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Back after 3 years, scared, nervous and excited - any tips ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This isn't an "Oh look at me and say Im pretty post" its a genuine question. Thank you in advance lol

Ive been out of this world for over 3 years in a completely vanilla relationship. I was constantly undermined, knocked back and accused of all sorts - despite being totally loyal. Finally now Im free, and ( for example ) I can now look round a room at people instead of looking at the floor in case I attract attention.

Anyway - this weekend is my first step back into this world at Eureka's. Im excited of course, almost like a happy little puppy, but truth be known Im also a bit nervous because of the confidence bashing Ive had for the last 3 years. Ive a wonderful supportive group of friends going ( plus lovely Eureka staff ) who Ive known from before who know what Ive been through, so Ive people round me - luv em

So my question --

Any tips from those who have had an extended break and come back ? Any hindsight stories to share ? Wish you did it this way / that way etc ?

Densol Milfy is back !! ....... well almost !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all i would say is be your beautiful self , hold your head high and enjoy the occasion xx

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

No tip's,I'm sure you'll be fine. It's just sex,enjoy!

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"all i would say is be your beautiful self , hold your head high and enjoy the occasion xx "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More attention seeking, oh dear

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"More attention seeking, oh dear"

Ive looked at your posting history ..... it takes one to know one !! ( especially the bragging 69 on first date thread of yours ! Lol )

God you sound like a real piece of work ! - remember my user name and avoid any thread I put up = simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More attention seeking, oh dear

Ive looked at your posting history ..... it takes one to know one !! ( especially the bragging 69 on first date thread of yours ! Lol )

God you sound like a real piece of work ! - remember my user name and avoid any thread I put up = simple "

69 on first date??? Erm, no! Read it properly luv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't an "Oh look at me and say Im pretty post" its a genuine question. Thank you in advance lol

Ive been out of this world for over 3 years in a completely vanilla relationship. I was constantly undermined, knocked back and accused of all sorts - despite being totally loyal. Finally now Im free, and ( for example ) I can now look round a room at people instead of looking at the floor in case I attract attention.

Anyway - this weekend is my first step back into this world at Eureka's. Im excited of course, almost like a happy little puppy, but truth be known Im also a bit nervous because of the confidence bashing Ive had for the last 3 years. Ive a wonderful supportive group of friends going ( plus lovely Eureka staff ) who Ive known from before who know what Ive been through, so Ive people round me - luv em

So my question --

Any tips from those who have had an extended break and come back ? Any hindsight stories to share ? Wish you did it this way / that way etc ?

Densol Milfy is back !! ....... well almost ! "
hey youre beautiful so you will get loads of attention and I'm quite sure you will never feel guilty about it hope you enjoy this place x

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Tips ...

. No .

Each to their own .... no two people are the same

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

I'm sure the staff will look after you well. Just go, chat, socialise, be yourself, and keep you head held high.

Your gorgeous so I'm sure you'll get plenty of attention, and you ever fancy doing a club up north....

Xx

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By *arge Hardon ColliderMan
over a year ago

Not far away

I've been away for 3 years too and left for the same reason.

I'm sure you'll be fine like riding a bike.....(Not calling anyone a bike by the way! Ha)

If I was to leave again, I might just leave profile hidden, rather than deleting.

Starting again, with no verifications is a pain (violin music)

Doubt you'll have that problem though

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

I came back after nearly 5yrs a while ago of vanilla life nerve wreaking I tell ya but just jumped back in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't an "Oh look at me and say Im pretty post" its a genuine question. Thank you in advance lol

Ive been out of this world for over 3 years in a completely vanilla relationship. I was constantly undermined, knocked back and accused of all sorts - despite being totally loyal. Finally now Im free, and ( for example ) I can now look round a room at people instead of looking at the floor in case I attract attention.

Anyway - this weekend is my first step back into this world at Eureka's. Im excited of course, almost like a happy little puppy, but truth be known Im also a bit nervous because of the confidence bashing Ive had for the last 3 years. Ive a wonderful supportive group of friends going ( plus lovely Eureka staff ) who Ive known from before who know what Ive been through, so Ive people round me - luv em

So my question --

Any tips from those who have had an extended break and come back ? Any hindsight stories to share ? Wish you did it this way / that way etc ?

