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All I want is a couple of meets. Why's this so feckin difficult??!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can someone tell me what I'm doing wrong please. I just can't seem to get any meets and I don't know why. I'm laid back, easy going,courteous, polite and keep all my toys in my pram if I get a knockback (unlike a lot on here apparently). I'm not ugly (I can send a face pic to back that up lol) and I'm a decent size.

Is it's what written on my profile or my pics??

Please, any help will be appreciated

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London


"Can someone tell me what I'm doing wrong please. I just can't seem to get any meets and I don't know why. I'm laid back, easy going,courteous, polite and keep all my toys in my pram if I get a knockback (unlike a lot on here apparently). I'm not ugly (I can send a face pic to back that up lol) and I'm a decent size.

Is it's what written on my profile or my pics??

Please, any help will be appreciated "

Ermmmm... I was. Expecting to see your profile and thought you were a newbie... Not the case

You have meets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Says youve had at least 4 meets on your profile. I have one word for you mate CLUBS. You will go down a storm with what your packing. Just keep being nice and patient. Itll happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I never like to see previous conquests. I just find myself wondering if she really wants pictures of her having sex to be displayed on your profile.

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By *itsmcgee4Couple
over a year ago

Central

What would put me off is the pics of a random woman on a single males profile.

I don't care what someone you've shagged looks like, and one of them shows literally nothing of you. Also, I always wonder if these women have given permission for the pics to be used. I'm a cynic though.

Some will say too many dick pics but that's not personally an issue for me.

Just my two cents

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the world of guys on Fab , loads of guys and not many women , the maths is not hard to work out ... It seems ladies get a shed load of crap messages from wanna be guys , so breaking through the noise is really hard , when your getting 100's of messages a day it must be soul destroying trying to sort the wheat from the chaff .. not like I'd know as I only get a few messages lol , but if you persevere , remain polite and well mannered you will eventually get a response ..... Good luck my friend

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What would put me off is the pics of a random woman on a single males profile.

I don't care what someone you've shagged looks like, and one of them shows literally nothing of you. Also, I always wonder if these women have given permission for the pics to be used. I'm a cynic though.

Some will say too many dick pics but that's not personally an issue for me.

Just my two cents "

If I was to take out some dick pics, what would you suggest I replace them with x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can someone tell me what I'm doing wrong please. I just can't seem to get any meets and I don't know why. I'm laid back, easy going,courteous, polite and keep all my toys in my pram if I get a knockback (unlike a lot on here apparently). I'm not ugly (I can send a face pic to back that up lol) and I'm a decent size.

Is it's what written on my profile or my pics??

Please, any help will be appreciated "

11 meets?!

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By *itsmcgee4Couple
over a year ago

Central


"What would put me off is the pics of a random woman on a single males profile.

I don't care what someone you've shagged looks like, and one of them shows literally nothing of you. Also, I always wonder if these women have given permission for the pics to be used. I'm a cynic though.

Some will say too many dick pics but that's not personally an issue for me.

Just my two cents

If I was to take out some dick pics, what would you suggest I replace them with x"

I don't think you should take out the dick pics. I think you should take out the random female sucking your dick pics lol.

And replace with more full body shots, I like to see an ass as well, and face if you're not too shy though that's not a must

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can someone tell me what I'm doing wrong please. I just can't seem to get any meets and I don't know why. I'm laid back, easy going,courteous, polite and keep all my toys in my pram if I get a knockback (unlike a lot on here apparently). I'm not ugly (I can send a face pic to back that up lol) and I'm a decent size.

Is it's what written on my profile or my pics??

Please, any help will be appreciated

Ermmmm... I was. Expecting to see your profile and thought you were a newbie... Not the case

You have meets!

"

I've been on and off for years and could count my meets on my fingers. As a ratio of time being a member / number of meets it pretty poor lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im afraid that is just fab its get harder get meets so many fake on here spoil it for the rest plus i arraged in past for single guy to join us and no show most of the time im afraid the genuine guys get it harder because of this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't complain op you had more meets on here than some of us lol mine is at zero and not expect it to go up anytime soon so just go with the flow and always remain polite it what I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah body shots is a good shout. Show off your assests. Look im a skinny munter and I do really well. All about playing to your strengths

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you walked into a bar with 5 women and you were one of 100 men, would you be asking why it's so difficult? That is the competition you are faced within Fab. So unless you are a better catch than 90% of the men competing for those 5 women, you probably don't stand a chance. And even if you get to the front of the queue, who's to say you will like the woman who chooses you?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"im afraid that is just fab its get harder get meets so many fake on here spoil it for the rest plus i arraged in past for single guy to join us and no show most of the time im afraid the genuine guys get it harder because of this "

I got let down last night by a couple. It's rare a couple even speaks to me so to get let down after chatting was a bit of a kick in the baby makers x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm been here over a year and profile starts with 'been here before so know how it works...'

if you know OP then you know it's swings and roundabouts on here and no one is entitled to anything ..

