FabSwingers.com forum: Fed up of Keyboard Warriors

By *hydaisy2 OP Woman
over a year ago

norwich

I'm just having a rant.... Is it because I'm a single lady on here that some men feel it's ok to speak to me however they wish? Bullying tactics of pressure and abuse to 'make' me talk or meet. Or because I do not wish to?

As if...

Just a distinct lack of respect. I cannot be the only one that experiences this?

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

No you aren't.

But I am a big fan of the delete and block button, occasionally the report button as well.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I'm just having a rant.... Is it because I'm a single lady on here that some men feel it's ok to speak to me however they wish? Bullying tactics of pressure and abuse to 'make' me talk or meet. Or because I do not wish to?

As if...

Just a distinct lack of respect. I cannot be the only one that experiences this?

No you aren't, I get a lot of this as well, strange that the same guys were polite on a couple's profile that I've had with an ex, they must be so brave giving women a hard time, sadly nothing seems to done after reporting them either.

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By *ocoaXXXMan
over a year ago

London

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By *hydaisy2 OP Woman
over a year ago

norwich

I agree with both comments, I block and I've reported.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Really can't believe this goes on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No you're not the only one. The dickhead type men seem to be putting loads of women off sex lately.

Just delete their mail. They are desperate for attention. If you reply you're feeding them. They hate to be ignored.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

In seven years I've never received an abusive message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes so I took control of who can message me by adjusting my age filters. No one can message me unless I message them so I message who takes my fancy. No crap/rude/abusive messages, sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I get that too. Delete and block, report if necessary, and push out of your mind whatever it is they've said because men like that are really not worth thinking about.

Gets a bit much every now and then though and I take a little break or apply my filters x

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By *omerladyWoman
over a year ago

Taunton

"Yes so I took control of who can message me by adjusting my age filters. No one can message me unless I message them so I message who takes my fancy. No crap/rude/abusive messages, sorted

This! Single men can no longer message me and generally, I get little in the way of crap now. I only meet new guys at a club now. They can speak to me in person and not via a keyboard.

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

We have had this once and hubby decided to have fun with him.

Ended up mailing back and struck up a conversation and arranged a meet for the following night.

His mails showed he wasn't too impressed when we didn't turn up and that was when we blocked him

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I don't understand why people can't be polite to others

If I don't like a profile, I won't bother messaging,

If I like and message, and don't get a response then I leave it.

It could be that they are busy, it could be What they are not what they are looking for, it could be they have so many emails and mine is missed

If I send a message and get a response (positive or negative), then that's ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have had this once and hubby decided to have fun with him.

Ended up mailing back and struck up a conversation and arranged a meet for the following night.

His mails showed he wasn't too impressed when we didn't turn up and that was when we blocked him

You should be banned from the site. You're fucked up. Hope he reported you as a no show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In seven years I've never received an abusive message."

I've had the occasional one but I'm very good at ignoring my inbox. I only reply if I'm interested or if it's following on from a forum post. Everything else is ignored/deleted. On the rare occasion there's an abusive message the block button works fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the saddest things about the net is keyboard warriors

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have had this once and hubby decided to have fun with him.

Ended up mailing back and struck up a conversation and arranged a meet for the following night.

His mails showed he wasn't too impressed when we didn't turn up and that was when we blocked him

You should be banned from the site. You're fucked up. Hope he reported you as a no show. "

Agreed! This is worse than the issues the OP mentions if you ask me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As if...

Just a distinct lack of respect. I cannot be the only one that experiences this?

Just block all men and do your own searches.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why people can't be polite to others

If I don't like a profile, I won't bother messaging,

If I like and message, and don't get a response then I leave it.

It could be that they are busy, it could be What they are not what they are looking for, it could be they have so many emails and mine is missed

If I send a message and get a response (positive or negative), then that's ok "

I share your _iew but I'm convinced some on here (fortunately a small minority) are actually on here to be keyboard warriors or trolls. These people have serious issues, lack of self respect and self confidence and by belittling others, they feel empowered, it boosts their fragile egos. No one who is happy in their lives feels the need to go out of their way to be rude/abusive to complete strangers. Its pathetic really.

