FabSwingers.com forum: Is age a big thing on here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey everyone I have been on here for quite a while and I have been to a club and loved it but it seems to me my age is really holding me back can anybody help me or give me any advice

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

Many people are 35+ on here, most don't want to have sex with someone their children's age

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's fair but what if they like older women

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

Makes no difference

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's fair but what if they like older women "

Doesn't matter what you like if they don't like you.

I was instantly turned off by your username tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the feedback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's fair but what if they like older women "

So what? Maybe they don't like you

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"That's fair but what if they like older women

So what? Maybe they don't like you"

It's a cruel world...

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

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"Hey everyone I have been on here for quite a while and I have been to a club and loved it but it seems to me my age is really holding me back can anybody help me or give me any advice "

You're 20 and you've been here before? WHEN?? In high school???

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

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"Hey everyone I have been on here for quite a while and I have been to a club and loved it but it seems to me my age is really holding me back can anybody help me or give me any advice "

I wouldn't say it's age alone but my word you look about 16 kidda.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone I have been on here for quite a while and I have been to a club and loved it but it seems to me my age is really holding me back can anybody help me or give me any advice

I wouldn't say it's age alone but my word you look about 16 kidda. "

You beat me to it, it's more the fact of how young you look rather than your actual age, I suggest printing your photo id on a tshirt and wearing it so they know you ain't out late on a school night

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

Thought most clubs were 21 or older

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thought most clubs were 21 or older

Maybe in America but not here

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Hey everyone I have been on here for quite a while and I have been to a club and loved it but it seems to me my age is really holding me back can anybody help me or give me any advice

I wouldn't say it's age alone but my word you look about 16 kidda.

You beat me to it, it's more the fact of how young you look rather than your actual age, I suggest printing your photo id on a tshirt and wearing it so they know you ain't out late on a school night"

I literally LOLed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone I have been on here for quite a while and I have been to a club and loved it but it seems to me my age is really holding me back can anybody help me or give me any advice

I wouldn't say it's age alone but my word you look about 16 kidda.

You beat me to it, it's more the fact of how young you look rather than your actual age, I suggest printing your photo id on a tshirt and wearing it so they know you ain't out late on a school night

I literally LOLed!

Aww shucks

tbh I've been doing that at alot of your posts recently

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"Hey everyone I have been on here for quite a while and I have been to a club and loved it but it seems to me my age is really holding me back can anybody help me or give me any advice

I wouldn't say it's age alone but my word you look about 16 kidda.

You beat me to it, it's more the fact of how young you look rather than your actual age, I suggest printing your photo id on a tshirt and wearing it so they know you ain't out late on a school night"

Stop teasing him lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone I have been on here for quite a while and I have been to a club and loved it but it seems to me my age is really holding me back can anybody help me or give me any advice

I wouldn't say it's age alone but my word you look about 16 kidda.

You beat me to it, it's more the fact of how young you look rather than your actual age, I suggest printing your photo id on a tshirt and wearing it so they know you ain't out late on a school night

Stop teasing him lol"

He could do what women do and lie about his age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd agree with what's said about the fab userbase. Mostly 35+ couples but you do get the occasional one looking for younger guys. It helps if you're fit/handsome/hung and suprisingly how you come across in your writing matters too. Focus on what you can change (profile, photos, messages and physique) and not your age

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

Tough if you like older women, not the women's problem. Do you expect sympathy fucks? You won't find them here lol. Personally I won't touch anyone young enough to be my child or old enough to be my parent. The latter isn't an issue because I'm not into older men. You smoke and can't accommodate both of those are known to decrease your chances of meets. As someone else said your name makes you sound immature, I'd probably look at that and your age and move along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all seriousness after you meet one or two it'll be alot easier maybe get yourself on cam

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

"Thought most clubs were 21 or older

Maybe in America but not here"

Must be the ones I go to then last nights it was 23

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thought most clubs were 21 or older

