FabSwingers.com forum: What do you do if you recognise someone, do you say hi

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Seen a couple of people on here that I see a lot in town, do i say hi or not lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just smile

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By *ipswingCouple
over a year ago

portrush

"Just smile"

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By *hips n FursMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I'd say nothing,normal life is one thing,fab life is totally different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm chatting to a guy I went to school with, he puts his face pic on!

I don't I'm discreet.

I've told him I can't reveal myself due to my job and being discreet etc.

I have assured him I will keep his info discreet

What happens on fab stays on fab in my opinion.

I would never play on my doorstep due to discretion unless it's a hot toyboy who I don't have mutual friends with lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't like it if someone approached me from fab

Its creepy

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I was in a shop with my daughter when I saw a man I had played with. He gave me a discrete wink.

Sally

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

"Seen a couple of people on here that I see a lot in town, do i say hi or not lol"
nope, I've been followed round marks and Spencer by an idiot saying are you really _londiedd

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Seen a couple of people on here that I see a lot in town, do i say hi or not lol"

Why not?

In towns and villages across the UK people say hello to strangers everyday.

If you want to say more then use common sense, if its a crowded place just keep walking after the greeting, if they are in company, keep walking.

Its's not rocket science it is what grown up people do all the time.

Never intrude in a group situation unless you are part of that group or invited.

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By *otwife CoolhubCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate

The etiquette surely has to be a smile or a wink and then if the feeling dictates, drop a message on here.

It'd be quite disarming having someone come up whilst in a shop so I think by far a passing glance is enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few messages saying people have seen me or "Did you work in Cheadle Morrisons??" (I did) and I have to say I'm glad they waited to message rather than say hi, especially since I have face pics but they didnt!

I think a wink if they'll recognise you is decent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would block them and never mention it. If someone I knew from here came up ad spoke to me when I was out and about doing 'real life' stuff I would not be happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone from the site we hadn't met said hi to us in public either you'd have to refer to the site so we'd know how we were meant to know you, which wouldn't be cool, or we'd be wondering whether we were meant to know you so it would be pointless. A smile and a message later would be better. As far as people we've met, more than happy for them to say hi if we're on our own.

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By *omez42Man
over a year ago

gloucester

A smile or a bit of eye contact, but nothing else.

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

id just smile within and never say a word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we'd played with the couple or single male in the past then we'd say hi, if it was someone we recognise from face pics from here then we wouldn't say hi as we wouldn't know them. Simples really.

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By *eanne4funWoman
over a year ago

Walsall

Private life is private life ,

Swinging life is swinging life

Be polite send them message later on here

Think how would feel if you was In that position

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seen a couple of people on here that I see a lot in town, do i say hi or not lol"
say hi and send a few pics

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

I've had 2 people message me over the last couple of years saying the recognise me ( even though I have no face pics ) but that they can't tell me who they are as they need the privacy.

Honestly nothing more infuriating in my opinion. If that's the case then just don't say anything. It's horrible knowing someone you know personally knows you're on here but you don't know who the hell it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No no no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

isn't it great being part of a secret society. If only the normal people knew what went on, we'd all probably be burned at the stake

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By *omersetfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Had a truly horrific (and scary meet) only to realise a few months later he was coursing to one of my friends

*nearly* put me off the whole thing!

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By *omersetfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Glastonbury

*cousin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't like to be approached randomly by someone who recognised me from a photo. If we've met then a friendly hi is fine.

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I would probably see how they reacted first... if it was a wry smile then all good... kind of fun exchanging knowing glances

Would never walk right up and chat... and wouldn't expect them to. You nor they have any idea who might be there too.

Too risky for a "and how do you guys know each other"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a guy we had been chatting to on here at a m6 services. He smiled at us first from a distance, I recognised him from his pics. I gave him a thumbs up and he joined us over our coffee. Was good to meet him and several months later he joined us for a weekend.

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow

"Met a guy we had been chatting to on here at a m6 services. He smiled at us first from a distance, I recognised him from his pics. I gave him a thumbs up and he joined us over our coffee. Was good to meet him and several months later he joined us for a weekend."