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By *eepndarkMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"No you aren't.

But I am a big fan of the delete and block button, occasionally the report button as well."

Block them.

They us men a very bad reputation.

Its a disgrace.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Its the ones that you've never even spoken to that get me.

First message is just a page full of insults.

Knobheads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not on this profile but on a previous one. I noticed someone asked why they send a message if they don't like a profile - that's the thing, it's not that they don't like your profile, it's that they're under this warped delusion that us women on here are all slags who should be grateful for any holy cock that should want to grace us. We're all here because we'll shag anything, obviously. So then when they get turned down, they don't understand it. Thank goodness for the block button.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"We have had this once and hubby decided to have fun with him.

Ended up mailing back and struck up a conversation and arranged a meet for the following night.

His mails showed he wasn't too impressed when we didn't turn up and that was when we blocked him

Two wrongs don't make a right. OK, so he might have been an idiot with his original message but why didn't you just block him, instead of messing him about? I've been stood up by malicious people and its a horrible feeling.

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By *hydaisy2 OP Woman
over a year ago

norwich

"Not on this profile but on a previous one. I noticed someone asked why they send a message if they don't like a profile - that's the thing, it's not that they don't like your profile, it's that they're under this warped delusion that us women on here are all slags who should be grateful for any holy cock that should want to grace us. We're all here because we'll shag anything, obviously. So then when they get turned down, they don't understand it. Thank goodness for the block button. "

I totally agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really can't believe this goes on. "

Me neither. Are we talking about abusive messages or men asking to meet, without sending simpering, flattering messages?

Are they being too bold? Too forthright? Too boring?

Do you block after saying no thank you?

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By *hydaisy2 OP Woman
over a year ago

norwich

"Really can't believe this goes on.

Me neither. Are we talking about abusive messages or men asking to meet, without sending simpering, flattering messages?

Are they being too bold? Too forthright? Too boring?

Do you block after saying no thank you? "

Some men generally being abusive. For whatever reason... or no reason whatsoever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really can't believe this goes on.

Me neither. Are we talking about abusive messages or men asking to meet, without sending simpering, flattering messages?

Are they being too bold? Too forthright? Too boring?

Do you block after saying no thank you?

Some men generally being abusive. For whatever reason... or no reason whatsoever"

I really want to know why some women get this, and others don't, including me. I've had naked body photos up and not received one abusive message. My body is not a nice sight either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its the ones that you've never even spoken to that get me.

First message is just a page full of insults.

Knobheads"

I think the worse the insults just shows how utterly desperately they want to fuck you. Their sexual frustration shows as anger.

I take such insults on here as compliments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its the ones that you've never even spoken to that get me.

First message is just a page full of insults.

Knobheads

I think the worse the insults just shows how utterly desperately they want to fuck you. Their sexual frustration shows as anger.

I take such insults on here as compliments.

I'm beginning to feel insulted I'm not desirable enough to get abusive messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really can't believe this goes on.

Me neither. Are we talking about abusive messages or men asking to meet, without sending simpering, flattering messages?

Are they being too bold? Too forthright? Too boring?

Do you block after saying no thank you?

Some men generally being abusive. For whatever reason... or no reason whatsoever

I really want to know why some women get this, and others don't, including me. I've had naked body photos up and not received one abusive message. My body is not a nice sight either. "

I don't get it either. I can count on one hand the number of abusive messages I've had in 5 years. I can't even remember the last one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really can't believe this goes on.

Me neither. Are we talking about abusive messages or men asking to meet, without sending simpering, flattering messages?

Are they being too bold? Too forthright? Too boring?

Do you block after saying no thank you?

Some men generally being abusive. For whatever reason... or no reason whatsoever

I really want to know why some women get this, and others don't, including me. I've had naked body photos up and not received one abusive message. My body is not a nice sight either.