Have a break, step back and get back to the real world for a bit

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hmmm been here over a year and profile starts with 'been here before so know how it works...'

if you know OP then you know it's swings and roundabouts on here and no one is entitled to anything ..

Have a break, step back and get back to the real world for a bit "

By "I know how it works", I meant I know the process, not the formula for guaranteed success lol. But I see where you're coming from. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you walked into a bar with 5 women and you were one of 100 men, would you be asking why it's so difficult? That is the competition you are faced within Fab. So unless you are a better catch than 90% of the men competing for those 5 women, you probably don't stand a chance. And even if you get to the front of the queue, who's to say you will like the woman who chooses you?

Mrs "

Thought that was the start of a joke!!...

Man walks into a bar with 5 women and 100 men....

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Any profile which says "I've been here before so know how it works" really irritates me!

Sally

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Any profile which says "I've been here before so know how it works" really irritates me!

Sally"

Not being cheeky here, genuinely asking. What is it about that phrase that irritates you? X

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Any profile which says "I've been here before so know how it works" really irritates me!

Sally

Not being cheeky here, genuinely asking. What is it about that phrase that irritates you? X"

It makes me think someone who posts that feels superior to people like me who haven't been here before.

Sally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any profile which says "I've been here before so know how it works" really irritates me!

Sally

Not being cheeky here, genuinely asking. What is it about that phrase that irritates you? X

It makes me think someone who posts that feels superior to people like me who haven't been here before.

Sally"

I tend to feel a bit sceptical when men say that. Makes me wonder why they left, only to return. I do prefer people who stick around because it's a lifestyle choice, as opposed to men who come back when they feel they have a gap in their life.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Any profile which says "I've been here before so know how it works" really irritates me!

Sally

Not being cheeky here, genuinely asking. What is it about that phrase that irritates you? X

It makes me think someone who posts that feels superior to people like me who haven't been here before.

Sally"

I was thinking more along the lines of "I've been here before so I know how it works, so I don't need people messaging and telling me how works" as the last time I got loads of messages from people telling me what you do, how to do it etc. Was to save my inbox getting slammed, that's all x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Any profile which says "I've been here before so know how it works" really irritates me!

Sally

Not being cheeky here, genuinely asking. What is it about that phrase that irritates you? X

It makes me think someone who posts that feels superior to people like me who haven't been here before.

Sally

I tend to feel a bit sceptical when men say that. Makes me wonder why they left, only to return. I do prefer people who stick around because it's a lifestyle choice, as opposed to men who come back when they feel they have a gap in their life.

Mrs"

My reason for leaving was that I got into a relationship so I wasn't wanting to be a member of a sex site. Then I became single so joined up again x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any profile which says "I've been here before so know how it works" really irritates me!

Sally

Not being cheeky here, genuinely asking. What is it about that phrase that irritates you? X

It makes me think someone who posts that feels superior to people like me who haven't been here before.

Sally

I tend to feel a bit sceptical when men say that. Makes me wonder why they left, only to return. I do prefer people who stick around because it's a lifestyle choice, as opposed to men who come back when they feel they have a gap in their life.

Mrs

My reason for leaving was that I got into a relationship so I wasn't wanting to be a member of a sex site. Then I became single so joined up again x"

Yes that's the reason men tend to leave the scene and come back. As I said we feel more confortable with those who regard it as a lifestyle choice, as opposed to a stopgap between relationships. As a result we're on our guard when we come across that expression.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Any profile which says "I've been here before so know how it works" really irritates me!

Sally

Not being cheeky here, genuinely asking. What is it about that phrase that irritates you? X

It makes me think someone who posts that feels superior to people like me who haven't been here before.

Sally

I tend to feel a bit sceptical when men say that. Makes me wonder why they left, only to return. I do prefer people who stick around because it's a lifestyle choice, as opposed to men who come back when they feel they have a gap in their life.

