FabSwingers.com forum: Bareback

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not interested in bareback, but I'd really like to see it as one of the options in "interests".

Why? Because it would mean I could easily see which people I didn't want to contact!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great idea but people wont put it in their profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think you'd be surprised! Let's face it, people who bareback with strangers aren't generally known for their common sense!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you'd be surprised! Let's face it, people who bareback with strangers aren't generally known for their common sense!"

What a shocking comment.. Just because they like it.. you would think condoms made it safe...

and i dont think most do it with strangers..

but I would like to see it as an interest as its something that on occassion we will participate in with a regular meet.

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Katie,

I'm sorry - a bit of a tactless comment!

But would you really want to advertise it on your profile - isn't it something that you'd raise with someone once you got to know better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we were actually meeting new people we did have on it that we practised safe sex, but for the right person this may be waved..

I believe in honesty.. so would put it on if we were wanting that..

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bareback for people that dont give a shit about their health and health of others....do they carry a recnt health certificate with them of their recent STD and AIDS check to prove they dont have any I DONT THINK SO....mental if you play bareback......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This topic is flogged to death EVERY week; search bareback if you think I exaggerate!

There are people that bareback and have it on their profile. If you were to tell your friends you met strangers for sex they'd be aghast as it's promiscuous!

I'm of the _iew where I leave adults alone to make up their own minds in how they want to play.

You're naïve if you believe if bareback was an option it would be ticked! Bi men have straight on their profile, married men are single etc. Some people are here to enjoy the experience how they want, even if it means fewer meets and some will lie through their teeth to maximise their meets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was about to add but Sassy beat me to it...

The fact is that you could put it but as much as I would like to see it on.. People wouldnt dare put yes because they get slated..

Katie.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This topic is flogged to death EVERY week; search bareback if you think I exaggerate!

There are people that bareback and have it on their profile. If you were to tell your friends you met strangers for sex they'd be aghast as it's promiscuous!

I'm of the _iew where I leave adults alone to make up their own minds in how they want to play.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

This is the feedback section, mainly for the site owner to get feedback or suggestions.

If you want to discuss bareback the issue, anyone is welcome to start a thread on it in the swinging section etc or join one of the many threads that are going

To the OP, I think it would be a good idea for those who are brave enough to put it on their profile.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Fair enough that this is a topic that no one agrees on, also fair enough to point out that op may see more info on previos posts but surely the purpose of posting is to interact, not just read? I realise some people have been on here longer than others and seen it all before but should that mean that they dictate they have seen enough of a subject and should be obeyed? To my mind, if I'm not interested in a subject anymore I don't read it or comment on it. aren't the forums here just as much for newbies on it as regulars? I think new posters should be encouraged. Things go stale without new input, maybe they have something interesting to add...who knows.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

For what its worth I too think that a button to choose a side of the fence is a good idea. Not foolproof by any means, just another chance to figure out those wanting the same as you.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen plenty of people who write on their profile that they only play bareback or are willing, so I would imagine they'd be happy enough to tick a box. Plus, having it as an option, people who are new to the scene and don't realise what a hot potatoe the subject is may well innocently tick it as well if it's something they're up for.

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By *ricky_DickyMan
over a year ago

Mirfield

I've been on a few sites where bareback is a searchable option and it is surprising the number of profiles that select that option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Safe sex' is a tickable option on the interest list so as a general rule we assume that if a member doesn't tick that box, they prefer to play bareback.

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By *heshamCouple
over a year ago

worcs

"'Safe sex' is a tickable option on the interest list so as a general rule we assume that if a member doesn't tick that box, they prefer to play bareback."

Is the correct answer

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

"I think you'd be surprised! Let's face it, people who bareback with strangers aren't generally known for their common sense!"

our kinda guy, straight talking, but wont do you any favours opening your mouth here, trust me we have tried.

anyway totally agree with what you say and loved the way you said it

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

"'Safe sex' is a tickable option on the interest list so as a general rule we assume that if a member doesn't tick that box, they prefer to play bareback."

Really?

So what do soft swingers tick then? They can't honestly tick safe sex as they don't do penetration with others and it is a pretty sure bet they bareback with their own partner....

What about folks who enjoy both safe and bareback what should they tick

hmmm....

Can anyone come up with a good reason why to *not* have the bareback option to tick.

