FabSwingers.com forum: This is a mistake

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondered if any couples have got into swinging and then realised they'd made a mistake.

From my own experience I've been to clubs with an ex who got me into the lifestyle.

Now I'm with my new partner and tell her the stories and she's interested when she's horny.

I'm just worried what will happen in the cold light of day the morning after.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if she is and when the time is right for her, take her to a club and no pressure to play.

Only she will know.

good luck

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

I've seen plenty of couples at parties, where clearly, it has been a mistake for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems like it's always guys saying they talked the mrs into it and she went off with some bloke. You've lost one. Do you want to lose another?

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"Just wondered if any couples have got into swinging and then realised they'd made a mistake.

From my own experience I've been to clubs with an ex who got me into the lifestyle.

Now I'm with my new partner and tell her the stories and she's interested when she's horny.

I'm just worried what will happen in the cold light of day the morning after."

Nobody should be persuaded to do anything they arent comfortable with. If you abide by that you should be ok.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe have a read of this recent thread too OP. xx http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/62641#last

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got dragged very unwillingly into swinging by my ex... I disliked it.. but I we split for reasons other than that... However, I would hate others to go through the guilt and shame I did when he would persuade me to do things I didnt want to do.

Thank fully towards the end I stop up for myself.. the final straw came when he decided I wanted to try a black guy.. I didnt..( no offence meant) and he suggested once d*unk I wouldnt notice... that was it really as far as we were concerned with swinging I refused to participate.

However, new partner.. and WOW what a difference.. its fun, sexy, and certainly is something for the both of us... Difference being my Master lets me enjoy things.. its not all about what he wants... My pleasure is his pleasure.. where as before as long as my ex got the other women he wasnt really fussed..and he would make me feel like a slag when I did have the odd guys he would allow me..

So my reason for the long rambling post... if your looking to swing as a couple, listen to each other and dont push... as sometimes us women can feel we have no choice..and it can make us feel very bad.

And ohhhh I think that if someone is going to stray they will do so swinging or not...

Katie. x

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

"Just wondered if any couples have got into swinging and then realised they'd made a mistake."

Yep...done it twice...and spent the next six months worrying about dying of aids every time I had a sore throat, headache or caught a cold!!..

It put a dampner on what was a fun experience..

Decided it wasnt worth the risk or the worry/unnecessary worry..

Plus, the wife is sadly quite conscious of her size and really had to force herself to overcome her demons and get naked in front of someone else..its a bit like someone who wants to go on holiday but is petrified of flying...they work themselves up into a state for months before a flight..which ruins the build up of what should be a great experience..and takes the cream off the whole thing.

We are relegated to 'boring vanilla' status now by only doing cam..but we enjoy.

Its all about limits and that is sadly now ours...but also beyond what most people out there would do...so at least we are more adventurous than most of the population (some claim to fame eh!! lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was at the Blackmans Fan club party last night and a couple there looked as miserable as sin. He seemed to be more relaxed that she, she sat there with a miserable face, neither of them spoke and she visibly shrunk when anyone sat near and smiled in her direction.

When we were having the buffet I spied them sitting in a corner together. She looked even more miserable than at the beginning of the night, he sat there stroking her arm, just like she'd received bad news. I couldnt understand why they just didnt go home if it wasnt for them.

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