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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, when messaging females and trying to arrange a meet some women reply with "sorry too many verifications". Surely on a swingers website this is the idea. I've almost been tempted to not show my verifications but some women reply and say they have read my verifications and would love to meet me.

What is the general consensus on this?

Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, when messaging females and trying to arrange a meet some women reply with "sorry too many verifications". Surely on a swingers website this is the idea. I've almost been tempted to not show my verifications but some women reply and say they have read my verifications and would love to meet me.

What is the general consensus on this?

Thanks in advance "

I think you'll find that the general consensus is as you have stated already... Some women say. Some don't. There's all sorts on here. And if you type "too many veris" in the forum search you'll see the previous threads on it and what folks think.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Or they are just using it as a polite way to say no thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was expecting more than that tbh....I have too many for some women to even talk to me...rarely too many for guys tho....can't change it now...and wouldn't tbh...but pees me off a bit when the amount I have affects the chances of the guys that have left them getting a meet, even if they only have the one from me

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I cannot believe anyone would consider 11 verifications in two and a half years "too many".

Sally

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes, it's crazy!!

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

I've never been put off someone by the number of verifications they have but sometime by the content of them. That's not a dig by the way, I didn't read yours.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks, would you prefer a male to have verifications and them not to be shown rather than reading them and finding they are in depth?

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen


"Thanks, would you prefer a male to have verifications and them not to be shown rather than reading them and finding they are in depth? "

I don't like it when they're hidden either. I think show them and attract the people you'll be compatible with. Anyone who judges you on the number or the content (I'm guilty of that) isn't for you so don't dwell on it. Just concentrate on those who like how many you have and what they say about you. You'll have more fun with them anyway.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

I'm often put off by the content rather than the number.

If she sucked like like Dyson I feel it fair to warn them I'm more of a handivac.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I won't meet people who judge people on the number of verifications they have. This is a site set up for people to meet others after all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes that's what I thought the site was for

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

Too many verifications show that you are what's called a player.Some don't mind being used but others have no desire to be another notch on the bedpost.Hope that clears things up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's the impression I got but this is a swingers site. Obviously when I meet a girl on a night out I don't show her my fab swingers verifications or tell her about my previous conquests but I thought on here it was about showing people are genuine

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By *issy and hotCouple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

The way we look at veri''s is they are a good indicator on the person you are looking to meet .. and it shows the person is genuine and going to turn up and not just a wanna be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's the impression I got but this is a swingers site. Obviously when I meet a girl on a night out I don't show her my fab swingers verifications or tell her about my previous conquests but I thought on here it was about showing people are genuine"

You can't please everyone, I'd hate to think if they had a problem with your 11 what they would say to ours!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Personally I like reading good verifications. I'm prepared to travel upto a hour for a meet so I like to read the verifications before I message the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as the verifications are positive what does it matter how many there are? This is a swingers site and some people use it and are happy to meet more people than others.

I just think good feedback is just that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As long as the verifications are positive what does it matter how many there are? This is a swingers site and some people use it and are happy to meet more people than others.

I just think good feedback is just that "

That's how I feel. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too many verifications show that you are what's called a player.Some don't mind being used but others have no desire to be another notch on the bedpost.Hope that clears things up."

Does it though? 90% of my veris are from socials so whilst it looks like I've met a fair few men in reality not many of them have actually played with me

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Us women are fickle creatures, I wouldn't try to decipher, just accept and move on

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

They said that and you've got 11 veris? Wow!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They said that and you've got 11 veris? Wow!!!! "

Yes, surely I shouldn't have to many at all!!! Actually can you have to many?

I would prefer meeting someone with a lot of verifications good, bad and neutral rather than someone who's just got a few good ones

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why we don't give a reason when we turn some one down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cannot believe anyone would consider 11 verifications in two and a half years "too many".

Sally"

I think sometimes it's the people met that puts others off.

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I cannot believe anyone would consider 11 verifications in two and a half years "too many".

Sally

I think sometimes it's the people met that puts others off."

