view.

From a fair few single guys view but not the majority thankfully their idea is " it's a sex club/site etc so obviously your here to fuck who ever wants to fuck you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So this is a genuine question I have, as although I have been to two Greedy Girl nights, I am still not 100% sure of the unspoken rules and etiquette regarding play.

The first time I went things were winding up as it was getting late, so all that happened was a nice young man gave me oral while two other men sucked my nipples while I gave them hand jobs.

The second time I went it was much earlier and I went to a room which I know to be usually quite quiet, in the hope I could have a nice chat with a couple of guys, bit of a flirt, maybe a relaxed play with no expectations. More and more guys kept coming in and instead of asking my permission to touch me they just did. When I mentioned the lack of asking three or four men chipped in to ask why I was at a Greedy Girls night if I wasn't there to play with everyone.

I guess my question is, if a woman goes to a night like this is she 'obligated' in some way to allow herself to be touched? Do GG nights have different rules to normal club nights? How do you keep yourself safe in a room of horny men if the rules are lax?

Sensible answers only please, and no inboxing- reply here."

You do or allow what you want and not let others tell you otherwise.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Every club and party we've attended have always had one common rule which is " no means No " if at anytime something happens that you aren't comfortable with just say no and it should stop , if it doesn't your within your rights to grab him by the balls and squeeze , twist , pull whatever it takes to stop it . That's from a couples view.

From a fair few single guys view but not the majority thankfully their idea is " it's a sex club/site etc so obviously your here to fuck who ever wants to fuck you " "

Less hyperbole and more practical advice would be useful here. Not every unwanted sexual advance is violent or even painful. I would recommend using equal or lesser force if you want to stay on the right side of the law and general morality.

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By *c69funCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield


"Every club and party we've attended have always had one common rule which is " no means No " if at anytime something happens that you aren't comfortable with just say no and it should stop , if it doesn't your within your rights to grab him by the balls and squeeze , twist , pull whatever it takes to stop it . That's from a couples view.

From a fair few single guys view but not the majority thankfully their idea is " it's a sex club/site etc so obviously your here to fuck who ever wants to fuck you "

Less hyperbole and more practical advice would be useful here. Not every unwanted sexual advance is violent or even painful. I would recommend using equal or lesser force if you want to stay on the right side of the law and general morality. "

So what your saying is if someone be it male , female ,tv , ts or any other combinations says "no I don't want that to happen " yet the person carries on doing what the person has said no to , then they shouldn't use whatever force they like to stop it .

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By *mmaGTV/TS
over a year ago

Bury

Churches are still holding events too.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Every club and party we've attended have always had one common rule which is " no means No " if at anytime something happens that you aren't comfortable with just say no and it should stop , if it doesn't your within your rights to grab him by the balls and squeeze , twist , pull whatever it takes to stop it . That's from a couples view.

From a fair few single guys view but not the majority thankfully their idea is " it's a sex club/site etc so obviously your here to fuck who ever wants to fuck you "

Less hyperbole and more practical advice would be useful here. Not every unwanted sexual advance is violent or even painful. I would recommend using equal or lesser force if you want to stay on the right side of the law and general morality.

So what your saying is if someone be it male , female ,tv , ts or any other combinations says "no I don't want that to happen " yet the person carries on doing what the person has said no to , then they shouldn't use whatever force they like to stop it . "

Only a psychopath would recommend using "whatever force they like" as a general remedy.

Violence would be unreasonable for say someone touching my bum. It would be fine for anything like unwanted penetration or if I was in pain.

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By *taffsfun73Man
over a year ago

Newcastle under lyme

I have only been 1 gg night as i though it might not be fir me but found it to be a good night chatting with a few couples abd watching the fun waiting to be invited or asking and noticed a lot doing the same.

If i was playing and soneone joined a s she asked them not then i would tell them stright that they need to back off i hope the guys you wanted to play witb did the same.

I alway think even if it is just sex you need to look after who you are with like you would a mwmber of your family noone is a piece of meat and would take no pleasure if they other was not 100% willing partner

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By *c69funCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield


"Less hyperbole and more practical advice would be useful here. Not every unwanted sexual advance is violent or even painful. I would recommend using equal or lesser force if you want to stay on the right side of the law and general morality. "

also it doesn't have to be violent or painful to be wrong , if the person says no it means NO to whatever they don't agree to , even in clubs parties or just general public meets , no one has the right to force someone into doing something they don't want to .

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Less hyperbole and more practical advice would be useful here. Not every unwanted sexual advance is violent or even painful. I would recommend using equal or lesser force if you want to stay on the right side of the law and general morality.

also it doesn't have to be violent or painful to be wrong , if the person says no it means NO to whatever they don't agree to , even in clubs parties or just general public meets , no one has the right to force someone into doing something they don't want to . "

Correct! But let's save "grab him by the balls and squeeze , twist , pull whatever it takes to stop it" for a special occasion, eh?