One other site we regularly use has this option and a quick check shows..... 15% of the members there tick bareback fun as a 'looking for' option. Some of those also tick safe sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP is merely trying to improve the quality of the search facility on the site. So why do people insist on beasting the poor bloke?

And yes he's right, if it's there then folks will tick it. Let all the barebackers name themselves.

I think it's a cracking idea. Gives me an even better idea who to avoid. And if you think they don't play with strangers you're sadly not living in the real world!

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

Makes us laugh this thread coz saying that ud avoid ppl coz they go BB is just stupid ,they may go BB with others but uve a choice in it ,no condom no play simples and coz theyve gone BB with otheres dont mean that its set in stone and all they want is to go BB with everyone they meet.we sure that if yous ask them the magority would happily cover up without a second thought and when they do what more risks are you taking that uve not already taken in this game ,are u all 100% sure that every body uve ever played with has never gone BB coz unless you a mind reader theres no way you could possibly ever know, if they had gone BB in the past would they tell you ,would they feel they had to tell you ?? Its dwn to ppls choices ,if we met up with a proper sexy as feck cpl who liked to go BB we would be happy to play so long as with us they b appy 2 use condoms and if they ok with that bring it on.but what extra dangers is there in playing with a cpl who go BB but with you condoms are in place to the cpl who never play BB but always use condoms now being covered up is being covered up so someone pls tell us wats the diff as we would like to know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need some air!

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

"Makes us laugh this thread coz saying that ud avoid ppl coz they go BB is just stupid ,they may go BB with others but uve a choice in it ,no condom no play simples and coz theyve gone BB with otheres dont mean that its set in stone and all they want is to go BB with everyone they meet.we sure that if yous ask them the magority would happily cover up without a second thought and when they do what more risks are you taking that uve not already taken in this game ,are u all 100% sure that every body uve ever played with has never gone BB coz unless you a mind reader theres no way you could possibly ever know, if they had gone BB in the past would they tell you ,would they feel they had to tell you ?? Its dwn to ppls choices ,if we met up with a proper sexy as feck cpl who liked to go BB we would be happy to play so long as with us they b appy 2 use condoms and if they ok with that bring it on.but what extra dangers is there in playing with a cpl who go BB but with you condoms are in place to the cpl who never play BB but always use condoms now being covered up is being covered up so someone pls tell us wats the diff as we would like to know?"

ok our take on what you say is this.

People who go bareback have low or no standards, morals what ever term you want to give it, so we wouldnt get involved knowingly with anyone who doest use condoms.

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

ok our take on what you say is this.

People who go bareback have low or no standards, morals what ever term you want to give it, so we wouldnt get involved knowingly with anyone who doest use condoms."

But ppl could say exactly the same bout the whole swing sceene but the question i asked was wats the diff so long as protection is used coz as long as we dont go bare back with them its all still safe swinging is it not?

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

you may think so, but we feel that if someone is prepared to go bareback with a meet off a site then they have the morals of an alley cat, so even with protection we wouldnt go there.

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

btw get what your saying, but we dont just consider the safe swing issue we think beyond that to the mentality or lack of someone who takes needless risks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok our take on what you say is this.

People who go bareback have low or no standards, morals what ever term you want to give it, so we wouldnt get involved knowingly with anyone who doest use condoms."

but its there choice..and actually you find ( or so I have found in talking to peopl) that people that go bareback often have less partners over all...

Yes condoms make it a little safer.. but I take oral all the time without one..I also love cum.. so swallow, play with etc.. never had a guy wont to play safe with me orally either..

Its about your own measure of risk.. and I think those that choose to have sex bareback would find your tone like your looking down that them..

Swingers have enough problems from the vanilla world.. We should all except that some like it different..

And the thing is.. you only have someones word that they play safe with everyone... lets face it. there going to tell you that.. so I treat everyone as if they are not playing safe..

its simples then.

and yes I have already said that on occassion we allow bareback but with special regular people, not everyone.. and we are aware of the risks.

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you may think so, but we feel that if someone is prepared to go bareback with a meet off a site then they have the morals of an alley cat, so even with protection we wouldnt go there.

So how do you know that they all go safe.. your partners I mean.. yes with you.. but I am often asked to go without.. I refuse.. but wonder how many of their other conquests have agreed..

And I am quite proud to have the morales of an alley cat actually.. you seen how much fun they have.. I have watched the aristocats recently

Katie. x

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

Its about your own measure of risk.. and I think those that choose to have sex bareback would find your tone like your looking down that them

That probably cos we do look down on barebackers, they are on a level with another group which we dont agree with, but as you say its about choice and we all have our own beliefs.