You guys have a pretty radical profile... up in Stornaway too!!??

Who said the highlands are quiet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd probably smile and acknowledge them, as you don't know personal preference. I was mortified when someone who knew me from here approached me in Asda whilst i was shopping with my 15year old.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd probably smile and acknowledge them, as you don't know personal preference. I was mortified when someone who knew me from here approached me in Asda whilst i was shopping with my 15year old. "
oh what did you say to them lol if I knew someone and see them out I wouldn't approach them, no way. I would have told them to fuck off I don't know u lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd probably smile and acknowledge them, as you don't know personal preference. I was mortified when someone who knew me from here approached me in Asda whilst i was shopping with my 15year old. oh what did you say to them lol if I knew someone and see them out I wouldn't approach them, no way. I would have told them to fuck off I don't know u lol "

I ushered my son to grab some bread and politely said no offence but my 2 lives are separated I'd appreciate you not coming on to me while I'm with my family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd probably smile and acknowledge them, as you don't know personal preference. I was mortified when someone who knew me from here approached me in Asda whilst i was shopping with my 15year old. oh what did you say to them lol if I knew someone and see them out I wouldn't approach them, no way. I would have told them to fuck off I don't know u lol

I ushered my son to grab some bread and politely said no offence but my 2 lives are separated I'd appreciate you not coming on to me while I'm with my family"
yeah fair play. That's really rude I think. What happens on here should stay on here. Have u been with him and meet on here, or is he on here and just reconised u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I've never played with him, although he's asked on many occasions over the 5 years I've been here. I blocked him in the end, so now every few months I'll receive a Facebook message enquiring after my health. No response is ever given yet he remains undeterred and will try again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I've never played with him, although he's asked on many occasions over the 5 years I've been here. I blocked him in the end, so now every few months I'll receive a Facebook message enquiring after my health. No response is ever given yet he remains undeterred and will try again "
what really! ! That's a stalker u have, what a weirdo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was in a shop with my daughter when I saw a man I had played with. He gave me a discrete wink.

Sally"

This is perfect

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By *awty40_xxWoman
over a year ago

north lanarkshire

A guy approached me a few years ago while i was on here on a different profile, asked if i was (said my first name) and was i on fab.. i was a bit taken aback but turned out i had been speaking to him just didnt recognise him from his pic, was all good in the end but was a bit weird at first

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By *AA123Couple
over a year ago

Lichfield

A potential meet didn't help his chances by showing my OH pictures of herself on our account while we were in McDonald's. A discreet chat would have been better.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd give them a BIG cuddle not lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A guy approached me a few years ago while i was on here on a different profile, asked if i was (said my first name) and was i on fab.. i was a bit taken aback but turned out i had been speaking to him just didnt recognise him from his pic, was all good in the end but was a bit weird at first "
silly you. Probably your boyfriend u been with for years lol

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I saw an amazing, well-known couple off here on holiday in my home town last December.

I walked out the cafe and they were taking selfies overlooking the beach.

I know I just wanted to say "hi" and welcome to the area, and suggest places to his

From their side, it would have looked intrusive and possibly creepy.

I'd never say anything.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Sorry "places to visit" that should say

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By *xrblackbirdMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Yes say hi ask how they are doing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A smile is fine ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We might smile if we had met them more than once

- Mrs. J -

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By *dy-ukTV/TS
over a year ago

Alcester

Ask why they blocked me! LoL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see no harm in smiling or nodding hello.wouldnt try to engage in conversation,but definitely dont see any harm in an acknowledgement.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

I would die of shame and delete my profile asap and pretend someone who used my pics and joined the site...deny deny deny

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Is it is someone i haven't met but recognised from fab i would do nothing.

If it was someone i had met i might smile depending on who i was with but i wouldn't speak to them. I respect people's privacy and try to be discreet. The smile would be an invitation for them to say hi to me if they wanted to

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Much as I've been meeting for years, I'm pretty shy on the whole so unless I knew them well enough to say hello and the situation called for it, I would be walking past reasonably swiftly.

