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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have just rejoined Fab and am still surprised how rude some people are. If someone has taken the time to send you a message just be polite and respond even if it is just to say no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a topic that's been done a lot on here, but the fact is that women on the site get bombarded with messages. I've got over 100 sitting in my inbox right now from being away last week and I know other people who get that many in a single day. It's often not possible to respond to all of them without fab becoming my full time job. If you don't get a response, it's safe to assume they're not interested. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have just rejoined Fab and am still surprised how rude some people are. If someone has taken the time to send you a message just be polite and respond even if it is just to say no thank you."

Why ?

It's not obigitory you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pmsl would that be before or after they've contacted you repeatedly apparently suffering retrograde amnesia after you initially informed them previously that you weren't interested lol

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

This is why

A female friend of mine has been inundated with stupid single males since she joined a few days ago.

In her profile it says please no one replies and no cock shots. Please send face pics only. What does she get? One line replies of "Hi may name is Pete fancy a fuck" or "Hi my name is Tony Fancy meeting up" and the only pics enclosed are of cock shots?

She also put in her profile don’t ask to add me as a friend before we have chatted. About 40 – 60 men have asked to be a friend lol?

She also put only men between 32 and 42 e-mail me. Loads of men over 42 and under 32 have e-mailed her.

Also loads of men from Cornwall, Essex, Scotland etc have e-mailed her. She lives in Merseyside for f.... sake.

One even put you look so sexy in your pictures. She hasn't put any up due to her job lol.

She let me read some of the replies. It is obvious the men have not bothered to read her profile. It seems some men just e-mail every woman/couple they can. E-mailing hundreds of women/couples a day with copy and paste hoping they might get lucky lol.

She got about 180 e-mails in 2 days. I feel sorry for women and couples on Fab. It must do your head in deleting all the stupid replies from stupid single men.

She has now told me she may take her profile down and leave Fab. That is a shame as she is a lovely woman and sexy too.

She would need to take fab up as a full time job to reply to every idiot she gets mail from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wow a hundred messages in a day? fuck we only get the odd three or four..ok so what are we doing wrong lol? .x have we not put the right thing in our profile? maybe were way to ugly ..

we thought our profile was pretty much to the point, simple and honest ,as we are very genuine and real ,and not asking for anything off the wall. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say that I am both sides on the fence because I do only message people if I fit their criteria, so if I take the trouble to read and message and the message is just read without being read, it pisses me off!

That said, I do appreciate the fact that women get lots of messages. I think that the best profiles state clearly what they are or more importantly AREN'T looking for and include somewhere something that should be included in the message title.

Now, being controversial and in reply to Louisa's post.

You say you only get a few messages a day and you are clearly a very attractive woman. You know how some men lie about their cock size to make them seem more attractive? Wonder if SOME on here do the same?

"You know, I am so sexy I get 100 guys a day wanting to fuck me"

Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I can say why your not having much luck, your married, and not every single woman wants to meet a married man.

An example which may make you realise why a man has to put more effort in. Check meet today, and look at the number of single women, compared to the amount of single men wanting to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have 89 unread which i shall be deleting with out reading and replying and i just deleted about 50 with out replying what a cunt eh

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Eureka!!!!

We don't get as many messages as yu single girls thats for sure but had 7 since the pc was turned on this morning and just had it ........ a message of 15 words! beats the range of 2 -5 of the previous 6 pmsl

oh and I've made sure I have answered all of them with at least one word less than the original message, can't have them thinking they have sole rights to such limited use of the alphabet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get very few messages because of what I've written in our profile (seems people DO read them ) but we do get the odd few ... some are pleasant enough and I reply politely. Others are clearly just a copy and paste job (hello, I noticed you're into camming and wondered if you'd like a 121 session ...) Into camming? errr - news to me. But as we get so few messages I even reply to thgse with a curt but polite 'please read our profile properly'. I can imagine it must be more than a bit frustrating for people who get dozens of messages like that every day.

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

we do have a standard reply but the more interesting messages do get a proper response.

BTW today seems exceptional in the number of messages we are getting - must be day release lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe our profile is just to too to the point for most, as we dont get into endless chait chat on here or want too ,when I say here, I mean online. We prefer to be direct and keep it simple as we know what we are looking for and ask the basics, then asak to speak on the phone and sort out meets..think usually when it gets to "Lets speak on the phone" most seeem to dissapear lol. I wonder why?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" when it gets to "Lets speak on the phone" most seeem to dissapear lol. I wonder why?."

In some cases because they are fakes, but in other cases, and we consider ourselves to be the latter, we simply don't like cold calling, or being cold called on the phone by someone we've never met. We consider ourselves to be very genuine and are quite happy to exchange a few messages by email or MSN but phone calls ? Naaaahh, not for us. if it means that we lose out on a meet because of our reluctance to speak on the phone - so be it. It sure ain't the end of the world and we ain't gonna lose too much sleep over it - we know that we are genuine and that's all that matters to us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

true even a reply with a no thank you, but so many of my friends have NOT MEETING on their profile yet still have messages asking for a meet, hence they dont bother replying, saying if ppl cant be arsed to read their profile before messaging they cant be arsed to reply lol. but as a always say politeness costs nothing does it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking as a single guy, I have to admit that if I got the same volume of messages as single women, I doubt I'd reply to them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get so many messages now, but at the beginning I had lots, and being the polite person I am I replied to all, and then ran out of messages to send (meaning I reached the daily limit) shock horror I couldn't then message those that I wanted too!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Memeber for 7 weeks.. 3 varifications.. a good list of friends.. And then you moan in here lol.????

Count your blessings...... your doing well!

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