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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey Fab lot,

Just wanting some tips and such really.

I've haven't been here a huge amount of time, but seem to be having trouble with actually securing a meet with someone local.

It seems to me no matter how I come at things that they don't actually seem interested in me as a person as well as sexually.

I'm never rude, I'm understanding and patient.

So I'm asking for pointers so that I can somehow succeed. Profile...pictures...etiquette...?

PM me if you have to to help

Thanks

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Hey Fab lot,

Just wanting some tips and such really.

I've haven't been here a huge amount of time, but seem to be having trouble with actually securing a meet with someone local.

It seems to me no matter how I come at things that they don't actually seem interested in me as a person as well as sexually.

I'm never rude, I'm understanding and patient.

So I'm asking for pointers so that I can somehow succeed. Profile...pictures...etiquette...?

PM me if you have to to help

Thanks "

Your three pointers at the end of your profile sound a bit shouty and unnecessary. Your not really stipulating what you have to offer a meet and what sort of things you would like to experience with them. There are many, many very good single guy profiles on

here, so your profile has to stand out, on first look,by others, but good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hey Fab lot,

Just wanting some tips and such really.

I've haven't been here a huge amount of time, but seem to be having trouble with actually securing a meet with someone local.

It seems to me no matter how I come at things that they don't actually seem interested in me as a person as well as sexually.

I'm never rude, I'm understanding and patient.

So I'm asking for pointers so that I can somehow succeed. Profile...pictures...etiquette...?

PM me if you have to to help

Thanks

Your three pointers at the end of your profile sound a bit shouty and unnecessary. Your not really stipulating what you have to offer a meet and what sort of things you would like to experience with them. There are many, many very good single guy profiles on

here, so your profile has to stand out, on first look,by others, but good luck! "

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you have to understand is that women and couples on here look to avoid confrontation. They want people with a relaxed outlook so take out the last part and be funny, engaging and relaxed in the rest. It'll come, don't worry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What you have to understand is that women and couples on here look to avoid confrontation. They want people with a relaxed outlook so take out the last part and be funny, engaging and relaxed in the rest. It'll come, don't worry. "

It's gone and re done. It's was out there more out of annoyance over a certain person on here being downright rude about me.

I am a laid back person and honest as they come so nothing to hide. I'm funnier in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And you still have this on

"Please don't waste my time, if you reply, give me a good convo and make me feel like my effort will be matched* "

You do not learn fast or listen do you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And you still have this on

"Please don't waste my time, if you reply, give me a good convo and make me feel like my effort will be matched* "

You do not learn fast or listen do you!"

Ouch man. Aren't I allowed to not have my time wasted? Most women on here tend to have paragraphs stating their requirements. Not asking for a Leg am I? ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And you still have this on

"Please don't waste my time, if you reply, give me a good convo and make me feel like my effort will be matched* "

You do not learn fast or listen do you!"

I don't interpret that part of the profile in a bad way. I see it as a sign that this person also doesn't want to be messed around and is looking for conversation, not just to be treating like a penis on legs.

There is no perfect profile, some women and couples want one thing, some want another. Guess you just have to think about who you want to attract and don't worry about what the rest think of your profile.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"And you still have this on

"Please don't waste my time, if you reply, give me a good convo and make me feel like my effort will be matched* "

You do not learn fast or listen do you!"

I think he is perfectly entitled to put that in his profile, he is just being clear about what he wants. We've had to be quite straightforward on our profile, because people don't always read it and if they don't, we just delete and block.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"And you still have this on

"Please don't waste my time, if you reply, give me a good convo and make me feel like my effort will be matched* "

You do not learn fast or listen do you!"

Maybe he could get some tips from your profile....oh..wait..yours is hidden!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't start with a negative as your first line as you make it sound like you've failed or others have failed you - just a thought, but being positive is much better to read

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok all taken into account. Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And you still have this on

"Please don't waste my time, if you reply, give me a good convo and make me feel like my effort will be matched* "

You do not learn fast or listen do you!

I don't interpret that part of the profile in a bad way. I see it as a sign that this person also doesn't want to be messed around and is looking for conversation, not just to be treating like a penis on legs.

