FabSwingers.com forum: Advice on recognising a profile IRL

By *olliPine OP Couple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

How would you guys approach recognising a couple by their public face pics as a couple you know in real life?

We're in the same game here so won't be going telling mutual friends etc and would hope they wouldn't too.

They're new (joined 6 weeks ago) and it would be nice to say welcome to or lifestyle however they live VERY close (3 doors down eek) so I don't think we could play with them. It might be nice to share advice though.

They've looked at our profile so may have recognised us, we've blocked them for now in a bit of a panic.

Would you like to be told if you'd been recognised? Or blocked? Or both?

Any help and Advice appreciated.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"How would you guys approach recognising a couple by their public face pics as a couple you know in real life?

We're in the same game here so won't be going telling mutual friends etc and would hope they wouldn't too.

They've looked at our profile so may have recognised us, we've blocked them for now in a bit of a panic.

Would you like to be told if you'd been recognised? Or blocked? Or both?

Any help and Advice appreciated. "

Something similar happened to me, I just blocked them and didn't mention it. They might be mortified if you mentioned it to them.

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

keep them blocked

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I've just been messaged by a colleague in another office. I've blocked him and no mention of it will ever be made.

It happens occasionally. I'd just block and ignore anyone I knew in real life.

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By *olliPine OP Couple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

Ok thanks, we'll keep them blocked and just not mention it when passing in the street

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If ever they call round for a cup of sugar, be sure to answer them with "nice of you to SWING by, it was really FAB seeing you"

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I've messaged someone from work.

I didn't know that, as there was no face pic or clue in profile.

She blanked me. Later explained that she knew me, and we often parked next to each other in the car park.

But on the plus side, she's now changed jobs and hopefully meeting next week.

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By *ollipop77Couple
over a year ago

Dubai ( / Manchester)

I know there is on person from my works on here. He knows and I know but we never talk of it!

An occasional 'do anything special at weekend?' Gets said when I put something on my status about weekend x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep them blocked and never mention it. I have seen someone I knew on here and did just that, just because we were on the same site doesn't mean they would want to discuss it with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If ever they call round for a cup of sugar, be sure to answer them with "nice of you to SWING by, it was really FAB seeing you"

This would so be my approach too.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Block them and never mention or even hint that you know they swing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the advice seems to be in the same direction (block, ignore, hide, run away etc.). But as the OP says....both here for same thing...clearly wouldn't go round telling mutual friends etc.... but you could be missing out on friendship, chat and exchange of ideas....even if you don't play.

What's the harm?

I've met with very local people. We see each other out and about. Have met each other's family members on some occasions.... but we just nod as aquaintences..... no harm done.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I'd like to blocked and never know

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We saw someone we knew at a club, said a polite hello and left each other alone. Agreed we are pretty much all on here for the same reason (although that can be quite debatable), but it would seem wisest to leave well alone and give them a wide berth - then if you meet at a club or party you can investigate further, maybe

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By *ixedracemale77Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Some one I work with approached me wasn't embarrassed as we clearly both looking for the same thing. Nothing about swinging ever really gets said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Found a female work colleague and it certainly blossomed

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By *iverscuMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

I would wait to see if they message you. If not carry on

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By *edonisticbikerUKMan
over a year ago

Coleshill and Rushden

I'd message them how convenient would it be have some swinging friends just 3 doors up.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

We would message them to test the water, but we get recognized so often from medieval reenactment, that it doesn't phase us at all.

In fact there are people we know from reenactment who are also on here - should be a fun season!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be honest. Send a polite message saying that you think you recognise them, but of course you may be mistaken and if they want to chat then you'd be happy to make friends.

Reiterate that everything discussed is 100% discreet and private and that you expect the same.

If they wish to keep themselves to themselves then say you totally respect their decision and you won't mention anything again.

That way, you avoid sending newbies fleeing for fear of being recognised and put the ball in their court.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We would leave well alone,could be really awkward if it doesnt go well.

Miss

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Have you had any contact with this couple in real life, OP? There is the risk of making things awkward by playing on your own doorstep if things go sour. It all depends on how closely guarded you keep your swinging life.

Alternatively it could be a wonderful thing if it works out. If you're going to try and make a thing of it then be open from the start. Fab some pics.... Send a wink. If they respond, let them know you think you recognise them from your local area and offer to send them a face pic as a show of trust. Make it clear that you will respect their privacy if they're not interested.

Potentially very risky but could pay off.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

We were 'found out' by a local couple, who were also in the lifestyle and they weren't discreet, as they didn't care who knew they were swingers. Hence they started spreading it around the locality, not very pleasant!

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