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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't know if it's my profile or the way I approach people.. But still looking for my first meet and verification..

Any advice is welcome.. Or maybe nobody has any interest?..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol you've only been on here 3 weeks some people have been on here for months and not meet. Your profile says you go to clubs maybe getting a couple of people you meet there to verify you. Maybe a few more interesting pics that don't include your cock might also help

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Not knowing how you approach people I can only comment on your profile, which while brief tells people all they need to know.

Your approach must have been successful previously for you to have had the experiences you mention. Have you changed the way you go about things?

Three weeks isn't long for a single man on fab and you will have to be patient.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may not be doing anything wrong op I've been here over a year and still not had meet you just have to have to respectful and wait and I am sure it happen at least that what I tell myself lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have had various people say about meeting but been let down a lot or people just beat around the bush and never end up arranging a meet.. Frustrating but yes it's all about being patient.

Think I'll just try meet at a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 weeks and no meets ? Fucking hell you must have 2 heads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You live on the doorstep of kestrels/abfabs - if you head down there and chat politely to people, mention you are new onsite and would love a veri, and I'm sure you will pick up plenty (whether play happens or not!). I've often done this for guys I chat to at clubs, always happy to confirm that they attended the club, were chatty etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"3 weeks and no meets ? Fucking hell you must have 2 heads "

Giggle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see you mailed us 4 days ago and that we haven't mailed you. I can't remember why we hit delete, but we will normally message back if someone has included a face pic and written a personalised message. We tend to ignore one-line messages or messages where a cock pic is attached.

Mrs

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Gets some biceps like mine

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

No offence, but this thread does not help. It reflects a lack of self-confidence.

Be patiente... and creative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when I see an unverified profile claiming to have been to clubs, parties and have solo meets it rings all sorts pof alarms. are you lying to look more experienced or is there a reason no one is verifying you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also the more some one mentions discretion, the more I think they are hiding something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate give it time and be respectful at first message you'll get there.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

Nice looking penis, nice looking abs, unless you look like shrek you should be fine.

Smile at a club, be approachable, don't be pushy, don't act desperate. Wait to be invited. If you think they may be a little shy but your getting all the right signals, ask then if they like to wander around the club with you. Drop by a room or two, smile and ask if they'd like to close the door or not.

Just don't be weird

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Too many of these threads in this section - my suggestion Admin is to create a separate area where these whining men can go and ask for feedback on their profiles, that way we could go and comment on them and not see them in this section. Also a big red BGT buzzer would be handy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too many of these threads in this section - my suggestion Admin is to create a separate area where these whining men can go and ask for feedback on their profiles, that way we could go and comment on them and not see them in this section. Also a big red BGT buzzer would be handy "

thats a good idea! or one of those giant hooks they used to drag people off stage in some US talent show!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I have always thought there should be a "profile advice" section of the forum so people that don't mind helping give advice can without it crossing over into various rooms for others that don't like it to see (a bit like they did with politics)

They do generally try to keep them inone place in the introductions section but still feel they're out of place there's as I tried threads seem to get lost amongst the "what am I doing wrong" posts

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Too many of these threads in this section - my suggestion Admin is to create a separate area where these whining men can go and ask for feedback on their profiles, that way we could go and comment on them and not see them in this section. Also a big red BGT buzzer would be handy

thats a good idea! or one of those giant hooks they used to drag people off stage in some US talent show!"

Yeah we need something for all these whining men! I can see why they're getting no meets!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Swinging support and advice is a pretty good place to ask for advice really.

It's easy to identify this type of thread, therefore easy to avoid.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Swinging support and advice is a pretty good place to ask for advice really.

It's easy to identify this type of thread, therefore easy to avoid."

Perhaps admin could consider a "men with hench biceps" section too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"3 weeks and no meets ? Fucking hell you must have 2 heads "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging support and advice is a pretty good place to ask for advice really.

It's easy to identify this type of thread, therefore easy to avoid."

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Swinging support and advice is a pretty good place to ask for advice really.

It's easy to identify this type of thread, therefore easy to avoid."

Also easy to identify prey!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are you doing wrong?

This.. https://youtu.be/DDdM_0Xn1l8

Lol, just playing. You just have to be patient and NOT treat this site like escorts are giving freebies or like swingers are hornier than people on dating websites. It's not an indiscriminate fuck festival! You do have to build relationships or at least engage genuinely with people and respect their refined tastes while sharing your own. Just remember that we're all real people and you'll stay in the right track

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By *alfSmileMan
over a year ago

Yate

Hiya OP.

It takes time. I've been doing clubs for a few years. Just takes time.

Be yourself, be polite and be patient

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Swinging support and advice is a pretty good place to ask for advice really.

It's easy to identify this type of thread, therefore easy to avoid.

Also easy to identify prey! "

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Swinging support and advice is a pretty good place to ask for advice really.

It's easy to identify this type of thread, therefore easy to avoid.

Perhaps admin could consider a "men with hench biceps" section too "

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