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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well time to leave. I have had enough of the women on here who are far from being supermodels but for some reason think they are. I may be single but it does not mean I will walk over broken glass to meet you. Neither will I bow down to all your demands.

There are too many single men on here who will shag anything. This leads to some women thinking they are more sexy and desirable than they actually are. Try going to a pub or nightclub and see how you get on meeting somebody.

Some of you women need to look in the mirror. You quite often see in women's profiles they will not meet ugly people yet they are ugly themselves. Pot kettle black anyone. I respect that women have a choice on who to meet but it makes me laugh when you see a a very overweight Cathy Burke lookalike stating she will only meet gorgeous hunks. Still I suppose we can all dream girls.

There are way too many women and couples on here who are up their own arse. I again blame the desperate single men for making you believe you are far more sexier and desirable than you actually are.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

bye x

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By *ex.IncCouple
over a year ago

Castleford

Close the door on your way out, the wind chill is starting to pick up now.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

and welcome back under your new profile x

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By *ex.IncCouple
over a year ago

Castleford


"and welcome back under your new profile x"

Hahaha really? That fast?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"and welcome back under your new profile x

Hahaha really? That fast?"

won't be long

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Great leaving rant !!

Not as good as the one a few weeks back mind...but not bad

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

7 steps to handling rejection..

1. Don’t take it personally. There are times in our lives when we are rejected simply because of timing. If you ask someone out to lunch but they have already eaten lunch, well they are going to turn you down! If you apply for a part-time job at a department store during the Christmas holidays the week of Christmas, they are going to turn you down because they have enough staff. Some rejections have nothing to do with us. So if you got turned down, do not second guess that you are no good or that no one likes you. It may just be a question of timing!

2. Think positively. It can be hard to think positively when you have been rejected, but try to turn the tables on this. If someone declines your offer for a social event, think about all the times when you have said no to others as well. Also, sometimes, getting rejected is a blessing in disguise. It may provide you with the space for something bigger that is about to happen!

3. Listen to the rejection carefully. It is important to pay attention to the reason for the rejection. This will tell you if you have a second chance or not. If you apply for a job and the Human Resources Director says “Not now, but call me in three months,” you can choose to focus on the part about timing. Try asking a follow up question to understand why you are being rejected now and get creative in coming up with an alternative solution.

4. Be kind to yourself. Being rejected is a disappointment to say the least. It can be very frustrating to put yourself out there for either personal or professional reasons and then, be told “no.” So, be kind to yourself after getting rejected in some way. Engage in positive self talk and encourage yourself for the future. Do not be silly by drowning your sorrows in food, alcohol, cigarettes or overspending.

5. Have confidence in who you are. Learn to have confidence that people will like you just as you are and to make yourself the best “you” that you can be. Engage in hobbies and activities that you. Laugh and sparkle! People will respond in amazing ways and you will get to experience less rejection!

6. Know that everyone gets rejected. There are six billion people on this earth. We are all beautiful, unique and different. There are times we are in demand and times we may get rejected. Knowing that rejection is an emotion that many people go through is a reality check! So get over your victim mentality and move on!

7. Try and try again. A popular sales motto is that it takes twenty “nos” to get to one “yes.” Many successful authors like Robert Kiyosaki and Mark Victor Hansen got their manuscripts rejected several times by publishing houses before they hit big time! Learn from these authors. Do not therefore take rejection as a sign of failure. Instead, press on in your dreams!

A lot of rejection is not the actual rejection, but how you handle it. If you engage in positive self-talk and have a confident attitude, it is possible to attract a better outcome. Hence, keep picking yourself up when you fall. Do not feel daunted but rejoice because you have found one less way to being turned down. So, even if a new party says “no” to you, you will always be able to transform your negative state of mind to a more empowering one!

I did cut and paste but good advice for the OP in life...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

shame he has flounced off but good advice for me who is in full job search mode and keepos coming up second best ....im trying to stsy positive ..

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"and welcome back under your new profile x"
w

ooo goody! I so want to shag him now.

Ladies get to the back of the queue - I have sharp elbows you know

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"and welcome back under your new profile xw

ooo goody! I so want to shag him now.

Ladies get to the back of the queue - I have sharp elbows you know "

he had a perfect 6pack....

but more lacking than just packing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"7 steps to handling rejection..

1. Don’t take it personally. There are times in our lives when we are rejected simply because of timing. If you ask someone out to lunch but they have already eaten lunch, well they are going to turn you down! If you apply for a part-time job at a department store during the Christmas holidays the week of Christmas, they are going to turn you down because they have enough staff. Some rejections have nothing to do with us. So if you got turned down, do not second guess that you are no good or that no one likes you. It may just be a question of timing!

2. Think positively. It can be hard to think positively when you have been rejected, but try to turn the tables on this. If someone declines your offer for a social event, think about all the times when you have said no to others as well. Also, sometimes, getting rejected is a blessing in disguise. It may provide you with the space for something bigger that is about to happen!

