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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So when I started this whole thing about 3 years ago I had lots of different experiences and adventures. Ticked many things off my fantasy list which still make me amazed and delighted that I did them and still meet a few of my fab favourites every so often. The thing is, in the last 6 months or so, Ive lost all interest in meeting anybody new. Cant be arsed with the messages from lads trying their luck, dont even have my profile on show most of the time. Im still open to chatting to people who might spark my interest but its few and far between. Have I just become really lazy or have a had enough?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean...didn't you meet some lad in a supermarket a few months back, or am I mixing you up with someone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So when I started this whole thing about 3 years ago I had lots of different experiences and adventures. Ticked many things off my fantasy list which still make me amazed and delighted that I did them and still meet a few of my fab favourites every so often. The thing is, in the last 6 months or so, Ive lost all interest in meeting anybody new. Cant be arsed with the messages from lads trying their luck, dont even have my profile on show most of the time. Im still open to chatting to people who might spark my interest but its few and far between. Have I just become really lazy or have a had enough? "

I am exactly like you

I can't be arsed

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We find it comes in peaks and troughs for us. We're currently really active on the site and visiting clubs pretty regularly. Other times we feel a bit jaded by it so just don't bother.

Do you meet up / chat with your existing Fab friends or are you just not into engaging with anyone at the moment? I think once you've been a swinger, you'll always have that in you. So to speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So when I started this whole thing about 3 years ago I had lots of different experiences and adventures. Ticked many things off my fantasy list which still make me amazed and delighted that I did them and still meet a few of my fab favourites every so often. The thing is, in the last 6 months or so, Ive lost all interest in meeting anybody new. Cant be arsed with the messages from lads trying their luck, dont even have my profile on show most of the time. Im still open to chatting to people who might spark my interest but its few and far between. Have I just become really lazy or have a had enough? "
you've had enough their comes a time when you want something more personal maybe you've hit that milestone

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

I think being a swinger is as much a mindset than anything else.

We all have times when we aren't as active as others. If you haven't changed you opinions on it, are still open to it when you feel like it..then you are still a swinger.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i never was a swinger but i cba any more either.

i never did like the chancers anyway, but now i just see everyone as transparent now and wanting an easy fuck and i don't wanna be easy.

at least my sex addiction seems cured.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"So when I started this whole thing about 3 years ago I had lots of different experiences and adventures. Ticked many things off my fantasy list which still make me amazed and delighted that I did them and still meet a few of my fab favourites every so often. The thing is, in the last 6 months or so, Ive lost all interest in meeting anybody new. Cant be arsed with the messages from lads trying their luck, dont even have my profile on show most of the time. Im still open to chatting to people who might spark my interest but its few and far between. Have I just become really lazy or have a had enough? "

Similar situation as me except I'm too busy not too lazy. I'm still a swinger but with a small s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like it's time to move on OP

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

I go through similar times where I can't be arsed. But the again I rarely use Fab to initiate contact, I normally use it to keep in touch with people I meet in clubs. If I get to the point where I can't be arsed I stay in for a couple of weeks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know what you mean...didn't you meet some lad in a supermarket a few months back, or am I mixing you up with someone else?"
The young lad in my local shop Think I scared him to death but nothing ever happened lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think being a swinger is as much a mindset than anything else.

We all have times when we aren't as active as others. If you haven't changed you opinions on it, are still open to it when you feel like it..then you are still a swinger. "
And this is how I feel. Have never been after the emotional connection and have been working loads lately. Im still a filthy minded sexual explorer! Just not as active x

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"So when I started this whole thing about 3 years ago I had lots of different experiences and adventures. Ticked many things off my fantasy list which still make me amazed and delighted that I did them and still meet a few of my fab favourites every so often. The thing is, in the last 6 months or so, Ive lost all interest in meeting anybody new. Cant be arsed with the messages from lads trying their luck, dont even have my profile on show most of the time. Im still open to chatting to people who might spark my interest but its few and far between. Have I just become really lazy or have a had enough? "

Just because you cannot be arsed with the idiots on this site does not mean you are not a swinger.

You are what you want to be and it's as simple as that.

Also don't worry about labels, they are arbitrary. Just do whatever the hell you want to do and forget what it's called.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd far rather have an erotic fling, a genuine scintillating affair bubbling with sexual chemistry but which we both keep in a box and which I'm transparent about with my partner. I'm done with the whole being fake and being out of a porno thing... not that I was ever into it.

