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By *r.nice.but.naughty OP   Man
over a year ago

Bawtry

I've been here for a while and I've always spoken to women with respect, but it's getting me nowhere, a friend of mine is also on here and has no respect at all yet he's always having meets should I change the way I am on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I think you should be yourself. Looking st your profile you've had meets?! Maybe more intriguing photos would help not cock photos but other things. Have a look at some guys pics and try something out

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rude introductions never do it for me . . . Be yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

.maybe your mate is hot

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Maybe it's not the message that is the problem !?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what you're after.. I'd rather talk to and meet someone I get on with but if your standards are low and you just want to stick your todger places then crack on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been here for a while and I've always spoken to women with respect, but it's getting me nowhere, a friend of mine is also on here and has no respect at all yet he's always having meets should I change the way I am on here. "

Just be prepared for plenty of fuck off messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your mate is Alpha and you are Beta.

Go figure...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your mate is Alpha and you are Beta.

Go figure... "

you really think disrespect is an indication of an alpha male?? lol!...explains a lot about a lot of men on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is he really a mate, and does he have verifications?

if not I'd take it with a pinch of salt as a lot of men talk crap on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your mate is Alpha and you are Beta.

Go figure...

you really think disrespect is an indication of an alpha male?? lol!...explains a lot about a lot of men on here!"

Let's face it, most men have no idea!!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I've been here for a while and I've always spoken to women with respect, but it's getting me nowhere, a friend of mine is also on here and has no respect at all yet he's always having meets should I change the way I am on here. "

If your mate is getting loads of meets by being disrespectful then maybe that is the way to go. He must have something else going for him though because most women walk fast in the opposite direction from men like that.

If you're not having much luck by messages why not try a club?

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By *evonshireboyMan
over a year ago

North Devon

Might as well give it a try.

Ive always gone for reading a profile and sending polite messages, and never even had a reply, so I'm thinking there's nothing to lose ??

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By *dventurousAlexMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

I think there's a misunderstanding a lot of men have.

There's difference between being nice to get what you want and being genuinely respectful.

Nice is just a given. Not a way to create attraction.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Might as well give it a try.

Ive always gone for reading a profile and sending polite messages, and never even had a reply, so I'm thinking there's nothing to lose ??"

Except your own self respect. Very few women go for disrespectful men, its a myth that women want a bad boy. They want an interesting man...world of difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there's a misunderstanding a lot of men have.

There's difference between being nice to get what you want and being genuinely respectful.

Nice is just a given. Not a way to create attraction. "

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Stay respectful. Better asking for profile advice, that will have more useful results.

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock


"I've been here for a while and I've always spoken to women with respect, but it's getting me nowhere, a friend of mine is also on here and has no respect at all yet he's always having meets should I change the way I am on here. "

Has he shown you his 'disrespectful' messages to you? It maybe bravado on his part.

We go for polite and respectful people. Be yourself and no one else.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

However respectful you were if you contacted me, your first message would have to be really good with your profile as it stands tbh. No veris shown, hardly any text and two hardly enticing pics. Disrespect however would be a block and delete without even looking at your profile

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Nice that he came back to thank everyone for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't need to say anything disrespectful or other - if you send a face pic with no message, the person will reply if they like the look of you.

I don't think it's the message content that is the issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nice that he came back to thank everyone for the advice "

That's lack of respect for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been here for a while and I've always spoken to women with respect, but it's getting me nowhere, a friend of mine is also on here and has no respect at all yet he's always having meets should I change the way I am on here. "

Try sending me a rude message and see were it gets you lol

BLOCKED AND DELETED. Just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your mate is Alpha and you are Beta.

Go figure...

you really think disrespect is an indication of an alpha male?? lol!...explains a lot about a lot of men on here!

Let's face it, most men have no idea!!!"

Some men.

Or some are attracting the wrong type. Generalisations are rarely correct in general but are for specifics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might as well give it a try.

Ive always gone for reading a profile and sending polite messages, and never even had a reply, so I'm thinking there's nothing to lose ??

Except your own self respect. Very few women go for disrespectful men, its a myth that women want a bad boy. They want an interesting man...world of difference.