Agreed,think we are all guilty of that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the same problem with the first account I had on here? Got to 78 veri's and started to hear the same thing. Decided to delete the account and regretted ever since

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I cannot believe anyone would consider 11 verifications in two and a half years "too many".

Sally

I think sometimes it's the people met that puts others off.

Agreed,think we are all guilty of that one."

Thanks for you're replies

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had the same problem with the first account I had on here? Got to 78 veri's and started to hear the same thing. Decided to delete the account and regretted ever since"

Wow I bet that must have been hard getting that many meets being a single guy on here

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Hi, when messaging females and trying to arrange a meet some women reply with "sorry too many verifications". Surely on a swingers website this is the idea. I've almost been tempted to not show my verifications but some women reply and say they have read my verifications and would love to meet me.

What is the general consensus on this?

Thanks in advance "

some people only want to be a member of a exclusive club not a member of the bed post notch club .

there body there life there choice respect it and move on .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as the verifications are positive what does it matter how many there are? This is a swingers site and some people use it and are happy to meet more people than others.

I just think good feedback is just that "

That's the problem with them though. You're never gonna read a negative veri. And this means that people lie, to be nice, all the time! I've seen a guy with verifications about his massive cock and in person I can safely say it was 5 inches.... So I don't think they're always a lot to go on. Also, the gushing. Someone pass me a bucket! Yes, the repeat veris and the "clique"...well...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As long as the verifications are positive what does it matter how many there are? This is a swingers site and some people use it and are happy to meet more people than others.

I just think good feedback is just that

That's the problem with them though. You're never gonna read a negative veri. And this means that people lie, to be nice, all the time! I've seen a guy with verifications about his massive cock and in person I can safely say it was 5 inches.... So I don't think they're always a lot to go on. Also, the gushing. Someone pass me a bucket! Yes, the repeat veris and the "clique"...well... "

Yes I have met people with verifications describing them but in reality it's far from the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been told I have too many veri's, also that I have too many repeat meets which seems bizarre to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cannot believe anyone would consider 11 verifications in two and a half years "too many".

Sally

I think sometimes it's the people met that puts others off."

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as the verifications are positive what does it matter how many there are? This is a swingers site and some people use it and are happy to meet more people than others.

I just think good feedback is just that

That's the problem with them though. You're never gonna read a negative veri. And this means that people lie, to be nice, all the time! I've seen a guy with verifications about his massive cock and in person I can safely say it was 5 inches.... So I don't think they're always a lot to go on. Also, the gushing. Someone pass me a bucket! Yes, the repeat veris and the "clique"...well... "

Yep, we've been to socials in our area, always the same people there verifying each other with gushing statements, even though they can't stand each other.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Hi, when messaging females and trying to arrange a meet some women reply with "sorry too many verifications". Surely on a swingers website this is the idea. I've almost been tempted to not show my verifications but some women reply and say they have read my verifications and would love to meet me.

What is the general consensus on this?

Thanks in advance "

Can't please everyone all the time

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"As long as the verifications are positive what does it matter how many there are? This is a swingers site and some people use it and are happy to meet more people than others.

I just think good feedback is just that

That's the problem with them though. You're never gonna read a negative veri. And this means that people lie, to be nice, all the time! I've seen a guy with verifications about his massive cock and in person I can safely say it was 5 inches.... So I don't think they're always a lot to go on. Also, the gushing. Someone pass me a bucket! Yes, the repeat veris and the "clique"...well...

Yep, we've been to socials in our area, always the same people there verifying each other with gushing statements, even though they can't stand each other. "

I call them fabs fakes lol

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I cannot believe anyone would consider 11 verifications in two and a half years "too many".

Sally

I think sometimes it's the people met that puts others off.

Agreed "

Definitely

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I cannot believe anyone would consider 11 verifications in two and a half years "too many".

Sally

I think sometimes it's the people met that puts others off."

What about others that puts you off..who they've slept with,what they look like etc?

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I'm often put off by the content rather than the number.

If she sucked like like Dyson I feel it fair to warn them I'm more of a handivac. "

Are you saying you wouldn't meet them after reading the Dyson verification because you may disappoint?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cannot believe anyone would consider 11 verifications in two and a half years "too many".