Mrs

My reason for leaving was that I got into a relationship so I wasn't wanting to be a member of a sex site. Then I became single so joined up again x

Yes that's the reason men tend to leave the scene and come back. As I said we feel more confortable with those who regard it as a lifestyle choice, as opposed to a stopgap between relationships. As a result we're on our guard when we come across that expression. "

Ahhhh. Now I see where you're coming from. As you're in the lifestyle you're wary of us "interlopers" so to speak? And I don't mean that cheeky in any way, shape or form (as reading it even I can see it sounds cheeky lol). No, but I totally get why you don't like the term. Fair play guys.

But in our defence, a lot of us interloper guys, and I class myself as that, are really sound genuine guys. Just because we use it to find just sex and a few friends, doesn't mean we're not worth chatting to or getting to know by the hardcore swingers. You should give us guys a chance. We may just surprise you x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

For me there are still too many cock pics, the text is negative in places.

Knowing how it works always sounds cocky to me. And the text is all about what you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any profile which says "I've been here before so know how it works" really irritates me!

Sally

Not being cheeky here, genuinely asking. What is it about that phrase that irritates you? X

It makes me think someone who posts that feels superior to people like me who haven't been here before.

Sally

I tend to feel a bit sceptical when men say that. Makes me wonder why they left, only to return. I do prefer people who stick around because it's a lifestyle choice, as opposed to men who come back when they feel they have a gap in their life.

Mrs

My reason for leaving was that I got into a relationship so I wasn't wanting to be a member of a sex site. Then I became single so joined up again x

Yes that's the reason men tend to leave the scene and come back. As I said we feel more confortable with those who regard it as a lifestyle choice, as opposed to a stopgap between relationships. As a result we're on our guard when we come across that expression.

Ahhhh. Now I see where you're coming from. As you're in the lifestyle you're wary of us "interlopers" so to speak? And I don't mean that cheeky in any way, shape or form (as reading it even I can see it sounds cheeky lol). No, but I totally get why you don't like the term. Fair play guys.

But in our defence, a lot of us interloper guys, and I class myself as that, are really sound genuine guys. Just because we use it to find just sex and a few friends, doesn't mean we're not worth chatting to or getting to know by the hardcore swingers. You should give us guys a chance. We may just surprise you x "

Yeah we do sometimes give the 'interlopers' a chance, with the knowledge that the fun will be short-lived. But you can't beat forming a good friendship with a fellow swinger, with a realistic hope that we'll still be playing together a year or two from now ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me there are still too many cock pics, the text is negative in places.

Knowing how it works always sounds cocky to me. And the text is all about what you like "

Of course it's about what I like. They're would be no point putting down what someone else likes would there?

What bits do you think sound negative?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Any profile which says "I've been here before so know how it works" really irritates me!

Sally

Not being cheeky here, genuinely asking. What is it about that phrase that irritates you? X

It makes me think someone who posts that feels superior to people like me who haven't been here before.

Sally

I tend to feel a bit sceptical when men say that. Makes me wonder why they left, only to return. I do prefer people who stick around because it's a lifestyle choice, as opposed to men who come back when they feel they have a gap in their life.

Mrs

My reason for leaving was that I got into a relationship so I wasn't wanting to be a member of a sex site. Then I became single so joined up again x

Yes that's the reason men tend to leave the scene and come back. As I said we feel more confortable with those who regard it as a lifestyle choice, as opposed to a stopgap between relationships. As a result we're on our guard when we come across that expression.

Ahhhh. Now I see where you're coming from. As you're in the lifestyle you're wary of us "interlopers" so to speak? And I don't mean that cheeky in any way, shape or form (as reading it even I can see it sounds cheeky lol). No, but I totally get why you don't like the term. Fair play guys.

But in our defence, a lot of us interloper guys, and I class myself as that, are really sound genuine guys. Just because we use it to find just sex and a few friends, doesn't mean we're not worth chatting to or getting to know by the hardcore swingers. You should give us guys a chance. We may just surprise you x

Yeah we do sometimes give the 'interlopers' a chance, with the knowledge that the fun will be short-lived. But you can't beat forming a good friendship with a fellow swinger, with a realistic hope that we'll still be playing together a year or two from now ??"

And I wish you all the best of luck in the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would put me off is the pics of a random woman on a single males profile.

I don't care what someone you've shagged looks like, and one of them shows literally nothing of you. Also, I always wonder if these women have given permission for the pics to be used. I'm a cynic though.

Some will say too many dick pics but that's not personally an issue for me.

Just my two cents

If I was to take out some dick pics, what would you suggest I replace them with x"

Pictures of you dressed well.