Densol Milfy is back !! ....... well almost ! "

Enjoy it all, the hours of getting ready, getting your make up just right and feeling good in that special outfit. Then go with a smile on your face. Confidence is the sexiest outfit and all of the pre preparations help with that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't an "Oh look at me and say Im pretty post" its a genuine question. Thank you in advance lol

Ive been out of this world for over 3 years in a completely vanilla relationship. I was constantly undermined, knocked back and accused of all sorts - despite being totally loyal. Finally now Im free, and ( for example ) I can now look round a room at people instead of looking at the floor in case I attract attention.

Anyway - this weekend is my first step back into this world at Eureka's. Im excited of course, almost like a happy little puppy, but truth be known Im also a bit nervous because of the confidence bashing Ive had for the last 3 years. Ive a wonderful supportive group of friends going ( plus lovely Eureka staff ) who Ive known from before who know what Ive been through, so Ive people round me - luv em

So my question --

Any tips from those who have had an extended break and come back ? Any hindsight stories to share ? Wish you did it this way / that way etc ?

Densol Milfy is back !! ....... well almost !

Enjoy it all, the hours of getting ready, getting your make up just right and feeling good in that special outfit. Then go with a smile on your face. Confidence is the sexiest outfit and all of the pre preparations help with that x"
love your hips/thighs

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

Just do what feels comfy. Kate goes on and off for extended breaks from the lifestyle but I tend to find I try and just be a sounding board for her, because it's easy to get that "kid in a sweet Shop" feeling when you haven't done it for a while. Which is great, but sometimes it can help to have someone as backup.

I'm sure you'll have fun and if friends are around you'll be fine.

Fill yer boots!

D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've come back from a similar break - about for years.

The only thing I'll say is, the chances are that they are just as interested in you as you are in them.

You don't have anything to lose, so you might as well through caution to the wind.

- make sure you look after number one. Never settle for anything less than what you're OK with.

Welcome back though. Maybe I'll catch you at Eureka's or elsewhere? sometime.

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

Pace yourself, remember it is a marathon not a sprint.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Go girl. All the best. X.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Aaaw thank you lovelies, some great tips and stories which gives me inspiration ( apart from one - your a git lol )

Im really excited with butterflies and horny urges all at the same time he he

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully your friends will look after you and it will be like you've never been away. Hope you're recovering from being away from the ex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hopefully your friends will look after you and it will be like you've never been away. Hope you're recovering from being away from the ex. "

Thank you !! Very recent split but very drawn out. My choice - so its huge relief for me xx

I love your profile pic -catches me out every time I see it ! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aaaw thank you lovelies, some great tips and stories which gives me inspiration ( apart from one - your a git lol )

Im really excited with butterflies and horny urges all at the same time he he "

Hey, was going to message privately to apologise...but you've blocked me. I didn't read your full message to being with so made an assumption, totally my fault, I'll. Hold my hands up to that. Great to hear you've bounced back from a difficult relationship and hope you find the confidence you need. All the best to you. Sorry again for being/sounding a little mean and/or insensitive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More attention seeking, oh dear

Ive looked at your posting history ..... it takes one to know one !! ( especially the bragging 69 on first date thread of yours ! Lol )

God you sound like a real piece of work ! - remember my user name and avoid any thread I put up = simple "

well said x

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By *anderer8707Man
over a year ago

Telford

Do you have a friend who could go with you? That way, if you're feeling at all uncomfortable you can still have a conversation, without feeling any kind of pressure.

I know there isn't pressure anyway but I can't think of a better way to put it (sorry)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Aaaw thank you lovelies, some great tips and stories which gives me inspiration ( apart from one - your a git lol )

Im really excited with butterflies and horny urges all at the same time he he

Hey, was going to message privately to apologise...but you've blocked me. I didn't read your full message to being with so made an assumption, totally my fault, I'll. Hold my hands up to that. Great to hear you've bounced back from a difficult relationship and hope you find the confidence you need. All the best to you. Sorry again for being/sounding a little mean and/or insensitive."

Well my friend thats really decent of you to come on here and publically say that so thank you , and I accept your apology ( hand shake )

Ive been to hell and back for the last 3 years. Im excited,nervous, and silly all at the same time ... so excitable posts about my excitement having been made - but the main thing is Im free and relieved and ready to play !

