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"So I've been seeing a guy regularly from here as fwbs, he knows the score that I'm in a relationship (open relationship, partner knows and approves, all good on that front) but wants to come out and hang out with some of my friends with me. Originally I was cool with it, some of them know about the open relationship and some don't, but I'm happy to hang out as friends as well as just fucking cause I do enjoy his company. One of my friends commented on how weird it is today though and I'm having like a major existential crisis about whether I should even be seeing him, let alone introducing him to my friends who know my partner??? Has anyone else (particularly those in relationships) ever suddenly doubted everything they're doing? How do you deal with it?" Do you enjoy what are you in to?? Fuck what anyonelse saying | |||
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"Keep the intimate side discreet, the rest will just become gossip of what people are thinking. I found my ex got a thrill from the secrecy, when it became public knowledge she got upset." I think that's probably what I'm gonna have to do from now on, it's a uni student group who I'm never gonna see again cause I'm graduating so I think I'm gonna stick out the plans I've already made and then never try it again | |||
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"Keep the intimate side discreet, the rest will just become gossip of what people are thinking. I found my ex got a thrill from the secrecy, when it became public knowledge she got upset. I think that's probably what I'm gonna have to do from now on, it's a uni student group who I'm never gonna see again cause I'm graduating so I think I'm gonna stick out the plans I've already made and then never try it again " It might also not be a bad time to find out how your partner feels about your hanging out with him outside of the sex especially as it is with other friends... xx | |||
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"Not sure it's fair on your friends " Why is it not fair on your friends to introduce them to other people who are your friends? | |||
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"As long as everyone involved (you, your partner, your other partner, their partners) are consenting, then I don't see how it's anyone's business. If your friend thinks it is weird, then that's up to them really. I recently finished university (last summer) and lots of the younger people there thought it was weird to have more than one committed partner. I explained how I felt to them, answered any questions openly and honestly, and then if they still felt it was 'weird' just shrugged my shoulders and let them get on with it. " Thanks for sharing your experience, I think that's the attitude I'm gonna have to have! | |||
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"Thanks guys. My partner's fine with it, we're long distance at the moment because I'm away for uni so he accepts that I need the company and attention as well as the sex, he's met the guys, they get on really well... It's literally just my best friend who knows everything about the situation who can't just accept it and be supportive, all my other friends who know are fine." I'm not sure your friends role is to support you in something they don't agree with. I prefer honesty about how my friends feel it doesn't mean I think less of them or they me. | |||
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"I would guess that what's she's struggling with is the idea you have two guys fulfilling very similar roles of being people who provide the companionship you need and sleep with you." To me it sounds like he's forcing the idea and she's flirting with danger as she's never going to see those Uni mates again. Seems more a relationship move than someone keeping things to casual fwb's. I think a pic of "awkward" is going to be uploaded sometime. | |||
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" The fact everything is happening with your partners knowledge an consent is irrelevant. " Well it's not, actually. I think if a friend can't understand the concept that everything is being done with consent, then perhaps they're not actually a very good friend? Or they're thick. Either way, I'd move on from their 'friendship'. | |||
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"So I've been seeing a guy regularly from here as fwbs, he knows the score that I'm in a relationship (open relationship, partner knows and approves, all good on that front) but wants to come out and hang out with some of my friends with me. Originally I was cool with it, some of them know about the open relationship and some don't, but I'm happy to hang out as friends as well as just fucking cause I do enjoy his company. One of my friends commented on how weird it is today though and I'm having like a major existential crisis about whether I should even be seeing him, let alone introducing him to my friends who know my partner??? Has anyone else (particularly those in relationships) ever suddenly doubted everything they're doing? How do you deal with it?" If things like a friends comment gives you a crisis you are going to struggle on here | |||
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