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A question for older men - 55+

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

By older I mean 55+.

When I was a young chap trying to hold back for 5 minutes was a major effort. As I got older control became easier and easier, eventually being more or less able to 'cum to order'. Very handy indeed!

I have noticed recently however that not only is holding back effortless, but actually cumming is increasingly rare. I can have excellent sex with a lady for an hour or more, by which time she will be sated, and I still won't have ejaculated. I am 60 years old.

Please understand that the sex and relationships are lovely and fulfilling, it just seems that the perceived intensity of physical sensation from my cock is less than it used to be. Male friends of my age group also report a difficulty in becoming excited enough to ejaculate.

The question I have is

1 Anybody else find this?

2 Do you think it's psychological or physical.

PS no ladies seem to see it as a problem.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"By older I mean 55+.

When I was a young chap trying to hold back for 5 minutes was a major effort. As I got older control became easier and easier, eventually being more or less able to 'cum to order'. Very handy indeed!

I have noticed recently however that not only is holding back effortless, but actually cumming is increasingly rare. I can have excellent sex with a lady for an hour or more, by which time she will be sated, and I still won't have ejaculated. I am 60 years old.

Please understand that the sex and relationships are lovely and fulfilling, it just seems that the perceived intensity of physical sensation from my cock is less than it used to be. Male friends of my age group also report a difficulty in becoming excited enough to ejaculate.

The question I have is

1 Anybody else find this?

2 Do you think it's psychological or physical.

PS no ladies seem to see it as a problem.

"

Damn! 55+?

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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago

taunton


"By older I mean 55+.

When I was a young chap trying to hold back for 5 minutes was a major effort. As I got older control became easier and easier, eventually being more or less able to 'cum to order'. Very handy indeed!

I have noticed recently however that not only is holding back effortless, but actually cumming is increasingly rare. I can have excellent sex with a lady for an hour or more, by which time she will be sated, and I still won't have ejaculated. I am 60 years old.

Please understand that the sex and relationships are lovely and fulfilling, it just seems that the perceived intensity of physical sensation from my cock is less than it used to be. Male friends of my age group also report a difficulty in becoming excited enough to ejaculate.

The question I have is

1 Anybody else find this?

2 Do you think it's psychological or physical.

PS no ladies seem to see it as a problem.

"

Yep its the same for Mr P,i dont see it as a problem but some partners think its their fault

Must be a physical thing as the mind is still as horny as ever

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe the nerve endings wear out to some degree. I wonder if we can get remoulds?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Viagra !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Viagra !"

Viagra doesn't make you cum, it seems he has no problem getting and staying hard

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

I'm 55+ and have any difficulty getting and maintaining an erection ,I do last longer but the end result is always plenty of cum .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm 55+ and have any difficulty getting and maintaining an erection ,I do last longer but the end result is always plenty of cum ."

I'm 49 nearly 50 and find that if I am overstimulated, it can take a while to cum. Especially if I have held back to please a lady.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I'm 49 nearly 50 and find that if I am overstimulated, it can take a while to cum. Especially if I have held back to please a lady. "

I recognise that. If I have a good long exciting session, I won't cum. If I then have a rest and chat, a quicky will usually make me cum. Odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By older I mean 55+.

When I was a young chap trying to hold back for 5 minutes was a major effort. As I got older control became easier and easier, eventually being more or less able to 'cum to order'. Very handy indeed!

I have noticed recently however that not only is holding back effortless, but actually cumming is increasingly rare. I can have excellent sex with a lady for an hour or more, by which time she will be sated, and I still won't have ejaculated. I am 60 years old.

Please understand that the sex and relationships are lovely and fulfilling, it just seems that the perceived intensity of physical sensation from my cock is less than it used to be. Male friends of my age group also report a difficulty in becoming excited enough to ejaculate.

The question I have is

1 Anybody else find this?

2 Do you think it's psychological or physical.

PS no ladies seem to see it as a problem.

"

I have always been a slow cummer, but since being alone for a couple of years I can cum in minutes or over an hour depending on the stimulation.