I don't get it either. I can count on one hand the number of abusive messages I've had in 5 years. I can't even remember the last one! "

And I can be quite caustic on the forum too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really can't believe this goes on.

Me neither. Are we talking about abusive messages or men asking to meet, without sending simpering, flattering messages?

Are they being too bold? Too forthright? Too boring?

Do you block after saying no thank you?

Some men generally being abusive. For whatever reason... or no reason whatsoever

I really want to know why some women get this, and others don't, including me. I've had naked body photos up and not received one abusive message. My body is not a nice sight either.

I don't get it either. I can count on one hand the number of abusive messages I've had in 5 years. I can't even remember the last one!

And I can be quite caustic on the forum too

That knocks my only mingers get ignored theory.

Maybe they're scared of us

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Not had too many abusive messages but we've certainly had a few from guys who've contacted us despite not being a match for what's in our profile (e.g. age, distance, sexual orientation, personal preferences etc.) and then when we've politely turned them down, argued about why we won't meet them.

These are the guys who delude themselves that women are here just waiting for their attentions even if they don't realise it. It's pathetic really and in some cases a sign of deep seated psychological issues.

Thankfully they're in the minority but the best way to deal with them is by reporting them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its the ones that you've never even spoken to that get me.

First message is just a page full of insults.

Knobheads

I think the worse the insults just shows how utterly desperately they want to fuck you. Their sexual frustration shows as anger.

I take such insults on here as compliments.

I'm beginning to feel insulted I'm not desirable enough to get abusive messages

Don't cry Nanna. xx In about 5 yrs I've only had a couple of abusive messages.

The rest are relieved I said no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In seven years I've never received an abusive message.

I could count on one hand the amount of abusive mails I've had from men.

Abuse from women in the fora? Now that's another story

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By *hydaisy2 OP Woman
over a year ago

norwich

I've thought about this. Maybe it's because my name is 'shydaisy' does it immediately make me sound like I'm vulnerable with low self esteem? Thus I receive some messages from some men that are possibly exploiting this? Maybe I need to change my name to 'hotbitch'

That last comment was tongue in cheek. Not to offend anyone. Xx

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

"We have had this once and hubby decided to have fun with him.

Ended up mailing back and struck up a conversation and arranged a meet for the following night.

His mails showed he wasn't too impressed when we didn't turn up and that was when we blocked him

Wow, just wow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really can't believe this goes on.

Me neither. Are we talking about abusive messages or men asking to meet, without sending simpering, flattering messages?

Are they being too bold? Too forthright? Too boring?

Do you block after saying no thank you?

Some men generally being abusive. For whatever reason... or no reason whatsoever

I really want to know why some women get this, and others don't, including me. I've had naked body photos up and not received one abusive message. My body is not a nice sight either.

I don't get it either. I can count on one hand the number of abusive messages I've had in 5 years. I can't even remember the last one!

And I can be quite caustic on the forum too

That knocks my only mingers get ignored theory.

Maybe they're scared of us

There might be something in that. Maybe they target those who show a vulnerability?

Either that or we are beyond invisible

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We have had this once and hubby decided to have fun with him.

Ended up mailing back and struck up a conversation and arranged a meet for the following night.

His mails showed he wasn't too impressed when we didn't turn up and that was when we blocked him

If you receive abusive messages report them and block. Arranging a meet and not turning up can be reported too and in my opinion is just as bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've thought about this. Maybe it's because my name is 'shydaisy' does it immediately make me sound like I'm vulnerable with low self esteem? Thus I receive some messages from some men that are possibly exploiting this? Maybe I need to change my name to 'hotbitch'

That last comment was tongue in cheek. Not to offend anyone. Xx"

My theory was only the hot and sexy women get abuse, because men want them so much and are frustrated they can't have them.

But Scarlet blew that one out of the water

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Funny how you are hot, fit, gorgeous etc until you said no thanks then the abuse starts fat slag, whore etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never had an out of the blue abusive message, but i've had abuse after saying no thanks,from people who i can only assume are extremely short sighted as they've failed to notice my age,or size before i replied to them..very sad...and a very specific age group too,which is interesting..