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By *c69funCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield


"within your rights to grab him by the balls and squeeze , twist , pull ((((((whatever it takes to stop it ))))) That's from a couples view.

Only a psychopath would recommend using "whatever force they like" as a general remedy.

Violence would be unreasonable for say someone touching my bum. It would be fine for anything like unwanted penetration or if I was in pain."

((((( Whatever it takes to stop it . )))))) someone who carries on when someone has clearly said no doubt they'll respond to gently ticking their balls some how !

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"within your rights to grab him by the balls and squeeze , twist , pull ((((((whatever it takes to stop it ))))) That's from a couples view.

Only a psychopath would recommend using "whatever force they like" as a general remedy.

Violence would be unreasonable for say someone touching my bum. It would be fine for anything like unwanted penetration or if I was in pain.

((((( Whatever it takes to stop it . )))))) someone who carries on when someone has clearly said no doubt they'll respond to gently ticking their balls some how ! "

What? You're just typing random words now.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"within your rights to grab him by the balls and squeeze , twist , pull ((((((whatever it takes to stop it ))))) That's from a couples view.

Only a psychopath would recommend using "whatever force they like" as a general remedy.

Violence would be unreasonable for say someone touching my bum. It would be fine for anything like unwanted penetration or if I was in pain.

((((( Whatever it takes to stop it . )))))) someone who carries on when someone has clearly said no doubt they'll respond to gently ticking their balls some how ! "

I think you're misunderstanding him.

He is just saying, full-on violence isn't the first step. The response to the unwanted activity should be proportionate.

If they are being verbally hassley, the response should be verbal. If they are touching when not wanted , forcefully remove their hand from you. Stronger, violent reactions are appropriate if the perpetrator continues or it is the only way to stop it.

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By *c69funCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

We've been to plenty of greedy nights and only had the one problem. A guy that tried to sneakily remove his condom while pretending to hold his cock to guide it in.

Always go with someone who looks after you and ensures that only the guys YOU allow can touch or play with you. My hubby is certainly not shy when it comes to telling the guys no. A greedy night is not a free for all, it's for a woman to get what she wants and as much as she wants

It's poorly organised if guys are just wandering around groping whoever they want regardless of whether the lady wants it or not. Choose a better party and enjoy yourself. It's certainly an excellent ego boost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The response to the unwanted activity should be proportionate.

If they are being verbally hassley, the response should be verbal. If they are touching when not wanted , forcefully remove their hand from you. Stronger, violent reactions are appropriate if the perpetrator continues or it is the only way to stop it. "

Precisely.

The Law allows for a PROPORTIONATE use of force.

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By *c69funCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield


"

I think you're misunderstanding him.

He is just saying, full-on violence isn't the first step. The response to the unwanted activity should be proportionate.

If they are being verbally hassley, the response should be verbal. If they are touching when not wanted , forcefully remove their hand from you. Stronger, violent reactions are appropriate if the perpetrator continues or it is the only way to stop it. "

Which is why i said whatever force it takes to stop it. I presumed it being an adult site that people would understand the actions i put were for a serious sexy assault or even worse.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"

I think you're misunderstanding him.

He is just saying, full-on violence isn't the first step. The response to the unwanted activity should be proportionate.

If they are being verbally hassley, the response should be verbal. If they are touching when not wanted , forcefully remove their hand from you. Stronger, violent reactions are appropriate if the perpetrator continues or it is the only way to stop it.

Which is why i said whatever force it takes to stop it. I presumed it being an adult site that people would understand the actions i put were for a serious sexy assault or even worse. "

Nice save.

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By *c69funCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield


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Nice save. "

I know my mistake to presume , especially already knowing some people think no means their playing hard to get .

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By *he_virgin_maryWoman
over a year ago

Here, there and everywhere!

From time to time I enjoy a gg event, I either take my partner to vet the guys and ensure they are using protection or team up with another girl as a wingman.

Other option is to round up a number of guys your happy playing with and lock yourself in a room with them.

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By *ainbowBrite57Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I just want to add that I have found most guys on the scene so respectful. I was playing recently in a room with about 6 guys, one started being a bit rough with me with his hands. As soon as I said that he needed to be gentler the other guys were all looking out for me and after he didn't listen they asked him to leave.

Just wanted to stand up for the high percentage of good guys there are on here

R x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the problems with Greedy Girl events is that some of the organisers employ girls to attend there event (some being prostitutes) who cajole, intice snd play with the guys to get there fee or a cut of the door money, this is well known in the swinging world, single guys know this and as such many have a poor attitude when attending, the fact is that organisers don't want ladies who are choosy to attend x

Are you saying these men potentially thought I was a prostitute?

Sadly some men think that a woman on here on in a club should never say no

They dont understand we have the right to say no as well as them.

By the way, even prostitutes have the right to say no. Just thought I'd say."

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