As i said we wouldnt knowingly play with barebackers, not to say we havent in the past but if we have its only cos we didnt and still dont know thats what they were.

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"'Safe sex' is a tickable option on the interest list so as a general rule we assume that if a member doesn't tick that box, they prefer to play bareback."

I tend to work along this way of thinking too. However, I also find that a lot of people will practise safe sex initially without question, but after you've met them a few times will suggest or attempt bare.

I can understand that if you only have one or two regular playmates (and they don't play elsewhere either) that bare would become a viable option after a time. A big element of trust is involved, but that would also come about with the time thing

Let's face it, very few (if any) of us like playing with condoms - bare is sooooo much nicer for both sides. However they are a (very) necessary 'evil' of playing with others, so that's what we do. I wouldn't question the morals and judgements of those who do otherwise, though.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if people meet on a regular basis for sex.. when do you trust them enough to bareback? after how many visits.

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"if people meet on a regular basis for sex.. when do you trust them enough to bareback? after how many visits.

no idea. I know people who do it after only 3 or 4 meets - they assess the risk in their _iew of that person. Others I know have done it after meeting the same person for several months.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"if people meet on a regular basis for sex.. when do you trust them enough to bareback? after how many visits.

Not even after a gazillion meets with the same person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if people meet on a regular basis for sex.. when do you trust them enough to bareback? after how many visits.

Not even after a gazillion meets with the same person

Same here!

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"if people meet on a regular basis for sex.. when do you trust them enough to bareback? after how many visits.

some consider that element of risk a kink in itself.

I've had someone suggest I do their wife bareback in the past and if she'd fell pregnant so be it, no come backs.. I politely declined the offer.

..on other occasions when I've checked out what's below (like an angry bacon sandwich with suss looking bits, or a badly packed kebab)I've not needed a condom or a dental barrier (pmsl) - I've just politely declined and beaten a hasty retreat...!

Wolf

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"if people meet on a regular basis for sex.. when do you trust them enough to bareback? after how many visits.

Never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'Safe sex' is a tickable option on the interest list so as a general rule we assume that if a member doesn't tick that box, they prefer to play bareback.

That is a very sensible post.. And I would never judge anyones sexual ethics... As you say.. we would all prefer bareback.. and it does take a lot of trust.. but I certainly do not look down on those that do.

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely you must treat all people you meet as bare backers?

Just because they say they use safe sex all the time, does not mean they do.

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By *ayceeCouple
over a year ago

northampton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely you must treat all people you meet as bare backers?

Just because they say they use safe sex all the time, does not mean they do."

Thats exactly what I do... Unless I dont have sex at all.. it will never be safe totally.

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely you must treat all people you meet as bare backers?

Just because they say they use safe sex all the time, does not mean they do."

Couldn't agree more!

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

"btw get what your saying, but we dont just consider the safe swing issue we think beyond that to the mentality or lack of someone who takes needless risks"

But surley we are all taking needless risks in this game nothings a 100% safe and you can only rely on what ppl tell you in the sceene but wat they tell you and what they do are 2 intirely diff things there are 1000s ov peeps on ere that do it but dont tell so the risks are already there so the way to minamize the risks is to use condoms wi every 1 so like we said it dont make a diff so long as we all covered up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have seen it on couples profiles saying they only do bareback.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have seen it on couples profiles saying they only do bareback. "

But at least they are letting people know.. and I bet if you check their verifications all the men they meet have safe sex ticked

As I said.. treat everyone as if they bareback.

Katie. x

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I have seen it on couples profiles saying they only do bareback.

But at least they are letting people know.. and I bet if you check their verifications all the men they meet have safe sex ticked

As I said.. treat everyone as if they bareback.

