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"Don't turn up thinking your gonna get group play or any play for that matter, that's not how it works. " This. If you go with the expectations of going to play, 9 out of 10 ten times you won't. Unless you're meeting someone there. Go with the acceptance that you're there to meet new people and socialise. Call it networking if you like  | |||
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"Think I've got someone to come with me now, I'm just not sure, she's gorgeous as well. It's new with her and I've never tried any group sex before so not 100% if I want to be experimenting in front of someone new!! Amour in Manchester looks like my closest place." We all have to start somewhere | |||
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" ... I get turned on actually being jealous!! ... " Bring her to cupids and if me and her get on well I'll do a really really good job of getting you jealous   | |||
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" ... I get turned on actually being jealous!! ... Bring her to cupids and if me and her get on well I'll do a really really good job of getting you jealous "Genuinely guffawed. Bad man YNot. | |||
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"Ok if it doesn't really work like that at clubs, that's fair enough. To us it's just sexual, don't really want to make friends, we've both said let's not get to know people and keep it just physical if we get involved, where would we find like minded people... must be others out there?" Hire an Escort. | |||
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"Hi all, I'm luckily pretty sexually active as a single guy as in 1on1 action. But always been curious about group sex... I've asked a few ex's to come to swingers club and they've agreed but never got round to it, and I wouldn't know where to start. Is this something that happens at clubs? I think I'm a bit strange, I get turned on actually being jealous!! Turns me on during sex but no other times I don't know if that's weird?? So, 2 questions... if it is clubs then: Can you go alone (not sure I'm that brave) Or would I have to get a girl friend to join in? Thx " Why is attending a building that's like a pub but with somebody, somewhere maybe naked and shagging, brave? | |||
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" ... I get turned on actually being jealous!! ... Bring her to cupids and if me and her get on well I'll do a really really good job of getting you jealous
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"Ok if it doesn't really work like that at clubs, that's fair enough. To us it's just sexual, don't really want to make friends, we've both said let's not get to know people and keep it just physical if we get involved, where would we find like minded people... must be others out there?" I've been to a variety of clubs and I've yet to experience one that people have no social discourse and merely leap into group sex, not sure they exist in this lifestyle. Probably the closest you'd get is a greedy girls night. | |||
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"Ok if it doesn't really work like that at clubs, that's fair enough. To us it's just sexual, don't really want to make friends, we've both said let's not get to know people and keep it just physical if we get involved, where would we find like minded people... must be others out there?" We understand entirely....we have met a few people at the club who we keep in touch with on here or chat to when we see them but our preference is anonymous group play. We often just start playing with each other in an open room and very quickly others ask to join in and before you know it hey presto....orgy.... | |||
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"I guess I'm looking for something that doesn't exist so it will probably remain as a fantasy. Looks like couples fun would be more realistic. Again even that would be new but I just thought I'd ask. Thanks for your help. In reply to the person who asked why is it brave... I'm very confident, I think I'm reasonably good looking, some people like me find the fear of the unknown a bit daunting. I'm sure all the clubs are very helpful though, going on my own is still a scary prospect to me but I am a single guy at the moment so if I did anything on my own the social side wouldn't be an issue. It's different if we went together she would only be comfortable if it was just a physical thing, this wasn't her suggestion it was mine and she's willing to come with me but was only willing to if it's just sexual. I'm sure that there wouldn't be any complaints, she's stunning and likes men and women do I think everyone would be happy. I think I'm looking for an orgy scenario personally. If it's unrealistic you can blame Porn for that!! " From this it sounds like your gf diesnt want you to get attached to anyone ekse. Big alarm bells rwgarding jealousy are ringing. Really dont think euther if you have thought it through and its definitely not fair to subject anyone else to join into the scenario. Bunny boiler gf's and swinging mean things get ugly. | |||
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"Ok if it doesn't really work like that at clubs, that's fair enough. To us it's just sexual, don't really want to make friends, we've both said let's not get to know people and keep it just physical if we get involved, where would we find like minded people... must be others out there? I've been to a variety of clubs and I've yet to experience one that people have no social discourse and merely leap into group sex, not sure they exist in this lifestyle. Probably the closest you'd get is a greedy girls night. " I have to agree with this, most people will want a social interaction before there being anything else. Neither I or my friends would just jump into a group play session without it. Perhaps your first visit to a club could be you both feeling things out so to speak, observe the dynamics of the situation, and decide if that's what you're looking for going forward. | |||