"

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By *mber GamblerCouple
over a year ago

rugby


"I've been here for a while and I've always spoken to women with respect, but it's getting me nowhere, a friend of mine is also on here and has no respect at all yet he's always having meets should I change the way I am on here. "

Yes i think you should definitely start being disrespectful from now on. Then let us know how you get on.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"Nice that he came back to thank everyone for the advice "

He busy wid all dem bitches he been disrespecting

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Politeness with a hint of cheekiness goes a long way for me.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


".maybe your mate is hot"

It wouldn't matter how hot he is to me,if he's a complete idiot then I'd run a mile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see your point OP, but I wouldn't be disrectful.

Saying that, I need to change my messaging tactics (or profile) as I'm not getting too far either.

It's hard to know what to write each time, especially when trying to be original for every messsge you're sending!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I can see your point OP, but I wouldn't be disrectful.

Saying that, I need to change my messaging tactics (or profile) as I'm not getting too far either.

It's hard to know what to write each time, especially when trying to be original for every messsge you're sending!"

Some people demand an original message but we don't mind a cut and paste job as long as you remember to change the names . Its hard enough for guys without the added pressure of having to come up with original messages every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can see your point OP, but I wouldn't be disrectful.

Saying that, I need to change my messaging tactics (or profile) as I'm not getting too far either.

It's hard to know what to write each time, especially when trying to be original for every messsge you're sending!

Some people demand an original message but we don't mind a cut and paste job as long as you remember to change the names . Its hard enough for guys without the added pressure of having to come up with original messages every time."

Just need to find a message which has some vague form of success then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your mate is Alpha and you are Beta.

Go figure...

you really think disrespect is an indication of an alpha male?? lol!...explains a lot about a lot of men on here!"

Where did I say Alpha equals disrespectful?

I meant that in being Alpha, his mate has a better understanding of how to interact with a fem.

Regards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fun flirty and sincere messages always with respect - and have a conversation don't just fire questions and answers at me, I bore of that really quick! Interview conversations never work!

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

If someone spoke to me like crap doesn't matter how good looking they are they would be deleted

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham


"Your mate is Alpha and you are Beta.

Go figure...

you really think disrespect is an indication of an alpha male?? lol!...explains a lot about a lot of men on here!

Where did I say Alpha equals disrespectful?

I meant that in being Alpha, his mate has a better understanding of how to interact with a fem.

Regards. "

I understood what you meant, I also too it as alpha=good looking, beta=not as good looking

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By *ustme02Woman
over a year ago

birmingham


"is he really a mate, and does he have verifications?

if not I'd take it with a pinch of salt as a lot of men talk crap on here "

That's so true he could be just trying to make you jealous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your mate is Alpha and you are Beta.

Go figure...

you really think disrespect is an indication of an alpha male?? lol!...explains a lot about a lot of men on here!

Where did I say Alpha equals disrespectful?

I meant that in being Alpha, his mate has a better understanding of how to interact with a fem.

Regards.

I understood what you meant, I also too it as alpha=good looking, beta=not as good looking "

Definitely nothing to do with looks. Lol

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By *r.nice.but.naughty OP   Man
over a year ago

Bawtry

Sorry for the late reply to you all, thanks for the advice it's appropriate I've updated my profile still need to sort out the pic side of it tho

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Let's all treat women like rubbish. What a great idea. NOT!

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

changed ?

you did or you going too.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

The art of having a lot of women is something you will have to learn. Your question tells me that is what you really want, I suggest you learn it from a male teacher who is proven to be successful with lots of women and there are many of them online.

You will need

1.Confidence

2.A good wadrobe

3.Jewels

4.Good conversation, don't just talk when you are talking to women, make sure everything you say in your conversation is shaping the conversation in your favor and it's not more than 5 minutes. Because if you keep talking over 5 minutes then she will immediately think you have no value, look at business deals, in the first 2 minutes of talk all players know if they are going with the deal or not.She needs you to lead and your conversation can do that, I will suggest you use simple clear statements so that what you are communicating is clear , remember it's not what you say, it's the way you say it.

5.You need to be a master of reading female body language, believe or not, women communicate mainly through body language.Every move women make when interacting with you says something, make sure you let her know that you picked the non verbal communication.

Once you have mastered all these things , you will not be able to count the number of chics you will have.

I suggest you don't decend into speaking to people in a nasty way, that is weakness and a lack of game, accept you don't know and learn the things you need to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The art of having a lot of women is something you will have to learn. Your question tells me that is what you really want, I suggest you learn it from a male teacher who is proven to be successful with lots of women and there are many of them online.