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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago

taunton


"Maybe the nerve endings wear out to some degree. I wonder if we can get remoulds? "

Can i get a bigger size remould

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By *eather_Loves_SexWoman
over a year ago

Halfway Between London and Brighton


"Viagra !

Viagra doesn't make you cum, it seems he has no problem getting and staying hard "

It's doesn't make you hard either, it simply increases blood supply to the area so it could potentially help. ( You can take viagra and if not feeling aroused nothing will happen)

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"By older I mean 55+.

When I was a young chap trying to hold back for 5 minutes was a major effort. As I got older control became easier and easier, eventually being more or less able to 'cum to order'. Very handy indeed!

I have noticed recently however that not only is holding back effortless, but actually cumming is increasingly rare. I can have excellent sex with a lady for an hour or more, by which time she will be sated, and I still won't have ejaculated. I am 60 years old.

Please understand that the sex and relationships are lovely and fulfilling, it just seems that the perceived intensity of physical sensation from my cock is less than it used to be. Male friends of my age group also report a difficulty in becoming excited enough to ejaculate.

The question I have is

1 Anybody else find this?

2 Do you think it's psychological or physical.

PS no ladies seem to see it as a problem.

"

I have found I can control and postpone ejaculation as I've got older but have no problem in becoming aroused and still enjoy spectacular orgasms.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I have no problem at all with my wife . It's the same as it was when we got together some seven years ago .

But when swinging it's just the same as it is for the op . Don't know why but sometimes think it's because we've done so much in our six years of swinging .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'm 49 nearly 50 and find that if I am overstimulated, it can take a while to cum. Especially if I have held back to please a lady.

I recognise that. If I have a good long exciting session, I won't cum. If I then have a rest and chat, a quicky will usually make me cum. Odd. "

That's pretty much my experience too and I'm 52. I dont see it as a problem. I live staying on that plateau, and who wants 'game over' too soon ?

Russ

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By *ainieCouple
over a year ago

Holmfirth and Sheffield.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost 60 here. Seems like I have more control and can take my time and that's not a bad thing for either of us

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By *ustme6Man
over a year ago

tamworth

No problem with being a long stayer....most women appreciate it in the end...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find,if she does something horny a movement a noise something she says can do it for me

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By *knick45Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"

I'm 49 nearly 50 and find that if I am overstimulated, it can take a while to cum. Especially if I have held back to please a lady.

I recognise that. If I have a good long exciting session, I won't cum. If I then have a rest and chat, a quicky will usually make me cum. Odd. "

I am the same also found when I take viragra I get rock solid and can go for ages which sounds ok but sometimes I just want to cum.

I'm 52

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

61 this week, the older you get the

Longer you last, in my experience anyway. Some women find it irritating, they just want to cum and not bothered about their sex partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'm 49 nearly 50 and find that if I am overstimulated, it can take a while to cum. Especially if I have held back to please a lady.

I recognise that. If I have a good long exciting session, I won't cum. If I then have a rest and chat, a quicky will usually make me cum. Odd.

That's pretty much my experience too and I'm 52. I dont see it as a problem. I live staying on that plateau, and who wants 'game over' too soon ?

Russ"

same here for me, i make the most of it

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

all about who you fucking .can last with my mrs .but wont take long with yours .[abbey clancy look alike wouldnt even get it in haa]

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By *omez42Man
over a year ago

gloucester

I'm 51 and don't always cum. That doesn't mean I haven't enjoyed it, though. Some women treat it as a failure, but I suggest they take advantage of it

I wish I could have lasted this long when I was a teen!

Once she has bee well and truly sated, I can normally steer things towards a result if she really wants to, but it's no biggie if it doesn't happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm 51 and don't always cum. That doesn't mean I haven't enjoyed it, though. Some women treat it as a failure, but I suggest they take advantage of it

I wish I could have lasted this long when I was a teen!

Once she has bee well and truly sated, I can normally steer things towards a result if she really wants to, but it's no biggie if it doesn't happen.

"

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