Im easy going and hold no grudges - its cool x

x mwah x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aaaw thank you lovelies, some great tips and stories which gives me inspiration ( apart from one - your a git lol )

Im really excited with butterflies and horny urges all at the same time he he

Hey, was going to message privately to apologise...but you've blocked me. I didn't read your full message to being with so made an assumption, totally my fault, I'll. Hold my hands up to that. Great to hear you've bounced back from a difficult relationship and hope you find the confidence you need. All the best to you. Sorry again for being/sounding a little mean and/or insensitive.

Well my friend thats really decent of you to come on here and publically say that so thank you , and I accept your apology ( hand shake )

Ive been to hell and back for the last 3 years. Im excited,nervous, and silly all at the same time ... so excitable posts about my excitement having been made - but the main thing is Im free and relieved and ready to play !

Im easy going and hold no grudges - its cool x

x mwah x "

No worries chick, I apologise again. Thanks for accepting the apology

I kind of know where you're coming from as I've been in a pretty crappy relationship which lasted three years. Since splitting two years ago life seems loads simpler than walking on eggshells 24/7. Best word of advice I could give you is keep your head up, do what makes you happy and allow those around you to be a part of your life. I did that and I've never been happier.

And by the way...you are stunning chick. You'll be turning heads for all the right reasons. Have a good day hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Scared nooooo date me you'll be fine xx

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over a year ago

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over a year ago


"Aaaw thank you lovelies, some great tips and stories which gives me inspiration ( apart from one - your a git lol )

Im really excited with butterflies and horny urges all at the same time he he

Hey, was going to message privately to apologise...but you've blocked me. I didn't read your full message to being with so made an assumption, totally my fault, I'll. Hold my hands up to that. Great to hear you've bounced back from a difficult relationship and hope you find the confidence you need. All the best to you. Sorry again for being/sounding a little mean and/or insensitive.

Well my friend thats really decent of you to come on here and publically say that so thank you , and I accept your apology ( hand shake )

Ive been to hell and back for the last 3 years. Im excited,nervous, and silly all at the same time ... so excitable posts about my excitement having been made - but the main thing is Im free and relieved and ready to play !

Im easy going and hold no grudges - its cool x

x mwah x "

That was really nice of you to accept his apology hun. I'm gonna come find you this weekend ya lil minx x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Aaaw thank you lovelies, some great tips and stories which gives me inspiration ( apart from one - your a git lol )

Im really excited with butterflies and horny urges all at the same time he he

Hey, was going to message privately to apologise...but you've blocked me. I didn't read your full message to being with so made an assumption, totally my fault, I'll. Hold my hands up to that. Great to hear you've bounced back from a difficult relationship and hope you find the confidence you need. All the best to you. Sorry again for being/sounding a little mean and/or insensitive.

Well my friend thats really decent of you to come on here and publically say that so thank you , and I accept your apology ( hand shake )

Ive been to hell and back for the last 3 years. Im excited,nervous, and silly all at the same time ... so excitable posts about my excitement having been made - but the main thing is Im free and relieved and ready to play !

Im easy going and hold no grudges - its cool x

x mwah x

That was really nice of you to accept his apology hun. I'm gonna come find you this weekend ya lil minx x"

Aaaw thank you sweetie ! He seems a cool guy ! As do you ! Oooh great another one going - looks like its gonna be busy and HOT ! Im feeling more excited than scared now

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Aaaw thank you lovelies, some great tips and stories which gives me inspiration ( apart from one - your a git lol )

Im really excited with butterflies and horny urges all at the same time he he

Hey, was going to message privately to apologise...but you've blocked me. I didn't read your full message to being with so made an assumption, totally my fault, I'll. Hold my hands up to that. Great to hear you've bounced back from a difficult relationship and hope you find the confidence you need. All the best to you. Sorry again for being/sounding a little mean and/or insensitive."

What a top man ! Hats off to you fella for writing that. Obviously densol is my friend so I am biased but I do know what it's like to have a past that gives insecurities too (I know I don't look shy but I am in reality) and I thank you for re-evaluating your opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aaaw thank you lovelies, some great tips and stories which gives me inspiration ( apart from one - your a git lol )

Im really excited with butterflies and horny urges all at the same time he he

Hey, was going to message privately to apologise...but you've blocked me. I didn't read your full message to being with so made an assumption, totally my fault, I'll. Hold my hands up to that. Great to hear you've bounced back from a difficult relationship and hope you find the confidence you need. All the best to you. Sorry again for being/sounding a little mean and/or insensitive.

