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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is a strange topic i just wanted to ask advice on, but when does a friends become a stalker - and how do you deal with that?

For instance if you have asked them to txt first before calling and they don't, or if they send pix that you are not really interested in...

How do you subtley say 'feck aff - yer creeping me oot!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I would just either ignore the texts/calls or tell them straight that it's getting too much

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

You sublty say feck off yer creeping me out!!

seriously though you have to say something,if they are a friend they should understand

If they ignore you and continue to call and send pics then block their number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

remove from friends list they should get the message then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought you appreciated the phone calls LOL!

Just be honest with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought you appreciated the phone calls LOL!

Just be honest with them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

but what if the subtle approach doesn't work? For instance, what if you have said - look don't call unless you txt us first, we have lives - and they don't take the hint? what then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but what if the subtle approach doesn't work? For instance, what if you have said - look don't call unless you txt us first, we have lives - and they don't take the hint? what then?"

You have asked nicely so just block their number. So therefor the only way they can contact you is online. Unless they know where you live, then you could find them on your doorstep!!

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By *hristalCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"This is a strange topic i just wanted to ask advice on, but when does a friends become a stalker - and how do you deal with that?

For instance if you have asked them to txt first before calling and they don't, or if they send pix that you are not really interested in...

How do you subtley say 'feck aff - yer creeping me oot!'"

Well on most mobile phones you are able to block a person - check out the automatic reject list on the setup.

Christal x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

friendly, gen people don't tend to harass you we find. Being direct with them leaves no room for error also. We have unfortunately had experience of male stalkers on here & when they don't take your advice & keep up the antics then we just tend to turn the tables & do it to them TENFOLD

Soon sorts em out...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right took the bull by the horns and told them, that as our 'profile' didn't exactly match what they were looking for, perhaps we shouldn't meet again, as we would just be wasting each others time. They have threw their toys out the pram and turned round and said 'that is fine we didnae fancy you anyhows' - LOL! Ah well at least it is finally over! blocked and stopped them from chatting. Yes it was a couple that was stalking! I somehow don't think they were genuine, ceertainly weren't friendly, and didn't know how to take a subtle hint. Sledgehammer approach worked well though!

Thanks for all your help peeps!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust me..thay aint stalkers

You will know when you have one i did its not pleasant at all.

I would suggest that you ignore people like that because they are after a reaction the more you give them the more they do it.

And whats goes around comes back around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

AS a bloke I would apreciate a little honesty.

Tell the chap (I assume it's a chap) that they are freaking you out and how you would like to be aproached.

If they don't take the hint then, try telling them to feck off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had the unfortunate luck to have a nutty stalker too... Part of a couple. Not nice.. Really not nice at all!

Only advice we can offer is do nothing to let them in your life.. Explain your feelin a bit weird with it and would like them to back off.. If they don't you have no worries about being more forceful as they really won't be worth the bad feelings eh...

Ourss.. Ended up with getting the police involved, honest to God... Now that is ugly... Funny too in a way but wasn't then.

Good Luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our last one was aptly nicknamed 'megadwarf' lol. I think we just might keep him as a pet if we ever set eyes on him again

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By *_jkCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Been caught out with this too, some people dont have thin enough skin to know when they just arent wanted.

Thank FEKK there are so many shaggable people on here to make the trawl all worth it

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