There is no perfect profile, some women and couples want one thing, some want another. Guess you just have to think about who you want to attract and don't worry about what the rest think of your profile. "

"Not like a penis on a stick" well put. Exactly. As I'm sure guys can be dicks but also nice and interested in the other party.

That's what I would like, someone who, yes enjoys fun etc. but has a want to actually show interest when talking/meeting.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Sounds ok on the whole but being critical it sounds like you might be after a gf or a single woman to buddy up with 1-2-1. You are on a swingers site. If you are after one woman to go long term with then say it. People here for the most are after non jealous types they can rely on to call on or people who don't mind joining in with another guy or a partner. You need a of a mindset and freedom for this, putting what others write will come out in your messages to others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds ok on the whole but being critical it sounds like you might be after a gf or a single woman to buddy up with 1-2-1. You are on a swingers site. If you are after one woman to go long term with then say it. People here for the most are after non jealous types they can rely on to call on or people who don't mind joining in with another guy or a partner. You need a of a mindset and freedom for this, putting what others write will come out in your messages to others. "

Not so much after a gf, but if it comes across like that then that's not good..ahha. Yes more of a 1-2-1 at the moment as I'm new to this. I'll be happy to have more than one.

And in time I probably will broaden things. Thanks for the insight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile reads like a dating profile and, forgive me for saying but sounds a bit fake.. in the doesn't put across any sort of personality way as opposed to you're fake.

There's still a whinge at the end, lose that.

Also, confidence.. all of this 'show me the ropes', 'make me like this place' type stuff may not help.

Be confident, honest and don't be a dick.. it's really simple.

With confidence, everyone is nervous sometimes.. I feel like others find it reassuring if I'm not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last line is totally off putting to me. It would make me feel presure to meet if we've chatted as rightly or wrongly, it makes me feel as you'd lable me as a time waster if we've chatted a while, I find you're not for me and I politely decline.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Okay, I can see where you're coming from.

I'll try to tweak it to seem less greenhorn...but not sure how I can get my personality across without talking to someone..

To flamehaired, it's more so for me I'm happy to talk for as long as it needs, it's more so the meeting I wouldn't want to waste. But it's gone.

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By *erfect TenWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

your profile is like a lot of others I guess but its only you who can make it stand out if its going to express you.

Oh and maybe change your profile picture my first thought was "wow what a huge belly button" ok its probably not but its not a flattering photo.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


" "wow what a huge belly button" "

Thinkin your taking criticism to the point of someone getting a complex. The guy just needs a week to stop reading his own profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"your profile is like a lot of others I guess but its only you who can make it stand out if its going to express you.

Oh and maybe change your profile picture my first thought was "wow what a huge belly button" ok its probably not but its not a flattering photo. "

It's a scar

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" "wow what a huge belly button"

Thinkin your taking criticism to the point of someone getting a complex. The guy just needs a week to stop reading his own profile. "

Thanks I guess..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep your cock pic private, we all know what one looks like.

Do some pics where you're just showing a hint of what you've got to offer. Ass shots are good

For me personally, I'd want to know why you can't accommodate?

Write your profile in the morning when you don't have the stresses & strains of the day on your shoulders

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Keep your cock pic private, we all know what one looks like.

Do some pics where you're just showing a hint of what you've got to offer. Ass shots are good

For me personally, I'd want to know why you can't accommodate?

Write your profile in the morning when you don't have the stresses & strains of the day on your shoulders "

Lots of people can't accommodate. We don't want strangers in our home and maybe he's the same. Maybe that's why you don't accommodate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Keep your cock pic private, we all know what one looks like.

Do some pics where you're just showing a hint of what you've got to offer. Ass shots are good

For me personally, I'd want to know why you can't accommodate?

Write your profile in the morning when you don't have the stresses & strains of the day on your shoulders

Lots of people can't accommodate. We don't want strangers in our home and maybe he's the same. Maybe that's why you don't accommodate?"

Like I said, for me personally.

As in just me, not necessarily everyone else!

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