Katie. x"

you are so right... a couple do bareback only gang bangs and good on them if thats their thing..

prob about 40 verifications... had a look at 10 guys all said safe sex only ... and 4 were married.

poor wife

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

"btw get what your saying, but we dont just consider the safe swing issue we think beyond that to the mentality or lack of someone who takes needless risks

in your eyes

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

"btw get what your saying, but we dont just consider the safe swing issue we think beyond that to the mentality or lack of someone who takes needless risks

in your eyes"

No not in our eyes but as was stated earlier ,shouldent we all be treating every new meet as if it was bare back ,wich is very very true

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

No not in our eyes but as was stated earlier ,shouldent we all be treating every new meet as if it was bare back ,wich is very very true

Dont make any odds to us what others treat new meets as, we always, always use condoms, and if we know or find out prior to the meet that the person or people we are meeting doesnt, then there is no meet. full stop end of.

our choice and we stick by our earlier statement re the mentality of bare backers. shoot them all hey no prob

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

"No not in our eyes but as was stated earlier ,shouldent we all be treating every new meet as if it was bare back ,wich is very very true

our choice and we stick by our earlier statement re the mentality of bare backers. shoot them all hey no prob"

Guys thats a tad harsh do you not think???But if you'd met a cpl a few times and realy got on as freinds and 1 time they said that they had played BB on a few previous meets how would you react then ?????

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

not be happy as we try and suss these things out before hand, and not only the fact that they had done the bare back thing, the fact that they would have lied to us. end of friendship.

you seem to be going on about it a lot, obviously your thing, well good luck with it and i hope all the shit you catch is cureable

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

"No not in our eyes but as was stated earlier ,shouldent we all be treating every new meet as if it was bare back ,wich is very very true

our choice and we stick by our earlier statement re the mentality of bare backers. shoot them all hey no prob"

Thats an exremely piss poor attitude to take soz we think ,shoot them all?????? nw guys wtf like inni?

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

"No not in our eyes but as was stated earlier ,shouldent we all be treating every new meet as if it was bare back ,wich is very very true

our choice and we stick by our earlier statement re the mentality of bare backers. shoot them all hey no prob

Thats an exremely piss poor attitude to take soz we think ,shoot them all?????? nw guys wtf like inni?

dont like the attitude, dont worry about it we dont meet bare backers, or people under 35 so you guys are well safe.

just for the record we talk straight dont like it dont reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I was going to buy shares in Durex :-/

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

"not be happy as we try and suss these things out before hand, and not only the fact that they had done the bare back thing, the fact that they would have lied to us. end of friendship.

you seem to be going on about it a lot, obviously your thing, well good luck with it and i hope all the shit you catch is cureable"

Wooooooooooooo slow down and wind your neck's in guys al we were saying is that we have no probs in playing with cpls who go BB so long as they cover up for us ,now how come youve made the assumtion that its our thing wen all we were doing is stating that weve not a prob with ppl doing it now pls can u let us kno wat your prob is as we think your being very nasty to bbkrs tbh

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

"not be happy as we try and suss these things out before hand, and not only the fact that they had done the bare back thing, the fact that they would have lied to us. end of friendship.

you seem to be going on about it a lot, obviously your thing, well good luck with it and i hope all the shit you catch is cureable

and your thoughts bother us because ??

we all make our own choices and we stick by ours as no doubt everyone else does, and we will always stick our necks out on certain subjects, this being one of them so get used to it

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

Should there be a tick option for bareback?

Yes, of course there should be. As there should also be a tick option for "full swap" as well which I did suggest some time ago.

No comments on morals likes or dislikes. End of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you seem to be going on about it a lot, obviously your thing, well good luck with it and i hope all the shit you catch is cureable"

Most things are cureable.... and I do regular multi guy playtimes.. and yes with the odd person.. We weigh up our risks.. and if we felt that it was okay then we would go BB.

I think those that choose to go BB as a couple are normally very clued up on their sexual health.. I spoke to a couple recently that because they always use condoms thought they had no need to be tested.. That to me is more scary than someone who may occassionally bb.

However, I only started being careful sexually once I started swinging.. before that I wasnt.. Yes I as lucky... but the up side is most things are curable... although some things sadly arent.. Like attitudes.

Katie. x

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

sits back amazed at what crap people are coming out with.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Ok lets keep it civil, you can surely debate without causing offence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can you say its crap... ???? I happen to have a very good background in these areas...

Also the only safe sex is no sex..

Katie.x

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

Well we come in ere to debate and leave ere with abuse ,mad tha inni????

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Sadly there are some people who, when they see differing _iews to their own (sometimes narrow) _iews, will rubbish the other _iewpoints as being totally 'wrong'. There's no room for any shade of grey, just black (wrong) and white (righht). No attempt to see anyone else's point of _iew is made because why should they bother? - after all, if it doesn't match their own it is useless...

Debates should be constructive, open and (in here at least) fun. Not personal, nor abusive - unnecessary.