You will need

1.Confidence

2.A good wadrobe

3.Jewels

4.Good conversation, don't just talk when you are talking to women, make sure everything you say in your conversation is shaping the conversation in your favor and it's not more than 5 minutes. Because if you keep talking over 5 minutes then she will immediately think you have no value, look at business deals, in the first 2 minutes of talk all players know if they are going with the deal or not.She needs you to lead and your conversation can do that, I will suggest you use simple clear statements so that what you are communicating is clear , remember it's not what you say, it's the way you say it.

5.You need to be a master of reading female body language, believe or not, women communicate mainly through body language.Every move women make when interacting with you says something, make sure you let her know that you picked the non verbal communication.

Once you have mastered all these things , you will not be able to count the number of chics you will have.

I suggest you don't decend into speaking to people in a nasty way, that is weakness and a lack of game, accept you don't know and learn the things you need to know.

"

Mmmmm hello were are you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The art of having a lot of women is something you will have to learn. Your question tells me that is what you really want, I suggest you learn it from a male teacher who is proven to be successful with lots of women and there are many of them online.

You will need

1.Confidence

2.A good wadrobe

3.Jewels

4.Good conversation, don't just talk when you are talking to women, make sure everything you say in your conversation is shaping the conversation in your favor and it's not more than 5 minutes. Because if you keep talking over 5 minutes then she will immediately think you have no value, look at business deals, in the first 2 minutes of talk all players know if they are going with the deal or not.She needs you to lead and your conversation can do that, I will suggest you use simple clear statements so that what you are communicating is clear , remember it's not what you say, it's the way you say it.

5.You need to be a master of reading female body language, believe or not, women communicate mainly through body language.Every move women make when interacting with you says something, make sure you let her know that you picked the non verbal communication.

Once you have mastered all these things , you will not be able to count the number of chics you will have.

I suggest you don't decend into speaking to people in a nasty way, that is weakness and a lack of game, accept you don't know and learn the things you need to know.

"

ok mate, your first few words ' the art of having a lot of women' made me burst out laughing.

just treat women with the respect they deserve, it is hard work being a single male on here. But be nice, keep trying and you will find someone. Xx

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By *andVBCouple
over a year ago

Wrexham

Well, that's me fucked. I lack 4 of those 5 things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The art of having a lot of women is something you will have to learn. Your question tells me that is what you really want, I suggest you learn it from a male teacher who is proven to be successful with lots of women and there are many of them online.

You will need

1.Confidence

2.A good wadrobe

3.Jewels

4.Good conversation, don't just talk when you are talking to women, make sure everything you say in your conversation is shaping the conversation in your favor and it's not more than 5 minutes. Because if you keep talking over 5 minutes then she will immediately think you have no value, look at business deals, in the first 2 minutes of talk all players know if they are going with the deal or not.She needs you to lead and your conversation can do that, I will suggest you use simple clear statements so that what you are communicating is clear , remember it's not what you say, it's the way you say it.

5.You need to be a master of reading female body language, believe or not, women communicate mainly through body language.Every move women make when interacting with you says something, make sure you let her know that you picked the non verbal communication.

Once you have mastered all these things , you will not be able to count the number of chics you will have.

I suggest you don't decend into speaking to people in a nasty way, that is weakness and a lack of game, accept you don't know and learn the things you need to know.

"

I'm sorry but apart from the last paragraph that's a massive pile of crap... To think there's any sort of 'formula' to attract all women is daft.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Thanks for the reponses guys and in the past I used to think like you , I thought I didn't need to learn and all I needed was to be nice to women but I soon saw this was wrong.

I observed my wealthy uncles get played by women, the women would take from them and give to guys that could not stand them financially. I observed my friends who treated women nice get dumped and treated like shit.

I then noticed that with some of my other male friends women would just keep calling them and would be fighting over them and in my eyes there was nothing special about these guys.I therefore decided to humble myself, accept I don't know and learn this art and believe me there is a lot to learn for no two women are the same.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Also please note I said the art of having, am not talking about you got lucky, a fluke etc when you have anything you are the one in control , you are the one who decides you don't want it anymore, it will be there until you give it out. This kind of swag in a relationship needs to be learnt

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By *mber GamblerCouple
over a year ago

rugby


"The art of having a lot of women is something you will have to learn. Your question tells me that is what you really want, I suggest you learn it from a male teacher who is proven to be successful with lots of women and there are many of them online.