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"never had an out of the blue abusive message, but i've had abuse after saying no thanks,from people who i can only assume are extremely short sighted as they've failed to notice my age,or size before i replied to them..very sad...and a very specific age group too,which is interesting.."

It that the younger age group?

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By *taffs_hotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

These forums are full of bullies, cliques and keyboard warriors. You just need to develop a thicker skin, block them and move on. If I get a message from anyone who hasn't bothered to read my profile for what I'm looking for I block and delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It that the younger age group?"

i've had it now and again from younger men, but no, the majority is not...i can entertain myself by predicting from the message, and profile exactly which men respond like this, and i'm getting pretty acurrate now..

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

It that the younger age group?

I actually fund the older guys are worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It that the younger age group?

I actually fund the older guys are worse"

yes,exactly what i find too...some young guys can be rude, but i've never really vicious, borderline scary bile from them that i've had from older men.

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By *anger69104Man
over a year ago

Lincoln

"I don't understand why people can't be polite to others

If I don't like a profile, I won't bother messaging,

If I like and message, and don't get a response then I leave it.

It could be that they are busy, it could be What they are not what they are looking for, it could be they have so many emails and mine is missed

If I send a message and get a response (positive or negative), then that's ok "

This plus if their profile excludes me in some way I don't try to get around it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why people can't be polite to others

If I don't like a profile, I won't bother messaging,

If I like and message, and don't get a response then I leave it.

It could be that they are busy, it could be What they are not what they are looking for, it could be they have so many emails and mine is missed

If I send a message and get a response (positive or negative), then that's ok

I have written similar string to this as it happens to couples as well. Have reported some of the trolls who are there again the following night in the chat rooms holding court and being offensive to all. We reported a profile for anti semitic abuse and using derogatory nazi references. How many think the profile of this single guy is still on the site ?? Lets see what happens but it does not seem the site has an answer for this.

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"We have had this once and hubby decided to have fun with him.

Ended up mailing back and struck up a conversation and arranged a meet for the following night.

His mails showed he wasn't too impressed when we didn't turn up and that was when we blocked him

If you receive abusive messages report them and block. Arranging a meet and not turning up can be reported too and in my opinion is just as bad."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally hate ppl who are full of it when typing it's like a old school bully with less balls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really can't believe this goes on.

Me neither. Are we talking about abusive messages or men asking to meet, without sending simpering, flattering messages?

Are they being too bold? Too forthright? Too boring?

Do you block after saying no thank you? "

I can relate to the OP

My experience was a guy messages and clearly hadn't read my profile. I could see by his location this was true. Anyway I stuck to site rules by deleting his message. Those rules clearly state deleted messages means no thanks and he/she should take them as such. That particular guy kept messaging and messaging. I never responded except once after he wouldn't stop. That was to say I wasn't interested as my profile would of already shown him. His last message before I blocked him was "I'm coming to your town to stalk you, beat you, rxpe you and throw acid in your face". I did nothing and said nothing to deserve that.

Due to some comments on this thread id like to add... Why should any of us have to install filters or be victim blamed because in Some users eyes we didn't do this or we should of done that. Or even simply because they've never been threatened, we must be exaggerating or making it up. Well no. Fact is this site is full of wrong'uns who spit their dummy out if you dare do not fancy them or go running to immediately suck their dick.

OP, there are plenty of good guys on this site though and thank you to all those gentleman. I rarely meet. Not because I don't want too, I do! It's just extremely difficult a lot of the times to find some who ticks the boxes and who respects a woman profile wishes. After all they are there to stop the guys from wasting their own time too. Keep at it though OP. You'll meet someone who suits you soon enough.

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By * e coupleCouple
over a year ago

northeast

It's a shame that guys cannot just enjoy seeing the gorgeous females on here . Without having to resort to being horrible .. They may be what you want ,if they don't want you just move on

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Really can't believe this goes on.

Me neither. Are we talking about abusive messages or men asking to meet, without sending simpering, flattering messages?