3. Listen to the rejection carefully. It is important to pay attention to the reason for the rejection. This will tell you if you have a second chance or not. If you apply for a job and the Human Resources Director says “Not now, but call me in three months,” you can choose to focus on the part about timing. Try asking a follow up question to understand why you are being rejected now and get creative in coming up with an alternative solution.

4. Be kind to yourself. Being rejected is a disappointment to say the least. It can be very frustrating to put yourself out there for either personal or professional reasons and then, be told “no.” So, be kind to yourself after getting rejected in some way. Engage in positive self talk and encourage yourself for the future. Do not be silly by drowning your sorrows in food, alcohol, cigarettes or overspending.

5. Have confidence in who you are. Learn to have confidence that people will like you just as you are and to make yourself the best “you” that you can be. Engage in hobbies and activities that you. Laugh and sparkle! People will respond in amazing ways and you will get to experience less rejection!

6. Know that everyone gets rejected. There are six billion people on this earth. We are all beautiful, unique and different. There are times we are in demand and times we may get rejected. Knowing that rejection is an emotion that many people go through is a reality check! So get over your victim mentality and move on!

7. Try and try again. A popular sales motto is that it takes twenty “nos” to get to one “yes.” Many successful authors like Robert Kiyosaki and Mark Victor Hansen got their manuscripts rejected several times by publishing houses before they hit big time! Learn from these authors. Do not therefore take rejection as a sign of failure. Instead, press on in your dreams!

A lot of rejection is not the actual rejection, but how you handle it. If you engage in positive self-talk and have a confident attitude, it is possible to attract a better outcome. Hence, keep picking yourself up when you fall. Do not feel daunted but rejoice because you have found one less way to being turned down. So, even if a new party says “no” to you, you will always be able to transform your negative state of mind to a more empowering one!

I did cut and paste but good advice for the OP in life..."

Quality!! I feel ready to take on the world now, esp having just been told I'm not all that by someone who is yet to have a meet (dispite her having a friends list three miles long and been here for three months!)

Thanks for the copy and paste advise kind sir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"7 steps to handling rejection..

1. Don’t take it personally. There are times in our lives when we are rejected simply because of timing. If you ask someone out to lunch but they have already eaten lunch, well they are going to turn you down! If you apply for a part-time job at a department store during the Christmas holidays the week of Christmas, they are going to turn you down because they have enough staff. Some rejections have nothing to do with us. So if you got turned down, do not second guess that you are no good or that no one likes you. It may just be a question of timing!

2. Think positively. It can be hard to think positively when you have been rejected, but try to turn the tables on this. If someone declines your offer for a social event, think about all the times when you have said no to others as well. Also, sometimes, getting rejected is a blessing in disguise. It may provide you with the space for something bigger that is about to happen!

3. Listen to the rejection carefully. It is important to pay attention to the reason for the rejection. This will tell you if you have a second chance or not. If you apply for a job and the Human Resources Director says “Not now, but call me in three months,” you can choose to focus on the part about timing. Try asking a follow up question to understand why you are being rejected now and get creative in coming up with an alternative solution.

4. Be kind to yourself. Being rejected is a disappointment to say the least. It can be very frustrating to put yourself out there for either personal or professional reasons and then, be told “no.” So, be kind to yourself after getting rejected in some way. Engage in positive self talk and encourage yourself for the future. Do not be silly by drowning your sorrows in food, alcohol, cigarettes or overspending.

5. Have confidence in who you are. Learn to have confidence that people will like you just as you are and to make yourself the best “you” that you can be. Engage in hobbies and activities that you. Laugh and sparkle! People will respond in amazing ways and you will get to experience less rejection!

6. Know that everyone gets rejected. There are six billion people on this earth. We are all beautiful, unique and different. There are times we are in demand and times we may get rejected. Knowing that rejection is an emotion that many people go through is a reality check! So get over your victim mentality and move on!

7. Try and try again. A popular sales motto is that it takes twenty “nos” to get to one “yes.” Many successful authors like Robert Kiyosaki and Mark Victor Hansen got their manuscripts rejected several times by publishing houses before they hit big time! Learn from these authors. Do not therefore take rejection as a sign of failure. Instead, press on in your dreams!

A lot of rejection is not the actual rejection, but how you handle it. If you engage in positive self-talk and have a confident attitude, it is possible to attract a better outcome. Hence, keep picking yourself up when you fall. Do not feel daunted but rejoice because you have found one less way to being turned down. So, even if a new party says “no” to you, you will always be able to transform your negative state of mind to a more empowering one!