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"That sounds like good advice. So you go to dip your toe in without getting involved with others so just myself and her and observe?" You decide what you want to do whilst you're there. Ask if you want to join in with anything or anybody first. Having sex or getting naked in a swingers club is not compulsory. | |||
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"Ok if it doesn't really work like that at clubs, that's fair enough. To us it's just sexual, don't really want to make friends, we've both said let's not get to know people and keep it just physical if we get involved, where would we find like minded people... must be others out there? We understand entirely....we have met a few people at the club who we keep in touch with on here or chat to when we see them but our preference is anonymous group play. We often just start playing with each other in an open room and very quickly others ask to join in and before you know it hey presto....orgy.... "Thanks for your reply. I've had a few messages by inbox, saying similar but didn't want to comment on here. Ok so clubs are an option, room with an open door is a normal protocol? | |||
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"Ok if it doesn't really work like that at clubs, that's fair enough. To us it's just sexual, don't really want to make friends, we've both said let's not get to know people and keep it just physical if we get involved, where would we find like minded people... must be others out there? We understand entirely....we have met a few people at the club who we keep in touch with on here or chat to when we see them but our preference is anonymous group play. We often just start playing with each other in an open room and very quickly others ask to join in and before you know it hey presto....orgy....
Thanks for your reply.
I've had a few messages by inbox, saying similar but didn't want to comment on here.
Ok so clubs are an option, room with an open door is a normal protocol? "Protocol? There are none. You go to a club and decide what you want to do, as long as that falls within the club rules and is legal. | |||
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"I guess I'm looking for something that doesn't exist so it will probably remain as a fantasy. Looks like couples fun would be more realistic. Again even that would be new but I just thought I'd ask. Thanks for your help. In reply to the person who asked why is it brave... I'm very confident, I think I'm reasonably good looking, some people like me find the fear of the unknown a bit daunting. I'm sure all the clubs are very helpful though, going on my own is still a scary prospect to me but I am a single guy at the moment so if I did anything on my own the social side wouldn't be an issue. It's different if we went together she would only be comfortable if it was just a physical thing, this wasn't her suggestion it was mine and she's willing to come with me but was only willing to if it's just sexual. I'm sure that there wouldn't be any complaints, she's stunning and likes men and women do I think everyone would be happy. I think I'm looking for an orgy scenario personally. If it's unrealistic you can blame Porn for that!! From this it sounds like your gf diesnt want you to get attached to anyone ekse. Big alarm bells rwgarding jealousy are ringing. Really dont think euther if you have thought it through and its definitely not fair to subject anyone else to join into the scenario. Bunny boiler gf's and swinging mean things get ugly." That's exactly right, she doesn't want me to get attached to anyone or anyone trying to get attached to her. It's literally just the sex she's open to. We are not together btw, but close enough for the time being and both want to be sexually adventurous | |||
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" Protocol? There are none. You go to a club and decide what you want to do, as long as that falls within the club rules and is legal." Sorry, maybe the wrong term... etiquette? Again we are new so don't want to offend anyone, some people just seem to want more socially than others. We wouldn't want to feel uncomfortable for being anti-social that's all if we are just there to feel sexually liberated without the chit chat if that makes sense | |||
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"Don't turn up thinking your gonna get group play or any play for that matter, that's not how it works. This. If you go with the expectations of going to play, 9 out of 10 ten times you won't. Unless you're meeting someone there. Go with the acceptance that you're there to meet new people and socialise. Call it networking if you like "Very much agree. | |||
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"That sounds like good advice. So you go to dip your toe in without getting involved with others so just myself and her and observe?" Exactly, if that's what works for you both. The first few times I went to a club I only played with the person I went with, and observed how things happened beyond that...and watching can be lots of fun | |||
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"Don't turn up thinking your gonna get group play or any play for that matter, that's not how it works. This. If you go with the expectations of going to play, 9 out of 10 ten times you won't. Unless you're meeting someone there. Go with the acceptance that you're there to meet new people and socialise. Call it networking if you like " | |||
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