Are they being too bold? Too forthright? Too boring?

Do you block after saying no thank you?

I can relate to the OP

*stands up applauding loudly*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really can't believe this goes on.

Me neither. Are we talking about abusive messages or men asking to meet, without sending simpering, flattering messages?

Are they being too bold? Too forthright? Too boring?

Do you block after saying no thank you?

I can relate to the OP

Why didn't you block before you deleted, or after the first message you didn't want to receive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No you're not the only one. The dickhead type men seem to be putting loads of women off sex lately.

Just delete their mail. They are desperate for attention. If you reply you're feeding them. They hate to be ignored. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The people sending these messages are retards who don't understand swinging and that there are often 30000+ people on any given time they can message if they get rejected by one or two people. As for the out of the blue insults, it's obvious trolling and easy to dismiss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really can't believe this goes on.

Me neither. Are we talking about abusive messages or men asking to meet, without sending simpering, flattering messages?

Are they being too bold? Too forthright? Too boring?

Do you block after saying no thank you?

I can relate to the OP

Why didn't you block before you deleted, or after the first message you didn't want to receive? "

Like my post says, I abided with site rules by deleting. Deleting messages means not interested! The question is not why didn't I block the first message, it's why he didn't abide by site rules and move on after he was clearly made aware i wasn't interested.

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

Only had one abusive message in the 7 years I've been on the site, reported it and he was removed within a few hours.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Really can't believe this goes on.

Me neither. Are we talking about abusive messages or men asking to meet, without sending simpering, flattering messages?

Are they being too bold? Too forthright? Too boring?

Do you block after saying no thank you?

I can relate to the OP

I'm coming to your town to stalk you, beat you, rxpe you and throw acid in your face".

I've had that one as well, he found me on fb, pof had to block him there as well

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Sorry but threats of r@pe show a disturb mind and need reporting to the police by the site.

These are people who are a danger to society at large as whilst they may not track their victim down, they may switch their unplaced and unwarranted anger at the next girl or lady walking down the street.

I have no time for people threatening sexual violence. To me it is the same as walking down the street with a gun or a knife. You have intent and malice in mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really can't believe this goes on.

Me neither. Are we talking about abusive messages or men asking to meet, without sending simpering, flattering messages?

Are they being too bold? Too forthright? Too boring?

Do you block after saying no thank you?

I can relate to the OP

Why didn't you block before you deleted, or after the first message you didn't want to receive?

The rules are guidelines, not law. They should have a rule that you block when deleting, so you can't receive any more messages. It's the common sense thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't reply to them

That's what we do most of the time.it's not rude,don't let anyone convince you otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its the ones that you've never even spoken to that get me.

First message is just a page full of insults.

Knobheads

I think the worse the insults just shows how utterly desperately they want to fuck you. Their sexual frustration shows as anger.

I take such insults on here as compliments.

This is great

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By *nsert user name hereMan
over a year ago

Manchester

The rules are guidelines, not law. They should have a rule that you block when deleting, so you can't receive any more messages. It's the common sense thing to do. "

Agreed, don't know why people don't do this. It makes people know exactly where they stand. I block those who aren't of interest, or who aren't interested in me because it makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all men are the same but they should show some respect no matter what

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Just don't reply to them

That's what we do most of the time.it's not rude,don't let anyone convince you otherwise "

Nice photo's!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just don't reply to them

That's what we do most of the time.it's not rude,don't let anyone convince you otherwise "

What about the keyboard warriors in the fora? Their rude comments are there for everyone to see. Is there a better way to deal with them than ignoring?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

The rules are guidelines, not law. They should have a rule that you block when deleting, so you can't receive any more messages. It's the common sense thing to do.

Agreed, don't know why people don't do this. It makes people know exactly where they stand. I block those who aren't of interest, or who aren't interested in me because it makes sense. "

I think the point LouisaLou was trying to make is that it shouldn't be up to us to prevent the messages, it should be up to the guys not to act like that. It's like telling an assault victim that she should have worn different clothes.