What I like about the swinging community is the willingness - in the main- to acknowledge that different things are good for different people. Not everyone likes watersports, for instance - it's not my thing at all - but I'm not going to rubbish someone because they like it and participate in it.

Jm2p on a sunny afternoon in Gloucestershire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said Pink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought safe sex was an option to choose and peruse on profiles..doesn`t that preclude the option of having a seperate option fer bareback..I`m fuddled ...

Honesty and calling it straight is fine...but isn`t defensible when used as a weapon...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What Pink said....

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

thumbs up from me also.. well said Pink x

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Another pink fan here. Although I dont agree with other posters I think respect is necessary in an adult debate. I would however call someone on what I see as inconsistences or hyprocritical statements or what I see as weak excuses. This can all be done without abuse though.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bareback for people that dont give a shit about their health and health of others....do they carry a recnt health certificate with them of their recent STD and AIDS check to prove they dont have any I DONT THINK SO....mental if you play bareback......"
Fully agree x

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By *outhlondondudeMan
over a year ago

london

'nuff respect to Pink! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'nuff respect to Pink! lol

lmao

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

All we are saying is tha if you meet a cpl who play BB but are happy enough to cover up if we play with them then weve not a problem with coz what they do with others is up to them coz surley we are taking the same precautions and playing as safe as the next swinger??

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

"All we are saying is tha if you meet a cpl who play BB but are happy enough to cover up if we play with them then weve not a problem with coz what they do with others is up to them coz surley we are taking the same precautions and playing as safe as the next swinger??

point taken, that is your choice as stated before we dont have the same opinion, dont matter how many times you guys or us state our opinions, they are just that not everyone feels the same.

without wishingto offend anyone in our opinion anyone who doesnt use protection is not worth the risk.

end of our comments on the subject.

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By *issgoldenshowersWoman
over a year ago

cardiff

.PEOPLE IN GLASS HOUSES SHLDNT THROW STONES..I ACTUALLY DNT CARE WHAT PEOPLE DO IN THIS WORLD..ITS THEIR LIFE NOT MINE..ITS EVRYONES OWN CHOICE.AND NO BODY HAS THE RIGHT TO LOOK DOWN ON ANYONE .. DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. IT WNT HARM TO SAY THOU.YOU DNT LIKE ..DNT GO THERE SIMPLE !

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

".PEOPLE IN GLASS HOUSES SHLDNT THROW STONES..I ACTUALLY DNT CARE WHAT PEOPLE DO IN THIS WORLD..ITS THEIR LIFE NOT MINE..ITS EVRYONES OWN CHOICE.AND NO BODY HAS THE RIGHT TO LOOK DOWN ON ANYONE .. DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. IT WNT HARM TO SAY THOU.YOU DNT LIKE ..DNT GO THERE SIMPLE ! "

Think your caps lock is stuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

point taken, that is your choice as stated before we dont have the same opinion, dont matter how many times you guys or us state our opinions, they are just that not everyone feels the same.

without wishingto offend anyone in our opinion anyone who doesnt use protection is not worth the risk.

end of our comments on the subject."

I find this hilarious cos at the end of the day none of us know what others are doing behind closed doors, all we can do is protect ourselves. There;s nothing wrong with protecting your health but the judgment could do with toning down a little.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Personally I don't play bb..even if I know the person.... Take the _iew that hey could be play ing bb with others.

I always cover up...does it stop the fun...no....for me I am a bit less worried.....so i am fine..,

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

"Personally I don't play bb..even if I know the person.... Take the _iew that hey could be play ing bb with others.

I always cover up...does it stop the fun...no....for me I am a bit less worried.....so i am fine..,

good man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not interested in bareback, but I'd really like to see it as one of the options in "interests".

Why? Because it would mean I could easily see which people I didn't want to contact!"

dont contact people who havnt selected safe sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I for one would love to see more than one option such as "Only "safe" sex", "Only "bare" back" and ""Bare" and "Safe" sex".

P.s. condoms are little protection against the stuff that actually does damage. According to my Sexual health nurse, condoms reduce the risk but do not stop the spread of STI/D. So I'll stick with my visits every 8 weeks even if I do or don't practice safe sex!

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By *averiMan
over a year ago

Swindon to bristol

"I'm not interested in bareback, but I'd really like to see it as one of the options in "interests".

