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"Sounds like he only wanted a quick peek at your friends only pics then maybe decided you're not for him after all " that's fine but a simple yes or no is acceptable it's just rude | |||
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"Or maybe he just didn't fancy you. Single men have choices too. " What blaspemy is this? Single men have take whatever they're given and say thank you, everyone knows that. | |||
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Now if this topic was created by a single guy the answer would be 'move on, you must not be their cup of tea'. | |||
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"Imagine if single men replied to all the messages they receive
Now if this topic was created by a single guy the answer would be 'move on, you must not be their cup of tea'. " | |||
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"Just had a friend request off a guy who wants meet us later in chamms accepted him then he deletes us then when I question why blocks us no wonder single men get ignored due to idiots like him !!!" So you will now ignore other single men because of him? Really  | |||
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"Agree Manners cost nothing " thank you someone who gets my point | |||
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"Just had a friend request off a guy who wants meet us later in chamms accepted him then he deletes us then when I question why blocks us no wonder single men get ignored due to idiots like him !!! So you will now ignore other single men because of him? Really "did I say I ignore single men no I said no wonder they get ignored observation by how many moan I always reply or say no thank you | |||
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"Cant believe so many guys on here let people down.. well actually thats a lie I can believe it.. gives the rest of us single guys a bad name.. " | |||
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"maybe he knew you ??" that did cross my mind but I don't recognise him as I said his choice just be polite | |||
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"Or maybe he just didn't fancy you. Single men have choices too. What blaspemy is this? Single men have take whatever they're given and say thank you, everyone knows that." Im sure it is in the FAQ somewhere. All single men must be grateful for any attention they may get, even if they dont fancy the couple/single fem. God help them if they upset someone and a thread needs to be started  | |||
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"Or maybe he just didn't fancy you. Single men have choices too. What blaspemy is this? Single men have take whatever they're given and say thank you, everyone knows that. Im sure it is in the FAQ somewhere. All single men must be grateful for any attention they may get, even if they dont fancy the couple/single fem. God help them if they upset someone and a thread needs to be started "it's a forum for me to posthe wotever no need for you to comment if you don't like thee thread | |||
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"Could be any number of reasons but sounds like a picture collector. We only friend people after we have met them as a way to keep in touch." I usually do that my mistake x | |||
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"Just had a friend request off a guy who wants meet us later in chamms accepted him then he deletes us then when I question why blocks us no wonder single men get ignored due to idiots like him !!! So you will now ignore other single men because of him? Really did I say I ignore single men no I said no wonder they get ignored observation by how many moan I always reply or say no thank you "He's the sort that gives single guys on here a bad name! Btw, you look like you have great legs! Get in touch!   | |||
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"Just had a friend request off a guy who wants meet us later in chamms accepted him then he deletes us then when I question why blocks us no wonder single men get ignored due to idiots like him !!! So you will now ignore other single men because of him? Really did I say I ignore single men no I said no wonder they get ignored observation by how many moan I always reply or say no thank you
He's the sort that gives single guys on here a bad name!