Having said that, blocking pesterers is the only way to stop them messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just don't reply to them

That's what we do most of the time.it's not rude,don't let anyone convince you otherwise

Nice photo's!"

Thank you very much xx

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I messaged a lady today, read her profile sent her a polite message, got a polite one saying thank you for kind words but I am not looking at moment, happy swinging - I replied happy swinging

Now that's a simple easy decent response between 2 mature adults

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The rules are guidelines, not law. They should have a rule that you block when deleting, so you can't receive any more messages. It's the common sense thing to do.

Agreed, don't know why people don't do this. It makes people know exactly where they stand. I block those who aren't of interest, or who aren't interested in me because it makes sense.

Having said that, blocking pesterers is the only way to stop them messaging. "

Yes but being realistic you aren't going to change the behaviour of others so to get the outcome you desire you need to change your own behaviour first

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"In seven years I've never received an abusive message."

In six years we haven't had one either .

Well apart from the graveyard dogging thread a while back , but that aside not one .

Something tells me there's more to it ......

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Only had one abusive message in the 7 years I've been on the site, reported it and he was removed within a few hours. "

Only 1 a few years ago, they called me an arrogant prick and blocked me.

I laughed and mentally agreed with them

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"In seven years I've never received an abusive message.

In six years we haven't had one either .

Well apart from the graveyard dogging thread a while back , but that aside not one .

Something tells me there's more to it ......"

Probably because they know there's another man reading messages I hardly had any on a couple's profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only had one abusive message in the 7 years I've been on the site, reported it and he was removed within a few hours.

Only 1 a few years ago, they called me an arrogant prick and blocked me.

I laughed and mentally agreed with them

They were so right. ..welcome back

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Only had one abusive message in the 7 years I've been on the site, reported it and he was removed within a few hours.

Only 1 a few years ago, they called me an arrogant prick and blocked me.

I laughed and mentally agreed with them

They were so right. ..welcome back

Cheers

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"We have had this once and hubby decided to have fun with him.

Ended up mailing back and struck up a conversation and arranged a meet for the following night.

His mails showed he wasn't too impressed when we didn't turn up and that was when we blocked him

Truly appalling behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The rules are guidelines, not law. They should have a rule that you block when deleting, so you can't receive any more messages. It's the common sense thing to do.

Agreed, don't know why people don't do this. It makes people know exactly where they stand. I block those who aren't of interest, or who aren't interested in me because it makes sense.

Having said that, blocking pesterers is the only way to stop them messaging. "

exactly this...it's just disappointing to have to treat another grown adult like a naughty child...maybe when joining there could be a more direct piece of advice regarding getting a polite no thanks, and have it followed up by people actually being censured when they are reported for being abusive.The onus should be on the person responding with abuse, not the person who has politely turned them down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it happens on most sites dating or swinging as some men are pathetic and cant take rejection at the end of the day most people have a type and if they arent your type then they need to suck it up and put there big boy pants on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it happens on most sites dating or swinging as some men are pathetic and cant take rejection at the end of the day most people have a type and if they arent your type then they need to suck it up and put there big boy pants on "

i have never experienced any abuse on a dating site. The mindset is possibly different..i'm sure plenty of people are on dating sites to purely meet for sex, but i think the very nature of this site,as someone said earlier, the type of pics etc, means that a lot of men really do think they have some sort of right to just pick a woman and expect them to be grateful...they seem to have no conception of the fact that women are on here for their own benefit..

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over a year ago

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Don't know what they were expecting on joining here, instashag?

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We don't get 'abuse' so much as we'll occasionally get rude or abrupt messages from guys assuming they're talking to steph. 'You're going to take both of our cocks, slut' or 'I'll bend you over and fuck you in front of him to show him what a real man can do'.

As soon as I reply and point out it's the male half responding, it all becomes very 'oh hey mate. How you doing? Is the Mrs around then?'