Sally

I think sometimes it's the people met that puts others off.

What about others that puts you off..who they've slept with,what they look like etc?"

It's about the activity...bareback gang bangs would put me off, for instance.

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By *aughtyladyYummymanCouple
over a year ago

In a place not far from Exeter


"The way we look at veri''s is they are a good indicator on the person you are looking to meet .. and it shows the person is genuine and going to turn up and not just a wanna be "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The way we look at veri''s is they are a good indicator on the person you are looking to meet .. and it shows the person is genuine and going to turn up and not just a wanna be "

As discussed, there are several types of swinger. Verifications help you narrow down and identify the type of swinger you want to meet

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Or they are just using it as a polite way to say no thank you "

This

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry

The number of verifications never bothers me so long as it's not 100s anyway or loads every week!

Besides which, people can hide their verification summary and lots of tgeir veris and you'd be nobe the wiser

What puts me off is the quality of the people who have verified them If they're indiscriminate in who they play with they're definitely not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The number of verifications never bothers me so long as it's not 100s anyway or loads every week!

Besides which, people can hide their verification summary and lots of tgeir veris and you'd be nobe the wiser

What puts me off is the quality of the people who have verified them If they're indiscriminate in who they play with they're definitely not for me "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had the same problem with the first account I had on here? Got to 78 veri's and started to hear the same thing. Decided to delete the account and regretted ever since

Wow I bet that must have been hard getting that many meets being a single guy on here "

Was over a 2 year period and some people had left more than one veri, although had a lot of repeat meets that people didn't do veri's for, no point after you've done a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that the best way to say "no" is not to give any reason. It only starts an argument

Someone PMed a good line to use: "Thank you but you are not our type. Happy Fabbing"

Stops all the whys and why-nots

- Mrs. J -

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K


"

What puts me off is the quality of the people who have verified them If they're indiscriminate in who they play with they're definitely not for me "

Exactly this..they're 'not my type'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that the best way to say "no" is not to give any reason. It only starts an argument

Someone PMed a good line to use: "Thank you but you are not our type. Happy Fabbing"

Stops all the whys and why-nots

- Mrs. J -"

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all you're replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet anyone without any veries showed lol

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"

What puts me off is the quality of the people who have verified them If they're indiscriminate in who they play with they're definitely not for me

Exactly this..they're 'not my type'"

Do you not then get the 'So what is your type then?' questions and general being a pain in the bum about trying something new?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I won't meet people who judge people on the number of verifications they have. This is a site set up for people to meet others after all. "

Well said although I've met several couples with double standards is its fine for them to have 40+ veris but they frown on single women having them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See a varied opinion given by the people who replied I myself think they are meaningless for a guy because most people will have a totally different view of you when they meet you ,to many veries is off putting for most if youre straight and you've got veries from guys well that says it all ,I think a few but hidden is the way to go but as I'm new and would always have a social meet first anyhow I dont see the problem but of course their always will be ha you have 6 showing and 14 total and mostly from women so yours would appear to be ok but the people who vet the people who have verified you will make assumptions of you based on the look or profile or verifications of the people they've cavorted with

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By *nglishdoodMan
over a year ago

Morristown

I'm hiding my veris simply because of where I'm currently playing. The expat community is very small here and discretion is paramount.

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By *hristine and MarieCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Somewhere north of Spalding

For me it's definitely content more than number, if a man says he likes big ladies (which I am) but all his meets have been slim ladies, then I know he's not being truthful for example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many?

I'm fucked.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Amount doesn't bother me generally (unless someone joined a week ago and has managed to clock up 3-4 play veris already ), but the content I can often find off-putting.

The kind that put me off are, if there are lots of overly-graphic, explicit ones... Ones with 'love to keep him to myself/he's only on loan' type ones (usually means you'll get drama from bunny boilers if you meet him)... Or (and yes, I know this makes me a snob), lots of veris of the 'dis, dat, dese, der, dose' text-speak variety...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won't meet people who judge people on the number of verifications they have. This is a site set up for people to meet others after all.