Tailored suits go down a storm with the girls.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Of course it's about what I like. They're would be no point putting down what someone else likes would there?

What bits do you think sound negative?"

Guess not, if you want to sound selfish in the bedroom

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By *hedevilwearspradaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

I'm a newbie, so I suspect my input might be worth jack, but I thought your profile was good.

I like the funny, chatty writing - which is better than "I'll fill it in later" or "looking for fun". I think the pics are decent too.

I guess as others have said it's more to do with numbers than anything

Mrs Kirkie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any profile which says "I've been here before so know how it works" really irritates me!

Sally

Not being cheeky here, genuinely asking. What is it about that phrase that irritates you? X

It makes me think someone who posts that feels superior to people like me who haven't been here before.

Sally

I tend to feel a bit sceptical when men say that. Makes me wonder why they left, only to return. I do prefer people who stick around because it's a lifestyle choice, as opposed to men who come back when they feel they have a gap in their life.

Mrs

My reason for leaving was that I got into a relationship so I wasn't wanting to be a member of a sex site. Then I became single so joined up again x

Yes that's the reason men tend to leave the scene and come back. As I said we feel more confortable with those who regard it as a lifestyle choice, as opposed to a stopgap between relationships. As a result we're on our guard when we come across that expression.

Ahhhh. Now I see where you're coming from. As you're in the lifestyle you're wary of us "interlopers" so to speak? And I don't mean that cheeky in any way, shape or form (as reading it even I can see it sounds cheeky lol). No, but I totally get why you don't like the term. Fair play guys.

But in our defence, a lot of us interloper guys, and I class myself as that, are really sound genuine guys. Just because we use it to find just sex and a few friends, doesn't mean we're not worth chatting to or getting to know by the hardcore swingers. You should give us guys a chance. We may just surprise you x

Yeah we do sometimes give the 'interlopers' a chance, with the knowledge that the fun will be short-lived. But you can't beat forming a good friendship with a fellow swinger, with a realistic hope that we'll still be playing together a year or two from now ??

And I wish you all the best of luck in the world "

I've digressed a bit though, I personally think your profile is pretty good. Nice to see a man who has something to say.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What would put me off is the pics of a random woman on a single males profile.

I don't care what someone you've shagged looks like, and one of them shows literally nothing of you. Also, I always wonder if these women have given permission for the pics to be used. I'm a cynic though.

Some will say too many dick pics but that's not personally an issue for me.

Just my two cents

If I was to take out some dick pics, what would you suggest I replace them with x

Pictures of you dressed well.

Tailored suits go down a storm with the girls. "

I've got a couple like that in my friends pics. I don't want to put them public as my face is in them. Might try and see if I can get rid of my face in them. I tried to send you them but can't message you lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Any profile which says "I've been here before so know how it works" really irritates me!

Sally

Not being cheeky here, genuinely asking. What is it about that phrase that irritates you? X

It makes me think someone who posts that feels superior to people like me who haven't been here before.

Sally

I tend to feel a bit sceptical when men say that. Makes me wonder why they left, only to return. I do prefer people who stick around because it's a lifestyle choice, as opposed to men who come back when they feel they have a gap in their life.

Mrs

My reason for leaving was that I got into a relationship so I wasn't wanting to be a member of a sex site. Then I became single so joined up again x

Yes that's the reason men tend to leave the scene and come back. As I said we feel more confortable with those who regard it as a lifestyle choice, as opposed to a stopgap between relationships. As a result we're on our guard when we come across that expression.

Ahhhh. Now I see where you're coming from. As you're in the lifestyle you're wary of us "interlopers" so to speak? And I don't mean that cheeky in any way, shape or form (as reading it even I can see it sounds cheeky lol). No, but I totally get why you don't like the term. Fair play guys.

But in our defence, a lot of us interloper guys, and I class myself as that, are really sound genuine guys. Just because we use it to find just sex and a few friends, doesn't mean we're not worth chatting to or getting to know by the hardcore swingers. You should give us guys a chance. We may just surprise you x

Yeah we do sometimes give the 'interlopers' a chance, with the knowledge that the fun will be short-lived. But you can't beat forming a good friendship with a fellow swinger, with a realistic hope that we'll still be playing together a year or two from now ??

And I wish you all the best of luck in the world

I've digressed a bit though, I personally think your profile is pretty good. Nice to see a man who has something to say. "

Thanks very much lol.

Pretty good but could do with being tweaked?

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