This is why guys are blocked from messaging us anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny how you are hot, fit, gorgeous etc until you said no thanks then the abuse starts fat slag, whore etc"

This

I've had a few messages like this.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Funny how you are hot, fit, gorgeous etc until you said no thanks then the abuse starts fat slag, whore etc

This

I've had a few messages like this. "

Don't know why they think we will change our minds to be honest

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By *even inchesMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Unfortunately a lot of so called men on this site are fucked up in the head after watching to much porn where the guy disrespects the girl calling them sluts slags etc

So this site is a cheap outlet for them to try and emulate there screwed up heads

I feel for the ladies that receive theses messages but these dumb asses can send messages as they wish making them in there heads a copy of the shite they watch

It's also evident from a lot of the comments in the chat rooms that they have no respect at all

But if you get the mental picture in your head of a fat ugly bald guy with a teeny todger tugging himself off as he frantically types a message it all becomes clearer

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By *hydaisy2 OP Woman
over a year ago

norwich

"Unfortunately a lot of so called men on this site are fucked up in the head after watching to much porn where the guy disrespects the girl calling them sluts slags etc

So this site is a cheap outlet for them to try and emulate there screwed up heads

I feel for the ladies that receive theses messages but these dumb asses can send messages as they wish making them in there heads a copy of the shite they watch

It's also evident from a lot of the comments in the chat rooms that they have no respect at all

But if you get the mental picture in your head of a fat ugly bald guy with a teeny todger tugging himself off as he frantically types a message it all becomes clearer "

love this

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By *ongueTwisterMan
over a year ago

I dread to think! I've just posted about some of the meet requests on the forums from some blokes! I'm a straight SM but some of the things make my skin crawl

I mean i get it's a sex site but abit of respect never goes a miss does it?? Come on fellas your giving us a bad name

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By *ongueTwisterMan
over a year ago

Spot on mate!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

last profile we had an abusive mail of a single fem who loves attention in the top fab pics.

we had a pic above hers and she mailed to say we were fake and our pics are shit. oh the irony made me laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"last profile we had an abusive mail of a single fem who loves attention in the top fab pics.

we had a pic above hers and she mailed to say we were fake and our pics are shit. oh the irony made me laugh

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lmto really. Whats point in inboxing a stranger just to say that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's funnier is when you get messages off someone else telling you a previous meet who didn't fully get her own way has been trying to dissuade other people from meeting you.

Just makes that person look like a cunt to everyone really haha.

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over a year ago

"I dread to think! I've just posted about some of the meet requests on the forums from some blokes! I'm a straight SM but some of the things make my skin crawl

I mean i get it's a sex site but abit of respect never goes a miss does it?? Come on fellas your giving us a bad name

You don't find a guy tonguing out 3 different stranger's cum from your arse a turn on? Pfft, fucking frigid prude.

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By *ongueTwisterMan
over a year ago

"I dread to think! I've just posted about some of the meet requests on the forums from some blokes! I'm a straight SM but some of the things make my skin crawl

I mean i get it's a sex site but abit of respect never goes a miss does it?? Come on fellas your giving us a bad name

You don't find a guy tonguing out 3 different stranger's cum from your arse a turn on? Pfft, fucking frigid prude."

Hahahaha it's not on the bucket list I'll say that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As if...

Just a distinct lack of respect. I cannot be the only one that experiences this?

On what level would any guy think that sought of pressure would work? I do think sometimes some text you can apply a different tone to what is what written if that makes sense but abuse get them blocked x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a small minority of men and women on here struggle socially in real life so they have turned to fab thinking that they will automatically get a bit of action and then when they find out they still need social skills to interact with people on here they get angry and rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a small minority of men and women on here struggle socially in real life so they have turned to fab thinking that they will automatically get a bit of action and then when they find out they still need social skills to interact with people on here they get angry and rude."

Well said. The amount of Asian men who think they can walk in clubs and just get what they want without saying a word makes me laugh too. They forget they're not outside the school playground anymore. Amuses me to see them walking around, hand in pockets. Most people I've met and spoke to have said the same, they're the rudest.

All blag and no swag.

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