Well said although I've met several couples with double standards is its fine for them to have 40+ veris but they frown on single women having them"

We don't. It doesn't matter if she has one or 10 or more. We are here to have fun with her and make friends with her. Not here to pass judgements on people

- Mrs. J -

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I won't meet people who judge people on the number of verifications they have. This is a site set up for people to meet others after all.

Well said although I've met several couples with double standards is its fine for them to have 40+ veris but they frown on single women having them

We don't. It doesn't matter if she has one or 10 or more. We are here to have fun with her and make friends with her. Not here to pass judgements on people

- Mrs. J -"

A normal couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won't meet people who judge people on the number of verifications they have. This is a site set up for people to meet others after all.

Well said although I've met several couples with double standards is its fine for them to have 40+ veris but they frown on single women having them

We don't. It doesn't matter if she has one or 10 or more. We are here to have fun with her and make friends with her. Not here to pass judgements on people

- Mrs. J -

A normal couple "

We agree with eandj99, but don't dare call us normal

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I won't meet people who judge people on the number of verifications they have. This is a site set up for people to meet others after all.

Well said although I've met several couples with double standards is its fine for them to have 40+ veris but they frown on single women having them

We don't. It doesn't matter if she has one or 10 or more. We are here to have fun with her and make friends with her. Not here to pass judgements on people

- Mrs. J -

A normal couple

We agree with eandj99, but don't dare call us normal "

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry

I've just cleared out all my veris and just kept those from 2017 displayed

You don't necessarily need to publish that many to prove you're genuine and for people to get a flavour of what you're like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People take this site way to seriously.....one of the top blokes on here has 300+ veris, and he's a great shag, get over yourself people. On my single profile, back in the day I had 100 plus, so bloody what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The general consensus on most questions is that there is no consensus.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Hi, when messaging females and trying to arrange a meet some women reply with "sorry too many verifications". Surely on a swingers website this is the idea. I've almost been tempted to not show my verifications but some women reply and say they have read my verifications and would love to meet me.

What is the general consensus on this?

Thanks in advance "

It sounds like an excuse to me, not a real and valid reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People take this site way to seriously.....one of the top blokes on here has 300+ veris, and he's a great shag, get over yourself people. On my single profile, back in the day I had 100 plus, so bloody what?

"

My old profile had 230+. Some were socials, some were multiple verifications from parties etc. The numbers alone don't tell the whole story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No verifications on profile severely reduces the chances of meeting up with a guy.

There are so many fantasists and time-wasters, it really s them out.

And the little green tic isn't enough, because webcam veri's don't cut it for me.

I read it, and then I check the profile/s of the people who have verified you too. So, I'm hoping to see more than one.

Though, I don't think there's any need for listing 50 verifications. I find it a bit crass, like bragging in a way. A few that give a gist about you should be sufficient.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I only show the crap ones

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I only show the crap ones "

Mine wasn't crap.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I only show the crap ones

Mine wasn't crap. "

No, yours was lovely.

Oh! I've got more on show! I thought I'd shown only the rubbish ones!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I only show the crap ones

Mine wasn't crap.

No, yours was lovely.

Oh! I've got more on show! I thought I'd shown only the rubbish ones! "

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By *ebedee2009Man
over a year ago

South Croydon


"Amount doesn't bother me generally (unless someone joined a week ago and has managed to clock up 3-4 play veris already ), but the content I can often find off-putting.

The kind that put me off are, if there are lots of overly-graphic, explicit ones... Ones with 'love to keep him to myself/he's only on loan' type ones (usually means you'll get drama from bunny boilers if you meet him)... Or (and yes, I know this makes me a snob), lots of veris of the 'dis, dat, dese, der, dose' text-speak variety... "

Innit...

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago


"Hi, when messaging females and trying to arrange a meet some women reply with "sorry too many verifications". Surely on a swingers website this is the idea. I've almost been tempted to not show my verifications but some women reply and say they have read my verifications and would love to meet me.