For me swinging comes more naturally after that initial thrilling intimacy has been set up and we look to explore more kinky adventures involving our partners.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I know where you're coming from. Don't you think the 'standard' of guys has got worse? I think we joined at the same time roughly. Fab has changed a bit in that time I think..... x

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By *hropshire irishMan
over a year ago

Shropshire


"Also don't worry about labels, they are arbitrary. Just do whatever the hell you want to do and forget what it's called."

Too right. Don't worry about if you can be labelled a swinger or not. Everyone has a life, more important things come along, or just bloody work, to distract us. Just have fun when and how you want it and the rest doesn't matter. And if you're lucky to have some fab favorites to call on you obviously aren't in desperate need to go through the hassle of churning through the time-wasters looking for new people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know where you're coming from. Don't you think the 'standard' of guys has got worse? I think we joined at the same time roughly. Fab has changed a bit in that time I think..... x"

I've only been here two and a half years (on and off) and I've noticed it's got worse. Too many silhouette profiles or just with their dicks out, demanding 'NSA sex'. The result of too much porn methinks, coupled with the 'on demand' Netflix mentality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well such a shame as in our hotlist, the dream dies here!

Yes we all get to a point sometimes when we just can't be bothered, it's a faze and doesn't last too long with us....

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm never a fan of labels or fitting anyone into a neat category. My interests are fairly wide, some of my pursuits I may not repeat much, if at all.

But I have learned that I'm not constant in my interests - sexually and otherwise.

Be free and enjoy your life now as you like to. Tomorrow's not arrived yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel I have had enough too. I like to chat etc and meet for coffee but not really wanting to swing atm

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Was that behind Morrison's?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't been on fab that long. So, can't tell if the quality of people has gone down, I've learnt to stick to events/clubs and the forum chat for genuine people - if I wanted nsa sex, I'd go to the bar or club and pick someone up.

I don't know if once a swingers always a swinger. I can see why having something more inmate with someone worth a damn is appealing, at least that way you aren't someone(s) sex toy to use whenever the mood takes them.

On the other had getting up to all sorts of dirty and naughty shit is fun. It's given me some very found and funny memories that should go into a book one day.

You could argue it's a case of the grass is greener on the other side. It really just boils down to what are you after in your life really?...(slightly deep but I find it best to take the bull by the horns).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know where you're coming from. Don't you think the 'standard' of guys has got worse? I think we joined at the same time roughly. Fab has changed a bit in that time I think..... x"

Fab has sadly changed loads (been on for over 9 1/2 years)...many just wish to collect the pictures stored away for "friends only", they never intend to meet... Or even (OMG) read a profile... We love to enjoy and have fun but more and more it is difficult ..but then again there are the clubs to enjoy but these have limits as well

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I know where you're coming from. Don't you think the 'standard' of guys has got worse? I think we joined at the same time roughly. Fab has changed a bit in that time I think..... x

I've only been here two and a half years (on and off) and I've noticed it's got worse. Too many silhouette profiles or just with their dicks out, demanding 'NSA sex'. The result of too much porn methinks, coupled with the 'on demand' Netflix mentality."

This is hilarious.

The flip side to this is that you could argue that the decency of the women has decreased and they spend more time worrying about the state of males and making thinly veiled misandrist comments and less time working to find the good people like everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know where you're coming from. Don't you think the 'standard' of guys has got worse? I think we joined at the same time roughly. Fab has changed a bit in that time I think..... x

I've only been here two and a half years (on and off) and I've noticed it's got worse. Too many silhouette profiles or just with their dicks out, demanding 'NSA sex'. The result of too much porn methinks, coupled with the 'on demand' Netflix mentality.

This is hilarious.

The flip side to this is that you could argue that the decency of the women has decreased and they spend more time worrying about the state of males and making thinly veiled misandrist comments and less time working to find the good people like everyone else."

I do wonder if it's a bit of a self fulfilling prophecy sometimes.

I consider myself a decent bloke but if I come across someone who seems excessively cynical, whether on here, their status or their profile then I move on.

The ones that won't are the ones who didn't bother to look at anything but the pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some one emailed us the other day and I got back to them and said that we weren't terribly active of late but still up for it now and again.

The real reason was they were not our type to be honest but they had the cheek to come back to us and say that we should remove our profile from the website as we were wasting peoples time with an active profile on the site.

I didn't bother replying because I might get into a silly cyber argument over it but what I wanted to send back was

"Why don't you go and mind your own fffing business. It's our choice as to how we use this website so up yours LOL."