Btw, you look like you have great legs! Get in touch! "well thank you x | |||
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"Sounds like he only wanted a quick peek at your friends only pics then maybe decided you're not for him after all that's fine but a simple yes or no is acceptable it's just rude" Not really...is pretty much the norm for, single ladies, when letting someone know they're not interested so....  | |||
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"You have two pics that are of your legs lovely legs granted but he may have wanted to see the rest of you like others have said and it turns out you weren't for him, as for for asking why? men get beat down all the time on here for asking why as we all know we don't like the hassle or grief that comes from said question. " I'd already sent a photo before the friends request | |||
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"Just had a friend request off a guy who wants meet us later in chamms accepted him then he deletes us then when I question why blocks us no wonder single men get ignored due to idiots like him !!!" Probably you're not his type then he couldn't be arsed explaining his reason for deleting you so just blocked you. It's probably more lazy than rude so don't let it bother you too much. | |||
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"no wonder single men get ignored due to idiots like him !!!" Indeed, us single guys are a monoculture after all... | |||
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"OP I completely agree with where you are coming from. I understand that certain people/ couples will receive ridiculous amounts of mail so replying to everyone is impossible. But in your instance is sounds like you had sent each other several messages so a simple oh your not really for me but good luck in your search type of message would of took seconds to write. The complete lack of manners from some on here is astounding as is the amount of keyboard warriors. What you have described happens to me on average about once a week. Just be grateful you didn't meet him, 100's of genuine single males on here myself included." thank you exactaly what I was saying x | |||
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"Just had a friend request off a guy who wants meet us later in chamms accepted him then he deletes us then when I question why blocks us no wonder single men get ignored due to idiots like him !!! Probably you're not his type then he couldn't be arsed explaining his reason for deleting you so just blocked you. It's probably more lazy than rude so don't let it bother you too much." | |||
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"Just had a friend request off a guy who wants meet us later in chamms accepted him then he deletes us then when I question why blocks us no wonder single men get ignored due to idiots like him !!! So you will now ignore other single men because of him? Really did I say I ignore single men no I said no wonder they get ignored observation by how many moan I always reply or say no thank you
He's the sort that gives single guys on here a bad name!
Btw, you look like you have great legs! Get in touch! well thank you x"More than welcome! Inbox me! x | |||
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"Sounds like he only wanted a quick peek at your friends only pics then maybe decided you're not for him after all that's fine but a simple yes or no is acceptable it's just rude" Then he might get abuse like we get abuse, single men can pick and choose aswell, sometimes its easier just blocking | |||
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"Sounds like he only wanted a quick peek at your friends only pics then maybe decided you're not for him after all that's fine but a simple yes or no is acceptable it's just rude Then he might get abuse like we get abuse, single men can pick and choose aswell, sometimes its easier just blocking" not from us but we weren't given the chance | |||
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"Sounds like he only wanted a quick peek at your friends only pics then maybe decided you're not for him after all that's fine but a simple yes or no is acceptable it's just rude Then he might get abuse like we get abuse, single men can pick and choose aswell, sometimes its easier just blockingnot from us but we weren't given the chance " He doesnt know that though, from experience he probably has had abuse. | |||
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"No one has to explain anything to anyone on here. It's been made quite clear by admin. That applies to single men too. " well well thank you for making that clear I know this I'm entitled to rant my opinion on here anyway!!! | |||
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"Oh the irony. I have many no reason deletions. I think only two women have replied with a short no thank you, for which I thanked them for their courtesy and left them alone. A man deletes for no reason and it's grab your torch and pitchforks! "hold on you don't like being ignored neither do I I'm going off my own experience not everyone elses | |||
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"Oooo 2 blocks in one day wooop" I block people so I don't waste time checking their profile again when it's clear that we won't ever meet. Or if someone starts pestering me asking "Why? " OP,you've got your answers. There 's absolutely no need to tarnish single guys. Apart from numbers on this site, we are all equal to single ladies and couples in terms of rights and preferences.. Just move on. | |||
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"Oh the irony. I have many no reason deletions. I think only two women have replied with a short no thank you, for which I thanked them for their courtesy and left them alone. A man deletes for no reason and it's grab your torch and pitchforks! " | |||
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"No one has to explain anything to anyone on here. It's been made quite clear by admin. That applies to single men too. " | |||