Maybe in America but not here

Must be the ones I go to then last nights it was 23"

Thats strange

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

"Thought most clubs were 21 or older

Maybe in America but not here

Must be the ones I go to then last nights it was 23

Thats strange"

I am talking about swinging clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thought most clubs were 21 or older

Maybe in America but not here

Must be the ones I go to then last nights it was 23

Thats strange

I am talking about swinging clubs "

Yes I know lol

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

"Thought most clubs were 21 or older

Maybe in America but not here

Must be the ones I go to then last nights it was 23

Thats strange

I am talking about swinging clubs

Yes I know lol "

Just checking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thought most clubs were 21 or older

Maybe in America but not here

Must be the ones I go to then last nights it was 23

Thats strange

I am talking about swinging clubs

Yes I know lol

Just checking

Most are 18 or the were when we started 10/11years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thought most clubs were 21 or older

Maybe in America but not here

Must be the ones I go to then last nights it was 23

Thats strange

I am talking about swinging clubs

Yes I know lol

Just checking

Most are 18 or the were when we started 10/11years ago "

Its nice to know you took your wife swinging when she was 17

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thought most clubs were 21 or older

Maybe in America but not here

Must be the ones I go to then last nights it was 23

Thats strange

I am talking about swinging clubs

Yes I know lol

Just checking

Most are 18 or the were when we started 10/11years ago

Its nice to know you took your wife swinging when she was 17

Simple maths 28 - 10 is 18 lol I put 10/11 as she is 29 very soon

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Age is no bar but you don't help yourself with your username.

It may help to ask the mods if you can change your name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel you bro, and although I haven't met anyone on here yet, you seriously need to change that username!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Age is no bar but you don't help yourself with your username.

It may help to ask the mods if you can change your name"

if he's a site supporter he can do it anyway without the mods

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By *b coupleCouple
over a year ago

southampton

Never seen a club that only allows over 23s, and the only over 21 places I know of are old school party nights. (Not swingers clubs)

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"Hey everyone I have been on here for quite a while and I have been to a club and loved it but it seems to me my age is really holding me back can anybody help me or give me any advice

I wouldn't say it's age alone but my word you look about 16 kidda.

You beat me to it, it's more the fact of how young you look rather than your actual age, I suggest printing your photo id on a tshirt and wearing it so they know you ain't out late on a school night

Stop teasing him lol

He could do what women do and lie about his age "

He'd never get away with that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone I have been on here for quite a while and I have been to a club and loved it but it seems to me my age is really holding me back can anybody help me or give me any advice "

Get older?

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We were at a swingers night recently where one single guy was so baby-faced it caused a few people to double take. Once you got closer you could see he was older than first appeared but it did creep us out having him watch us

He looked about 15.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone I have been on here for quite a while and I have been to a club and loved it but it seems to me my age is really holding me back can anybody help me or give me any advice "

Try being over 45. You're really fucked then (and not in the good sense)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How was ur visit to the club?

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Age is important to many people fir different reasons.

Speaking frankly I'd avoid your profile (and you if I saw you at a club) because in my opinion you are very young and you look younger than 20 and very boyish.

That may be someone's fantasy but I suspect it's not helping.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look 12 years old in your pics and your profile appears to be written by you younger sibling (that's brother or sister)

Your age is unfortunately against you on this site. You don't bring anything to the party so don't be offended when rejected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone I have been on here for quite a while and I have been to a club and loved it but it seems to me my age is really holding me back can anybody help me or give me any advice

Try being over 45. You're really fucked then (and not in the good sense)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many people are 35+ on here, most don't want to have sex with someone their children's age "

And therein lies the unfortunate double-standard...

What you mean to say is that most WOMEN aged 35+ don't want to have sex with GUYS their children's age...

Were the OP a 20 year old woman, or if he ID'ed as bisexual or gay, he would be inundated with offers of sex from 35+ year-old men...

