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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good afternoon all!

I was hoping to get some advice, I understand on everyone is different, but what are people favoured approach for an opening message, I always try to be polite, but I always feel like it doesn't work in my favour as it seems more like a message for a dating website!

What do you guys think and how do you approach it?

Thanks

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I like a message which shows someone has read our profile.

Sally

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your reply!

Something subtle mentioning something you've touched on,

Or stating you've read the profile and reference something within it, a bit more forward ?

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for your reply!

Something subtle mentioning something you've touched on,

Or stating you've read the profile and reference something within it, a bit more forward ?

Thanks "

Read the profile see if it's what your looking for and send an I'm interested message, care to chat & swap face pics, that's enough for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I tend to open with a sly reference and attach a face pic, but I find myself still getting ignored a high percentage of the time, is there anything else I should be aware of?

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

You could say something like " I see from your verifications you have often been to the hot tub parties in Hull. I'm from Hull. What did you think of them and would you recommend them ? " Something to get a conversation started rather than just "I like your pics" or "wanna meet" or "hey".

Sally

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I see what you mean! I'll have to give that a go! I do fear writing a long message may get it ignored through opening it and going oh bloody hell and ignoring it haha.

Thanks

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I usually feel obliged to reply to a long message as I know people have put more effort into it. But don't expect people to reply immediately It might take a couple of days. Good luck.

Sally

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank for your your help!

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

you say on your profile you've been on before and know what it's all about?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sadly doesn't mean I get much luck! Haha

I had a few before, (previous accounts was a couple maybe three years ago), but people and members change.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I got much greater response after I'd written a decently informative and engaging profile.

That way, I could keep the opening message relevant to their profile but succinct.

It's worked fine for me in any case.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've hadn't a read of your profile I won't steal it, but I will make mine a bit more informative and hopefully something to set apart from the numerous other single males!

Thank you

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"I've hadn't a read of your profile I won't steal it, but I will make mine a bit more informative and hopefully something to set apart from the numerous other single males!

Thank you "

You're welcome.

Your profile is your shop window.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've had a quick fiddle with it off of the top of my head! Hopefully you can give some pointers if that's okay?

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"I've had a quick fiddle with it off of the top of my head! Hopefully you can give some pointers if that's okay? "

That's better than before but I found myself tweaking and editing mine for quite some time before I was happy with it. Making it informative and engaging is key to making it stand out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'll have to sit down and have a deeper think about it some day, thank you for your advice! Much appreciated!

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"I'll have to sit down and have a deeper think about it some day, thank you for your advice! Much appreciated! "

Keep gradually embellishing your profile and don't put off doing it otherwise you'll miss out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And who knows what could be missing out on! Haha

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"I tend to open with a sly reference and attach a face pic, but I find myself still getting ignored a high percentage of the time, is there anything else I should be aware of? "

Most messages from single men will be ignored because of the numbers here. People look at the profile of message senders, so keep it in top shape.

Politeness works only. Be friendly, using what you've learned from the profile you're responding to, to steer what you say.

Only contact people who are looking for someone like you and have shared interests.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for your advice! It's great this is such a community!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

No matter how long or short the message is I'll look at the profile first and check location, availability and height amongst other things. Unless it's a 'faf' type then it's just binned. Or a big paragraph of what they want to do to me!!

Something short and sweet seems good compromise...

"Hi V, I've read your profile and I think we could get on as we have similar interests. Why don't you take a look at mine and see what you think? I've attached a face pic...."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've started to put, face pic inside, in the title as I think most women see a message from a man and a photos attached and just think great another cock pic! Which is something I never send! Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Politeness with a bit of humour goes a long way for us x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Politeness with a bit of humour goes a long way for us x"

The humour is the most difficult part trying to judge someone's tolerance through a usually short profile! Haha

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Are your body pics recent?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

From approx, five hours ago! Haha

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"From approx, five hours ago! Haha"

Not sure what others think but you don't look like you need to mention your weight

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've recently (since December) lost two and a half nearly three stone so it's a touchy subject but thanks hunnie appreciate that!

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K


"I tend to open with a sly reference and attach a face pic, but I find myself still getting ignored a high percentage of the time, is there anything else I should be aware of? "

In what way a 'sly' reference, for what reason?

Perhaps be a little more direct instead.

x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I've recently (since December) lost two and a half nearly three stone so it's a touchy subject but thanks hunnie appreciate that! "

I think you look good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're definitely not ample

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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago

bristol

Show you have actually read the profile, taken it all in.

No text talk, and generally show some level of intelligence and interest.

Above all be polite, well mannered and respectful.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"You're definitely not ample "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I tend to open with a sly reference and attach a face pic, but I find myself still getting ignored a high percentage of the time, is there anything else I should be aware of?

In what way a 'sly' reference, for what reason?

Perhaps be a little more direct instead.

x"

I try not to be too forward I suppose!

Thanks for your replies people been off line sorry and thanks for your kind comments!

I've made a couple little of tinkers further with my profile from advice from a lovely lady above and will be working on my opening patter, thanks all for your suggestions! It's good it's such a community on here!

Cx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try saying you live near Leeds, just a short bus ride away. And be prepared to travel.

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