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"Oooo 2 blocks in one day wooop I block people so I don't waste time checking their profile again when it's clear that we won't ever meet. Or if someone starts pestering me asking "Why? " OP,you've got your answers. There 's absolutely no need to tarnish single guys. Apart from numbers on this site, we are all equal to single ladies and couples in terms of rights and preferences.. Just move on. " who the .... is tarnishing single guys I'm having a opinion ffs | |||
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".... no wonder single men get ignored due to idiots like him !!!" I beg your pardon! If one was to say the above phrase about you, you may find the word "tarnish" rather mild. | |||
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"I might be wrong, but it would appear he approached the OP first, so after he saw the pics, obviously he couldn't see a connection, so in this case, a polite, no, he'd decided not to meet after all, may have been better. If they had approached him first and they weren't to his taste, then a delete and block wouldn't be seen as rude. "exactly | |||
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"OP, it's clear from your responses on this thread that you cannot accept no for an answer. You argue with everyone who tells you their opinion. No wonder the man blocked you. And rightly so (in my opinion ). So I'll do likewise. All the best to you. " | |||
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"OP, it's clear from your responses on this thread that you cannot accept no for an answer. You argue with everyone who tells you their opinion. No wonder the man blocked you. And rightly so (in my opinion ). So I'll do likewise. All the best to you. " look who's attacking now | |||
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"In the opening post, the single guy wanted to meet them in a club and then changed his mind, perfectly acceptable, I think in this case, he could have said he'd changed his mind, however I wouldn't have asked him why that was. "all I asked is why he send a friends request then 5 mins later deleted us a simile question off why | |||
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"No one has to explain anything to anyone on here. It's been made quite clear by admin. That applies to single men too. well well thank you for making that clear I know this I'm entitled to rant my opinion on here anyway!!!" Ranting is not accepted either, if you read other threads. You're supposed to suck it up and get on with looking for suitable people. I don't accept friend requests from anyone, unless I have met or talk to them regularly by private message. It means no one can wank over my pics -not that I have any worth wanking over. Those who want to see my face get sent a pic attached to a message. I have had one person look and ignore me afterwards. It's no big deal, it means he didn't find me attractive. On here, ignoring , blocking and deleting are not seen as rude, just a time saving exercise, apparently. Some people don't like to tell people they aren't attracted to them and block instead. Don't take it personally. | |||
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"In the opening post, the single guy wanted to meet them in a club and then changed his mind, perfectly acceptable, I think in this case, he could have said he'd changed his mind, however I wouldn't have asked him why that was. all I asked is why he send a friends request then 5 mins later deleted us a simile question off why"Some people can't bring themselves to say they don't fancy you; it's very difficult. Although, I wouldn't agree to meeting someone anywhere -or even discuss it - before seeing a face pic and having plenty of dialogue. | |||
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"Could be any number of reasons but sounds like a picture collector. We only friend people after we have met them as a way to keep in touch." Exactly what I do now | |||
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"In the opening post, the single guy wanted to meet them in a club and then changed his mind, perfectly acceptable, I think in this case, he could have said he'd changed his mind, however I wouldn't have asked him why that was. all I asked is why he send a friends request then 5 mins later deleted us a simile question off why"I'm agreeing with you in this instance, he wanted to meet you in Chams and changes his mind, which he's entitled to do, so I would have thought he could have said he'd changed his mind and then deleted. | |||
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"Imagine if single men replied to all the messages they receive
Now if this topic was created by a single guy the answer would be 'move on, you must not be their cup of tea'. "^^^Exactly this, imagine the backlash they would have received, but if it is a couple or a single woman it is oh there there, it is his loss  | |||
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"I'm guessing one or other of the two parties won't be going to Chams later now .... He would have been so much better off saying thanks but no thanks so there wouldn't have been any awkwardness if the op and he went later . Shame ." Exactly this | |||
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"No one has to explain anything to anyone on here. It's been made quite clear by admin. That applies to single men too. " | |||
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"Imagine if single men replied to all the messages they receive
Now if this topic was created by a single guy the answer would be 'move on, you must not be their cup of tea'.
^^^Exactly this, imagine the backlash they would have received, but if it is a couple or a single woman it is oh there there, it is his loss "Surely you're not suggesting there might some sort of "double standard" at work here? *clutches pearls* | |||
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I don't think there's any excuse for that kind of behaviour.