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By *awty40_xxWoman
over a year ago

north lanarkshire

"A guy approached me a few years ago while i was on here on a different profile, asked if i was (said my first name) and was i on fab.. i was a bit taken aback but turned out i had been speaking to him just didnt recognise him from his pic, was all good in the end but was a bit weird at first silly you. Probably your boyfriend u been with for years lol"

I think id know if it was my boyfriend

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By *inky CyclerMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I was at a party and had some fun with one of the female guests who works for a big retail chain I use weekly and I recognised her straight away but kept a discreet silence given she was at work. She still works there but appears not to be on FAB anymore.

Another time I was in a friend's shop when a man walked in and I thought I know him from somewhere then a few seconds later his partner walked in and it was a girl I'd met a few weeks previously in the same shop for a few hours of naughty Sunday retail therapy but without his knowledge but he knew me from when I'd met the pair of them. As she left the shop I had a single word text from her saying "memories

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The loving caring inocent butter wouldn't melt in her mouth local woman is on here and no her hubby doesn't know and I did say hello then goodbye lol

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By *llNatural36FWoman
over a year ago

Denbighshire

"Seen a couple of people on here that I see a lot in town, do i say hi or not lol

Why not?

In towns and villages across the UK people say hello to strangers everyday.

If you want to say more then use common sense, if its a crowded place just keep walking after the greeting, if they are in company, keep walking.

Its's not rocket science it is what grown up people do all the time.

Never intrude in a group situation unless you are part of that group or invited."

this for me

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By *orseydaveMan
over a year ago

Norwich NR5

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say a word.

I actually have an ex work mate on here, she doesn't know I'm aware, and I'm certainly not going to tell her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey thanks to everyone for your replies to my question, some scary, some funny , but as long as everyone stays safe x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I recognised someone I knew I'd just keep quiet about it. Most people prefer to be discreet about this kind of thing. If it was someone I felt close enough to, then sure. It's nice to have a friend who understands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't say a word.

I actually have an ex work mate on here, she doesn't know I'm aware, and I'm certainly not going to tell her. "

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Seen a couple of people on here that I see a lot in town, do i say hi or not lol"

Hopefully you will respect them,pass on by and say nothing.

Maybe a message on fabs later if they are interested then all is good.

If not respect their wishes and leave them alone.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Do and say nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long as they are discreet, I wouldn't mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking about it..... just send a message on here later on. Explain you didn't want to make it obvious in public.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seen a couple of people on here that I see a lot in town, do i say hi or not lol"
I go up to them and give them a I know you name badge

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

Depends if I want to fuck them or not : )

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By *irthyMan
over a year ago

outside banbury

So depends on many things - I enjoyed a GB some years ago and didnt see the lady again until quite some time after we happened to be in a pub on a sunday on two consecutive weekends. First time subtle knowing glance - second week a smirk and grin - both times she was with a partner and i was with mates or kids. Discretion is paramount in this and also realising that this is a very separate part of peoples lives and lines shouldnt be crossed unless invited to....

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By *ouplelookingforadultfunCouple
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

Saw someone in our village on here, as she had face pics on her profile.

Known her for years.

Not said a word as her private life is just that... Private!!

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

I'd say nothing. Lots (most?) people would take it as an invasion of their privacy being approached in everyday life.

As someone else has said, at most, send a pm on here explaining you saw them but wanted to be discreet.

Problem is, their are some oddballs on here, people don't necessarily want to be known , in case the other person uses it against them in some way.

Also remember, just because you happen to be there doesn't really mean anything anyway. If they want a local guy, they can do a who's near.

It is difficult. But overall, I'd say do nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually had this issue a few years back when I ran into a couple I use to meet while I was working near their home. They had their kids with them so me being me just nodded at them as they passed me. Got a text from them later on saying thanks for not being a cretin and doing that. I've heard crazy about people coming up to people they've met who've had family etc with them asking for meets. That in my opinion is a cretin and doesn't know what swinging actually is about.

King

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Having been approached in town with an "I know you from fab you're Georgie aren't you?!" I found it really creepy and intrusive to be honest a subtle nod or wink with a message on fab later would be appropriate .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

carry on walking ...private life and swinging dont mix in our life so respect and be discrete is a must

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