What is the general consensus on this?

Thanks in advance "

If someone doesn't like an aspect of you then it's simple, they aint for you, you aint for them.

Anyone on the swinging scene winging about others verification's, them meeting others have obviously missed something. Assuming they're real and it's not just cover bulls#it by a faker/pretender to excuse their inability to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won't meet people who judge people on the number of verifications they have. This is a site set up for people to meet others after all.

Well said although I've met several couples with double standards is its fine for them to have 40+ veris but they frown on single women having them

We don't. It doesn't matter if she has one or 10 or more. We are here to have fun with her and make friends with her. Not here to pass judgements on people

- Mrs. J -

A normal couple

We agree with eandj99, but don't dare call us normal "

Neither are we; we are just good at faking it

- Mrs. J -

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London


"I'm hiding my veris simply because of where I'm currently playing. The expat community is very small here and discretion is paramount. "

I know the place well. Expat community is big, while the swinging expat community is small with people preferring to play outside KSA. The thing that confuses me though is your headshot in public photos. Discretion. Paramount. Not for you though? Surely the MOI police just need to bring you in for a chat in the flying saucer, a couple of days of interviews there and your contact list is rounded up faster than you say 'they made me do it'...

I don't mean to be mean or hijack the thread but I'm really bloody curious about this!

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London


"Hi, when messaging females and trying to arrange a meet some women reply with "sorry too many verifications". Surely on a swingers website this is the idea. I've almost been tempted to not show my verifications but some women reply and say they have read my verifications and would love to meet me.

What is the general consensus on this?

Thanks in advance "

My take on verifications are they are a guide to the person you're meeting. It's hard to be taken seriously without them and then you show all/none/some of yours. Like it or not people will read them and decide to get in touch, or not, based on them and your profile. I always read potential partners veris and then their playmates. If I see something I don't like, I don't contact them and make a private note on their profile to remind me not to get in touch.

Personally there are clubs / parties I would never go to in a month of Sunday's. People who go there are off limits for me. That's just my approach though.

My solo profile came after a couples one ended and a couple kindly reverified me. If you are decent, reliable and fun then you'll be fine.

Good luck mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks, would you prefer a male to have verifications and them not to be shown rather than reading them and finding they are in depth? "

Exactly our thoughts, we don't care about people who Judge us on the amount of verifications we have, they are not the people for us, we consider veris a little thank you note and just fun, it's silly we re veri and are re verified by regulars but it's just fun and is our way of sticking two fingers up at the righteous and judgemental (hints in the mental part of Judgemental) xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think a "high" number of veris would put me off. In fact, id like it because id know then they are genuine and worth pursuing. Granted ive had bad meets with people who have been verified but that was the result of me being a little too picky afterwards so its possibly more an excuse the women are using to get out of meeting? Who knows X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm hiding my veris simply because of where I'm currently playing. The expat community is very small here and discretion is paramount.

I know the place well. Expat community is big, while the swinging expat community is small with people preferring to play outside KSA. The thing that confuses me though is your headshot in public photos. Discretion. Paramount. Not for you though? Surely the MOI police just need to bring you in for a chat in the flying saucer, a couple of days of interviews there and your contact list is rounded up faster than you say 'they made me do it'...

I don't mean to be mean or hijack the thread but I'm really bloody curious about this!"

Yes, I was thinking the same thing. 'chat in the flying saucer' - love it!

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By *nglishdoodMan
over a year ago

Morristown


"I'm hiding my veris simply because of where I'm currently playing. The expat community is very small here and discretion is paramount.

I know the place well. Expat community is big, while the swinging expat community is small with people preferring to play outside KSA. The thing that confuses me though is your headshot in public photos. Discretion. Paramount. Not for you though? Surely the MOI police just need to bring you in for a chat in the flying saucer, a couple of days of interviews there and your contact list is rounded up faster than you say 'they made me do it'...

I don't mean to be mean or hijack the thread but I'm really bloody curious about this!

Yes, I was thinking the same thing. 'chat in the flying saucer' - love it!"