We are all adults and a little bit of courtesy to say, thanks but you're not for me would go a long way
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" Interesting to see this happen to a couple for a change
I don't think there's any excuse for that kind of behaviour.
We are all adults and a little bit of courtesy to say, thanks but you're not for me would go a long way
Civility costs nothing "Think it can happen to anyone on here. I just think as he instigated contact, then changed his mind, he could have just said so, doesn't have to give a reason. | |||
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"Oh the irony. I have many no reason deletions. I think only two women have replied with a short no thank you, for which I thanked them for their courtesy and left them alone. A man deletes for no reason and it's grab your torch and pitchforks! hold on you don't like being ignored neither do I I'm going off my own experience not everyone elses"Nobody likes being ignored but on here it's an occupational hazard. Welcome to my world! | |||
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"Imagine if single men replied to all the messages they receive
Now if this topic was created by a single guy the answer would be 'move on, you must not be their cup of tea'. "This was my msg to "someone"... Hello. Great profile. So, no cock pic, have tasteful pics and am a great conversationalist...respectful too...my name's xxxx And then she kindly blocked me... I give up... | |||
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"In the opening post, the single guy wanted to meet them in a club and then changed his mind, perfectly acceptable, I think in this case, he could have said he'd changed his mind, however I wouldn't have asked him why that was. all I asked is why he send a friends request then 5 mins later deleted us a simile question off why"Sod him. Inbox me instead... | |||
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"Imagine if single men replied to all the messages they receive
Now if this topic was created by a single guy the answer would be 'move on, you must not be their cup of tea'.
This was my msg to "someone"...
Hello. Great profile. So, no cock pic, have tasteful pics and am a great conversationalist...respectful too...my name's xxxx
And then she kindly blocked me...
I give up...
"And what's wrong with that? You sent her an unsolicited message, and she wasn't interested in you. To make sure neither your time or her time was wasted any further, she blocked you. The system works. | |||
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"Just had a friend request off a guy who wants meet us later in chamms accepted him then he deletes us then when I question why blocks us no wonder single men get ignored due to idiots like him !!!" Maybe don't accept random friend rewquests with out a bit of checkin first? | |||
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"Oh the irony. I have many no reason deletions. I think only two women have replied with a short no thank you, for which I thanked them for their courtesy and left them alone. A man deletes for no reason and it's grab your torch and pitchforks! "There's plenty of threads slating women for not replying | |||
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" Interesting to see this happen to a couple for a change
I don't think there's any excuse for that kind of behaviour.
We are all adults and a little bit of courtesy to say, thanks but you're not for me would go a long way
Civility costs nothing
Think it can happen to anyone on here. I just think as he instigated contact, then changed his mind, he could have just said so, doesn't have to give a reason. "Yep totally agree hey it's also ok to chat on here lol I never take the hump, still think loads of people are cool that didn't click with. It could happen on my side too. Also appreciate the point about ladies getting loads of volume and I think that's a shame because it must be really diffcult to not get into an assembly line mentality where you are trying to sift through. It kind of takes away the space to engage with anyone meaningfully | |||
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"Oh the irony. I have many no reason deletions. I think only two women have replied with a short no thank you, for which I thanked them for their courtesy and left them alone. A man deletes for no reason and it's grab your torch and pitchforks!
There's plenty of threads slating women for not replying"I think you mean there are plenty of threads where a single guy complains about women not replying and gets torn to shreds by a horde of women and couples for daring to speak up. | |||
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"In the opening post, the single guy wanted to meet them in a club and then changed his mind, perfectly acceptable, I think in this case, he could have said he'd changed his mind, however I wouldn't have asked him why that was. all I asked is why he send a friends request then 5 mins later deleted us a simile question off why
Sod him. Inbox me instead... "Assuming you've not read their profile since you're complaining about people who wont meet Asians on another thread | |||
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"Oh the irony. I have many no reason deletions. I think only two women have replied with a short no thank you, for which I thanked them for their courtesy and left them alone. A man deletes for no reason and it's grab your torch and pitchforks!