Why? Because it would mean I could easily see which people I didn't want to contact!"

there is...its called 'safe sex'!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not interested in bareback, but I'd really like to see it as one of the options in "interests".

Why? Because it would mean I could easily see which people I didn't want to contact!

dont contact people who havnt selected safe sex

the problem with that is that there is a lady I talk to on here..she only does creampie gangbangs.. ONLY no ifs or buts... but her last party 90% said safesex and even on their profile said SAFE SEX a must..

SO that doesnt work.

Katie, with her Masters consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not interested in bareback, but I'd really like to see it as one of the options in "interests".

Why? Because it would mean I could easily see which people I didn't want to contact!

dont contact people who havnt selected safe sex

SO that doesnt work.

Katie, with her Masters consent."

not it does not, but you can only take peoples word for what they do, lots of people who say they only practice safe sex dont, so you have to treat everyone like they go bare back at some point that way you cant go wrong

Theres always going to be risks in this game, condoms come off, people lie etc so all you can do is treat everyone the same, protect yourself the best you feel you can and hope

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

"I'm not interested in bareback, but I'd really like to see it as one of the options in "interests".

Why? Because it would mean I could easily see which people I didn't want to contact!

dont contact people who havnt selected safe sex

SO that doesnt work.

Katie, with her Masters consent.

Theres always going to be risks in this game, condoms come off, people lie etc so all you can do is treat everyone the same, protect yourself the best you feel you can and hope "

+1 exactly ,bang on the button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'Safe sex' is a tickable option on the interest list so as a general rule we assume that if a member doesn't tick that box, they prefer to play bareback."

But that's not foolproof either. tick one thing, want another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just a comment on folks that say safe sex in their interests ,,, just a quick scan of pix shows many not practising safe sex ,, or maybe the pix aint of them ,, also more than a smattering of anal sex with no protection ,,, ,, wonder if others have noticed ?

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"just a comment on folks that say safe sex in their interests ,,, just a quick scan of pix shows many not practising safe sex ,, or maybe the pix aint of them ,, also more than a smattering of anal sex with no protection ,,, ,, wonder if others have noticed ? "

Maybe the pics on the couples profiles are just those of the couple themselves who do not use condoms with a marriage?

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the pics on the couples profiles are just those of the couple themselves who do not use condoms with a marriage?

Mistress x"

hmmm who knows...

Each to their own. protect yourself accordingly or build up trust. Up to you. Not going to demonise bareback. Most of us engage in unprotected oral.

Herpes anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

No thanks ive just eaten

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No thanks ive just eaten

LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the pics on the couples profiles are just those of the couple themselves who do not use condoms with a marriage?

Mistress x"
maybe ,, but have seen at least two single profiles were the guy is totally unprotected ( and so is the lady ) and all who have sex with them afterwards ,, its a very risky game ,, the point being ,, please please please , practice what you preach ,,, for all our sakes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres always going to be risks in this game, condoms come off, people lie etc so all you can do is treat everyone the same, protect yourself the best you feel you can and hope "

I am always honest.. I think most of my posts have shown that with who Master and I deem the right person we will go without.. but it has taken us over a year to find someone we will..

Everyone else its safe sex.. and I count everyone as having had the whole site without protection.. but then apart from the one guy.. all my other playtimes are gangbangs.

Katie, with her Masters consent.

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

What I find rather ironic with this subject is the attitude...

"I absolutely will not have sex with that person without a condom" and then... on with the condom you have sex with them!!!

It's akin to saying, 'It's ok to drive while I'm pissed because I ALWAYS wear my seat belt'

What about the safe-sex only types who knowingly play with people cheating on a partner? Where are the quality morals there?

Would it be considered reasonable for me or anyone to say 'Any one who doesn't conduct their life to the same standards as me is an irresponsible moron with the morals of an alley cat'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What I find rather ironic with this subject is the attitude...

"I absolutely will not have sex with that person without a condom" and then... on with the condom you have sex with them!!!

It's akin to saying, 'It's ok to drive while I'm pissed because I ALWAYS wear my seat belt'

What about the safe-sex only types who knowingly play with people cheating on a partner? Where are the quality morals there?

Would it be considered reasonable for me or anyone to say 'Any one who doesn't conduct their life to the same standards as me is an irresponsible moron with the morals of an alley cat'? "

I'm glad you brought this up! I think people should drop the "holier than thou" act because it doesn't fit the lifstyle.