I did cut and paste but good advice for the OP in life..."

im going to cut and paste to my 18yr old daughter i had her on phone in tears the other day she been turned down for a new job thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Aawwwww how sad he could'nt even get a shag on a site full of fuglies

Where is there left to go for him? I feel for him I really do!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"

Where is there left to go for him? "

there is a great place for his type and similar

called tissueville.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bet he's away making a new best friend out of a pair of socks and some buttons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bet he's away making a new best friend out of a pair of socks and some buttons. "

and a hoover pipe and some vaseline

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

wouldn't it be cool if we could have some sort of IP checker.. so when the dude comes back, we could all point him in the direction of this thread with a slice of humble pie waiting.......

wow.. someone took rejection really, really hard!!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Bet he's away making a new best friend out of a pair of socks and some buttons. "

Guys only need one sock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"wouldn't it be cool if we could have some sort of IP checker.. so when the dude comes back, we could all point him in the direction of this thread with a slice of humble pie waiting.......

wow.. someone took rejection really, really hard!!!"

I guarantee admins have that facility... though i doubt theyd share the info with us lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bet he's away making a new best friend out of a pair of socks and some buttons.

and a hoover pipe and some vaseline "

...... bit like Shari Lewis and Lamb Chop.....only his friend is called Ham Shank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

op has gone an yet still having a go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're not having a go! we are promulgating peace and laughter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're not having a go! we are promulgating peace and laughter."

off to google promulgating see if i agree or not

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"Bet he's away making a new best friend out of a pair of socks and some buttons.

Guys only need one sock. "

wash one wear one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"wouldn't it be cool if we could have some sort of IP checker.. so when the dude comes back, we could all point him in the direction of this thread with a slice of humble pie waiting.......

wow.. someone took rejection really, really hard!!!"
op is allowed to come back if he wishes to do

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"op is allowed to come back if he wishes to do"

and if he does come back.. i hope he apologises..... nothing to stop him now is there!

anyway.. can't be arsed to argue.. too busy watching pointless.....

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

POP! did you hear that? was my head coming out of my arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"POP! did you hear that? was my head coming out of my arse "

Has to be the loudest laugh I've had today.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"POP! did you hear that? was my head coming out of my arse

Has to be the loudest laugh I've had today."

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"op is allowed to come back if he wishes to do

and if he does come back.. i hope he apologises..... nothing to stop him now is there!

anyway.. can't be arsed to argue.. too busy watching pointless....."

dont see why he would need to say sorry we are all allowed are own opinion just because you dont agree with his doesnt make his wrong IMO of course

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Who was it??

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"Who was it??"

Dunno

Oooh! hope it was'nt my last meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"op is allowed to come back if he wishes to do

and if he does come back.. i hope he apologises..... nothing to stop him now is there!

anyway.. can't be arsed to argue.. too busy watching pointless.....

dont see why he would need to say sorry we are all allowed are own opinion just because you dont agree with his doesnt make his wrong IMO of course"
exactly well said

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"

anyway.. can't be arsed to argue.. too busy watching pointless.....

dont see why he would need to say sorry we are all allowed are own opinion just because you dont agree with his doesnt make his wrong IMO of course"

you are right... however since he took a big old flamethrower and took aim at just about everyone on the way out.. i would hope it would be the least he could do..

anyway.. hope sir duke was a pointless answer i'll be chuffed.....

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

6 days and 22 hours to go.....

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"6 days and 22 hours to go.....

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shit i forgot it was thursday..... it all makes sence now!!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

oh, i missed who it was who spat there toys out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great leaving rant !!

Not as good as the one a few weeks back mind...but not bad "

I missed that one! What was the title please or can someone bump it please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband summed it up.....he looked, he read...laughed and said "tosser"

Seems about right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great leaving rant !!

Not as good as the one a few weeks back mind...but not bad

I missed that one! What was the title please or can someone bump it please? "

Stick around babes, there'll be another along any minute. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My husband summed it up.....he looked, he read...laughed and said "tosser"

Seems about right!"

I did the same as your hubby

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

If the man comes back I don't think he should apologise, it is his opinion and he is allowed it...and although it was a leaving rant , he did have a point with some of it.

( and I won't be apologising for agreeing with some of what he said either )

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"he did have a point with some of it. "

Yep. I've thought the same as him a few times when browsing profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the man comes back I don't think he should apologise, it is his opinion and he is allowed it...and although it was a leaving rant , he did have a point with some of it.

( and I won't be apologising for agreeing with some of what he said either )"

couldnt agree more well said

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

yup, he does... I would have just worded it differently tho..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"wouldn't it be cool if we could have some sort of IP checker.. so when the dude comes back, we could all point him in the direction of this thread with a slice of humble pie waiting.......

wow.. someone took rejection really, really hard!!!

I guarantee admins have that facility... though i doubt theyd share the info with us lol"

That wouldn't work (with IPv4 anyhow) as peoples IP addresses change everytime you restart you modem unless your ISP gives you a static IP address or has a very long lease time on it.

Thus my IP address today could have been my neighbours yesterday or someone else with the same ISP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omfg a carnt believe ppl are still add to & taking the piss okies the guy spat his dummy out n left so ? You lot got nothing better to do other than take the piss out of an Ex site user ? Sad fuckin sad move on get a life geez

* crEepS rOunD grAveYArD * -|-

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of sympathy for this guy then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of sympathy for this guy then! "
none what so ever

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Maybe time to shut this one

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