Yeah, I'm prepared to risk the MOI joining FAB, then identifying me, tracking me down and grilling me about my activities. Considering what goes on in the expat community that's 'illegal' I damn sure they wouldn't ever make the effort. They're far more interested in drugs and booze manufacture that involves locals.

The veris are hidden because the people I meet should get to make their own decisions about the risks they're prepared to take.

I've been coming here to work on and off for 20+ years and I'm very cognizant of what the authorities are really interested in. Wasta la vista baby!

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London


"I'm hiding my veris simply because of where I'm currently playing. The expat community is very small here and discretion is paramount.

I know the place well. Expat community is big, while the swinging expat community is small with people preferring to play outside KSA. The thing that confuses me though is your headshot in public photos. Discretion. Paramount. Not for you though? Surely the MOI police just need to bring you in for a chat in the flying saucer, a couple of days of interviews there and your contact list is rounded up faster than you say 'they made me do it'...

I don't mean to be mean or hijack the thread but I'm really bloody curious about this!

Yes, I was thinking the same thing. 'chat in the flying saucer' - love it!

Yeah, I'm prepared to risk the MOI joining FAB, then identifying me, tracking me down and grilling me about my activities. Considering what goes on in the expat community that's 'illegal' I damn sure they wouldn't ever make the effort. They're far more interested in drugs and booze manufacture that involves locals.

The veris are hidden because the people I meet should get to make their own decisions about the risks they're prepared to take.

I've been coming here to work on and off for 20+ years and I'm very cognizant of what the authorities are really interested in. Wasta la vista baby! "

BTW have you been to the RWC parties yet?

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By *nglishdoodMan
over a year ago

Morristown

I haven't. PM me please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Us women are fickle creatures, I wouldn't try to decipher, just accept and move on "

Ha ha ha ha ha

Ooooops got carried away.

Verifications, here it goes...

I am bloody surprised I have not hit 500 yet! Grrrrrr

Been on here over 2 years and I just about got over a 100 wtf is that about!

I think I know what is going on here... people rather use their fingers for Fabbing pics then doing verifications! Omg get a grip Fabbers and verify each other over and over again so the rest of us can read what an amazing time you're having.

Sharing is caring or is it nobody cares anymore!?

On a serious note...

If you feel worried or stressing about what other people might think of your profile... please don't.

Focus your time on people who accept your profile just the way it is. Be proud of your profile and the things you have done. Display, rotate or hide your verifications... do whatever YOU think is best. It is YOUR profile and the only thing you have full control of. So don't let others dictate how you should use it.

I joined to meet people, simple as that. I attend events, parties, clubs, socials and private meets. There were times when I had 10+ verifications from a single social. I wish it was because of my looks, but I have a big mouth, gift of the gab and I am a chatterbox so people had no choice!

Anyway...

Never let anyone change the way you are on here. Always be yourself and use your profile how you feel it best suits you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Us women are fickle creatures, I wouldn't try to decipher, just accept and move on

Ha ha ha ha ha

Ooooops got carried away.

Verifications, here it goes...

I am bloody surprised I have not hit 500 yet! Grrrrrr

Been on here over 2 years and I just about got over a 100 wtf is that about!

I think I know what is going on here... people rather use their fingers for Fabbing pics then doing verifications! Omg get a grip Fabbers and verify each other over and over again so the rest of us can read what an amazing time you're having.

Sharing is caring or is it nobody cares anymore!?

On a serious note...

If you feel worried or stressing about what other people might think of your profile... please don't.

Focus your time on people who accept your profile just the way it is. Be proud of your profile and the things you have done. Display, rotate or hide your verifications... do whatever YOU think is best. It is YOUR profile and the only thing you have full control of. So don't let others dictate how you should use it.

I joined to meet people, simple as that. I attend events, parties, clubs, socials and private meets. There were times when I had 10+ verifications from a single social. I wish it was because of my looks, but I have a big mouth, gift of the gab and I am a chatterbox so people had no choice!

Anyway...

Never let anyone change the way you are on here. Always be yourself and use your profile how you feel it best suits you."

Nice

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