Face it. We're all going to Hell!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to comment on this interesting thread (especially the shoot em all bit ) but I won't xx

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

errmm i maybe missing something but if op doesnt want to play bare back all he needs to do is wear a condom lol.you have no control over others and what they say the do or dont do .only person you can protect is yourself by ensure you wear protection yourself (or if ur female by only playing if guys properly attired lol).if your partner makes any excuses why they dont want you wearing condom then they obviously have no concern for your wishes and not person youd want to play with anyway . im afraid doesnt matter what folks put on profile even if they say they only ever have safe sex i only take it with pinch of salt and ensure i look after myself.

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

That's the thing isn't it, if someone wants to 'voice' how they choose to run their life that's fine. As it happens I don't drink alcohol anymore, although not 100% tea-total I'll have 'a' drink at a social event sometimes if I'm not driving. I have my reasons for not drinking alcohol and I could give you a list a mile long as to why not, also, never in a million years will you convince me that I should drink.

Now I'm not about to call someone an arsehole for having a few pints but I might call someone an arsehole because they are being one as a result of being d*unk... you see I haven't met anyone yet who cannot handle their drink who doesn't know they cannot handle their drink, but does it stop them? NO, typically it doesn't and the rest of society in proximity has to put up with it!

Now I still love the pub, the pub atmosphere, the social side etc. BUT I've no time for piss-heads so we typically avoid pubs just to be on 'the safe side'.

Anyone with major concerns about sexual health should quite simply NOT be swinging... EVERYTHING about swinging totally contravenes EVERYTHING that safe-sex is supposed to be with or without a condom.

While using condoms may make things safer by some unknown percentage lets consider this question...

Who is safer the person who goes to a swingers club every weekend and has sex with 5 or 10 different unknown people or the bare-backer who only plays with a new person/couple once a year? The answer to the question is obvious but the point is this... you just never know do you!

But as ever threads of this nature end up miles away from the OP's original question... as other posters have said, I can confirm that I also know of another swingers site that has tick boxes for both 'safe-sex' and 'bare-back' where you can choose one, other, or both and YES people do use it.

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

dont no why every one goes on about bare back its the same for sucking they can catch it that way if they think they are protected they not as for me i do it because i can have sex longer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

gotta admit....i got about 15 messages into this thread and gave up.....if you look, the same comments seem to be on a 15 message rotation lol just worded differently! bareback is always a topic that gets everyone's defenses up lol each to their own

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"btw get what your saying, but we dont just consider the safe swing issue we think beyond that to the mentality or lack of someone who takes needless risks"

if you believe your safe with a condom ,your deluded 4.000 per million condoms produced by any manufacturer can be faulty without product recall, you are SAFER but not safe ,condoms provide no protection againt the spread of HPV.Its all about your particular risk level as to what you allow on or in your body and the only safe sex is abstinence

The "morals of an alley cat" is a bit strong and the sort of thing people who do not swing level at all swingers all the while .

I advocate the use of condoms but believe in free choice for individuals

its down to your personal assessment of acceptable risk and as the op said maybe a bareback or natural button would be useful .

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By *ricky_DickyMan
over a year ago

Mirfield

Heck all these replies because the OP suggested a tick box for bareback as an interests option so that he can avoid people who play bareback. Some have said why not simply search using the "safe sex" option. I'm sorry but do you really think that all those people who ticked the "safe sex" box actually play safe, come on wake up, some do but not all. People will lie and tell you anything they think you want to hear to get a shag. So if admin decide to add this option those seeking other barebackers will find things much easier, those who want to avoid them a bit easier, they just have to worry about the "safe sex" liars.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

hatever floats your boat, this is a swingers site, lots of diferent options fr diferent people.

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By *oosta69Man
over a year ago

worcester

Why do some people think that just because they use a condom during sex, they arent going to catch anything performing or recieving oral without one? ''Most things are curable''? ERM Noooo theyre not. Most things often dont have symptoms.

Its the poor buggers you pass it onto that will gain symptoms.

Im not having a go, im just trying to educate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My back is usually bare- I get a friend to shave the bits I can't reach myself........but I wear a condom at the time- just to be safe.

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

"This topic is flogged to death EVERY week; search bareback if you think I exaggerate!

There are people that bareback and have it on their profile. If you were to tell your friends you met strangers for sex they'd be aghast as it's promiscuous!

I'm of the _iew where I leave adults alone to make up their own minds in how they want to play.

Add to that single guys pretending to be women.

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