FabSwingers.com forum: Profile advice and how to approach women and couples.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello all! I've been here a while now, and not managed a meet. Not even a social. I asked here a while ago, and amended my profile accordingly. But so far it hasn't seemed to help.

So I'm here again to ask about my profile, what to lose and what to keep.

And what should I be putting in the messages that I send?

I do send face and body pics, and I don't think I'm bad looking.

Any advice and constructive criticism will be much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your pics are OK, although not sure what I'm looking at other than guitar in the second one. Maybe one or two more, cheeky bum pic perhaps.

And the text is a lot of words but doesn't tell me much, the bit about the tats is repeated and the first section just tells me what is in the vital stats bit. I want to know what you're ideally looking for and what you can offer so I can tell if we're likely to be the right fit so to speak. If you can do that and give a bit of personality all the better. It's a lot better than many in fairness but for someone who gets a lot of messages the need to spend time finding out fairly basic info might mean they pass you by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and first messages, not too long, be polite and ideally make reference to something in their profile that makes you want to meet them in particular (although not Wow, great tits, may be true but that doesn't make you stand out!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you very much! I will try a cheeky bum shot or 2 today!

I have update my profile, shortened it but I think with more about me!

If you're not busy, take a look and see what you think.

And see what else I need to add or delete!

Thanks again, G.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe only reply when people have meets up.

We usually don't reply unless we have meets posted.

The pics are a bit Waynes world

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some people never post up their meets mind!

But yeah that is something to think about!

How do you mean they are waynes world? Haha

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By *istressandbitchCouple
over a year ago

You wrote everything you wanted on your profile. Maybe think about what others want. And your pics show nothing but those irritating over shapes. May as well of put flowers on them. I got bored after about 6th line. Would definately shorten and not.say so much about.your self. Then you have something to chat about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You wrote everything you wanted on your profile. Maybe think about what others want. And your pics show nothing but those irritating over shapes. May as well of put flowers on them. I got bored after about 6th line. Would definately shorten and not.say so much about.your self. Then you have something to chat about."

What exactly do others want? That's kind of what i'm asking!

Yeah i don't like putting the shapes on my photos, but i have to cover up my tattoos on my public photos.

I have just deleted some more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What exactly do others want? That's kind of what i'm asking"

That way madness lies, different people will be on here looking for different things. If you try and write a profile that appeals to everyone you'll probably appeal to no one. As an example as a couple we want to meet guys who like a threesome and get the dynamic that involves, this means we're not interested in guys who want cuckold and hot wife couples. Which are you interested in?

I think if you are honest about what you are interested in and enjoy you stand a better chance of finding compatible meets, but no, doesn't hurt to have a think about what type of things others are after to help you figure it out.

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By *fficer and GentlemanCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Have noticed in your write up that you would like to try mmf but in your looking for section it says you are only looking for female couples. That might stop members being able to find you when they search

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice on this thread everyone (particularly AlargeGnT) it's been really clear and useful. I'm slowly devising a profile offline and this is all going to really help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my experience especially with couples is, if they're interested they'll find you.

The odds are stacked against single men but just be patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello all! I've been here a while now, and not managed a meet. Not even a social. I asked here a while ago, and amended my profile accordingly. But so far it hasn't seemed to help.

So I'm here again to ask about my profile, what to lose and what to keep.

And what should I be putting in the messages that I send?

I do send face and body pics, and I don't think I'm bad looking.

Any advice and constructive criticism will be much appreciated "
approach women and couples with extreme caution at all times they bite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude your profile and photos are better than mine so you'll manage meets sooner or later.

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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago

Dorset

In our experience most guys don't even read our profile properly, remember a couple posting a meet are doing so for their pleasure so put that first then maybe you can ask if they will do something that you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In our experience most guys don't even read our profile properly, remember a couple posting a meet are doing so for their pleasure so put that first then maybe you can ask if they will do something that you want.

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men can't read surely you know that by now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have noticed in your write up that you would like to try mmf but in your looking for section it says you are only looking for female couples. That might stop members being able to find you when they search "

Omg what an idiot. I must have unchecked it by accident.

Thankyou very much

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