You will need

1.Confidence

2.A good wadrobe

3.Jewels

4.Good conversation, don't just talk when you are talking to women, make sure everything you say in your conversation is shaping the conversation in your favor and it's not more than 5 minutes. Because if you keep talking over 5 minutes then she will immediately think you have no value, look at business deals, in the first 2 minutes of talk all players know if they are going with the deal or not.She needs you to lead and your conversation can do that, I will suggest you use simple clear statements so that what you are communicating is clear , remember it's not what you say, it's the way you say it.

5.You need to be a master of reading female body language, believe or not, women communicate mainly through body language.Every move women make when interacting with you says something, make sure you let her know that you picked the non verbal communication.

Once you have mastered all these things , you will not be able to count the number of chics you will have.

I suggest you don't decend into speaking to people in a nasty way, that is weakness and a lack of game, accept you don't know and learn the things you need to know.

"

I'm a woman. None of the above except being able to hold a conversation would interest me.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

The information is really for guys and its not just for getting with any woman guys, its for getting those beautiful, exotic women that you wish you could have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't reply to nonsense messages. I prefer someone to message something clean and original. No point in. Becoming someone else either.

You will only be yourself on a meet

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Yeah / just be yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The art of having a lot of women is something you will have to learn. Your question tells me that is what you really want, I suggest you learn it from a male teacher who is proven to be successful with lots of women and there are many of them online.

You will need

1.Confidence

2.A good wadrobe

3.Jewels

4.Good conversation, don't just talk when you are talking to women, make sure everything you say in your conversation is shaping the conversation in your favor and it's not more than 5 minutes. Because if you keep talking over 5 minutes then she will immediately think you have no value, look at business deals, in the first 2 minutes of talk all players know if they are going with the deal or not.She needs you to lead and your conversation can do that, I will suggest you use simple clear statements so that what you are communicating is clear , remember it's not what you say, it's the way you say it.

5.You need to be a master of reading female body language, believe or not, women communicate mainly through body language.Every move women make when interacting with you says something, make sure you let her know that you picked the non verbal communication.

Once you have mastered all these things , you will not be able to count the number of chics you will have.

I suggest you don't decend into speaking to people in a nasty way, that is weakness and a lack of game, accept you don't know and learn the things you need to know.

"

3.jewels.... Would that be YOU wearing a lot of bling? Like to attract women like shiny things attract magpies! Or jewels on hand to give to the object of your affection in the same way a Great Crested Grebe gives a female Grebe a twig to prove he is good breeding stock! Or are you really saying that all you need to attract a woman is your "Crown Jewels"!

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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago

bristol

Manners maketh the man.

Always be polite and always treat a lady like a lady... Its better to leave them wanting more than to have them waiting for you to leave.

End of the day this maybe a sex site at its core but ultimately captivate the mind and the body will follow

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Yeah man I agree but one thing you are leaving out is women have a strong advantage in this game with unskilled men because they wait and guys do the approaching and talking, what you should realise is women don't have to stress to get guys, guys are always there.

Once a guy has learnt some game he immediately has the power and has reversed the game, he is no longer moved by a womans sexuality which is key and he can refuse sex when offered, can see properly and pick the kind of woman he wants, he is no longer afraid to speak to women because he knows what to say in different situations, cause now he has an arsenal of what to say in different situations.

We guys like very beautiful women but most guys will refuse the knowledge that will give them an abundance of the women they want and walk about unhappy.

Knowledge is the key thing to get cause it never fails.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Yeah I agree that manners maketh the man and being polite and treating a lady like a lady is important but these two things will not give you an abundance of the beautiful women you desire, what is important is the how and what do I do to have all these beautiful women chasing me in such a way that I as the man can make the choices as I please. Once you ask that question the answer will begin to make itself available to you.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I've been here for a while and I've always spoken to women with respect, but it's getting me nowhere, a friend of mine is also on here and has no respect at all yet he's always having meets should I change the way I am on here. "

It's not how you talk,it's who you talk to. I assume that the type of women your mate goes for are not the same as you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself off round town at weekend and pull a decent lass for real instead of sitting behind a keyboard typing shite to women and worrying about it. If that fails and your still hard up get t knocking shop lad

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Be your self. Do you want women to spend time and enjoy with you or some imposter? Your far more likely to enjoy a good time with a woman you connect with for who you are than a woman you a tricked by pretending your something your not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried pouting on your pics. The girls love it... apparently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get yourself off round town at weekend and pull a decent lass for real instead of sitting behind a keyboard typing shite to women and worrying about it. If that fails and your still hard up get t knocking shop lad "

Love it

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