FabSwingers.com forum: Far too shy!

By *retend_Shy_Guy OP Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Hi guys

I was having lack of meet issues so i looked around and got the advice needed. I changed my profile, i added pictures (which need changing, i know) and i started attending clubs (Cupid's, manchester)

So all that done and my last hurdle (that i know of) is how damn shy i am. Women in clubs are outnumbered the same as on here so how do i become the guy who stands out? What do you ladies like to see/hear? Any help at all will be great, cheers x

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

"Hi guys

I was having lack of meet issues so i looked around and got the advice needed. I changed my profile, i added pictures (which need changing, i know) and i started attending clubs (Cupid's, manchester)

Be yourself and above converse chat and laugh im sure you will have more confidence regarding shyness.Cupids is a great club the bar area is great for socialising.And dont be the one sat in a corner sit at the bar the busiest area and you will have a top time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't try and stand out to everyone. Just be yourself and you'll stand out to someone eventually

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By *weet medicineWoman
over a year ago

Kesgrave

"Don't try and stand out to everyone. Just be yourself and you'll stand out to someone eventually"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you can't really be someone you are not. If you are not the type to stand out (and we can't all be the type to stand out), then I guess you need to be patient and hope you will have an opportunity to get to know people and that you'll hit it off.

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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago

bristol

Confidence is gained from doing something time and time again and getting your expected resultsor better..

When getting to a club, if your shy just start of with setting yourself small goals..like just breaking the ice.

One of the few tricks i have seen was cue cards being used...

Just walk up, indicate to 1 sec and start....make the cards funny and get a giggle...if you can make someone smile the rest tends to take care of itself

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By *retend_Shy_Guy OP Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

That makes sense about confidence, and I'm happy chatting to a group of guys i have never met, I'm happy singing in a pub full of people I've never met but when I see those beautiful ladies i turn into a silent idiot!

Small steps, break the ice. I'll do that. Cheers

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"That makes sense about confidence, and I'm happy chatting to a group of guys i have never met, I'm happy singing in a pub full of people I've never met but when I see those beautiful ladies i turn into a silent idiot!

Small steps, break the ice. I'll do that. Cheers"

What are you worried will happen if you speak to one or ore of the women?

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By *retend_Shy_Guy OP Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It's silly i know and now that I've read what I've wrote i can see how silly it is.

Worst case: "your not for me, sorry"

Possible case: awesum time!

New = stress = worry = stress lol

Cheers for the help everyone. I will try!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"It's silly i know and now that I've read what I've wrote i can see how silly it is.

Worst case: "your not for me, sorry"

Possible case: awesum time!

New = stress = worry = stress lol

Cheers for the help everyone. I will try!"

Remember, tons of people have some form of shyness and if you act not shy they'll look at you and think "I wish I could be like him"

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