FabSwingers.com forum: Can we improve?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have looked at lots of profiles and they are very detailed

Ours is a bit brief. How can we improve it?

And is there anything there which we should not say or should say?

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- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you joking? It's not the longest I've seen but it's definitely not brief!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

remove the contact from site supporters only ,loads probably try and message you but cant ........

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you joking? It's not the longest I've seen but it's definitely not brief! "

Thanks. Should we make it more concise? What should we delete?

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

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It all sounds a bit apologetic - you keep saying 'sorry' - you're allowed to have preferences. I admit that it can be a very fine line between preference and arrogance sometimes (hence my own reference to arrogance!) but I'd make your profile more positive and less apologetic. Photos could be more interesting - or is it just me that needs to see a suggestively naughty photo to give me a flavour of play?! Big disclaimer: this isn't meant as anything other than constructive! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It all sounds a bit apologetic - you keep saying 'sorry' - you're allowed to have preferences. I admit that it can be a very fine line between preference and arrogance sometimes (hence my own reference to arrogance!) but I'd make your profile more positive and less apologetic. Photos could be more interesting - or is it just me that needs to see a suggestively naughty photo to give me a flavour of play?! Big disclaimer: this isn't meant as anything other than constructive! Xx"

Thank you. Yes, I see what you mean. I guess we are concerned about hurting someone's feelings as preferences can be, infact are, exclusionary. But we need to state these as otherwise we will simply have to block people when they take the trouble to write to us and that is not nice either

I take your point about the photographs. We have got a small tripod, as suggested by others, and will be using it for taking some rather naughty photographs this weekend

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"remove the contact from site supporters only ,loads probably try and message you but cant ........"

We thought about this and decided to only let site supporters contact us. Although we might miss out on a few genuine folk, we think that it will reduce the large number of messages from fake profiles set up for a laugh

But thank you for your post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like a few more pics before making contact.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd like a few more pics before making contact."

Thanks. We will be taking some photographs over the weekend. Maybe even ask the club host to take some of ours on Saturday. We have been told that naughtier photographs, rather than more vacation snaps, are better on a site like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are lots of pleases and sorrys in there. I have seen it suggested that instead of listing exclusions just say what you do want (so could cut out the bit about guys who've had experiences with TVs which is a bit negative) then if they aren't within those parameters you don't need to feel bad about going back and saying not my type but thanks or just deleting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are lots of pleases and sorrys in there. I have seen it suggested that instead of listing exclusions just say what you do want (so could cut out the bit about guys who've had experiences with TVs which is a bit negative) then if they aren't within those parameters you don't need to feel bad about going back and saying not my type but thanks or just deleting."

Thanks. We put that bit in because it seems that heterosexual means somthing different on this site. We know straight as a man who only has sex with women and not with men, not even those men who wear women's clothes. But we seem to be a bit naive in these matters. We have nothing against such men. Just that this is not something we desire in a situtation where I am in a room with another man and my husband

But point taken; we will take that bit out and stick to our defination of heterosexual

We welcome your opinions so please take a look a bit later and let us know if our profile is any better

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have added photographs and modified the text as was suggested my many

We did start receiving a lot of unsuitable replies from single men but it is easy enough to say "no thanks" and block

So, what do people think of our profile now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have added photographs and modified the text as was suggested my many

We did start receiving a lot of unsuitable replies from single men but it is easy enough to say "no thanks" and block

So, what do people think of our profile now?

- Mrs. J -"
its detailed and to the point great profile x

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

You come across as "shy"

Just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have looked at lots of profiles and they are very detailed

Ours is a bit brief. How can we improve it?

And is there anything there which we should not say or should say?

Thanks

- Mrs. J -"
tell all readers your likes and dislikes in great detail ,give them much more personal detail about your life and what you do and make them when they message put a special phrase so you know they've read it ,it works everytime ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep it simple OP, list your likes, dislikes and availability

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have added photographs and modified the text as was suggested my many

We did start receiving a lot of unsuitable replies from single men but it is easy enough to say "no thanks" and block

So, what do people think of our profile now?

- Mrs. J -"

Hello guys, I just read your profile for the first time and these are my thoughts. You're about halfway there but the profile doesn't show your fun characters.

Firstly I would condense it into a much shorter more readable form. E.g. We're a fun full swap couple looking for couples and single women, and we do play with couples with bi men although Mr J is 100% straight.

