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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know this isn't strictly swinging per se, but I can't seem to have ever been comfortable being in a nightclub (not swinger club) setting and pulling one for casual sex.

Is it something that some guys do experience? Or is it just a rare thing that's more the fault of the guy who might be uptight about screwing d*unk girls?

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By *azkinsWoman
over a year ago

leeds

So you thought you'd try here because you don't have to make an effort ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So you thought you'd try here because you don't have to make an effort ?"

Hardly. I prefer to do it here, precisely because we all know sex is on the agenda anyway.

Started this topic because I came back from a vanilla night out with some swinger mates and I got quite put off by how "mainstream" skirt-chasing they were. Thinking that going on a night out in a group meant they could/would act like some sort of male wolfpack hunting for 'pussy' as they call it.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk


"So you thought you'd try here because you don't have to make an effort ?

Hardly. I prefer to do it here, precisely because we all know sex is on the agenda anyway.

Started this topic because I came back from a vanilla night out with some swinger mates and I got quite put off by how "mainstream" skirt-chasing they were. Thinking that going on a night out in a group meant they could/would act like some sort of male wolfpack hunting for 'pussy' as they call it. "

So you automatically presume because you are on here sex is on the cards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you thought you'd try here because you don't have to make an effort ?

Hardly. I prefer to do it here, precisely because we all know sex is on the agenda anyway.

Started this topic because I came back from a vanilla night out with some swinger mates and I got quite put off by how "mainstream" skirt-chasing they were. Thinking that going on a night out in a group meant they could/would act like some sort of male wolfpack hunting for 'pussy' as they call it.

So you automatically presume because you are on here sex is on the cards? "

Well he seems to be doing more than alright from his extensive veris!

I've never been one for pulling random strangers on nights out in my single and pre-fab days.

Nights out for me are about having fun and dancing and any blokes interrupting that "looking for pussy" would have recived the short shrift!

I much prefer sex clubs for sex and don't see it being an issue that a young lad would prefer that too. And pulling d*unk girls sounds shit so I don't blame you there either!

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you thought you'd try here because you don't have to make an effort ?"

If you had bothered to go read his verification's you will see he has put in considerable effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry you soon get tired of going out to pull, then you'll start going out simply to socialise and have have a laugh

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk


"So you thought you'd try here because you don't have to make an effort ?

If you had bothered to go read his verification's you will see he has put in considerable effort."

Meh verifications are over rated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you thought you'd try here because you don't have to make an effort ?"

I like it here because, as a girl, no effort needed.

It seems guys need to put one helluva effort in, have super human patience and the body of a god.... well that last bit was just for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only speak for myself but I don't struggle to pick up in a club, I don't see myself as particularly outstanding in any way either. i just go, have a few drinks and chat/twat about and the rest comes? by itself.

I prefer here some of the time because it's easier to be honest about what I'm wanting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Or is it just a rare thing that's more the fault of the guy who might be uptight about screwing d*unk girls? "

FWIW - I wouldn't ever have sex with a d*unk person. And I don't think you should too. D*unk people can't consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know this isn't strictly swinging per se, but I can't seem to have ever been comfortable being in a nightclub (not swinger club) setting and pulling one for casual sex.

Is it something that some guys do experience? Or is it just a rare thing that's more the fault of the guy who might be uptight about screwing d*unk girls? "

It's not a fault it's who you are.

I'm sure the d*unk girls that get pulled know they are just a shag. Or maybe they don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you thought you'd try here because you don't have to make an effort ?

Hardly. I prefer to do it here, precisely because we all know sex is on the agenda anyway.

Started this topic because I came back from a vanilla night out with some swinger mates and I got quite put off by how "mainstream" skirt-chasing they were. Thinking that going on a night out in a group meant they could/would act like some sort of male wolfpack hunting for 'pussy' as they call it. "

You've just answered your own question here You dislike the theatrics of "pulling". The dynamics are simple though. Some people (both men and women) go out specifically to score, most are open to it, some are out for other reasons. The "man" role is to put yourself out there to entice contact, from there on it is easy to find out who is amenable/responsive to this and who isn't.