There's plenty of threads slating women for not replying
I think you mean there are plenty of threads where a single guy complains about women not replying and gets torn to shreds by a horde of women and couples for daring to speak up."Imagine women having an opinion.  | |||
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"In the opening post, the single guy wanted to meet them in a club and then changed his mind, perfectly acceptable, I think in this case, he could have said he'd changed his mind, however I wouldn't have asked him why that was. all I asked is why he send a friends request then 5 mins later deleted us a simile question off why"A simple answer is that he sent the friends request so he could see your friends only pics. He saw the pics and decided he didnt want to meet you. He then blocked you to avoid getting messeges from you asking why etc. | |||
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"if he arranged to meet you i think he should've said he'd changed his mind." Yes, that's what I was trying to get at. | |||
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"if he arranged to meet you i think he should've said he'd changed his mind. Yes, that's what I was trying to get at. "Samiss, he could have simply sent a message saying no thanks.. It's just manners really.. It's like somebody saying you can't wear a sarong in 2x2 on nude night..  | |||
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"if he arranged to meet you i think he should've said he'd changed his mind. Yes, that's what I was trying to get at.
Samiss, he could have simply sent a message saying no thanks.. It's just manners really.. It's like somebody saying you can't wear a sarong in 2x2 on nude night.. "If he had sent you a messege saying no thanks would you have accepted it ? | |||
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"if he arranged to meet you i think he should've said he'd changed his mind. Yes, that's what I was trying to get at.
Samiss, he could have simply sent a message saying no thanks.. It's just manners really.. It's like somebody saying you can't wear a sarong in 2x2 on nude night.. "Absolutely guys Hehe xx | |||
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"if he arranged to meet you i think he should've said he'd changed his mind. Yes, that's what I was trying to get at.
Samiss, he could have simply sent a message saying no thanks.. It's just manners really.. It's like somebody saying you can't wear a sarong in 2x2 on nude night..
Absolutely guys Hehe xx" | |||
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"if he arranged to meet you i think he should've said he'd changed his mind. Yes, that's what I was trying to get at.
Samiss, he could have simply sent a message saying no thanks.. It's just manners really.. It's like somebody saying you can't wear a sarong in 2x2 on nude night..
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"if he arranged to meet you i think he should've said he'd changed his mind. Yes, that's what I was trying to get at. "yeah they could've been waiting for him at chams and even turned down other offers because of him. if nothing had been planned then fair enough, no need to say anything. | |||
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"if he arranged to meet you i think he should've said he'd changed his mind. Yes, that's what I was trying to get at.
yeah they could've been waiting for him at chams and even turned down other offers because of him.
if nothing had been planned then fair enough, no need to say anything." | |||
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) , anyway he replied he was Bi , I said his profile stated he was straight and anyway he was still a single male , to which he replied I'm just another time waster and blocked me , WTF , I was just stating the facts , anyway f**k it who cares I'm sure I'll survive | |||
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"This is spooky , I just finished reading this thread , and went back to paruse my page for a message off a guy who was quite complimentary ( to start with ) , however I replied that he should have read my profile as it says I don't meet single guys ( sorry don't hate me for that ) , anyway he replied he was Bi , I said his profile stated he was straight and anyway he was still a single male , to which he replied I'm just another time waster and blocked me , WTF , I was just stating the facts , anyway f**k it who cares I'm sure I'll survive "Maybe he's unsure himself | |||
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"This is spooky , I just finished reading this thread , and went back to paruse my page for a message off a guy who was quite complimentary ( to start with ) , however I replied that he should have read my profile as it says I don't meet single guys ( sorry don't hate me for that ) , anyway he replied he was Bi , I said his profile stated he was straight and anyway he was still a single male , to which he replied I'm just another time waster and blocked me , WTF , I was just stating the facts , anyway f**k it who cares I'm sure I'll survive "Another case of people not reading profiles and they wonder why, in this case, we delete and block! | |||
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