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By *iss InnocenceWoman
over a year ago

Coventry/Bristol

Am the same OP not met on my single profile for a year now,Jst a few times on my couples profile

Jst happy talking to the few friends I made on here ov the last 2 years and talking in the forums

Still waiting for someone to grab my attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So when I started this whole thing about 3 years ago I had lots of different experiences and adventures. Ticked many things off my fantasy list which still make me amazed and delighted that I did them and still meet a few of my fab favourites every so often. The thing is, in the last 6 months or so, Ive lost all interest in meeting anybody new. Cant be arsed with the messages from lads trying their luck, dont even have my profile on show most of the time. Im still open to chatting to people who might spark my interest but its few and far between. Have I just become really lazy or have a had enough? "

Same here. I've just left another similar site, for this reason. Fab is paid up until September but I predict the motivation won't be there, to keep it going.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I know where you're coming from. Don't you think the 'standard' of guys has got worse? I think we joined at the same time roughly. Fab has changed a bit in that time I think..... x

I've only been here two and a half years (on and off) and I've noticed it's got worse. Too many silhouette profiles or just with their dicks out, demanding 'NSA sex'. The result of too much porn methinks, coupled with the 'on demand' Netflix mentality.

This is hilarious.

The flip side to this is that you could argue that the decency of the women has decreased and they spend more time worrying about the state of males and making thinly veiled misandrist comments and less time working to find the good people like everyone else."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get peaks and troughs. The last one took a while longer. Things have changed outside of fab and that has an impact on the time i can put in and the energy i want to invest.

But, i'm still horny and I met enough good ones to keep in touch. I changed my profile a bit. Deleted the one liners. And made plans

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

The time wasters suck the enthusiasm out of you. Just now and again someone pops up and it's like a breath of fresh air.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I don't think being a swinger means you have to find new people all the time. If you already have a few good reliable friends you fuck with and make you happy keep enjoying fucking them and new adventures with them. Swinging is supposed to be fun. If the grind of meeting new people is getting you down give it a break. Doesn't mean your not a swinger.

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

well we must be in a minority on here .we love the site [we know most of you dont]for us its a chance to see what others are up to.and select who we would like to hook up with.we are regular chamers and chat with lots that we dont play with there .we live a normal life day to day.but will all ways play the swinging game when we want to.the thing is fab is not a dating site with hearts and flowers .it is a site for like minded folks to get together .so sadly some guys think its a poke and run with easy females site .[they not swingers]just trying there luck.we love the single fab girls .know what they want and when they want it.top respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who recently joined as I wanted to explore and have new experiences it has been tough as it definitely isn't a site for the fuck and go brigade. It is definitely a lifestyle for which those genuinely committed demonstrate great integrity. It's a lifestyle that also supports developing relationships with people, I'm still learning

What I would say to the OP is things change, and there's nothing wrong with that. Decide what you want and go with that

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I know where you're coming from. Don't you think the 'standard' of guys has got worse? I think we joined at the same time roughly. Fab has changed a bit in that time I think..... x"

I've been on and off for the past two years, things have definitely changed here, not enjoying it so much anymore, but mainly use the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So when I started this whole thing about 3 years ago I had lots of different experiences and adventures. Ticked many things off my fantasy list which still make me amazed and delighted that I did them and still meet a few of my fab favourites every so often. The thing is, in the last 6 months or so, Ive lost all interest in meeting anybody new. Cant be arsed with the messages from lads trying their luck, dont even have my profile on show most of the time. Im still open to chatting to people who might spark my interest but its few and far between. Have I just become really lazy or have a had enough? "
you just need me in your life is all

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By *eryCuriousCouple2012Couple
over a year ago

Funville


"I know where you're coming from. Don't you think the 'standard' of guys has got worse? I think we joined at the same time roughly. Fab has changed a bit in that time I think..... x

Fab has sadly changed loads (been on for over 9 1/2 years)...many just wish to collect the pictures stored away for "friends only", they never intend to meet... Or even (OMG) read a profile... We love to enjoy and have fun but more and more it is difficult ..but then again there are the clubs to enjoy but these have limits as well "

We have been on here for around 5 years and have not really noticed any difference. There have always been the same type of people who want to collect pics or fake profiles etc. The same questions always pop up in the forums as new members ask and can't be bothered scrolling through pages and pages to see if it's already been asked (we'd be the same in fairness lol).

Maybe it's just more noticeable the longer someone is on here rather than it getting worse?

We don't meet much any more, prefer to peruse the forums at the moment as life gets in the way a lot. Labelling ourselves as swingers still but maybe lapsed lol

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

I have never understood these. "am I a swinger" posts. What does it matter? Do what you feel comfortable with and don't worry about labels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have never understood these. "am I a swinger" posts. What does it matter? Do what you feel comfortable with and don't worry about labels.

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exactly I'm not a swinger either I'm a jungle VIP ooooo dooody dooo

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