From what I've see the d*unken ONSs are for most people an "off the record". So if you're used to and prefer more acknowledgement or awareness, these types of encounters are not for you. But yes of course it happens, this is how people had casual sex before the internet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't go out to pull; enjoy the time talking to women, with no ulterior motive. Drink, dance and soak up the atmosphere.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha thanks for all the kind and not so kind words.

To be honest I posted this forum thread last night in a little bit of a depressed panic because it was just one of those nights when I felt that it might be more of my lack of attractiveness than me just not buying into the theatrics of pulling that has left me as one of those guys who always goes on a night out but nothing comes out of it. Didn't help that my friends were constantly hyping on how "this/that place is full of women, and they're all hungry for meat so you'd definitely get someone don't worry!" just sort of messed with my head if you know what I mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if you might reconsider your choice of male friends?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We love to go on the pull at a nightclub , but as a couple it's probably much easier than as a single guy ? Not sure why , but it's such a buzz and so much fun . Oddly , neither of us did it before we met and it's only recently that we have found out how much fun it can be .

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


" Or is it just a rare thing that's more the fault of the guy who might be uptight about screwing d*unk girls?

FWIW - I wouldn't ever have sex with a d*unk person. And I don't think you should too. D*unk people can't consent."

I think this may well be a valid point in some cases , but there are varying levels of d*unkenness . We would never actively seek someone so inebriated that they didn't know what they were doing , but a bit tipsy would be fine .

Although I am teatotal , and don't do any drugs either , I realise there are plenty of people who need a bit of something to come out of their shell .

So whi,e not condoning sex with strangers who are d*unk , sex with consenting people who have had a few to loosen up is ok in my book .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wonder if you might reconsider your choice of male friends?"

Haha definitely! Well. "Acquaintances" is the better word to use!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Didn't help that my friends were constantly hyping on how "this/that place is full of women, and they're all hungry for meat so you'd definitely get someone don't worry!" just sort of messed with my head if you know what I mean. "

I think this is exactly what men think of this site. Hence all the cock pics, desperate mail and zero effort. Then anger when the 'cock hungry' women aren't throwing themselves at them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haha thanks for all the kind and not so kind words.

To be honest I posted this forum thread last night in a little bit of a depressed panic because it was just one of those nights when I felt that it might be more of my lack of attractiveness than me just not buying into the theatrics of pulling that has left me as one of those guys who always goes on a night out but nothing comes out of it. Didn't help that my friends were constantly hyping on how "this/that place is full of women, and they're all hungry for meat so you'd definitely get someone don't worry!" just sort of messed with my head if you know what I mean. "

Why did they feel the need to reassure you?

Believe me, pulling on a night out is much, much more about attitude and planning your offensive (like your mates were doing ) than it is about looks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haha thanks for all the kind and not so kind words.

To be honest I posted this forum thread last night in a little bit of a depressed panic because it was just one of those nights when I felt that it might be more of my lack of attractiveness than me just not buying into the theatrics of pulling that has left me as one of those guys who always goes on a night out but nothing comes out of it. Didn't help that my friends were constantly hyping on how "this/that place is full of women, and they're all hungry for meat so you'd definitely get someone don't worry!" just sort of messed with my head if you know what I mean.

Why did they feel the need to reassure you?

Believe me, pulling on a night out is much, much more about attitude and planning your offensive (like your mates were doing ) than it is about looks!"

Can't say I agree with that tbh.. any attempt to plan will fail and then he's likely to come off as desperate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Or is it just a rare thing that's more the fault of the guy who might be uptight about screwing d*unk girls?

FWIW - I wouldn't ever have sex with a d*unk person. And I don't think you should too. D*unk people can't consent."

Well Ive had lots of non consexual sex then as ive had lots of d*unk sex!!

I think you need to revise that to some d*unk people cannot consent, even whilst d*unk I am always able to remember everything and make decisions and say no if someone wants to do something I dont.

Its all about your ability to cope with alcohol and cope when you are d*unk.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


" Or is it just a rare thing that's more the fault of the guy who might be uptight about screwing d*unk girls?

FWIW - I wouldn't ever have sex with a d*unk person. And I don't think you should too. D*unk people can't consent."

Yes they can. A sweeping generalisation like that removes any impact your opinion may have had.

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