We love various clubs and go frequently. Love playing with all sorts of cultures but prefer a healthy body size of any height.

She enjoys her bi side with the ladies but is equally happy to play straight too.

So something like that covers about everything but is a much easier read as too long and extremely detailed can lose the reader as they switch off wondering where's the fun in this detailed couple?

Then secondly I'd propose you add a couple of sentences on yourselves as characters, light and fun. The reader needs to know your characters from the words you use and the tone of writing so a long list of conditions, dos and don't can come over as a bit cold and mechanical.

Who is he in character and who is she? Fun, intelligent, shy, social? Like a drink, like to chat and share a laugh? Why you love the clubs, the sexy atmosphere or the play equipment etc? Do you like to travel? Have you met some great friends from FAB? Etc.

So just my thoughts and good luck. xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have added photographs and modified the text as was suggested my many

We did start receiving a lot of unsuitable replies from single men but it is easy enough to say "no thanks" and block

So, what do people think of our profile now?

- Mrs. J -its detailed and to the point great profile x"

Thanks; we are trying to keep it short and positive; x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You come across as "shy"

Just saying

I am; he isn't; I have to reign him in sometimes

But I have written the profile text so maybe my personality is showing through the words

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have looked at lots of profiles and they are very detailed

Ours is a bit brief. How can we improve it?

And is there anything there which we should not say or should say?

Thanks

- Mrs. J -tell all readers your likes and dislikes in great detail ,give them much more personal detail about your life and what you do and make them when they message put a special phrase so you know they've read it ,it works everytime ha "

Thanks; we will add more about ourselves whilst maintains our privacy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Keep it simple OP, list your likes, dislikes and availability

Thank you; the kind of thinks we like, or would like to try, are on our interests. Or did you mean, non-sexual things which we like?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have added photographs and modified the text as was suggested my many

We did start receiving a lot of unsuitable replies from single men but it is easy enough to say "no thanks" and block

So, what do people think of our profile now?

- Mrs. J -

Hello guys, I just read your profile for the first time and these are my thoughts. You're about halfway there but the profile doesn't show your fun characters.

We love various clubs and go frequently. Love playing with all sorts of cultures but prefer a healthy body size of any height.

She enjoys her bi side with the ladies but is equally happy to play straight too.

So something like that covers about everything but is a much easier read as too long and extremely detailed can lose the reader as they switch off wondering where's the fun in this detailed couple?

So just my thoughts and good luck. xxx"

Thank you for your detailed post

Yes, we have a lot more to do and I think I need his input too; he isn't an innocent bystander

I think we need to sit down together and rewrite this profile

Thank you for all the suggestions you have come up with and these all make sense; xx

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tons better, Sarah has suggested a couple of more spicy pics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tons better, Sarah has suggested a couple of more spicy pics.

We are getting around to that. Got our tripod and will be posting a couple of those soon. Thanks for the feedback. We have taken yours and others on board and are grateful that folk took the time to give us positive suggestions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were all into this awesome hobby together, and the genuine folk are always welcome!

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

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"I have looked at lots of profiles and they are very detailed

Ours is a bit brief. How can we improve it?

And is there anything there which we should not say or should say?

Thanks

- Mrs. J -"

In our view it reads like a lecture on political correctness, but that is only our view, perhaps you are being too specific in your wants and requirements.

Swinging is a way to indulge in mutually enjoyable sex with others without having to be frightened of saying the wrong thing.

We would suggest that far from “...reading this has made you comfortable enough to write to us...” it would make a nervous type terrified of contacting you in case they said something wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have looked at lots of profiles and they are very detailed

Ours is a bit brief. How can we improve it?

And is there anything there which we should not say or should say?

Thanks

- Mrs. J -

In our view it reads like a lecture on political correctness, but that is only our view, perhaps you are being too specific in your wants and requirements.

Swinging is a way to indulge in mutually enjoyable sex with others without having to be frightened of saying the wrong thing.

We would suggest that far from “...reading this has made you comfortable enough to write to us...” it would make a nervous type terrified of contacting you in case they said something wrong.

Thank you for your advise. However, we have talked about this amongst ourselves and do not wish to be any more inclusive that we already are. Doing so, would mean that we will be meeting with people who do not view us as compatible and it will waste everyone's time

We did not understand your reference to "like a lecture on political correctness". Can you please elaborate here or PM us

- Mrs. J -

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