Unfortunately, Men aged 20-25 are still perceived by society at large as emotionally immature and socially naive...Women aged 20-25, on the other hand, are portrayed overwhelmingly as sexually available and 'up for anything.'

That's not a complaint on my part...merely an observation based on the fact that while many women have told me 'sorry, you're young enough to be my son,' I am regularly sent messages by men who are old enough to be my father, asking if I want to suck their cocks...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apologies if I sounded as if I was attacking @_andi_shop...

As I say, I was simply speaking from my personal experience of fab as a mid-twenties bi guy...

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

Go get a girlfriend and get to know her rather than a swinging site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, for the sake of clarification:

When I said that my first post wasn't 'a complaint on my part,' I realise that it read as if I was being dismissive of the portrayal of young women as being 'sexually available.'

However, what I was trying to do was to issue a disclaimer, lest anyone assume that I was making a complaint about my being rejected on the grounds of age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone I have been on here for quite a while and I have been to a club and loved it but it seems to me my age is really holding me back can anybody help me or give me any advice "

Ok I'll be honest - you look really young...your photos are meh...you can't accommodate. You don't have much to offer an experienced mature lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think so I've always gone for men and woman aged 40-50

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By *weetChariotMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Yes, it would seem so. Over 55 has its challenges on here too.

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By *aughty_nymphWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I have no intention of offending here but I am trying to answer your request by being honest,

Your photos aren't great- they show no personality and maybe experiment with flattering angles for selfies.

You can't accommodate - this is the first thing I look at. If someone can't accommodate I am

Very unlikely to meet them. Also because you like cougars, women who are classed as this are more likely to have kids at home so also unable to accommodate

Nothing in your profile screams out "take a chance and meet me". Find what your selling point is and work that!

Delete your number and kik addy off your profile (looks desperate).

Be aware you won't be everyone's type. Women can be as fussy as they like in this scene because the female to male ratio is mad! Even though I have a very set type of man I go for (tall, athletic and tattooed) if that person isn't turning my mind on or can't hold a conversation, I won't meet them. Photos get my attention, personality keeps it.

Sorry if anything has offended but it's best

To be honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone I have been on here for quite a while and I have been to a club and loved it but it seems to me my age is really holding me back can anybody help me or give me any advice "

Some ladies like a younger guy, but for me personally I don't meet anyone who's 20, you're only two year older than my son, so it'd be too weird for me.

Continue with club visits, perhaps attend cougar and cub events.

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By *ockwhore41Couple
over a year ago

North Lincolnshire.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I joined the scene when I was 23 and I used to get, you look young, why are you hear etc....

I would say

1) change profile text - it is not the greatest and if a woman had that I wouldn't message her tbh

2) photos are not flattering at all. I suppose one good thing is no cock pic ( though some would that)

3) boxer shorts - try and have one colour, multicolour don't look good on photos

I would say get yourself to clubs but most clubs I think you would be underage

I am an experience swinger and it can be difficult for me at times, anyway I hope you get lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thought most clubs were 21 or older

Maybe in America but not here

Must be the ones I go to then last nights it was 23

Thats strange"

No its not. Most seingers clubs in the NW are 21 plus. Dont know why you think it's strange.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I have no intention of offending here but I am trying to answer your request by being honest,

Your photos aren't great- they show no personality and maybe experiment with flattering angles for selfies.

You can't accommodate - this is the first thing I look at. If someone can't accommodate I am

Very unlikely to meet them. Also because you like cougars, women who are classed as this are more likely to have kids at home so also unable to accommodate

Nothing in your profile screams out "take a chance and meet me". Find what your selling point is and work that!

Delete your number and kik addy off your profile (looks desperate).

Sorry if anything has offended but it's best

To be honest! "

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

"Thought most clubs were 21 or older

Maybe in America but not here

Must be the ones I go to then last nights it was 23

Thats strange

No its not. Most seingers clubs in the NW are 21 plus. Dont know why you think it's strange. "

Thank you I thought I was going mad

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