What a top man ! Hats off to you fella for writing that. Obviously densol is my friend so I am biased but I do know what it's like to have a past that gives insecurities too (I know I don't look shy but I am in reality) and I thank you for re-evaluating your opinion

"

No worries chick and thanks for being kind enough to post your message. Having past relationships which were rocky as crap so I can completely relate to both Densol and yourself in that sense. Bet hey...in a weird way those crap situations make you better, right?

Wish you and Densol were closer

Have a great weekend hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a break for 5 years came back on a few mths back.. I was more exited and couldn't wait to get back to being naughty ... your love it just relax and enjoy every moment

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Aaaw thank you lovelies, some great tips and stories which gives me inspiration ( apart from one - your a git lol )

Im really excited with butterflies and horny urges all at the same time he he

Hey, was going to message privately to apologise...but you've blocked me. I didn't read your full message to being with so made an assumption, totally my fault, I'll. Hold my hands up to that. Great to hear you've bounced back from a difficult relationship and hope you find the confidence you need. All the best to you. Sorry again for being/sounding a little mean and/or insensitive.

What a top man ! Hats off to you fella for writing that. Obviously densol is my friend so I am biased but I do know what it's like to have a past that gives insecurities too (I know I don't look shy but I am in reality) and I thank you for re-evaluating your opinion

No worries chick and thanks for being kind enough to post your message. Having past relationships which were rocky as crap so I can completely relate to both Densol and yourself in that sense. Bet hey...in a weird way those crap situations make you better, right?

Wish you and Densol were closer

Have a great weekend hun x"

Well said it's the past that makes us the people we are today ! Let's just hope we are good people yeah ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aaaw thank you lovelies, some great tips and stories which gives me inspiration ( apart from one - your a git lol )

Im really excited with butterflies and horny urges all at the same time he he

Hey, was going to message privately to apologise...but you've blocked me. I didn't read your full message to being with so made an assumption, totally my fault, I'll. Hold my hands up to that. Great to hear you've bounced back from a difficult relationship and hope you find the confidence you need. All the best to you. Sorry again for being/sounding a little mean and/or insensitive.

What a top man ! Hats off to you fella for writing that. Obviously densol is my friend so I am biased but I do know what it's like to have a past that gives insecurities too (I know I don't look shy but I am in reality) and I thank you for re-evaluating your opinion

No worries chick and thanks for being kind enough to post your message. Having past relationships which were rocky as crap so I can completely relate to both Densol and yourself in that sense. Bet hey...in a weird way those crap situations make you better, right?

Wish you and Densol were closer

Have a great weekend hun x

Well said it's the past that makes us the people we are today ! Let's just hope we are good people yeah ? "

We're good people hun. Good luck to you beautiful x

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By *arren1239Man
over a year ago

nuneaton

First of all really happy you free of being treated badly in your relationship.your a beautiful woman and this site (minus the idiots) will welcome you back with open arms.good luck and most importantly be yourself and enjoy

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Welcome back (from 10 weeks ago)

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"This isn't an "Oh look at me and say Im pretty post" its a genuine question. Thank you in advance lol

Ive been out of this world for over 3 years in a completely vanilla relationship. I was constantly undermined, knocked back and accused of all sorts - despite being totally loyal. Finally now Im free, and ( for example ) I can now look round a room at people instead of looking at the floor in case I attract attention.

Anyway - this weekend is my first step back into this world at Eureka's. Im excited of course, almost like a happy little puppy, but truth be known Im also a bit nervous because of the confidence bashing Ive had for the last 3 years. Ive a wonderful supportive group of friends going ( plus lovely Eureka staff ) who Ive known from before who know what Ive been through, so Ive people round me - luv em

So my question --

Any tips from those who have had an extended break and come back ? Any hindsight stories to share ? Wish you did it this way / that way etc ?

Densol Milfy is back !! ....... well almost ! "

Take your time.

Take things at your pace.

Get to know any potential meets online first.

Spend a while getting to know them. Thay way you will out the weirdos, fantasists and timewasters.

Spell out clearly things you wil not do sexually.

Bin anybody who doesn't treat you with you respect.

Ignore the silly one line messages.

Have fun.

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